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Comment on Tildes Game Giveaway Thread: June/July 2022 in ~games
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Will Smith slaps Chris Rock on the stage of The Oscars
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~lgbt
moose LinkSomething that might be helpful that I don't see discussed much on theses posts I'd like to add is just the most "basic" definition of gender most cis/het people understand, i.e. what's in your...Something that might be helpful that I don't see discussed much on theses posts I'd like to add is just the most "basic" definition of gender most cis/het people understand, i.e. what's in your pants. Obviously no one ever replies with this, and for good reasons already mentioned, but the one /merit/ to this definition is it's approachable, and more importantly it's a good starting point. It's really easy to get lost in a philosophical train of thought of what does gender mean, what do others expect of me, and all that existential fun stuff. That's not a bad thing, for the most part it's incredibly helpful and interesting thing to think about, but it can be distracting and feel like it won't ever resolve itself (and in someways it won't, you are always changing as a person, and so is culture). The one thing that won't ever change is what body you're most comfortable in, hence the og definition. As you think about these things, just make sure you keep the touchstone of "what body would I be most comfortable in", or really: do you need reassignment surgery. Personally, gender expression and labels are something I think about, but in the same way I think about hobbies, art, what movies/music I like, etc. and I give them the same emotional weight. What I encourage most people to do is the same, don't worry about if you feel your gender expression, labels, etc is changing, it's ok. The single thing that is worth worrying about and giving emotional weight to is if you are comfortable in your body, and if you need "reassignment" surgery. If just thinking about this stresses you out, that's a hint it's worth thinking about more, if not, don't worry about it! Just remember to check in with yourself! As you can tell by the replies gender is an insanely deep topic, and it can seem overwhelming, but seriously, don't let it, it should be fun and an academic/self-expressing venture, realizing you like skirts/jeans/etc. does NOT mean you need to worry about ANYTHING or that you need hormones, surgery, or whatever. The only thing that is worth worrying about is if you don't feel comfortable with your body.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~lgbt
moose Link ParentWhat I think you're touching upon here is best described by Simone de Beauvoir as "The Other". What makes a man a man is a rigid rule set, and is "superior" to anything else, and if you don't...But I do think it's true that masculinity seems to be more rigidly enforced
What I think you're touching upon here is best described by Simone de Beauvoir as "The Other". What makes a man a man is a rigid rule set, and is "superior" to anything else, and if you don't abide by these rules, you are now an "other". Why do feminine men, trans men, etc. get called women as an insult? Because they are not masculine, they are others, just like women. de Beauvoir's whole idea is if you aren't a man you're just the other gender, and their is no female gender. It makes sense too, anyone can like the color blue, but liking pink isn't masculine, so if a man likes it they are now "women". Same goes for jeans /dresses etc. and anything that seems like there is a double standard for. Reading The Second Sex was incredibly helpful to understand just some of the social stuff with gender.
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Comment on An honest question about gender, sexuality, and the LGBTQ+ community in ~lgbt
moose LinkBefore I came out as bisexual I had the same exact feeling as you, that I a then straight cis white guy didn't want to put themselves in a marginalized group and/or take up resources. I realized...Before I came out as bisexual I had the same exact feeling as you, that I a then straight cis white guy didn't want to put themselves in a marginalized group and/or take up resources. I realized then that the issue was that I had a lot of internalized homophobia, and that although I don't like stereotypical male presenting people, I did really not care what set of genitals who I was with had, and I enjoyed any combination. The more you think about gender and sex and everything surrounding it the more of a hole you'll dig, because it's all tied to societal views, and society is going through a huge change in perception of sex/gender/sexuality, so even if you figure out what you "are" right now, what that entails will change in the future and you'll go through more turmoil, because any label you can give yourself is entirely based in societal views. If you really want to deep dive into it read Gender Trouble by Judith Butler, and that will certainly give you a deeper understanding of where all these labels come from, why you and everyone else is currently struggling with ideas of gender/sex/sexuality (DM me if you want a virtual copy).
Essentially labels are a function of society, and so the short answer is unless you are actively trying to enter the dating field it most likely will be a lot of work to find out what you "are". If you are interested in particpating in the lgbt community, which you can do irregardless of what you label yourself as, then I'd definitely recommend reading the above, or just participating in the community.
I realize those are really non answers to your question, because I would feel there's no strong answer, but if you want my subjective answers I'll provide them, but keep in mind there will be no consensus besides participate and help out in the lgbt community, and that the range of answers you get now will be different in 5 years.
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My first instinct is to say you're not straight, as if you're okay with dating someone who doesn't fall into one of the 2 """genders""" a majority of people in the western world think there are, then by THEIR definition you are not straight, and this 10000% would lead to oppression in most areas that aren't urban and or priveleged. For example I know many people from New England who if they told their family they were in your situation they would be discriminated/hated on in one way or another. If it helps I know many queer pepe who have never experienced oppression or hate because of their privelege, even though they're trans/gay/whatever. Oppression is not require to be gay.
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Just because no one knows/understands you and your S/O's relationship doesn't mean you're not a queer relationship. Again what is and isn't straight changes with society time and culture, and so what is and isn't queer is not for anyone to decide. I would just say you are part of the queer community for the same reasons as above, that you don't fit the mold of societies notions of straight. Essentially all this boils down to is that in most places, your struggles regarding sexuality in a legal and societal sense are the same as the LGBT community, and that's the only real" rule" in my mind, but again the community is accepting even for allies. I'm sure there are places in the US pre the supreme court ruling where you and your significant other would not have been allowed to be married (sorry to be us centric but I have no idea about queer laws anywhere else) and so although you may come from a place of privelege where you have never been oppressed (which is ok, again you don't need to be to be gay) you still are subject to many of the same issues concerning queer people, which is the real uniting thing about us.
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Comment on On the infestation of small-souled bugmen in ~life
moose Link ParentYou said your friend was killed by the bugman, and you saw it happening, but maybe you and the op of the article should not be stewing over the existence of the bugmen. If all you do is point out...You said your friend was killed by the bugman, and you saw it happening, but maybe you and the op of the article should not be stewing over the existence of the bugmen. If all you do is point out there flaws, and feel bad for them, aren't you just a more quiet, alt bugman? Maybe the path to cracking their shells isn't writing a list of where they've gone wrong, as really that's just something a bugman themself does. Maybe the real way of stopping them from transforming into bugmen is simply showing them alternatives, being polite and showing them that no, they don't have to work as a cog in the machine but really there's other options. Saying it to their face won't ever get through to them, but just bringing them along for the ride and being nice to them while you do whatever you consider to be "non bugman" activities and thoughts and conversations is enough
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Comment on On the infestation of small-souled bugmen in ~life
moose Link ParentReading through the whole article, you're about right, it's just a other thinly veiled rehash of clown world talking points. The way this is written, and the topics they miss out on, point to a...Reading through the whole article, you're about right, it's just a other thinly veiled rehash of clown world talking points. The way this is written, and the topics they miss out on, point to a type of person who if you actually talked to them 10 minutes in they'll be referencing QAnon. I think you're right with them having more issues than insight, as some of these points seem like someone projecting...
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Comment on Daniel Norgren - Rolling Rolling Rolling (2019) in ~music
moose LinkI'm so glad you posted him I feel he's severely underrated. I've never had another artist who actively makes me want to drive with the windows down on a cold night in a small town, except for him....I'm so glad you posted him I feel he's severely underrated. I've never had another artist who actively makes me want to drive with the windows down on a cold night in a small town, except for him. The slow build of his music and the way it makes you understand the themes he's trying to convey without any lyrics is incredible. It's like how classical music can make you feel, but in a folksy small country/mountain town kind of way. I think the ultimate experience would be night hiking listening to him
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President Trump is continuing his war on Section 230 and the right for the open internet to exist
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Comment on Should we talk about voting again? in ~tildes
moose Link ParentI agree that we should hide the votes from everyone but the OP, but I feel like at some point we /should/ show the votes, even at the minimum if it's a month or some long time span after. I feel...I agree that we should hide the votes from everyone but the OP, but I feel like at some point we /should/ show the votes, even at the minimum if it's a month or some long time span after. I feel like visible votes only serve as a psychological opinion for knee jerk reactions, because it influences how you feel with something before interacting and deciding yourself. But if we get rid of that, then votes just become a helpful way to find content others like. Another way instead of time based, could be if the link is clicked, or comments viewed, or any combination of those three would be another solution to hide votes until someone has come to their own conclusion
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KnowYourVote - An aggregated source for info about US candidates
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Know Your Vote – A primary source collection of candidates' platforms
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Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music
moose LinkI've actually been listening to My Chemical Romance. I've never listened to them before, and since their reunion my friend sat me down and made me listen to Danger Days, which is incredible. It's...I've actually been listening to My Chemical Romance. I've never listened to them before, and since their reunion my friend sat me down and made me listen to Danger Days, which is incredible. It's a bit different from their other stuff, and is a story with a Mad Max style theme.
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Comment on Keybase cancels further Stellar Lumen cryptocurrency giveaways after giving away 10% of the intended amount, due to abuse in ~tech
moose Link ParentI wouldn't say it's a bad result for them, but getting wrapped up in a ton of crypto drama is far from good. An example of this is looking at their Github Issues page, it's been flooded with those...I wouldn't say it's a bad result for them, but getting wrapped up in a ton of crypto drama is far from good. An example of this is looking at their Github Issues page, it's been flooded with those essentially asking "why don't I get free crypto?", making contributing to the project a lot harder. It also has increased a lot of scam spam, as I've personally gotten a few scam messages since this has started.
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Comment on Some Reddit comments are being hidden by default as "potentially toxic content" (i.e. a swear filter) in ~tech
moose Link ParentThe Crowd Control tools are frightening... Already there are subs who censor dissenting opinions by hand, especially those that are radicalized in one way or another. This really seems like it'll...The Crowd Control tools are frightening... Already there are subs who censor dissenting opinions by hand, especially those that are radicalized in one way or another. This really seems like it'll mark a huge uptick in subs disallowing outside voices, only creating an echo chamber. I completely understand the thought that a sub might need it if it's getting brigaded, but if that's the case, why not make it time based or based of the rate of change of user interaction. I understand the intention of the tool, but I have absolutely no doubt the main use of this tool will be to censor users and discourage anything but the status quo of the sub.
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Comment on Keybase cancels further Stellar Lumen cryptocurrency giveaways after giving away 10% of the intended amount, due to abuse in ~tech
moose LinkI understand that Keybase is being funded by Stellar, but surely someone realized that essentially giving out free money would end poorly. I think they should have planned a smaller amount of...I understand that Keybase is being funded by Stellar, but surely someone realized that essentially giving out free money would end poorly. I think they should have planned a smaller amount of drops from the beginning, one surprise one and then one or two advertised ones, that way they could get the user influx they wanted, but without having to cut it short and potentially upset users like they did. Good idea, subpar execution
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osxfuse is no longer open source
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Comment on I want to learn programming. What language should i pick to write cli apps for linux? in ~comp
moose LinkI'm going to go against the grain and say that if you're trying to make a music player, one that's relatively small/uncomplicated go with bash. The reason I say this is if you want to be able to...I'm going to go against the grain and say that if you're trying to make a music player, one that's relatively small/uncomplicated go with bash. The reason I say this is if you want to be able to easily interact with your system, which it seems you want to, then by far bash is going to be the easiest. Sure it might not be as pretty as other languages but dang does it make it easy to create commands, run other commands, and interact with files. Python you will have to deal with a few layers of abstraction, while bash is WYSIWYG. If you want a more programming and less script related language though, I would recommend python, but beware that this could cause you to have to install a whole lot more dependencies than simply using bash, making it possibly harder to transfer over to other systems if you don't use a tool like pipenv.
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Comment on Hackers steal secret crypto keys for NordVPN. Here’s what we know so far. in ~tech
moose Link ParentPersonally I would recommend PIA. Many people have issue that it's based in the US, which I admit would be bad except they are the only VPN to have been shown in court that they don't keep user...Personally I would recommend PIA. Many people have issue that it's based in the US, which I admit would be bad except they are the only VPN to have been shown in court that they don't keep user logs. This is of course the #1 thing you want a VPN to do and it's the only one out there that has been proven to do so, which is why I use it. Though here's a great rundown of all VPNs link
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Comment on Hackers steal secret crypto keys for NordVPN. Here’s what we know so far. in ~tech
moose Link ParentWell for one they got the TLS key for the NordVPN website meaning that your https connection for that 7(?) month window could've been compromised. Aka anyone with access to your internet...- Exemplary
Well for one they got the TLS key for the NordVPN website meaning that your https connection for that 7(?) month window could've been compromised. Aka anyone with access to your internet connection from your ISP, government, or someone spoofing your WiFi connection next door or with a public WiFi connection could possibly put up a fake NordVPN website, getting whatever data you enter in there from logins to potentially private keys for proxies. AKA your account could very easily have been pwned without you or Nord ever knowing.
Secondly the way they got this and 2 other keys I'm not sure what are used for is they had !!!!root access!!!! to a NordVPN server meaning they could have stolen many other, much more vital private keys. At this point it's speculation but it's equivalent to someone being able to break into your house, and in your house you have a bunch of keys because you're a security manager of some sort. Now you might have seen some copies of just 3 keys online, but this tells you someone got into your house and made copy of your keys, meaning they had access to all your keys to make copies. You could see how this could be detrimental if your entire business is based off of security.
Finally one could argue this wasn't NordVPN's fault. Sure they had no control over the remote management software that was installed on their server, but they found out about the jack, and basically just sat there for 7 months telling no one, and doing virtually nothing about it. The whole thing with a VPN is you have to be able to trust them, because if you can't, then why even bother getting them. That's why some people don't like VPNs to secure there data/connection as it's a single point of trust. Now that it's been shown that they obviously can't be trusted to be transparent or do anything regarding security breaches, how do we know we can trust them to not keep logs of our data? Or to even simply encrypt it without a 3rd party also having access and being able to decrypt it with/without NordVPN knowing?
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