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Comment on What's a battle that nobody knows you're fighting? in ~talk
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Comment on What's a battle that nobody knows you're fighting? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentI don't. Maybe I haven't earned mine or maybe they have been taken away.I don't.
Maybe I haven't earned mine or maybe they have been taken away.
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Comment on What's a battle that nobody knows you're fighting? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentA couple of months back I expressed something about suicide in the monthly mental.health topic and you came out in support of my life. I won't exactly do the same. I just want to let you know that...A couple of months back I expressed something about suicide in the monthly mental.health topic and you came out in support of my life.
I won't exactly do the same. I just want to let you know that it's ok to stare into the void and in my opinion you are entitled to decide whatever you want, it is your life after all. You may even make a mistake about it.
Of course one kind of mistake can only be made once.
However! I'm glad that you are around. I've caught some glimpses of your life and I understand it is hard, but also fulfilling and full over the brim with meaning and meaningful relationships.
I do wish for you to find ways of rest and recharge and maybe if you do, your face offs with the void will come more seldom and feel even less serious
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Comment on What's a battle that nobody knows you're fighting? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentIf it's any consolation, and I'm guessing it is not, all those things aren't true. Just like they weren't true when you were younger. Although I am sure you are behind in some ways compared to the...If it's any consolation, and I'm guessing it is not, all those things aren't true.
Just like they weren't true when you were younger.
Although I am sure you are behind in some ways compared to the norms what they don't tell you is that no one keeps up to all of them and some of them are contradictory anyway (just like the "straight hair vs. curly hair" dichotomy of not being pretty exists for girls and women).
I am however not saying that you haven't failed in spectacular (or small!) ways compared to your peers because if your ADHD, I am just saying that the gap isn't as big as you think. But of course you probably think a lot so that also makes the gap more noticeable!
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Comment on What's a battle that nobody knows you're fighting? in ~talk
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Comment on I love you all in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentAll the love and strength from an internet stranger and I hope you have people to break down with. Thanks for sharing your experience, thoughts and perspective. My life is better because of it....All the love and strength from an internet stranger and I hope you have people to break down with.
Thanks for sharing your experience, thoughts and perspective. My life is better because of it.
Thank you <3
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Comment on Am I German or autistic? in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentI use my level of frustration as a way to determine what a reasonable option to answer is. I'm tired of trying to guess and interpret vague questions about things I really don't care about anyway....There's a joke that the hidden purpose of autism assessments is to see how often the respondent asks for clarification on the questions or gets frustrated with the vagueness.
I use my level of frustration as a way to determine what a reasonable option to answer is.
I'm tired of trying to guess and interpret vague questions about things I really don't care about anyway. So when it doesn't matter (like here, and in most instances) I just pick the option that irritates me the most; a bit like a second gut when the first gut doesn't get a feeling!
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Comment on Am I German or autistic? in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentHe he, OK :) I would love to have you on speed dial while filling out forms!He he, OK :)
I would love to have you on speed dial while filling out forms!
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Comment on Am I German or autistic? in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentTell me you got Wittgenstein without telling me you got Wittgenstein! Just kidding, you're right ofc.Tell me you got Wittgenstein without telling me you got Wittgenstein!
Just kidding, you're right ofc.
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Comment on Am I German or autistic? in ~health.mental
fnulare LinkI have only seen my results, so I'm possibly giving them to much weight, but I didn't read this quiz as having anything to do with either germanism or autism but rather a way to introduce us...I have only seen my results, so I'm possibly giving them to much weight, but I didn't read this quiz as having anything to do with either germanism or autism but rather a way to introduce us gently to philosophy/-ers.
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Comment on France launches government Linux desktop plan as Windows exit begins in ~society
fnulare Link ParentYes, only if they start redistributing it they need to comply to the GPL, etc. But ofc, I would guess that if this is a sincere effort and not just posturing they would prefer to both upstream any...Yes, only if they start redistributing it they need to comply to the GPL, etc.
But ofc, I would guess that if this is a sincere effort and not just posturing they would prefer to both upstream any changes to individual packages (since it removes the burden of maintainance) and also get other big organisations on board with using this as a distribution.
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Comment on France launches government Linux desktop plan as Windows exit begins in ~society
fnulare Link ParentThis is a misunderstanding of copyleft licences. According to the GPL which is thought to be the most infectious copyleft licence you where always allowed to modify software without releasing it...This is a misunderstanding of copyleft licences.
According to the GPL which is thought to be the most infectious copyleft licence you where always allowed to modify software without releasing it to your hearts content.
You are not however allowed to release a changed version without also allowing others the same rights you had with the original.
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Comment on Half-baked idea for metered inline image allowances in ~tildes
fnulare Link ParentThis seems very counter to how I percieve the ambition for Tildes (but I'm most certainly misinformed). If there ever are inline images, which I hope there won't be, I would rather that you get...That being said, rather than giving people a credit every so often, you could do something like give people a credit every 10 comments they post or something similar
This seems very counter to how I percieve the ambition for Tildes (but I'm most certainly misinformed).
If there ever are inline images, which I hope there won't be, I would rather that you get credit to post/use them if you haven't posted for a while.
Rewarding spammy behaviour with spammy tools feels inherently wrong to me.
And yes, I said what I said!
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Comment on Intelligent people are better judges of the intelligence of others in ~science
fnulare Link ParentThanks! New word unlocked :) Accidently discovered a Tildes feature too; highlighted text in the parent gets quoted automagically when replyingrankled
Thanks! New word unlocked :)
Accidently discovered a Tildes feature too; highlighted text in the parent gets quoted automagically when replying
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Comment on So it turns out I was cheated on in ~health.mental
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Comment on So it turns out I was cheated on in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentI don't really know anything else to say, your situation sucks and I understand the infidelity is another shit-sandwich in a pile of crap you have eat before getting out of this, but: Someone who...I don't really know anything else to say, your situation sucks and I understand the infidelity is another shit-sandwich in a pile of crap you have eat before getting out of this, but:
Someone who can write:
My friendships were stagnating, my work life was going nowhere, and I felt utterly rudderless. Then they came along and it was like a lighthouse beacon through a stormy sea. Unfortunately, it was but a Siren's song.
Will be all right, given time and/or other resources that you clearly are asking for and people are giving.
Good luck on your journey fellow living person ;)
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Comment on Announcing Riftbound's first bans in ~games.tabletop
fnulare LinkI've never been into any TCG so I have more general questions of how this works... What happens to the banned cards? Will they ever be allowed again? Can you exchange them for non-banned cards of...I've never been into any TCG so I have more general questions of how this works...
What happens to the banned cards? Will they ever be allowed again? Can you exchange them for non-banned cards of similiar value? Do they go out of print so they can get more valuable for collectors? Are there game modes that allow banned cards (and not just between friends or that cousin you play with during extended-family-camping-week when it rains)?
Tell me anything in general and also specifically for this game.
I don't know why but banning in physical TCGs has always fascinated me, but I never took the time ask my questions before.
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Comment on Fairphone released the industry’s first ever nature report - The impact of consumer electronics on nature and biodiversity in ~enviro
fnulare Link ParentI might read the report... But without reading it one thing caught my eye: What does the other near half depend on? I'm having trouble understanding how you create value (even in the nonsensical...I might read the report... But without reading it one thing caught my eye:
The global economy is intrinsically linked to nature, with over half of the world's GDP estimated to
be moderately or highly dependent on natural capital.What does the other near half depend on? I'm having trouble understanding how you create value (even in the nonsensical manner of GDP) without using natural resources in the value-chain.
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Comment on Dentist prank advice in ~life
fnulare LinkI have a few ideas... Assuming you normally get your teeth examined in your mouth I suggest getting a full set of dentures in a box and ask the dentist if they can examine those while you head out...I have a few ideas...
Assuming you normally get your teeth examined in your mouth I suggest getting a full set of dentures in a box and ask the dentist if they can examine those while you head out for a quick errand?
Hide something under your tongue?
Depending on your gag-reflex you could tie something small to one end of dental floss, swallow it and attach the other end between two teeth like you just flossed your teeth and got a bit of floss stuck, and let the dentist find it!
Or just any non dentist related (practical) joke?
How about sneaking in 5-6 extra people into the waiting room and everyone trying to get into the appointment when your name is called?
I would like to add: it is a bit of a risky endeavour since you're just a person while they are also professionals that can't as easily back out of an uncomfortable situation, so I think you should be mindful of that too (I was not when having my ideas!).
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2026) in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentToday is a day in my life. One day of all days. Today I finalised the sale of my dead mothers apartment, but I haven't called the bank yet to confirm the money is there. I'm super insecure around...Today is a day in my life. One day of all days.
Today I finalised the sale of my dead mothers apartment, but I haven't called the bank yet to confirm the money is there. I'm super insecure around adulting, but I think it makes sense to not give in too early to the anxiety. I will call in a bit, but I will have lunch, do the dishes and pack my bag for the afternoons adventure before calling to confirm.
Today I will celebrate the spring equinox with some friends and my kid and a couple of their friends. The idea is to take the last "winter bath" and the first "summer bath" at the time of the equinox (I must remember to pack or find a good stick/poke or similar in case the ice is still there). I'm also preparing to make a fire and, that's it! Maybe we'll go home after and make some food or something, we'll see what people are up for.
I have feelings but I'm trying to not focus too much on them.
I know it's only April and each year is a smaller and smaller part of our total life...
Still, its 2026 now :)
On the subject matter you're probably correct. <3