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Comment on Avoidant personality disorder vs (covert) narcissist accusations in ~health.mental
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Comment on Avoidant personality disorder vs (covert) narcissist accusations in ~health.mental
slothywaffle LinkI've been having a lot of the same feelings and self doubt recently. My mom was probably borderline and/or narcissistic. I'm so afraid of becoming her. I don't want to be a mean and manipulative...I've been having a lot of the same feelings and self doubt recently. My mom was probably borderline and/or narcissistic. I'm so afraid of becoming her. I don't want to be a mean and manipulative person like she was. But I also recognized I was raised by her and I always wonder/ am afraid that I'm going to be here.
Like you, all my therapists have said they don't see it in me.
The fact that you are so worried about being an unsafe person shows how much you care about your friends, family, and just people in general. I don't think a narcissist has those kinds of thoughts. You're a good person. -
Comment on Reddit won't allow me to delete my comments in ~tech
slothywaffle LinkI used PowerDeleteSuite last year to scrub my account. I think it took 5 tries to get all of the comments because of the caching issue, but it makes it a lot easier to get them all.I used PowerDeleteSuite last year to scrub my account. I think it took 5 tries to get all of the comments because of the caching issue, but it makes it a lot easier to get them all.
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Comment on Atheists of Tildes, what alive religions do you find fascinating, excluding Abrahamic ones and Buddhism? in ~talk
slothywaffle Link ParentHa! That's exactly why I love Zoroastrianism! I went to Lutheran school K-6th grade, and Catholic school 7-12th. By the time I was in high school I was done with religion. I remember learning...Zoroastrianism, because it makes you realize that all Abrahamic religion is basically fanfiction.
Ha! That's exactly why I love Zoroastrianism! I went to Lutheran school K-6th grade, and Catholic school 7-12th. By the time I was in high school I was done with religion. I remember learning about Zoroastrianism and feeling so validated as an atheist. I wasn't weird for not believing. They just don't know what else is out there.
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Comment on Cheap phone plan with international service? in ~tech
slothywaffle Link ParentDamn. I'm already on Fi with a Pixel and you sold me! Lol I honestly didn't know about the dual sim thing. I haven't traveled with it internationally yet. That's cool!Damn. I'm already on Fi with a Pixel and you sold me! Lol I honestly didn't know about the dual sim thing. I haven't traveled with it internationally yet. That's cool!
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Comment on Neon takes worldwide rights to Chris Stuckmann’s horror film ‘Shelby Oaks’ in ~movies
slothywaffle LinkOMG! My best friend is married to one of the producers! Love that people are talking about Shelby Oaks.OMG! My best friend is married to one of the producers! Love that people are talking about Shelby Oaks.
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Comment on Concerning levels of arsenic and lead found in tampons in world first study in ~health
slothywaffle Link ParentI started with the quiz at putacupinit.com to find my first cup and I've never looked back! I watched a bunch of YouTube videos on how to insert it so I felt confident I could do it. I think it...I started with the quiz at putacupinit.com to find my first cup and I've never looked back! I watched a bunch of YouTube videos on how to insert it so I felt confident I could do it. I think it took like 3 cycles for me to really get it down, so expect a few leaks and have pads or panty liners ready. It's totally worth the learning curve.
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Comment on What's a life lesson you've applied that has changed your life? in ~life
slothywaffle LinkJust because I don't like something, that doesn't make it bad or make me a bad person for not liking it. The thing just isn't for me. I'm not the target audience, and that's ok!Just because I don't like something, that doesn't make it bad or make me a bad person for not liking it. The thing just isn't for me. I'm not the target audience, and that's ok!
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Comment on Perspective request: What would a healthy family do during serious physical/mental health events? in ~life
slothywaffle Link ParentI will say, personally, I don't like to be asked how someone can help. Either I'm so bad off that I don't know or I feel like a burden answering. So it's always, "No no, I'm totally fine!" Most...I will say, personally, I don't like to be asked how someone can help. Either I'm so bad off that I don't know or I feel like a burden answering. So it's always, "No no, I'm totally fine!" Most recently, my friend came over to hang out and she just started cleaning. She did my dishes and put away laundry. I cried for a good hour after she left. The love I felt and a bit of weight lifted was such a great feeling!
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Comment on Perspective request: What would a healthy family do during serious physical/mental health events? in ~life
slothywaffle LinkI've been the suicidal person in situation 2. Immediately they need therapy. In my experience, therapists will drop everything once suicide is mentioned. I was able to get a same day appointment...I've been the suicidal person in situation 2.
Immediately they need therapy. In my experience, therapists will drop everything once suicide is mentioned. I was able to get a same day appointment when I was at my worst.
Any help with meals and chores is a big mental health relief. Can you do some dishes or laundry? Make some freezer meals and casseroles? Even just a DoorDash gift card.
Any mess and the struggle to decide what to eat exacerbates the downward spiral. -
Comment on What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking? in ~food
slothywaffle LinkI have ingredients to make pork puttanesca ragu and put that over polenta. All fingers crossed I don't mess it up. It's a slow cooker recipe so it shouldn't be too easy to mess up but we'll see!I have ingredients to make pork puttanesca ragu and put that over polenta. All fingers crossed I don't mess it up. It's a slow cooker recipe so it shouldn't be too easy to mess up but we'll see!
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Comment on Any good auto or renters insurance companies? in ~finance
slothywaffle Link ParentOutside of California, Progressive was great! The rewards for being a long customer are really nice. Their rates weren't too bad. Their customer service is quick and friendly. I got an awesome...Outside of California, Progressive was great! The rewards for being a long customer are really nice. Their rates weren't too bad. Their customer service is quick and friendly. I got an awesome rental when I needed it.
But that all goes out the window in CA. No rewards. More expensive. Cranky customer service. I'm with GEICO now. We'll see how this goes! -
Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
slothywaffle Link ParentOn the first full day I texted my friend a picture of the forest and told her that exact spot is what I picture as my heart space during her sound baths. I was so afraid something would have...On the first full day I texted my friend a picture of the forest and told her that exact spot is what I picture as my heart space during her sound baths. I was so afraid something would have changed in the 30ish years since I'd been there but it's still as magical as I remember! My brother's and I immediately decided we're restarting the tradition and going back every summer!
My family stays at Cotillion Gardens RV park in Felton. They have little cabins too as well as RV and tent spots, and I've heard sometimes you can get a last min reservation. If you want to camp, there are companies nearby that will drop off and pick up an RV. My in-laws did that this trip and it was easy. I'm throwing this Hail Mary out there because if you can get a reservation, you'll be staying right in the middle of the forest surrounded by redwoods. You roll out of bed and go for a hike! There are also hotel options around town and it's a quick drive to the forest.
There's a river that runs through the redwoods in Felton. There's a spot called the Garden of Eden that has a sandy beach and calm water to swim in. There are other calm and shallow places to swim, but they don't have the sandy beach.
Henry Cowell State Park is a 10 min walk through the forest from the campground. It has some of the oldest and largest redwoods in the area. I thought the size would change since I haven't been there since I was about 10, but they're still just as massive, if not bigger than I remember! There are a few burned out trees that you can crawl into. It's fun to get into the middle of a living tree!
Roaring Camp and Big Trees Railroad essentially shares a parking lot with Henry Cowell, so super close. It's a cute/ fun little tourist trap. There's a general store, BBQ place, and 2 train options. We did both this trip. You can take an 1880s steam train up the mountain into the redwoods. You get an awesome view through the forest and out to the ocean. There is also a fairy circle of 9,000 year old redwoods at the top of the mountain! They also have an old diesel locomotive that will take you down to the Santa Cruz Boardwalk.
Santa Cruz is a 10 min drive or 1 hr train ride from Felton. It's a fun, chill, laid back, hippie beach town. Lots of good and local food. The roller coaster on the boardwalk turns 100 this year and it's only $1 to ride every Wednesday for the rest of the year. It's a 2 min ride and I laugh/screamed the whole time! Don't be afraid of the line; it goes fast.
You're an hour drive from Monterey. They have one of the best aquariums! If you know Steinbeck, the aquarium is in Cannery Row. It's a cool historic area where they used to can fish right at the waterfront.
Pebble Beach and Carmel are are a 5 min drive from Monterey. Two of the richest zip codes in the country. It's fun to drive around and see how the other half lives! Lol
Ok back to the redwoods. I can't think of another plant as awesomely massive. They are the tallest trees in the world and they only grow along the Oregon and northern California coast. I feel so lucky to live only 6 hours from them. It's really hard to get an actual idea of how big they really are with all the other giant trees around. The Giant in Henry Cowell is 27 stories tall. Stories! You look up and realize you probably can't see the top because of the branches and that means the thing just keeps going even higher! It is very awe inspiring. There are so many of them and the air is so fresh, that it just smells better up there.I know there are other good spots for redwoods too, I just know Felton and the surrounding area the best. I've heard the forest around Ft Bragg is also pretty cool. They have the Skunk Train that takes you through the forest. I've never been, but it's on my list!
Oh wow. That was a lot. I just got home an hour ago and clearly I'm still on a vacation high lol. I really hope I convinced you to go. If not this trip, at least start planning for next year!
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
slothywaffle LinkI've been camping in the redwoods in NorCal for the last 7 days. Leaving tomorrow is going to be hella difficult. I'm not ready to go back to work.I've been camping in the redwoods in NorCal for the last 7 days. Leaving tomorrow is going to be hella difficult. I'm not ready to go back to work.
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Comment on What have you done to conquer your fear? in ~health.mental
slothywaffle LinkI healed some DEEP childhood wounds/ fear this week actually! We came to this forest every year as kids. My mom would yell at me for being afraid of riding my bike in the forest with everyone,...I healed some DEEP childhood wounds/ fear this week actually!
We came to this forest every year as kids. My mom would yell at me for being afraid of riding my bike in the forest with everyone, only making the fear worse and much more deep seeded. So I've been in therapy for the last 7ish years to work through my issues with my mom in general and I'm finally feeling like I'm in a good spot.
I came back to the forest with my brother this week and he brought bikes. I said no to every invitation to go for a ride until yesterday. I sucked it up, told myself that he would be supportive instead of yelling, and got on the bike. We did 5 miles! I even rode across the train trestle! I had to positive talk myself the whole ride, sometimes out loud lol, but I did it! "Just do it! Just go! You're doing great!" really helped me feel good about it. I was also proud of myself for telling him when I needed to turn around because I was done.
I realize it might sound small and silly, but I'm proud of myself for literally getting back on the bike! My whole body aches, but it was totally worth it to move past that fear! -
Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (June 2024) in ~health.mental
slothywaffle LinkI feel weird. Maybe y'all can help me understand or better explain it to my therapist on Thursday. I've been on 10mg of Lexapro for a month. Love it! My anxiety is pretty much gone. I have almost...I feel weird. Maybe y'all can help me understand or better explain it to my therapist on Thursday. I've been on 10mg of Lexapro for a month. Love it! My anxiety is pretty much gone. I have almost no nerves about leaving the house. I want to and am making plans and going out with friends. It's great!
But I have no motivation to do anything necessary to live. I'm never hungry. I have to remind myself to eat and then nothing sounds good. I shower every 2 weeks. I haven't done dishes in weeks. I haven't done laundry in longer. If I don't have anything to do, I just lay in bed scrolling or nap. I feel like a slug. I have ADHD and I feel like my executive function is at 0. My motivation is gone.
I don't know if I'm just complaining about me and this is as good as it gets, or this is a side effect of Lexapro, or this is a step in the Lexapro journey to feeling better and I just need to ride it out. But I feel better and worse at the same time and it's weird. -
Comment on US Department of Justice could seek break up of Live Nation-Ticketmaster, Bloomberg News reports in ~music
slothywaffle Link ParentRemember the vouchers? I had the max number you could get cuz I went to a lot of concerts in my 20s. I couldn't use one of them. I hope this hurts them just as much!Remember the vouchers? I had the max number you could get cuz I went to a lot of concerts in my 20s. I couldn't use one of them. I hope this hurts them just as much!
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Comment on What is your opinion on Dan Brown novels? in ~books
slothywaffle LinkI enjoyed The Da Vinci Code. It's a fun, easy read. I was excited to pick up Angels and Demons after but I didn't finish it. It didn't pull me in the same way. Then the movie was disappointing so...I enjoyed The Da Vinci Code. It's a fun, easy read. I was excited to pick up Angels and Demons after but I didn't finish it. It didn't pull me in the same way. Then the movie was disappointing so I haven't read any other Brown books.
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Comment on Fifth American tourist arrested at Turks and Caicos airport after ammo allegedly found in luggage in ~travel
slothywaffle Link ParentThis seems to be a lesson more and more Americans are learning the hard way as international travel becomes more popular. We need to learn their laws and respect them before traveling. Ignorance...you are a guest in their country and as such you automatically agree to follow their laws when entering their borders.
This seems to be a lesson more and more Americans are learning the hard way as international travel becomes more popular. We need to learn their laws and respect them before traveling. Ignorance isn't an excuse when Google is an option.
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Comment on Fifth American tourist arrested at Turks and Caicos airport after ammo allegedly found in luggage in ~travel
slothywaffle Link ParentExactly! I don't understand how, "I can't keep track of all of the parts of my deadly weapon." is any kind of logical excuse.Exactly! I don't understand how, "I can't keep track of all of the parts of my deadly weapon." is any kind of logical excuse.
I'm really glad you survived your attempt and you're still with us.
It sounds like you've worked through a lot of the guilt and that can be the hardest part. Therapy helped me a lot. I'm still quite the people pleaser, but I'm learning to take myself into consideration. I'm 40 so it's weird, but it's good.
Good luck on your journey, friend! I'm here if you ever need an understanding stranger to talk to.