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Comment on An oil boom, a supermarket opportunity and decades of adaptation transformed the taco from a Tex-Mex import into one of Norway's most beloved traditions in ~food
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Comment on An oil boom, a supermarket opportunity and decades of adaptation transformed the taco from a Tex-Mex import into one of Norway's most beloved traditions in ~food
kaffo LinkAs someone who comes from the UK, so therefore has zero authority to comment on Mexican cuisine, taco sauce and taco spice in Norway is not something I have come to enjoy, but I loved Mexican food...As someone who comes from the UK, so therefore has zero authority to comment on Mexican cuisine, taco sauce and taco spice in Norway is not something I have come to enjoy, but I loved Mexican food in the UK.
There's a load of other decent food here, though a lot of it isn't exceptional, it's mostly functional.
We aren't in Italy or France with fresh fruit and vegetables basically on the door step.
But man, taco sauce is so boring. Even the most "hot" taco sauce doesn't have depth to it. At least the ones I've tried.
And yes, it's completely bizzare to see as an outsider. There's whole isles in every store dressed up for tacofredag and they'll empty the shelves every week!It's wild!
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Comment on Looking for feedback and just art criticism of my work in ~creative
kaffo Link ParentI have similar thoughts, maybe not quite the same, but similar lol. I agree the presentation online with photos really didn't help. My first click I felt very underwhelmed on both pieces. Then I...I have similar thoughts, maybe not quite the same, but similar lol.
I agree the presentation online with photos really didn't help. My first click I felt very underwhelmed on both pieces. Then I read the descriptions and thought "stitches? What?" and zoomed in (on mobile mind you) and realized the work that had been done. That immediately gave the piece more depth in a lot of ways! Definitely would have noticed in real life!
Another thing to note, I'm colour blind and I really struggled to see the thread in Gash, even when I knew it was there. Not sure if that's something you'd consider as an artist as a designer would consider lol.
I admit, I am no art critic. I have no education in the subject and my knowledge is limited, so any criticism beyond please consider "off the street".
I enjoyed the vibe of both pieces and especially the story around the creation. I would have enjoyed seeing this in a gallery.
Though I agree with some others there that there's something missing, I'm not sure what. I don't think that the pieces need more but I think they need the smallest amount of depth, or pop. Something that comes to mind is a couple of glittery or sparkly threads to highlight the stitching and make it pop. Though maybe this would ruin the "feel" I'm not sure!Could also be that there's too much organisation in these pieces too. I feel like both Gash and Bound are raw pieces, trying to dig up some deeper emotions from flat images. But the stitches are very orderly, straight, most people here confused them at a glance for being part of the image. More chaos with the stitches could be more impactful and bring more personalty to them?
Anyway, thanks for sharing! Sorry for riding on this comment lol.
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Comment on Introductions | July 2026 in ~talk
kaffo LinkWelcome new people! Tildes is a wonderful corner of the internet. The humans here are some of the most thoughtful and interesting people you could hope to meet! My addition to the advice thing is,...Welcome new people!
Tildes is a wonderful corner of the internet. The humans here are some of the most thoughtful and interesting people you could hope to meet!My addition to the advice thing is, sometimes tildes will ebb and flow. There are days, or weeks, where there are either too many threads and comments to read, or very few.
When I first joined I thought the periods of down time might be signs of the site dying, and the activity signs of growth.But it's just like that! I got used to it and I enjoy the very organic feel to it. You can see the community actually buzz around a few topics and the activity around it. It's not reddit, insta or TikTok where you'll get basically infinite scroll every day!
Some have said this too. I think it's in the rules. But there's a culture of not commenting unless you have something to add too. Which can be weird coming from other social media.
I read a lot of the life and support threads and will comment if I can, but many of them I don't feel like I can add to, either because someone else has already posted an excellent reply or I just don't have the knowledge or experience to give good advice.Anyway, hope you like your stay!
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Comment on Obsidian Entertainment reportedly lays off a quarter of staff, cancels multiple projects, and begins work on new Fallout game in ~games
kaffo Link ParentIt really is the monkey's paw, because if they are just being told to make it and don't want to make it, it's probably going to be completely fine at best.It really is the monkey's paw, because if they are just being told to make it and don't want to make it, it's probably going to be completely fine at best.
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Comment on Of course viewers are giving up on Netflix shows in ~tv
kaffo LinkI'm not surprised at all. Others have said similar, they focus too hard on the statistics and not on the actual art/media. That plus the fact there are like 2 billion other streaming services now,...I'm not surprised at all. Others have said similar, they focus too hard on the statistics and not on the actual art/media.
That plus the fact there are like 2 billion other streaming services now, no-one is paying for Netflix every month.
I won't lie, I completely gave up a few years ago and refused to keep paying for so many services for the handful of shows I wanted to watch. And I will not spend my time and energy juggling subscriptions.
So yeah, I just setup stremio with debrid, and it's been an excellent service for the most part.I swear though, if someone actually managed to get all the services under one payment, even if they were still separate apps but I could have one sub at a reasonable price, I'd do it. But no way when you expect me to manage that all myself for some media.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (July 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo (edited )LinkHonestly, right now is a huge mix of emotions and I'm finding it difficult to sort through them all. There's a long thread with a lot of detail about the lead up to where I am now I posted on...Honestly, right now is a huge mix of emotions and I'm finding it difficult to sort through them all.
There's a long thread with a lot of detail about the lead up to where I am now I posted on tildes (check my profile) if you're interested or if you already read it then you're up to date!
I'm in a new city. I like Trondheim, I have already knocked it out the park by getting 3 (maybe 4!) phone numbers of people I can try to make friends with. Not everyone is going to work, but I am really happy with the results so far.
I suppose I feel like there's so much right now, it's overwhelming. I'm in a new city, in a new apartment, with new stuff. My job is a mess, it's threatening to become extremely bad any moment now but I dont have the time or energy to navigate it or try to move. I'm trying to be social by speaking to people, meeting new people, going to events and stuff. Some of it is really fun, others are really draining.
Ontop of all of this I'm on a medicine plan for Ritalin. I'm trying different dosages at different times. Some days I feel incredible, I have so much confidence and energy. Then others I'm dazed or back to feeling my high anxiety levels or I get the complete inability to start anything or I'm totally cooked and my actions + words are really put of character.
This is making things really difficult. I'm trying to sit with my feelings, why do I feel like this? And every day I've got a completely different set of stimuli AND medication. I feel like a mess.
It doesn't help that I'm getting bored really quickly, which I think is the drugs. I can't sit in the apartment for any length of time without wanting to do something. And that's exhausting. To some extent I feel like I've forgotten (or I never learned how to?) relax properly. Like what do I do to relax?? Watching TV on the sofa only keeps me busy for like an hour or two, then I'm done. That's enough TV.
Video games are not relaxing, they are a distraction. I can play something for hours and pass the time, but I come out feeling tired because I was focusing on something for a bunch of hours.Exercise might be the answer here honestly. Not a problem I had before! I'm going to try and go swimming this week and see if I can burn off some of this energy that's driving me insane, then maybe I can sit the fuck down.
In the huge, swirling mix of emotions which I am struggling to sort through, I keep craving physical intamacy, but not sex.
I want to cuddle someone, tell them they look pretty, have them do the same to me. But I'm not ready in the slightest for a relationship, no way. The idea of a one night stand feels so gross to me too. It matters to me that the person actually gives a shit.When I moved, I joined "the apps" for a couple of days because I was so hype. I felt amazing, I was so ready to dive into the game. I matched some people and then realized it was a horrible idea, I was not ready, I need a lot more time to settle.
Still I spoke to one woman I matched with and she seemed nice, we met yesterday and agreed to just keep it friendly, she's also having a rough time at the moment. Now, I am not amazing at the flirting game or anything, but my "she's into me" alarm went off, even though we agreed to just be friendly. And I am slightly regretting getting this far, as it's another temptation I don't think I need right now. The sensible thing is to stay friends while we are both not ready and have no expectations. But now I've got it on my mind and it's another thing which I shouldn't really be thinking about!I'm also background worried about learning the language and finding a more permanent place to live, but I know I shouldn't be worrying about that right now. But it still crossed my mind.
I am (ironically) finding it difficult to focus. Things feel like they are moving quickly and if I don't act I'm going to miss out and I don't think that's actually true.
Sorry for the chaos post, maybe it matches the way I feel! I mostly wrote this to try and get my thoughts and feelings on paper, which did help a little. If you have any thoughts or suggestions I'd like to hear them, maybe there's something there for the objective observer!
Edit: I forgot to say. I've been looking for a therapist to speak to and I've found several which are both nearby and have experience in the areas I'm looking to explore. However in Norway (and some other European countries) pretty much everyone is on holiday in July, including health care professionals. So no therapy for you when in summer!
I want to talk to someone, I feel like I've got a lot on my mind that's ready to offload. But another month (at least) feels like it might as well another life time.
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Comment on Anyone had experience with Element and making friends on there? in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentI want to support @MimicSquid s reply, please be very careful where you draw the line between friend and support. I'm the kind of friend who's very caring, understanding and avaliable. I've been...I want to support @MimicSquid s reply, please be very careful where you draw the line between friend and support.
I'm the kind of friend who's very caring, understanding and avaliable. I've been on receiving end of becoming various people's therapists or other form of support on quite a number of occasions and it can completely destroy the friendship.
I try my best to support my friends and they get my energy when they need it. But if the relationship becomes me having to support them and we never do anything actually friendly... What's the point for me?
I've had various people who were really good friends turn to me for support full time, then when I say "OK look that's too much, we need to have some time where we just hang out and do something fun" they turn hostile because they feel like they are getting robbed of their support line.So yes. Please be careful. Seek professional help if you need it.
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Comment on I need more hilariously awful pick up lines to make my wife roll her eyes at me in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentHaha phone posting, right before bed and not bothering to re-read. The perfect combo.Haha phone posting, right before bed and not bothering to re-read. The perfect combo.
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Comment on I need more hilariously awful pick up lines to make my wife roll her eyes at me in ~talk
kaffo (edited )LinkYou go to the bar and you ask for a glass of water. Then you walk up to the beautiful woman you would like to talk to and throw the glass on the ground at her feet. "Well that's the ice broken, my...You go to the bar and you ask for a glass of water.
Then you walk up to
your targetthe beautiful woman you would like to talk to and throw the glass on the ground at her feet."Well that's the ice broken, my name is kaffo"
(a friend actually did this once)
Related story that doesn't really work for the cheesy lines. I knew a girl in university who went to a club and some dude wrapped his arms around her waist and whispered in her ear "your eyes are as beautiful as an African
subsetsunset" and she turned around and said "MATE MY EYES ARE FUCKING GREEN". -
Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
kaffo Link ParentThanks! You're welcome, the community in tildes is great so it's well deserved. I forgot to mention actually... While I'm not a professional by any means, I was watching Euphoria for the first...Thanks! You're welcome, the community in tildes is great so it's well deserved.
I forgot to mention actually...
While I'm not a professional by any means, I was watching Euphoria for the first time this week, and there's an episode early on about depression. A lot of it hit home regarding my ex and I did some digging for what the actual official diagnosis and evidence there was for clinical depression and imo she hits like every single one.
If I'm right, it makes a lot of sense in hindsight. She was unable to find joy in... Pretty much anything. I probably caused her a lot of trouble by invading her space and trying to tell her she wasn't enjoying life right.I also hope she gets better. I'm convinced I'm better off not in her life right now. Maybe that will change, maybe not.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
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Comment on IBM claims world’s first sub-1 nanometer chip technology in ~comp
kaffo Link ParentI had a look yeah. Seems one of the biggest issues is transistors changed to being three dimensional and the single physical dimension didn't really work any more to measure them. Also different...I had a look yeah. Seems one of the biggest issues is transistors changed to being three dimensional and the single physical dimension didn't really work any more to measure them.
Also different manufacturer used different ways to measure and market the size anyway so it was already a marketing scheme. -
Comment on IBM claims world’s first sub-1 nanometer chip technology in ~comp
kaffo Link ParentThanks for posting this because I had no idea this was the case. I was really suspicious because I remember reading that there was some huge physic hurdles manufactors were struggling to overcome...Thanks for posting this because I had no idea this was the case.
I was really suspicious because I remember reading that there was some huge physic hurdles manufactors were struggling to overcome way back at like 14nm, then next thing we were down to 7 then like 2 and I was so confused.I guess I'm now interested to do some reading into what the actual physical dimensions are on these chips, just out of pure curiosity.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
kaffo Link29.06.26 Update This will probably be the last update here. I don't want to continue to bump the topic, but I think this should be a good place to leave it. The last few weeks have been extremely...29.06.26 Update
This will probably be the last update here. I don't want to continue to bump the topic, but I think this should be a good place to leave it.
The last few weeks have been extremely dense, it feels like months lol.
I moved out last week to an apartment near Trondheim. It's a nice apartment, it's in a nice area. It is however on the upper end of my affordability, but it's not crippling. Moving was a little stressful. My ex helped and was really good about it all. I thanked her and she left in a hurry when it was all over. We've not really spoken since.
There was a lot of emotions after the move. It's been difficult to process them all and also try to manage work and the stuff I needed to live. I also maybe made the mistake of trying to do too much social stuff in the first week and I'm exhausted haha. I ended up going to an improv night at a local bar and had a really good time, and also met two nice people. I got their numbers, started texting them and one invited me to a house party. So I ended up going to that too and made some more friends. Which is really great honestly! I was really worried I'd come here and struggle to meet people, but I've got a handful to try with now in the first week! I'm really excited.
Other news, I got a raise at work which I was completely not expecting. It was 12% which is nuts. After having just made a budget to try and help manage my money it does feel lucky to get some extra support at the right moment. I also went to a painting class at a bar, but didn't have much energy to socialise by that point, but I made something nice and it was pretty relaxing. And between everything I've been running back and forward to the mall to buy essentials... like plates and towels.
I made the mistake of downloading some of the apps when I came here. I had an initial surge of energy like "yeah! fresh start! can't wait to meet people!" but then when the emotions and reality hit I realised I was being stupid, so deleted them. Maybe in a few months!
Lastly, I found a local therapist who looks like she has experience in the areas I'd like to talk about. I've been writing down my thoughts, feelings and questions on a notebook that I want to go through and it's getting quite long lol. But I'm quite excited to go and start working through it. Unfortunately everyone in Norway is on holiday until August, so I'll be a few weeks. It'll give me some time to settle in at least.
It's been a lot to think about and feel about. I'm still working on it but I think I've got a really strong foundation here. Things are looking good! I plan to make a topic about my ADHD/anxiety assessment/journey when I'm in a better place with that too. I think that will be an interesting read/discussion for some people.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (June 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentI'm so sorry to hear, that honestly sounds heart breaking. Please don't beat yourself up about it too much, you tried your best and I'm sure she had a wonderful life. Take care of yourself, take...I'm so sorry to hear, that honestly sounds heart breaking.
Please don't beat yourself up about it too much, you tried your best and I'm sure she had a wonderful life.
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Comment on Do you cook with cast iron? Is it the hassle everyone says it is? in ~food
kaffo Link ParentI have been seriously considering a really high quality stainless steel pan. Have you got any advice for day to day use?I have been seriously considering a really high quality stainless steel pan.
Have you got any advice for day to day use?
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Comment on The Swedish-based “W” platform is the latest in a series of new social media sites vying to replace US Big Tech companies in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentI would legit actually try it out too. If it was like no frills Facebook/MySpace/bebo where it was actually a place where you posted stuff for your friends to see and you saw stuff your friends...I would legit actually try it out too. If it was like no frills Facebook/MySpace/bebo where it was actually a place where you posted stuff for your friends to see and you saw stuff your friends posted. Then I would be so on board.
But no, we gotta have everyone's feed full of the Jenners, Elon Musk and adverts, not your actual friends. -
Comment on Tildes Survey #10: How often do you visit/read Tildes? (Results) in ~talk
kaffo LinkI think this is the first time I missed the survey actually getting posted haha. You must post it around the time I open tildes in the evening, because I always see it at the top of the home...I think this is the first time I missed the survey actually getting posted haha. You must post it around the time I open tildes in the evening, because I always see it at the top of the home screen, posted like 2 mins ago with no comments.
But yeah, at least once a day here. I try it be a good boy.
Haha thanks for the advice! Unfortunately I live in Trondheim. But I'll keep it in mind for next time I'm in Oslo or I want to tell my friends where to get good food!!