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Comment on When did you learn you had ADHD? in ~health.mental
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Comment on What’s the one item you make for get togethers that everyone loves that is secretly super easy to prepare? in ~food
Mews LinkI had a friend from Louisiana who would always make bacon wrapped dates for company. They are amazing.I had a friend from Louisiana who would always make bacon wrapped dates for company. They are amazing.
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Comment on Andrew Tate charged with rape and human trafficking in Romania in ~news
Mews Link ParentWasn’t he jailed as a result of an investigation? Why do you believe there’s no evidence?Wasn’t he jailed as a result of an investigation? Why do you believe there’s no evidence?
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Comment on Andrew Tate charged with rape and human trafficking in Romania in ~news
Mews Link ParentNot really weird, there is now legal action being taken against Tate in the UK so it makes sense that BBC would be covering it. I’m sure there’s a lot more internet interest regarding Romanian...Not really weird, there is now legal action being taken against Tate in the UK so it makes sense that BBC would be covering it. I’m sure there’s a lot more internet interest regarding Romanian legal procedure and ESG in the last months.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~news
Mews Link ParentI think it’s valid to question why someone can, and whether they should, spend 5-7 years of an average person’s income on an 2-3 day adventure. It’s good to ask: Is this kind of ability and choice...I think it’s valid to question why someone can, and whether they should, spend 5-7 years of an average person’s income on an 2-3 day adventure. It’s good to ask: Is this kind of ability and choice to spend so much money on this moral and ethical? So I wouldn’t chalk that up to envy, but rather philosophical frustration.
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Comment on Newborn babies, baby registries, first year of life, and sustainability in ~life
Mews Link ParentI second this! I really like mine and it’s a keepsake you can take with you ♥️ I think my husband got ours on EtsyI second this! I really like mine and it’s a keepsake you can take with you ♥️ I think my husband got ours on Etsy
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Comment on Dungeons and Drag Queens debuts a fabulous, fearsome foursome in ~games.tabletop
Mews LinkOh I am really excited for this! “Death dropping into the underworld”Oh I am really excited for this! “Death dropping into the underworld”
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Comment on Any other ASOIAF fans here? in ~books
Mews LinkMy favorite character is Tyrion! I just love the inner monologues Martin writes for him. Peter Dinklage’s portrayal only deepened the sentiment, he was fantastic. Who is your favorite?My favorite character is Tyrion! I just love the inner monologues Martin writes for him. Peter Dinklage’s portrayal only deepened the sentiment, he was fantastic.
Who is your favorite?
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Comment on It's time to buy some new non-stick pans... need recommendations in ~food
Mews LinkI’d recommend a cast iron pan or three, have you ever used one? More even heat distribution, resilient, and non-stick. You can get a lodge cast iron pan for 35-50 bucks and try it out.I’d recommend a cast iron pan or three, have you ever used one? More even heat distribution, resilient, and non-stick. You can get a lodge cast iron pan for 35-50 bucks and try it out.
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Comment on Newborn babies, baby registries, first year of life, and sustainability in ~life
Mews LinkI found Baby-led weaning to be a lesser known idea (at least here in the US) and learned it's a healthy and inexpensive way to feed baby. It's more sustainable too. You don't need expensive pureed...I found Baby-led weaning to be a lesser known idea (at least here in the US) and learned it's a healthy and inexpensive way to feed baby. It's more sustainable too. You don't need expensive pureed baby foods, or need to take time to make them at home. Basically, once baby is ready for solids, you give age-appropriate foods that you are already cooking in the home. Think avocado, scrambled eggs, banana, yogurt etc. for first foods, then gradually include more variety as baby grows. This gives baby lots of textures, they learn lots of new vitamin rich tastes, and helps them with coordination because baby learns to feed themselves. Check it out, highly recommend!
As far as registries go, you need half as much as society tells you, maybe less. Hand me downs are amazing for messy, fast-growing kiddos. Babies love simple toys, there's lots of info in RIE parenting groups (a respectful infant care perspective) about simple play areas for babies and toddlers that you can set up, these worked great for my kids.
Best of luck and sleep now, sleep you fool! For you will never truly know a sleep like that again once baby comes.
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Comment on Redditors of Tildes .. what is the thing you can live without? in ~tech
Mews Link ParentYes, I am good with votes, but I don't like counting all the votes and displaying the count for a user.Yes, I am good with votes, but I don't like counting all the votes and displaying the count for a user.
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
Mews Link ParentThe beauty of each of us getting invites is that we can approach it in an individual way. I never said "tildes is too white", or too male, or too anything, but you heard that, and are having a...The beauty of each of us getting invites is that we can approach it in an individual way. I never said "tildes is too white", or too male, or too anything, but you heard that, and are having a negative reaction to my choice to intentionally seek out diverse voices because of your associations with diversity and identity. I disagree with your notion of what seeking diversity means for white men in the community and tilde as a whole, and despite my clarifications and those of other commenters, you are holding fast, and that's ok. I'm not stopping anyone from joining Tildes, and I'm not skipping over men or cis gendered, or white folks simply because of their identity. I am taking positive action to include other demographics with my invitations.
Ultimately, separating the identity and experiences from a person is impossible, and can trying to can cause valuable perspectives to be missed. The more diverse community we have, the richer the experience. We have people here who understand what life is like as a man, as an American, as a white person, and those experiences are important and needed. We also need other voices who know other lives, as those are equally important.
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
Mews Link ParentI think you are seeing this as positive discrimination but it is a positive action. To be fair, of my first five invites, two were white, male 30-50. Three were women, I think, two of which were...I think you are seeing this as positive discrimination but it is a positive action.
To be fair, of my first five invites, two were white, male 30-50. Three were women, I think, two of which were from the UK. I don’t know their race and didn’t ask. One frequented an lgbt-affirming subreddit I also frequent.
If I hadn’t looked at these aspects of invitees, I probably would have invited all or mostly men, as this is the overwhelming demographic on Reddit.
Seeking out diverse invitees does not take away from the ability of the majority demographic from taking part in Tildes. People want a community that represents them, and adding diversity to tildes seems like a positive for us all.
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
Mews Link ParentI’ve been looking at requests from reddit posts and looking for long term accounts who miss old Reddit, with quality comments, who aren’t assholes. I’m also trying to pick more diverse people like...I’ve been looking at requests from reddit posts and looking for long term accounts who miss old Reddit, with quality comments, who aren’t assholes. I’m also trying to pick more diverse people like lgbt+, bipoc, women and non-US people when I can. I’m also sending people a link to the tildes docs when I invite them so they can learn the philosophy.
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Comment on Invite-only is a brilliant idea and I'd like to have it for longer than planned in ~tildes
Mews Link ParentI agree with your points, bots are the enemy when talking about preserving the vibe here. Btw… Your username reminded me of the a fascinating Reddit ama about a man with two dicks. Not what I...I agree with your points, bots are the enemy when talking about preserving the vibe here.
Btw… Your username reminded me of the a fascinating Reddit ama about a man with two dicks. Not what I thought I’d be reminiscing about over coffee this morning LOL!
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Comment on Redditors of Tildes .. what is the thing you can live without? in ~tech
Mews LinkMagic internet points, and their farmers. Also the bullshit power hierarchy and gamification that karma created.Magic internet points, and their farmers. Also the bullshit power hierarchy and gamification that karma created.
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Comment on Redditors of Tildes .. what is the thing you can live without? in ~tech
Mews Link ParentI was banned from Reddit for posting something pro-lgbt in the “wrong” sub. I appealed it and was reinstated. Then about every four months or so I was being banned again for the most basic and...I was banned from Reddit for posting something pro-lgbt in the “wrong” sub. I appealed it and was reinstated. Then about every four months or so I was being banned again for the most basic and innocuous comments. It was so weird and periodic that I started to think I was on some mods shit list and was getting a ban hammer arbitrarily. I appealed and was reinstated I think 4 times. So weird. But then I did fuck up and got banned, maybe even by the same mod.
(I made a reference to a poem with the phrase “punch nazis” in thread about the clash in NYC between drag queens and far right extremists and was banned permanently for that though, appeal denied. I get it, I did break the rules that time. I’m not violent and don’t advocate violence. The only thing I won’t tolerate is intolerance.) anyway I’m rambling sorry your post got me thinking!
After reading far too many reddit adhd memes that seemed way too personal, I went and got diagnosed about six months ago. I think I have processed all the loss and grieving and could-have-beens, and now I am trying to make some growth happen. I have had a lot of success with meds with dealing with adhd paralysis and anxiety, so now I am trying to start addressing behavior and making healthy patterns.