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Fuck you, COVID. I'm in love!

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My virtual relationship is slowly becoming part of Tilde's lore. We met on Tinder shortly before the pandemic and almost met, but I got a little paranoid after dropping my sister at the airport. Maybe that was a good thing, Tinder dates are fleeting and we tend to pass judgment too quickly. This way, we were forced to get to know each other. I had other WhatsApp courtships going on, but they all faded out. We had little in common and nothing to talk about. But Lucy (let's call her that) is special! Smart, funny, and extremely curious about every part of my little nerdy universe. She also has interests of her own and is a simple soul -- we don't need to talk about deep stuff all the time. Lucy is deceivingly shy and her emotional world is deep, requiring some incantation to access. From my point of view, it's like deciphering an adorable puzzle. I love her, oh oh god, I love her so much it hurts in my bones. I told her that, and the response was a bit concerning. She felt pressured to say the same (she wasn't). Days later, she reciprocated without any coercion whatsoever. What a relief! hahaha

We are now in a relationship. We speak every day. We "fight" (or the cute version of fighting new couples have). We do sexy stuff online.

Because I was in a trauma center last Friday (I was freaking hit by car hahaha), we cannot see each other for about a week. After that, we decided I'll spend 14 days at her house (and possibly more if everything goes okay).

Today I was at the mall (I know I shouldn't, it was a necessity!) and sent her the message: "I was just walking at the mall and were hit with the realization of how much I love you".

So that's where I am.

Anyone wanna share more COVID love stories?

18 comments

  1. [9]
    kfwyre
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    Today is coincidentally my wedding anniversary! Love is in the air here at Tildes! My husband took the day off work, we picked up takeout for lunch (our first restaurant food since March), he made...

    Today is coincidentally my wedding anniversary! Love is in the air here at Tildes!

    My husband took the day off work, we picked up takeout for lunch (our first restaurant food since March), he made a rainbow cake for dessert, and we're now chilling on our couch, playing videogames and vibing to good music while our dog naps next to us. Some couples are adventurous doers; we instead are cozy domestics. This is our ideal way to spend the time: relaxed, comfortable, and happy together.

    We've been together almost ten years and I'm still thrilled that we get to share our lives with one another.

    I'm very happy for you, and your newfound joy, mrbig! Thanks for sharing it with us here and including us in your celebrations. :D

    16 votes
    1. [3]
      eddielomax
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      My wife and I are a little of both-- when pandemics aren't in full swing we like to travel and scuba dive, but most of the time we are DINGOs (Double Income, Never Goes Out) who prefer quiet...

      Some couples are adventurous doers; we instead are cozy domestics.

      My wife and I are a little of both-- when pandemics aren't in full swing we like to travel and scuba dive, but most of the time we are DINGOs (Double Income, Never Goes Out) who prefer quiet nights at home.

      5 votes
      1. kfwyre
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        Glad you and your wife have found a nice balance! Also, I was familiar with the "Double Income, No Kids" moniker but was never comfortable with its acronym form, so, like @Omnicrola, I'm more than...

        Glad you and your wife have found a nice balance!

        Also, I was familiar with the "Double Income, No Kids" moniker but was never comfortable with its acronym form, so, like @Omnicrola, I'm more than happy to steal "DINGO". Thank you for that!

        2 votes
      2. Omnicrola
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        Totally stealing this.

        most of the time we are DINGOs

        Totally stealing this.

        2 votes
    2. [2]
      Deimos
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      Oh, happy anniversary and congrats on finally succumbing to take-out food again! What kind of food did you get after a 4+ month drought of it?

      Oh, happy anniversary and congrats on finally succumbing to take-out food again! What kind of food did you get after a 4+ month drought of it?

      3 votes
      1. kfwyre
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        Thanks! There's a local place near us that makes delicious Portuguese food, so we ordered from there and I got a dish called Chicken Mozambique. It's just chicken cooked in this really rich and...

        Thanks!

        There's a local place near us that makes delicious Portuguese food, so we ordered from there and I got a dish called Chicken Mozambique. It's just chicken cooked in this really rich and decadent buttery, garlicky, flavorful sauce, paired with rice and (no joke) french fries. It's very simple, but so, SO good. I could eat pretty much anything with that sauce and be happy.

        4 votes
    3. [2]
      Akir
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      Happy Anniversary! I've really got to get my own marriage sorted out. We postponed it because of the pandemic but we shouldn't just wait forever!

      Happy Anniversary!

      I've really got to get my own marriage sorted out. We postponed it because of the pandemic but we shouldn't just wait forever!

      3 votes
      1. kfwyre
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        I'm so sorry that you had to put it on hold! It breaks my heart to think about all the people whose special moments have been taken from them due to this. I hope you two find something that works...

        I'm so sorry that you had to put it on hold! It breaks my heart to think about all the people whose special moments have been taken from them due to this. I hope you two find something that works and is fulfilling given the situation.

        Also, for what it's worth, my husband and I fully separated our legal marriage and our marriage ceremony. We got legally married at our city hall months before we did an actual wedding ceremony, so it might be worth splitting the two events since the first can be done relatively safely at present. The added bonus of doing it this way is that you get to celebrate TWO anniversaries each year!

        2 votes
    4. mrbig
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      Ten years look like such an achievement for me. I’ve had variety but I was never opposed to longer relationships. It just didn’t happen for one reason or another—my immaturity being the main one....

      Ten years look like such an achievement for me. I’ve had variety but I was never opposed to longer relationships. It just didn’t happen for one reason or another—my immaturity being the main one. Maybe now it works out.

      2 votes
  2. [2]
    imperialismus
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    That's adorable. I hope the physical meetup works out well for you. My love life was really on halt before corona, and I was just about getting ready to jump back in. Truth be told, my whole...

    That's adorable. I hope the physical meetup works out well for you.

    My love life was really on halt before corona, and I was just about getting ready to jump back in. Truth be told, my whole social life was kind of on halt (was dealing with shit) and I was planning to become more active and maybe join some social activities, then covid hit. Not much of an online dating scene in a tiny town in the middle of nowhere, unfortunately. I also have a strange tendency to do better in face to face encounters than online despite being chronically shy, I don't know why. So I'm not currently involved in any romantic activities, but I'm cheering for you.

    Hopefully when things settle down more with pandemics and shit, I'll get out there again.

    7 votes
    1. mrbig
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      Thanks! Face to face is when things happen, online is just a way to get dates. I hope things improve for you after COVID. It’s not uncommon to find hidden gems even in the small communities:)

      Thanks!

      Face to face is when things happen, online is just a way to get dates.

      I hope things improve for you after COVID. It’s not uncommon to find hidden gems even in the small communities:)

      2 votes
  3. [2]
    determinism
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    I don't care if lips are blue Outlook's grey and hazy too Toes are swelling out my shoe Fuck Covid, I'm in love Wond'ring when we'll all depart C02 is off the chart I don't care that it's not...

    I don't care if lips are blue
    Outlook's grey and hazy too
    Toes are swelling out my shoe
    Fuck Covid, I'm in love

    Wond'ring when we'll all depart
    C02 is off the chart
    I don't care that it's not smart
    Fuck Covid, I'm in love

    4 votes
    1. mrbig
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      Of course that would happen!

      Of course that would happen!

      1 vote
  4. Toric
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    I think COVID has done nothing but strengthen my relationship. Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 7 years, (Met in high school robotics!) but have only been 'officially' dating for a...

    I think COVID has done nothing but strengthen my relationship. Me and my girlfriend have known each other for 7 years, (Met in high school robotics!) but have only been 'officially' dating for a bit over 1. When the lockdown started, as we lived an hour away across state lines, we made the decision to stay apart untill the lockdown somewhat lifted.

    We started writing letters to each other. Letters on everything from how our families are doing, to current events, to scientific discussions (Im a computer and space nerd, shes a chemistry and math nerd), to sexy stuff. I think spending hours at our desks composing multi page letters to each other deepened our already strong relationship. Getting back together again was a relief, though.

    4 votes
  5. m15o
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    That's the best feeling in the world, isn't it? :) I wish you all the best in this relationship, and cannot wait to hear what's next!

    That's the best feeling in the world, isn't it? :)
    I wish you all the best in this relationship, and cannot wait to hear what's next!

    2 votes
  6. [2]
    Kuromantis
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    Indeed, congratulations on being Tildes's resident lad /s But seriously, you, as someone with ADHD and possibly autism you have managed to have stable social relationships with multiple people,...

    My virtual relationship is slowly becoming part of Tilde's lore.

    Indeed, congratulations on being Tildes's resident lad /s

    But seriously, you, as someone with ADHD and possibly autism you have managed to have stable social relationships with multiple people, and when someone broke up with you because she preferred a friend of yours after previously being with you for 4 years, you went and managed to get yourself a new girlfriend in the middle of a pandemic purely online.

    You are a remarkable person, and your stories surprise and sometimes almost shock me. Congratulations on earning the love you get from people and sharing your love stories with us, because we all enjoy them. I wish I could do more than just write a simple platitude and watch.

    1 vote
    1. mrbig
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      Haja thanks but I’m really just a dude. It’s been 38 years. Enough time for a lot of stuff. You’ll have many stories under your belt when you get to my age. Or maybe you’ll just have one happy...

      Haja thanks but I’m really just a dude. It’s been 38 years. Enough time for a lot of stuff.

      You’ll have many stories under your belt when you get to my age.

      Or maybe you’ll just have one happy marriage and that’s great too.

      5 votes
  7. monado
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    Good luck man, all of us here are rooting for you. Hope the face to face meetup goes without a hitch.

    Good luck man, all of us here are rooting for you. Hope the face to face meetup goes without a hitch.

    1 vote