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  1. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    "My gender is like a doughnut. It's soft, sweet, and colourful, and it's also missing a hole" –@TaylorSwiftsPickles to @PierogInTheButt, June 4th, 2026

    "My gender is like a doughnut. It's soft, sweet, and colourful, and it's also missing a hole"
    –@TaylorSwiftsPickles to @PierogInTheButt, June 4th, 2026

    3 votes

  2. Comment on Serious relationship problem, seeking advice in ~life

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    Neither the one nor the other can be assumed imho

    Neither the one nor the other can be assumed imho

    4 votes

  3. Comment on Serious relationship problem, seeking advice in ~life

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    I'd give OP the benefit of the doubt personally. I don't jmagine the sister thing was a fantasy/kink/fetish intention per se, but rather, a consequence of them developing feelings in this...

    I'd give OP the benefit of the doubt personally. I don't jmagine the sister thing was a fantasy/kink/fetish intention per se, but rather, a consequence of them developing feelings in this particular love triangle. In the sense of, "well, I don't want to lose either of them, so this is the most ideal scenario".

    I’m so glued to this thread because I’m a gossipy bitch

    Relatable

    14 votes

  4. Comment on Serious relationship problem, seeking advice in ~life

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    In my (and my partner's) opinion her sister living with you for so long & the three of you being basically inseparable and doing everything together is very weird to begin with. That does not...

    In my (and my partner's) opinion her sister living with you for so long & the three of you being basically inseparable and doing everything together is very weird to begin with. That does not sound healthy.

    11 votes

  5. Comment on Emacs bra size calculator in ~comp

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    That's a very valid criticism I can semi-testify to. Even ABTF makes certain assumptions (and yeah, even if someone chooses the AMAB mode, they can also be wrong) that aren't necessarily correct....

    That's a very valid criticism I can semi-testify to. Even ABTF makes certain assumptions (and yeah, even if someone chooses the AMAB mode, they can also be wrong) that aren't necessarily correct. I think, if a very solid survey of bra placement/etc. for more "variant" bodies (e.g. differences in sex development, genetics, trans status...) I'd love to see a v2 of ABTF with a couple of extra fields to better account for this type of body variation, as rare "less standard" as it is

    2 votes

  6. Comment on Emacs bra size calculator in ~comp

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    Seconded, 100%. ABTF is amazing. My very minor gripe with it is the assumption of having fully developed breasts rather than being in, say, the tanner stage "3" or "4", but even then it' was...

    Seconded, 100%. ABTF is amazing. My very minor gripe with it is the assumption of having fully developed breasts rather than being in, say, the tanner stage "3" or "4", but even then it' was immensely helpful when I was looking for my first bra around a year ago.

    I've since learned a lot more, but it's the only sizing website I can recommend to anyone in good faith.

    6 votes

  7. Comment on Emacs bra size calculator in ~comp

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    Indeed, but I can personally very much assure you I am not. The method used in this post is very inadequate, including for the reason you mentioned.

    I was under the impression that the majority of boob-havers are wearing the wrong bra size.

    Indeed, but I can personally very much assure you I am not. The method used in this post is very inadequate, including for the reason you mentioned.

    12 votes

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  9. Comment on Emacs bra size calculator in ~comp

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    As a boob-haver I have to say it's pretty inaccurate. Nice attempt at a cool emacs thingamajigger though.

    As a boob-haver I have to say it's pretty inaccurate. Nice attempt at a cool emacs thingamajigger though.

    15 votes

  10. Comment on Tildes Survey #6: Vote for the next four surveys we do! (Results) in ~talk

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    Valid, I admit I didn't pay too much attention to this particular subthread

    Valid, I admit I didn't pay too much attention to this particular subthread

  11. Comment on Tildes Survey #6: Vote for the next four surveys we do! (Results) in ~talk

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    Could it be partly cultural? I feel like where I come from we pull innocent/light-hearted pranks and jokes a lot and view them as a sort of bonding activity of sorts, whereas where I live it's far...

    Could it be partly cultural? I feel like where I come from we pull innocent/light-hearted pranks and jokes a lot and view them as a sort of bonding activity of sorts, whereas where I live it's far from the case and they have a whole-ass different sense of friendship, humour, and team-bonding activities.

    Just how, for example, American users here make jokes towards me, in the sense of affectionately being mean towards me, but me interpreting them as honest feelings because the culture I live in is very direct to the point of being blunt.

    Just a random showerthought.

  12. Comment on Do we want to stop all crime? in ~society

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    It was explicitly clear without an additional clarification, no worries. I know the feeling, and I'm sorry for what your wife has experienced.

    It was explicitly clear without an additional clarification, no worries. I know the feeling, and I'm sorry for what your wife has experienced.

    8 votes

  13. Comment on Do we want to stop all crime? in ~society

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    <noise> Fucking based. </noise>
    <noise>

    It would really be nice to get away with that murder.

    Fucking based.

    </noise>
    3 votes

  14. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    Not sparksbet, but to me it's about "safety". If I hear/see someone describe themselves as cis (or trans), I'm instinctively going to feel like I can slightly drop my guard and not hide parts of...

    Not sparksbet, but to me it's about "safety". If I hear/see someone describe themselves as cis (or trans), I'm instinctively going to feel like I can slightly drop my guard and not hide parts of my history/self, should any relevant topic come up. Granted, it's not the only signifier. E.g. back in 2021, my FIL once screamed to the TV "this is such bullshit, trans people have always existed you fucking dumbasses" when it was playing state-sponsored anti-trans propaganda. And this is something I'll always remember.

    Also, P.S.:

    biological gender

    Lots of people under the trans umbrella would point out that this is a bit of a misnomer in various senses. Personally I think "natal sex" is a lot more accurate

    4 votes

  15. Comment on What are your personal crackpot conspiracy theories about the world right now? in ~talk

  16. Comment on What are your personal crackpot conspiracy theories about the world right now? in ~talk

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    I hope he didn't do something similar with the used toilet paper

    I hope he didn't do something similar with the used toilet paper

    4 votes

  17. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    I knew the uk govt was behind the cis agenda!11

    I knew the uk govt was behind the cis agenda!11

    2 votes

  18. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    I feel like "CIS" in all-caps often times is just an autocorrect fuckaroo for this

    I feel like "CIS" in all-caps often times is just an autocorrect fuckaroo for this

  19. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    To add a little of my own context: in real life I never really introduce myself as a trans woman, unless there is a legitimate requirement or need to disclose that (e.g. medical examinations). In...

    To add a little of my own context: in real life I never really introduce myself as a trans woman, unless there is a legitimate requirement or need to disclose that (e.g. medical examinations). In my day-to-day presentation, since a while ago it's mainly other trans people who can tell actually tell I'm trans; your average person likely sees me as "yet another cis woman", considering I've had zero problems in public - even in busy public bathrooms - whilst living in a fairly transphobic country.

    Yet, personally, I do not experience dysphoria from other people saying "cis". Because, well, that's what they are, and that's what I know I am not. Sure, it'd have been ideal for me to be cis, but, well we're a few decades too late to CRISPR some of my zygote's genes :P

    4 votes

  20. Comment on Tildes Survey #7: What is your gender identity? in ~talk

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    Identity is complicated. We do not want to force people to label themselves as cis or trans if they do not want to. If you add just "man" or "woman" we're going to only be able to infer just that;...

    Identity is complicated.

    We do not want to force people to label themselves as cis or trans if they do not want to. If you add just "man" or "woman" we're going to only be able to infer just that; not that you're a cis man/woman. It's true that plenty of binary people who transitioned have long dropped the "transgender"/"transsexual" labels, live stealth, and just say "woman" or "man" without specifying, and that's exactly why I pushed for this survey to be more open-ended rather than forcing people to pick between mandatory options.

    4 votes