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Comment on How to pass the time when you have nothing to do at work and just your phone? in ~talk
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Comment on A decade without a drink in ~health.mental
atoxje Link ParentFirst of all: Congrats on your 4 years! I’m 3,5 now and what you write sounds very relatable. Since I stopped drinking, I seem to have a lot more free time, I had to learn to cope with boredom,...First of all: Congrats on your 4 years! I’m 3,5 now and what you write sounds very relatable. Since I stopped drinking, I seem to have a lot more free time, I had to learn to cope with boredom, and I’ve discovered a lot of my social interactions only seemed fun because alcohol was involved.
I lost a lot of friends because of my divorce, but to stop with drinking a few years after definitely added to that problem. And building up a new social circle has been challenging. Also, doing it sober means doing it more… truthfully? And that just takes a lot of time.
I feel like I’m living a better life but as you say, it can be really lonely. It’s just so crazy how inundated our lives are with alcohol. To the point that drinking almost feels like an ‘access pass’ you need to posses in order to participate in social activities.
I don’t want to end on too dark a note: I have discovered a few wonderful, quirky people who stopped drinking a long time ago. Or never even drank in the first place. I guess those people would have been called nerds by the people who I used to call friends. Now I very much enjoy their kind presence, even though they’re not often present. I have also found a lot of great hobbies, like playing ffxiv or watching F1/NBA, where I get to feel that being alone is not all that bad. Sometimes, I can feel it’s better to be alone sober than it is to be surrounded but drunk. But I also still miss the illusion of camaraderie that drinking brought with it.
I recently saw a graph that showed teenagers are drinking less and less. I hope that’s true. I hope my daughter will grow up in an environment where drinking is not the norm. Because as I see it, our collective relationship with alcohol is all but normal.
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Comment on How to pass the time when you have nothing to do at work and just your phone? in ~talk
atoxje LinkFarmRPG! It’s a game, but no audio. Only text and menu based. Community and dev team are awesome. Free. Not pay to win. It filled all my procrastination hours when I was writing my last book....FarmRPG! It’s a game, but no audio. Only text and menu based. Community and dev team are awesome. Free. Not pay to win. It filled all my procrastination hours when I was writing my last book. Highly recommended!
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Comment on Podcast app recs in ~tech
atoxje Link ParentExactly the reason why I didn’t hesitate to pay for his app. It’s so nice to feel when a developer is present in the product. Feels like he really loves what he does too.Exactly the reason why I didn’t hesitate to pay for his app. It’s so nice to feel when a developer is present in the product. Feels like he really loves what he does too.
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Comment on Podcast app recs in ~tech
atoxje LinkI love overcast. It has the option to create dynamic playlists, which made browsing through my podcasts and deciding what to listen a lot easier.I love overcast. It has the option to create dynamic playlists, which made browsing through my podcasts and deciding what to listen a lot easier.
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Comment on Formula 1 Abu Dhabi Grand Prix 2024 - Results in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje Link ParentOh yes! We were teary eyed, watching those last radio messages, the nice interactions between drivers and mechanics, the beautiful send off by the F1TV crew. Simply lovely season.Oh yes! We were teary eyed, watching those last radio messages, the nice interactions between drivers and mechanics, the beautiful send off by the F1TV crew. Simply lovely season.
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Comment on FIA seeks rule changes after president allegations in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje Link ParentHaha, awesome! Ill be sure to check that out. As an aside: which VPN service do you use and are you happy with it?Haha, awesome! Ill be sure to check that out.
As an aside: which VPN service do you use and are you happy with it?
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Comment on FIA seeks rule changes after president allegations in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje Link ParentI considered the same thing. But it seems that indycar is a lot harder to follow where I live (Belgium). How do you follow indycar?I considered the same thing. But it seems that indycar is a lot harder to follow where I live (Belgium). How do you follow indycar?
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Comment on FIA seeks rule changes after president allegations in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje Link(This is the first time I start a topic on Tildes, so feel free to point out any errors I made doing this.) After the last race especially, there was a lot of talk about how corrupt the FIA is and...(This is the first time I start a topic on Tildes, so feel free to point out any errors I made doing this.)
After the last race especially, there was a lot of talk about how corrupt the FIA is and how they rig results to make for a more ‘entertaining’ product. While I don’t know how much truth those specific allegations hold, I found this article especially illuminating in revealing the inner workings of the FIA and explaining the reason behind the recent firings. It’s worse than I thought.
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FIA seeks rule changes after president allegations
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Comment on Formula 1 Qatar Grand Prix 2024 - Results in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje LinkWhat a train wreck from the FIA. Unbelievable. But life is too short, viva Zhou!What a train wreck from the FIA. Unbelievable.
But life is too short, viva Zhou!
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
atoxje Link ParentI’ve always loved the vibes of the game, so I’ve been into it practically from the beginning. It was only because I read about the game on Reddit that I started seeing the flaws in the story. Or...I’ve always loved the vibes of the game, so I’ve been into it practically from the beginning. It was only because I read about the game on Reddit that I started seeing the flaws in the story. Or that I started playing faster because the expansions after a realm reborn were said to be so much better.
I’ve played through ARR and Heavensward and I’m currently in stormblood. The story is definitely better. More fleshed out. More mature. A realm reborn now feels like a long series of ‘now kill this primal!’ loops. Loops I enjoyed very much!
When I came back to the game after a year of not playing I was anxious to start my first dungeon. Insecure about my control mastery. Not knowing how AOE attacks are telegraphed anymore. But the community is so welcoming. As a newbie, I feel like I receive more player commendations than when I was more fluent in the game.
If you enjoy the vibes of the game as much as I did, I would say: just hang around. It doesn’t matter what you do (there is so much to do) or how good you are (being bad might get you player commendations like it got me!). And there is so much content out there for new players to learn the game. Especially on YouTube.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
atoxje LinkI’m back in FFXIV, after a year long lull. The vibes are so cozy, I truly love that game. It helps that I’m playing on a brand new ps5 and oled tv! Currently in the beginning of the Stormblood...I’m back in FFXIV, after a year long lull. The vibes are so cozy, I truly love that game. It helps that I’m playing on a brand new ps5 and oled tv!
Currently in the beginning of the Stormblood expansion and taking it slow. Doing a couple of side quests when unlocking new environments to get to know the local people and the conditions they’re living in.
Still a bit stressed when going into a dungeon party, but thank god for MTQcapture and her awesome guides.
If there’s anyone here also playing: I’m on twintania. Always open to do a dungeon run with friendly faces!
(Forgot to add: originally played as a monk to
Lvl 75, now back as a dancer also lvl 75 because it’s a little easier. ) -
Comment on Regarding – and, well, against – Substack in ~tech
atoxje Link ParentTrue. The difference is: that’s enshittification mostly aimed at the end users. As a writer, I can imagine it still makes you feel like substack is on your side. Doing the dirty work of capturing...True. The difference is: that’s enshittification mostly aimed at the end users. As a writer, I can imagine it still makes you feel like substack is on your side. Doing the dirty work of capturing email addresses for you. I don’t believe those tactics will suffice in growing substack towards VC level returns. They’ll have to enshittify the experience for their writers as well.
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Comment on Don't call it a Substack in ~tech
atoxje LinkQuite a dramatic post ^^ I don’t like substack. But mostly because they lure in writers with benefits that they won’t be able to sustain if they ever want to make the kind of return their...Quite a dramatic post ^^
I don’t like substack. But mostly because they lure in writers with benefits that they won’t be able to sustain if they ever want to make the kind of return their investors expect.
The percentage fee is doomed to go up. Maybe they’ll start bundling individual substacks into one big substack subscription, at which point the writers will lose the direct connection with customers. Maybe they’ll lean more heavily into Notes, where short and less nuanced posts generate more engagement and profit.
They have such a long road to go in terms of the profit they have to generate, that I don’t see how this can be achieved without screwing over their writers & audience.
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Comment on Regarding – and, well, against – Substack in ~tech
atoxje LinkI understand his frustration with substack. The story behind it sounds great, but with the amount of funding they collected and the kind of investors they have, I don’t see how they will avoid the...I understand his frustration with substack. The story behind it sounds great, but with the amount of funding they collected and the kind of investors they have, I don’t see how they will avoid the enshittification route.
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Comment on How has your industry changed in the past decade? in ~life
atoxje LinkI work as a ‘creator’ I guess we’re called (I consider myself more as an artist for a mainly online audience), and in the eight years I’ve been doing this, there has been a tremendous power...I work as a ‘creator’ I guess we’re called (I consider myself more as an artist for a mainly online audience), and in the eight years I’ve been doing this, there has been a tremendous power struggle between creators - social media companies - tech/payment companies which has been very interesting to be a part of. AI has only intensified that struggle, because some social media companies are betting on generating their content without any need for humans/creators.
For us, we’ve always focused on owning our own platform and mainly use external platforms as advertising outlets for our work, which has served us well. Creators that depend on external platforms for revenue and connection with their audience our struggling + it has become a lot harder to convince people to sign up for an external mailing list. I think that’s only going to get worse.
I’m wondering if those more private social media apps, like WhatsApp with group chats and communities, will ever generate the amount of ‘free publicity’ you need as a creator to get a working business of the ground.
Interesting years ahead!
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Comment on What does the word "cancelled" mean to you? in ~talk
atoxje Link“Making a lot of money after insulting a lot of people.“ (Sorry, I couldn’t resist.)“Making a lot of money after insulting a lot of people.“
(Sorry, I couldn’t resist.)
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Comment on What are your favorite “chore” games? in ~games
atoxje LinkI just recently started playing forager on ps5, and it hits where stardew valley used to hit. Plus it has an endearing creation story behind it.I just recently started playing forager on ps5, and it hits where stardew valley used to hit. Plus it has an endearing creation story behind it.
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Comment on Formula 1 Sao Paulo Grand Prix 2024 - Results in ~sports.motorsports
atoxje LinkWhat an unbelievable race. Awesome! I was also sad to see Albon crashing out. But - although I’ve never been an alpine fan - seeing them finish p2 & p3 was a really nice moment as well. And Max…...What an unbelievable race. Awesome! I was also sad to see Albon crashing out. But - although I’ve never been an alpine fan - seeing them finish p2 & p3 was a really nice moment as well.
And Max… just wow. Great to see him so happy and joyfully spitting fire in the post race press conference ^^
Haha. If it helps: after a year of playing I kind of finished the fun part of the game. So there is an end to your journey. I don’t know if that’s a good thing or not, I’m now perpetually looking for a simple mobile game that’s as fun as farmrpg.
Enjoy it while it lasts!