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  1. Comment on Arc Raiders is hilarious in ~games

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    I haven't played myself, but I was glued to Arc Raiders on twitch when it released and one other thing I really enjoyed as a viewer was how the players have agency of their PvP-PvE spectrum much...

    I haven't played myself, but I was glued to Arc Raiders on twitch when it released and one other thing I really enjoyed as a viewer was how the players have agency of their PvP-PvE spectrum much thanks to all the Arcs and how you can't trade in the base so you might as well help each other on the ground (obv in group play it's much more slanted towards PvP).

    Thanks for sharing your moment! <3

  2. Comment on How important is sexual chemistry/ability/quality to you when you date/marry/whatever? in ~life

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    I'm kind of going to ignore the text part and think about the heading first: How important is sexual chemistry/ability/quality to you when you date/marry/whatever? Not that important, although I...

    I'm kind of going to ignore the text part and think about the heading first:

    How important is sexual chemistry/ability/quality to you when you date/marry/whatever?

    Not that important, although I want some chemistry and at least some sense of being sexually attractive to them.

    (I'm not into one off things at all, see below for more about the sex thing)

    But to me it is barely in the top10 of things I look for/want.

    More important are:

    • how they are and like having fun
    • how big their preexisting social and support network is
    • that they don't want to have kids with me and aren't looking for some kind of parenting from me for any existing children
    • that they are pragmatic in general and haven't decided beforehand what they want/expect from me and the relationship
    • that we live in roughly the same price range or at least can communicate really well around money
    • that we share roughly the same values or at least can communicate well around the differences
    • that we function well and are compatible around time
    • that we function well and are compatible around how we keep in contact when we aren't together
    • etc, etc

    And now a little about sex...

    For context I'm a heterosexual cis man in my 50s. I often say I'm asexual, because it's easier, but demisexual is more specificly true but also requires more work to explain.

    To me sex is about the exploration of another person as a body that experiences pleasure by touch (or the lack of touch) in many different ways, which is fun when I happen on someone that has that kind of mindset too, but it hasn't been that common.

    I don't really enjoy "mutual" sex (as in both trying to both give and receive pleasure - often, but not always - towards orgasm at the same time) as it is too much to keep track of and I prefer taking turns so I can really get into it.

    I've had best compatibility with bisexual women and/or kinksters as there is a more naturally explorative side to same-sex sex and definately to kinky sex (at least for my generation where representation hasn't been great to say the least).

    But in the end it is like everyone else is saying: it's about communication, that's the best sexual ability to have and by becoming better at communication you'll earn a lot of bonus skills around relationships in general as they are all about that communication, compromise and knowing the other person(s) weak, strong, weird and fun-spots!

    2 votes

  3. Comment on The global fertility crisis is worse than you think in ~society

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    Would you mind expanding on this claim/thought? Although there obviously are many ways to define "our", "entire system" and "capitalism" I'm having a hard time understanding how you do it were...

    [...] as our entire system (not just capitalism) relies on a stable or increasing population

    Would you mind expanding on this claim/thought?

    Although there obviously are many ways to define "our", "entire system" and "capitalism" I'm having a hard time understanding how you do it were it's possible to cut out capitalism from the current neoliberal hegemony and end up with anything meaningful.

    To me it reads like you don't think it is possible for people to care for our selves and each other unless someone makes a profit and we also exploit the planet as hard as we can.

    2 votes

  4. Comment on Steam Next Fest June 2026 in ~games

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    I want to explore this, I really do, but the UI is unusable for me on a steamdeck-ish[0]. Normally it's a bit to large in some places, but this "event" does something so it becomes almost...

    I want to explore this, I really do, but the UI is unusable for me on a steamdeck-ish[0]. Normally it's a bit to large in some places, but this "event" does something so it becomes almost impossible to scroll around.

    I'm certain it's a user error, but still!

    [0] its a ROG something with SteamOS

    2 votes

  5. Comment on Test 3 in ~test

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    Very cool! Is this just standard CSS?

    Very cool!

    Is this just standard CSS?

  6. Comment on What internet discussion sites remain? in ~tech

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    I frequent an old school phpbb forum without voting of any kind, but also without threading. I think threading is an immense improvement over straight replying. I kind of like what HackerNews does...

    I frequent an old school phpbb forum without voting of any kind, but also without threading.

    I think threading is an immense improvement over straight replying.

    I kind of like what HackerNews does with their down-voting (that below certain thresholds the comment gets hidden by default), but I'm not a fan of up-voting as a way to bubble comments towards the top.

    I think I would like:

    • threading
    • random order among siblings
    • "hiding" comments below certain thresholds
    • not showing up-votes anywhere but use the data to in some way determine the weight of a down-vote
    1 vote

  7. Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life

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    As I always say in these circumstances: congratulations! I'm happy for you, you seem to really have risen to the occasion. To learn about yourself but also to exit gracefully leaving her every...

    As I always say in these circumstances: congratulations!

    I'm happy for you, you seem to really have risen to the occasion. To learn about yourself but also to exit gracefully leaving her every opportunity to do the same.

    However much it may suck now, imagine getting here in 5 more years? That would have sucked tremendously more!

    Somewhere down the line you might have a chance to be good friends and that is quite something: to have good friends!

    2 votes

  8. Comment on Caught the cycling bug. Anyone else? in ~hobbies

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    This is something I've been meaning to investigate... Do you have any resources or just something you've picked up somewhere? I suspect I never really get better at cardio since I mostly use...

    This is something I've been meaning to investigate...

    Do you have any resources or just something you've picked up somewhere?

    I suspect I never really get better at cardio since I mostly use strength over endurance when biking.

  9. Comment on The "go fix a minor annoyance" togetherness topic in ~life

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    I changed my password & pin to the library and also renewed a few books while I was on the website anyway :)

    I changed my password & pin to the library and also renewed a few books while I was on the website anyway :)

    3 votes

  10. Comment on "The therapeutic industry is platonic prostitution" in ~health.mental

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    tl;dr: life fucking sucks, yours too, and if you want to talk about it I'm here, but I will also say things that I think of, and sometimes it will be a while before I respond. We can also talk...

    tl;dr: life fucking sucks, yours too, and if you want to talk about it I'm here, but I will also say things that I think of, and sometimes it will be a while before I respond. We can also talk about society, life, love, community, etc and how they all suck too (or are interesting!)

    Often when I write here I worry that I will get banned.

    If I think about it I'm fairly sure I'm not even above 40% risk of getting banned.

    There is no way for me to reason with myself that I'm at no risk of getting banned if I continue like I have been doing so far on Tildes.

    I say this to try and explain that I never feel like I fit in, have a place or understand how to achieve that for myself.

    I read your post when there where only a couple comments, I assumed I would have time to gather my thoughts and digest all the different things that you are trying to tie together only because I assumed people would not engage with "the crazy person".

    Yet again, my gut betrayed me and my "grandeur" around being a rock got the better of me.

    Anyway...

    I see that you are in pain, that you are lonely and tired.

    There are things you write about that I object to, some I don't understand and frankly some I don't even remember and I won't reread your post because it doesn't really matter.

    What does matter is this: you.

    And I'm sorry your life sucks in the way you tell us here. Because yeah, we are pack animals that require social bonds to thrive. And I know we don't know each other but I'm still sorry, and I still wish you had a good pack of people that sometimes would throw out the whole packet of raisins[0] when they see that you got one anyway because you must try and if the mental health system where you live doesn't offer anything else what the fuck are you supposed to do?

    I mean your post matters, and I love the analogy of therapy as platonic prostitution. Obviously it is an analogy so it is not the same, but it paints a great and useful picture for further discussion.

    When I write my comments in the monthly mental health topic I always hope to get some response, but mostly it's quiet, and it sucks. Because I actually try and show myself and reach out and invite others to comment, but they don't (except once when I mentioned suicide or maybe I'm factually wrong but that's how it feels). I'm the same, even though I do try to write something sometimes. But it's hard because it's in text and it's in the open, there is some kind of lack of intimacy that I find is hard to get around when writing text on what is essentially a forum.

    I'm long winded, too long.

    I hope something resonates or that you at least don't feel jumped on by another know-it-all that knows nothing.

    [0] being mindful while eating a raisin is one of the classic mindfulness exercises around my parts of the world (maybe everywhere?)

    3 votes

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  12. Comment on USB power delivery: Plugging into the benefits in ~tech

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    I see, thanks for clarifying! I think I just got a little stressed out since the absence of karma is something I enjoy here :) but if there is karma and I just haven't seen it (Sry, words are hard...

    I see, thanks for clarifying!

    I think I just got a little stressed out since the absence of karma is something I enjoy here :) but if there is karma and I just haven't seen it

    (Sry, words are hard today. Anyway: thx <3)

    2 votes

  13. Comment on Searchable collection of hand tools in ~engineering

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    Yes, and I especially like that you can filter, search and go down the rabbit hole based on morphology!

    Yes, and I especially like that you can filter, search and go down the rabbit hole based on morphology!

    1 vote

  14. Comment on Searchable collection of hand tools in ~engineering

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    Happened over this Belgian museums website today and their searchable collection of hand tools. Very cool! It's seems to be more useful if you speak Dutch or French but that is also an opening to...

    Happened over this Belgian museums website today and their searchable collection of hand tools.

    Very cool!

    It's seems to be more useful if you speak Dutch or French but that is also an opening to contribute if you know your tools in English!

    2 votes

  16. Comment on USB power delivery: Plugging into the benefits in ~tech

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    Ah, got it, reddit is still haunting me it seems. I'm glad there isn't karma on Tildes then. Thank you <3

    Ah, got it, reddit is still haunting me it seems.

    I'm glad there isn't karma on Tildes then.

    Thank you <3

    2 votes

  17. Comment on USB power delivery: Plugging into the benefits in ~tech

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    I didn't know there was karma on Tildes, how does it work and where can I see it?

    I didn't know there was karma on Tildes, how does it work and where can I see it?

  18. Comment on What's a game you're dying to play that doesn't exist? in ~games

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    Oooh! This reminded of "Gogo the Ghost" I think it was called...yes!... That I played a ton over at a friends house. Seems like a good fit for mobile remake too!

    Oooh! This reminded of "Gogo the Ghost" I think it was called...yes!... That I played a ton over at a friends house.

    Seems like a good fit for mobile remake too!

  19. Comment on What's a game you're dying to play that doesn't exist? in ~games

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    This sounds amazing! Where do we get the game and mods?

    This sounds amazing! Where do we get the game and mods?

    2 votes

  20. Comment on What's a game you're dying to play that doesn't exist? in ~games

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    So, since ideas are free and I haven't made any progress in over a decade I'll give you a couple of mine (and they have probably been done, just without me seeing them or in the wrong art style or...

    So, since ideas are free and I haven't made any progress in over a decade I'll give you a couple of mine (and they have probably been done, just without me seeing them or in the wrong art style or tempo, etc)

    First I have an idea for a party 2D platformer where you play as rats taking over a house. You can play up to 4 rats, but each rat also has a playable tail, so up to 8 players can play. You use the tails to swing yourself and each other, pull handles, bridge gaps, etc. Most levels are for 4 players (2 rats), but some require 8. To compensate for when you don't have 8 players you can pause the game and change what you are playing as. This also allows for game mechanics or even modes where you are given a new entity to play by the game rather than yourself. The game can then also be played by 1 player but then it becomes more of a puzzle game. I envision it in the style of Spelunky and the tempo from classic Sokoban all the way to Geometry Dash with fairy×DnB music.

    My second game is a Tower defense × MOBA × Lemmings like game for 1-4 players. Imagine DOTA2 or LOL without the players so only the buildings and creeps/minions remain. You gain gold passively and from different buildings. You use the gold to power up your creeps and buildings and even to lay new tracks to take control over new buildings/resources or to create a backdoor into the enemy base. The core is PvE with a good scenario-editor backed by a custom language (Lua?) to create and share single map scenarios and campaigns. The feel I want to go for is single player Warcraft 2, but with tracks/lanes and more RPS than micro managed fights by how you power up your creeps & buildings. It must be possible to create PvP scenarios and campaigns too, but the core game should not ship them but allow players to create them. At most the core game could ship a scenario where players play against each other as a race but not actual fighting. (This is to set the tone of the game and to encourage cooperative over adversial gaming.) I think of this as an isometric pixel game with a Megaman feel, no idea about the soundtrack though!

    3 votes