kaffo's recent activity
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Comment on Tildes Survey #6: Vote for the next four surveys we do! (Results) in ~talk
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Comment on What are people's experiences with using Kagi? in ~tech
kaffo LinkI've used it for around a year now and I do think it's my favourite search engine. However I won't lie that my usage has got lower and lower as I use ChatGPT and Claude for a lot more day to day...I've used it for around a year now and I do think it's my favourite search engine. However I won't lie that my usage has got lower and lower as I use ChatGPT and Claude for a lot more day to day searching now. Obviously I'm aware it's quite the opposite of privacy focused and supporting the exactly wrong people but I feel it's like amazon, it's become far too convenient to ignore.
However if you're looking for a good search engine I liked it too. It's not going to blow you're mind with it's capabilities or anything IMO but it's gives the results you expect with a good UI/UX and lots of tools to tweak them.
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Comment on Do you prefer to 100% games, or to move on to new experiences? in ~games
kaffo LinkHonestly, my patience for games has completely eroded. When I was younger I would 100 percent every game I had. Though, it was at least partially because I didn't have more choice. These days I'll...Honestly, my patience for games has completely eroded. When I was younger I would 100 percent every game I had. Though, it was at least partially because I didn't have more choice.
These days I'll pick up a game I like the look of either from a let's play, the steam home page or a friend just told me about it and I'll play it until either the next thing grabs my attention (which is sometimes hours or days later) or I just lose interest. Which happens more than I like.
Recently I was trying to push myself to finish titles before putting them down, and I was at least getting almost to the end of titles. But God damn finishing is hard. I'm annoyed at myself for leaving Survival: Fountain of Youth one island before the end because I had all the tech tree and I lost interest in unlocking any new things. It was just a case of playing to the end and the story sucked so I stopped. But it must have only been a handful of hours away.
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Comment on What has changed as you've gotten older? in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentI find that a small hatch back gets the best of both worlds here. I can be doing 40mph and it feels like I'm doing 100 haha. Gotta be a modern car though so it's safe. Big cars are more convenient...I find that a small hatch back gets the best of both worlds here. I can be doing 40mph and it feels like I'm doing 100 haha. Gotta be a modern car though so it's safe.
Big cars are more convenient in some ways, but they do make you feel like you're going slow.Though yes, you're right, it's best to be going nice and slow, it's not worth it!
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Comment on Tildes Survey #5: Pineapple on pizza? (Results) in ~talk
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Comment on Tildes Survey #5: Pineapple on pizza? (Results) in ~talk
kaffo LinkThis poll does not allow me to voice my opinion and I am extremely upset. /s My answer is "I don't care". I don't have it on pizza and you can do what you want!This poll does not allow me to voice my opinion and I am extremely upset. /s
My answer is "I don't care". I don't have it on pizza and you can do what you want!
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Comment on Why is it so hard to get an ADHD diagnosis? How do you find a good psychologist? in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentThis is really similar to the process I just went through in Norway, except I went private due to the long queue with public. Lots of forms and questionnaires, spoke to my partner, my parents and...This is really similar to the process I just went through in Norway, except I went private due to the long queue with public.
Lots of forms and questionnaires, spoke to my partner, my parents and me quite a lot about my current behaviour and how I acted as a child.
The psychiatrist I spoke to also had a session with me where they went though Non-ADHD diagnosis which I found extremely helpful.
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Comment on Vaping DMT in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentI don't have any tips for getting out of a bad trip except the usual ones. Change setting, accept the process, go for a walk. That kinda thing. But if you go into something like a full on DMT trip...I don't have any tips for getting out of a bad trip except the usual ones. Change setting, accept the process, go for a walk. That kinda thing.
But if you go into something like a full on DMT trip you ain't doing anything because you are essentially unconscious for 5 minutes. Fortunately it's only 5 minutes haha.Though, I have no idea how strong DMT laced weed is, or what weed does to DMT when mixed. When I tried it I had pure DMT and I dry vaped like 5mg or something.
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Comment on Vaping DMT in ~talk
kaffo LinkDMT is a odd choice for "I don't want something too intense" lol. Yeah it's short, but once you take a hit big enough to get through the tunnel you're full non-body experience/ego death. I tried...DMT is a odd choice for "I don't want something too intense" lol.
Yeah it's short, but once you take a hit big enough to get through the tunnel you're full non-body experience/ego death.
I tried some in university and the good trips were insane. I still vividly remember the intense imagery of snakes, demons, gods, dark smoke filled rooms. It was fucking wild.
I did have a "bad trip" when my ex who was supposed to be sitting me decided to go and leave me right after I took a hit. That made me stop after that because even though it was 5 minutes I felt like my soul had be dammed to literal hell. -
Comment on Executive (dys)function flavors? in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentThanks for the thoughts! Yeah no problem, though I live in Norway so comparison might be difficult lol. I went private (because the waiting list here is almost a year to see a public therapist)....Thanks for the thoughts! Yeah no problem, though I live in Norway so comparison might be difficult lol. I went private (because the waiting list here is almost a year to see a public therapist). The actual assessment was like 2000 dollars, it doesn't include anything after.
Not sure how helpful that is but hope it's helpful a little! I'm sure lots of other US tilderinos could help too.
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Comment on Buying a high-end PC for the first time - help me to doublecheck what I'm buying? Is 4k a bad idea with the specs? in ~tech
kaffo LinkPersonally, I'm on board with the "pc monitors are too small for 4k to be effective" and 4k is extremely demanding. There was a monitor thread recently, a lot of tilderinos and myself run 1440p...Personally, I'm on board with the "pc monitors are too small for 4k to be effective" and 4k is extremely demanding.
There was a monitor thread recently, a lot of tilderinos and myself run 1440p and I think that's the sweet spot. Games look and run great at this resolution and the desktop experience is excellent too. I would always choose a rock solid 60 or 140 FPS over a shaky one, and without using up scaling (like DLSS or FSR).This is just an opinion though!
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Comment on Executive (dys)function flavors? in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentHey @sparksbet thought I'd get back to you. I did go to the psychologist/psychiatrist to get an ADHD assessment and it was genuinely really helpful. Thanks so much for your advice. They've helped...Hey @sparksbet thought I'd get back to you. I did go to the psychologist/psychiatrist to get an ADHD assessment and it was genuinely really helpful. Thanks so much for your advice.
They've helped me understand that I have ADHD and anxiety disorder. Though the anxiety is the dominant force. But it helped explain so much why I think and feel the way I do.
They want to talk to me about some kind of meds for either/both to try and make my life better and I'm all for it. I'm going to speak to the psychiatrist in a few weeks.Thanks again! I hope things are going well with you.
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Comment on What's something that you missed out on? in ~talk
kaffo Link ParentI have two bitcoin stories. First one is mine. I did mine bitcoin in 2011 and I was mining like half a coin a day if I left my pc on. But it was noisy as fuck and it was before pizza time, so I...I have two bitcoin stories.
First one is mine. I did mine bitcoin in 2011 and I was mining like half a coin a day if I left my pc on. But it was noisy as fuck and it was before pizza time, so I didn't bother mining more than a couple and they ended up in different wallets.
When bitcoin actually got money, like it was worth hundreds of dollars, I tried to dig up my wallets and couldn't find any. I'd changed pc and I just couldn't find the wallets on the hard drives at all. When it hit like 20k I tried again and I actually found a wallet with half a coin on it. I managed to get best part of 10k completely free money and used it for a deposit on an apartment. On one hand I'm extremely grateful, but part of me was like "man I wish I'd mined more" lolSecond one was an old friend, she mined loads. I am sure she had like 10 or 20 bitcoin and she cashed it all in for pizza. She was really positive about it, that the free pizza was pretty good lol. But man that would have been some insane money.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (May 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo Link ParentThanks a lot for the reply! It's useful advice, thank you. I do allow myself to get completely smothered I won't lie, but it also doesn't bother me the same way it would someone with autism. But I...Thanks a lot for the reply!
It's useful advice, thank you.
I do allow myself to get completely smothered I won't lie, but it also doesn't bother me the same way it would someone with autism. But I definitely will make a point of taking my own time to decompress. I started going to the swimming pool every week and I find it extremely relaxing, it also gives her like 4 hours on her own, so it's a win win.It's going to be a long journey but I'm happy as long as she's making progress!
Again, appreciate the input!
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Comment on Project Hail Mary - Discussion thread in ~movies
kaffo Link ParentWhile I agree with you that the didn't do a great job of making Grace seem as intelligent as he is in the book (I think they could have done with one or two more passing scenes of him actually...While I agree with you that the didn't do a great job of making Grace seem as intelligent as he is in the book (I think they could have done with one or two more passing scenes of him actually succeeding, because Rocky got a lot of the limelight) I think it was extremely intentional they made Grace more of a coward and less of a scientist in the movie.
My thinking is the reveal of Grace refusing to go on the Hail Mary. In my opinion, it felt a little weird for book Grace to come to that conclusion because, although he complained about, he was always proactive, self sufficient and extremely effective. Especially when he had Stratt encouraging him.
Making movie Grace like literally a lonely school teacher who's pretty smart and has a background in the right area, suddenly the reveal makes so much more sense. Of course he doesn't want to go, he's just a dude.
Also think it changes the relationship with Rocky slightly, they are still a team but movie Grace relies on Rocky a lot more to actually succeed than book Grace. Like I would have not been surprised if book Grace solved the astrophage mystery himself without Rocky being there at all, though their friendship was incredible to read. But movie Grace would have curled up in a ball and starved to death I think without Rocky.Anyway, it was definitely aimed at the mass audience. Everyone I know loved it, so the producers and directors clearly knew what to cut and what to keep. I understood the direction they took it, even if I'd like to see more science myself.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (May 2026) in ~health.mental
kaffo LinkI'm going through a rough patch in my relationship. Luckily it's not a surprise and my partner is talking to me. It's frustrating to me because I think I can see quite clearly how we can fix our...I'm going through a rough patch in my relationship. Luckily it's not a surprise and my partner is talking to me.
It's frustrating to me because I think I can see quite clearly how we can fix our problems and improve the relationship in a lot of ways (and yes I'm careful not to voice all my "solutions" during our conversations because I know that's extremely detrimental). However my partner is autistic and is really struggling not only with her own emotions but also the completely overwhelming relationship. I can see so clearly she needs time and space to process the relationship and I know she wants me in her life, but she's saying a lot of hurtful things and completely disengaging right now, and it's really hard on me. My rational brain is telling me is short term. Especially with autism she needs to decompress.
She's also booked time to see a therapist which I thought was extremely mature of her. I know she's not going to go for one session and come back different, but it's a step in the right direction to help herself.
I feel like she jumped into the relationship too early without thinking about it and she's now realizing she wasn't ready. I love her a lot, she loves me although she doesn't really understand what that means.
So yeah, I'm currently dealing with a shutdown partner and we are not in sync. It's really hard on me and she's not really processing any of this.
I can see this working really long term, I'm not sure she can look that far though, her mind is locked in today/tomorrow.In the mean time, I've been trying to keep up giving her as much space as I can while just doing extremely small acts of kindness, like making her cookies or making her favourite meal.
This was a bit of a vent, but I'm willing to take some advice if anyone has any about being autistic or having an autistic partner.
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Comment on Apple set to become third-biggest laptop maker this year in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentFor what it's worth I agree with you. I think it's really interesting to read these threads about OOS, rights to privacy and other freedoms also mixed in with "guys I just love my IPhone". I don't...For what it's worth I agree with you. I think it's really interesting to read these threads about OOS, rights to privacy and other freedoms also mixed in with "guys I just love my IPhone".
I don't disagree the hardware is excellent and you get great value for money. But you do buy into a walled garden and a ecosystem.
I used to use Dark Skies on my Android phone for years and it was by far the best weather app, I told a lot of friends and family to try it too and they liked it. Then Apple bought them put and integrated it into Apple weather, so fuck all of us I guess. I was even paying a subscription I liked it so much.
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Comment on Tildes Survey #2: What country do you live in? (Results) in ~talk
kaffo LinkSurprised it's a free text box and not a selector/drop down. That's going to be fun to sanitize the results!Surprised it's a free text box and not a selector/drop down. That's going to be fun to sanitize the results!
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Comment on OpenAI CEO Sam Altman’s home targeted with molotov cocktail in ~tech
kaffo Link ParentI very much agree with this thought. I'm honestly quite excited to see the possibility of that AI could do to change the way of working. Maybe it'll really not have much of an impact and that's...I very much agree with this thought. I'm honestly quite excited to see the possibility of that AI could do to change the way of working. Maybe it'll really not have much of an impact and that's not a big deal, that's fine.
Maybe it'll have a much larger impact and we'll see white collar work change in a large way.But yes, this has happened so many times before to humanity, we've had huge shifts in how we work and we always find new things to do.
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Comment on I’m traveling internationally for the first time and could use tips! in ~travel
kaffo Link ParentAnother thing to mention about Norway which I haven't seen in this massive thread yet (might have missed it) Watch out for Sunday here, almost everything is shut. You'll get like essentials (gas...Another thing to mention about Norway which I haven't seen in this massive thread yet (might have missed it)
Watch out for Sunday here, almost everything is shut. You'll get like essentials (gas stations, there's special "Sunday stores" with limited hours and some restaurants open, but almost everything non essential is closed. I got caught out the first time I arrived in Norway to visit and tried to get some shopping in Oslo, ended up having to walk pretty far to find somewhere to get food lol.
Honestly I'm confused why it got so many votes? We have lots of great video game chats and I think I already have a pretty good idea of what more than a few Tilderinos play and enjoy. An anonymous vote for every video game ever isn't going to really show anything that interesting that's not talked about in far greater detail in the many (great!) threads we have.
Though, maybe I'm just upset that we didn't get the survey question for the Tildes moniker to finally put to bed the most popular (obviously it would be binding vote :p)