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  1. Comment on Weekly coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - week of June 29 in ~health.coronavirus

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    My insurance didn't cover hemorrhoid suppositories that cost $600 out of pocket. I doubt they cover this.

    My insurance didn't cover hemorrhoid suppositories that cost $600 out of pocket. I doubt they cover this.

    1 vote
  2. Comment on Weekly coronavirus-related chat, questions, and minor updates - week of June 29 in ~health.coronavirus

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    I've seen the memes on /r/bayarea. My neck of the woods hasn't been so bad this year, but I moved away from a major pedestrian trail that was ripe for this type of stuff. I feel for the kids who...

    I've seen the memes on /r/bayarea.

    My neck of the woods hasn't been so bad this year, but I moved away from a major pedestrian trail that was ripe for this type of stuff. I feel for the kids who are just doing kid things and trying to have fun but damn, I wish they had a bit more common sense on what they are doing and toned it down.

    2 votes
  3. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I just started playing Persona 4 too and am really digging the presentation. The music is so fun and the cutscenes are great as well. I just finished the first dungeon, trying to speed to get...

    I just started playing Persona 4 too and am really digging the presentation. The music is so fun and the cutscenes are great as well. I just finished the first dungeon, trying to speed to get through the third so I don't have to listen to Teddy during battles.

  4. Comment on After previously announcing they would drop two of the game's three modes, Amazon's free-to-play shooter Crucible is now "un-launching" and going back to closed beta in ~games

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    I can't comment on the quality of the game, I haven't played it yet. Though, I have read some impressions that seemed really positive overall. It sounds like they are giving people 1 more day to...

    I can't comment on the quality of the game, I haven't played it yet. Though, I have read some impressions that seemed really positive overall.

    It sounds like they are giving people 1 more day to add it to your Steam library, where it will still be available to you as a closed beta. New players will have to wait for an invite. Wonder if this delay is meant to drive people to install so they can keep a delisted game?

    3 votes
  5. Comment on Reddit releases their new content policy along with banning hundreds of subreddits, including /r/The_Donald and /r/ChapoTrapHouse in ~tech

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    To add to your argument, intentionally harming others to inflict pain and suffering is flat out wrong. Especially for the sake of ideology. It is easy to destroy and tear down. So easy a toddler...

    To add to your argument, intentionally harming others to inflict pain and suffering is flat out wrong. Especially for the sake of ideology.

    It is easy to destroy and tear down. So easy a toddler can do it. The suffering we can inflict on each other transcends beyond our 6 foot social distancing circles and affects friends, family, and any other person you can encounter.

    It's a lot harder to pick up the pieces of whatever you have left and make it whole again. I would argue that if you are at the point where you feel like you have to harm others to make your point, you are no longer in the business of the greater good, but rather engaged in an act to grasp whatever perceived control you can get. It's tyrannical. Make no mistake, the ones that would make you feel pain and suffering because of the way you are different, also feel that they are getting a sense of control over "what's right". There are discernible moral platitudes in these scenarios, only people who have their egos wrapped around their eyes and can no longer see the humanity of the other human being they are trying to convince. There is no compassion, or empathy, or love, in violent actions. Only after you destroy the other person do you get to begin to pick up the pieces and try to construct your moral platitudes.

    So I agree. I believe 99.999% (have to account for psychopaths) of the human population has the capacity for empathy and to learn and grow. We have to do our best to create the conditions that will help people overcome their irrational beliefs. We cannot be like toddlers who throw temper tantrums when things don't go perfectly. We will always have to fight prejudice and inequality throughout our lives in many different forms. But we will win these battles on the wholesome path.

    7 votes
  6. Comment on Tell me about your living space in ~life

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    What's the breakdown of your living space? I live on the top floor of an apartment building in a corner unit. I have a bit over 1200 square feet, 2 bed/2 bath, with an open floor plan. Each...

    What's the breakdown of your living space?

    I live on the top floor of an apartment building in a corner unit. I have a bit over 1200 square feet, 2 bed/2 bath, with an open floor plan. Each bedroom and bathroom is on opposite ends of the "L" shape floor plan. We have a nice balcony that overlooks open space, with the tops of palm trees within touching distance. 10 foot ceilings throughout, with huge windows.


    What do you appreciate about it?

    My bedroom has an eastern facing window which really helps me wake up at 6:30 every morning without an alarm clock. The kitchen has my first gas stove that I have regularly gotten to cook with. I'm allowed to smoke marijuana in it. It has good airflow when the windows are open. The patio is relaxing.

    I live closer to shops, restaurants, and a grocery store with unique perks from my leasing office. I have only driven twice in 2 months. There is an extremely large park and dog park within walking distance.


    What bothers you about it?

    Takes forever to drive from the top of the garage to the bottom. Its nearly a quarter of a mile at 5 miles per hour. Lots of road noise so no windows open during work meetings. No couch in the living room at the time. There is carpet in most of the unit.


    In what ways have you made the space "yours"?

    I have a projector mounted in my room to make a 100"+ screen and decent bookshelf speakers to accompany it. It really has a movie theater feel, especially when I make popcorn on the stovetop with the flavacol seasoning. We are still in the process of putting up hooks, deciding if we want to hang pictures, and that sort of thing. I do have some very large drawers and excess space in my kitchen, where I was able to make "spice drawers" that were in alphabetical order. My fiancée credits it as "the best thing you have ever given me in my life"


    Do you share it with anyone: pets, plants, or people?

    Fiancée and dog. Dog tax


    Are you happy with where you are?

    Yes, its the fanciest place I have ever lived in. Sometimes its unbelievable to me that I can live in a place like it and be comfortable. I regularly feel blessed and appreciative of my good fortune.


    Is there anything you'd recommend for others regarding their living spaces?

    Spice drawer?

    4 votes
  7. Comment on Would you give up flying to lower your environmental impact? in ~enviro

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    I did do some digging and the research does seem to back up what you are saying. From The Psychology of Prejudice and Discrimination (3rd Edition): So I definitely had it wrong that tourism has a...

    I did do some digging and the research does seem to back up what you are saying.

    From The Psychology of Prejudice and Discrimination (3rd Edition):

    In addition, contact has more effect on prejudice in some settings than in others (Pettigrew & Tropp, 2011). For example, contact is least likely to reduce prejudice in tourist settings and most likely to reduce prejudice in recreational settings; the relationships found in work and educational settings fall in between. Although the reasons for these differences are not clear, recreational settings provide more opportunity for inter-group cooperation, especially if team sports are involved (Brown et al., 2003) and so may produce stronger effects than when contact is more superficial, such as tourism. Furthermore, inter-group contact early in life is important. Pettigrew and Tropp found that contact was most likely to reduce prejudice for children under the age of 12, adolescents, and college students, than for adults. Inter-group contact at a younger age may have long-lasting effects: White adults who had more childhood contacts with African Americans have more positive racial attitudes (Wood & Sonleitner, 1996). Moreover, early contact with African Americans is associated with stronger motivation to control prejudice among White college students (Towles-Schwen & Fazio, 2001); as we saw earlier, such motivation can lead to self-generated prejudice reduction. Finally, in a meta-analysis of the effectiveness of “real-world” interventions aimed at reducing prejudice, Gunnar Lemmer and Ulrich Wagner (2015) found that such interventions were effective in both high-conflict and low-conflict situations, and reduced prejudice in the long term as well as the short term.

    So I definitely had it wrong that tourism has a significant impact.

    2 votes
  8. Comment on Three stories of people fired after being accused of racism in ~life

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    These are all extremely heinous but the Shor example really bothered me. Calling out others as concern trolling, jaq'ing off, sea lioning, etc., is so intellectually lazy. I actually lose quite a...

    These are all extremely heinous but the Shor example really bothered me.

    After a progressive activist accused Shor of “concern trolling for the purposes of increasing democratic turnout,” a number of people on Twitter demanded that he lose his job. Less than a week after he tweeted the findings of Wasow, who is black, Civis’s senior leadership, which is predominantly white, fired Shor.

    Calling out others as concern trolling, jaq'ing off, sea lioning, etc., is so intellectually lazy. I actually lose quite a bit of respect for people when they use these terms to end the discussion and pass a judgment on the other's intent if its not painfully clear through repeated behavior over time. On the outset of a minor disagreement. its lazy and ignorant. Don't get me wrong, there are people out there that are definitely deserving of ire and hate for their long-standing behavior. But I will never accept that an internet mob is the ideal form of justice for these people, due to the consequences that are laid out here.

    So I have to ask, what justifies the intent to cause harm and inflict suffering on others for retribution when these same people are being punished for causing harm and inflicting suffering? Do we not believe that we should have a criminal justice system that rehabilitates people? Do we believe in an eye-for-an-eye, and aren't these the same arguments on why we shouldn't have capital punishment?

    We have to understand what outcomes we want and why we want them. The decisions that we make should not be hypocritical and should be enacted based on wholesome, moral ideas. We should have compassion for others and allow people the ability to be forgiven and to grow. Otherwise, hate in the face of hatred will just create more hate. And the cycle of suffering will continue.

    6 votes
  9. Comment on Would you give up flying to lower your environmental impact? in ~enviro

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    Isn't travelling outside of your own general area a good way to reduce prejudice though? I knew people who didn't leave the area they grew up in for years. They did not seem better off for it....

    Isn't travelling outside of your own general area a good way to reduce prejudice though? I knew people who didn't leave the area they grew up in for years. They did not seem better off for it.

    Edit: of course, thinking about this a little more, we ideally need a good way to travel long distances that is eco friendly.

    1 vote
  10. Comment on Tilweaks: A user style I made to "clean up" Tildes' interface in ~tildes

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    That is such a handy link, thank you! The ublock origin filters are great. Username blocking seems to work very well.

    That is such a handy link, thank you! The ublock origin filters are great. Username blocking seems to work very well.

    2 votes
  11. Comment on Microsoft is shutting down their Mixer livestreaming service on July 22 and encouraging users to switch to Facebook Gaming in ~games

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    Honestly, I can't speak to too many specific tools they could offer from the streamer's perspective that would make a new streamers QOL better. But I do know there are a plethora of problems that...

    Honestly, I can't speak to too many specific tools they could offer from the streamer's perspective that would make a new streamers QOL better.

    But I do know there are a plethora of problems that Twitch has, that Microsoft has the benefit of being better at just through sheer force. They tackled some of them such as higher quality video and less latency on streams.

    1. Building a better chat functionality. A long time ago, Microsoft had a reputation system in online games. I will admit it was heavily abused by salty players but if they could take another stab at a reputation system, you could reward better-mannered players with more visibility in chat streams/stream interactions.

    2. Lowering the bar for making high quality game clips on Xbox systems. I believe you can set a game to record in intervals like a dashcam on Xbox and with the Xbox PC app. Xbox could have built out a suite of user friendly tools to get that "meme-factor" with sharing game clips on Mixer. I think of something like Mario Maker but with game clips.

    3. Highlight newer streamers. The Xbox dashboard already has a bunch of ads, use them to advertise semi-popular streamers. You have to make people want to share content, and you want to get it in front of the people

    Those are just a shot in the dark and easier said than done. If I were to go really crazy, I would say make dedicated hardware to handle the highest quality streaming at no impact to system performance. Even crazier would be to offer an unlock to the Xbox hardware if you are streamer to install and share mods to games that are on par with PC mods.

    4 votes
  12. Comment on Microsoft is shutting down their Mixer livestreaming service on July 22 and encouraging users to switch to Facebook Gaming in ~games

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    It seems like paying creators to move over doesn't automatically make your streaming service thrive. Maybe they should have done more to cultivate building their own unique big-name streamers by...

    It seems like paying creators to move over doesn't automatically make your streaming service thrive. Maybe they should have done more to cultivate building their own unique big-name streamers by creating more tools for creators to use. If you think about it, a console-maker should have an easier time to build out their own streaming system, especially Microsoft with their reach and money. There are so many ways they could have built a compelling experience that was its own thing rather than Twitch-like.

    4 votes
  13. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    My partner strong armed me into taking her to the beach for a day trip. We have been sheltering in place since March so she was getting a bit antsy for a vacation so I agreed to take her to the...

    My partner strong armed me into taking her to the beach for a day trip. We have been sheltering in place since March so she was getting a bit antsy for a vacation so I agreed to take her to the beach just for the day. I live in one of the counties in CA that is still on lock down but went to a beach town called "Carmel-by-the-sea". To my surprise, they were extremely lax in their mask wearing. I would say 70% of people were wearing a mask, but the sidewalks were so small that it was impossible to maintain social distancing. Restaurants were allowing people to dine in, where I found most patrons being older and not wearing masks.

    Besides COVID stuff, I have to say that I feel extremely uncomfortable around that "class" of people. These are people who are dressing their families in designer outfits and probably live in the multi-million dollar homes in the area. I found it humorous that the town itself has a media kit. Maybe the right word for this is pretentious? I got the impression that this is a place for the 1%'ers to live in their own little bubble away from the poors.

    Fortunately, the beach is great and there was a ton of space to sit away from others. Its very dog friendly and our little dog loves the beach as much as my partner does. I had a great time, but I got a pretty bad sunburn. Overall, I likely won't be risking another trip like that for awhile.

    8 votes
  14. Comment on What is something that most people don't realize is harmful? in ~talk

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    Damn, this is a good one. I will have to be way more mindful about this in the future.

    Damn, this is a good one. I will have to be way more mindful about this in the future.

    8 votes
  15. Comment on What is something that most people don't realize is harmful? in ~talk

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    I have been alcohol-sober for nearly 4 years now, and my partner is working on her sobriety as well. Alcohol has for sure played more of a negative impact in our lives than a positive. Some things...

    I have been alcohol-sober for nearly 4 years now, and my partner is working on her sobriety as well. Alcohol has for sure played more of a negative impact in our lives than a positive. Some things I noticed about alcohol:

    • Its much more acceptable to brag about using it than say, marijuana
    • It considerably lowers my mood for days after drinking
    • People use it as a crutch to get through difficult times, making it harder for them to accept hardships and be productive in overcoming them.

    It really does suck trying to help someone who is in recovery maintain their sobriety when so much of society stigmatizes sobriety. I find as an adult that people straight up will not socialize with me after work, unless its at a bar. And being sober as an adult can be incredibly lonely sometimes as a result.

    Edit: I just want to add, that other people's recoveries are different. For me, I sobered up after taking LSD. It seemed like it removed my desire to drink. I still get cravings, almost like a thirst on a hot day for a Blue Moon with an orange wedge, and as long I don't drink, I won't reinforce those neural pathways. My partner on the other hand used alcohol as a coping mechanism. She saw her parents do it, and now she has to unlearn that behavior. Its caused her so much embarrassment and straight up harm, yet she still has extremely strong cravings. She is in a good stretch right now after doing the Sinclair method, but the road to recovery is incredibly difficult for her compared to me. We all handle out substances differently, but realize that when alcohol harms, it harms BAD. And it harms parents, kids, co-workers, and everyone in the immediate sphere of that person.

    16 votes
  16. Comment on What is something that most people don't realize is harmful? in ~talk

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    Sarcasm. I think for the most part sarcasm can be okay in small doses, when speaking person to person. Its definitely funny if used right. It is not okay, and downright disrespectful in some...

    Sarcasm.

    I think for the most part sarcasm can be okay in small doses, when speaking person to person. Its definitely funny if used right. It is not okay, and downright disrespectful in some instances, when used online due to the lack of any other context that would deliver its true meaning. Online, it comes off more as a way to be condescending to someone, hoping that shame will make them change their opinion, or to look "cool" to others that might be a part of the similar group think.

    My advice: Think about what you are intending to communicate, and double check whether sarcasm is appropriate in this context. Do you have compassion for the person? Are you genuinely wanting to change their mind? No? Then just walk away. The internet is already too negative, lets not add more to it.

    17 votes
  17. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I have been playing two games: Command and Conquer - Remastered: This game is so hard but I get so much satisfaction out of completing levels in this game. I had played the N64 version of C&C long...

    I have been playing two games:

    • Command and Conquer - Remastered: This game is so hard but I get so much satisfaction out of completing levels in this game. I had played the N64 version of C&C long ago, so this game brought a good amount of nostalgia to me. I'm slowly playing it and learning the nuances of the game but so far its good.

    • Sea of Thieves: My friends got me into this. There is a good foundation to this game but there isn't too much to do. Its beautiful, and makes me want to be out on the sea. You get money for completing things and selling things, but money is only bought on cosmetics. Each time you play the game, your inventory and such restarts as well, outside of the money that you have collected. So I can't spend some times going back to a base and stocking up on ammo and wood in my off time, to help me and my friends focus solely on missions when we play together. We do get into some intense ship battles which are ton of fun.

    4 votes
  18. Comment on PlayStation 5 - Reveal event in ~games

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    I would wager VR. Maybe allows for an additional processing unit as well?

    I would wager VR. Maybe allows for an additional processing unit as well?

    9 votes