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  1. Comment on I made a word game - and it has come a long way in ~games

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    I think it would be great to make a write-up of your findings including an email address for comments. And that you also link to this write-up somewhere in both the web & app versions. This would...

    I think it would be great to make a write-up of your findings including an email address for comments.

    And that you also link to this write-up somewhere in both the web & app versions.

    This would accomplish three things:

    1. A kind of design document that will help you stay on course with regards to accessibility in this and future projects.
    2. A way for the next dingaling developer to get a starting point without requiring the affected people to inform about the easy, first steps, general, bare minimum "adjustments"
    3. By encouraging comments by email you show interest and if you follow through you get an education and an even better write-up that helps spread the word.

    I'm a firm believer in that accessibility is not only the right thing to do but that it also leads to more elegant design and solutions.

    2 votes

  2. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    While I think having "I am sorry" count as a complete statement is an improvement, I'm more thinking about the difference between: And If possible I think a reasonable suggestion to repair the...

    While I think having "I am sorry" count as a complete statement is an improvement, I'm more thinking about the difference between:

    I am sorry, I am exhausted and sooo stressed about school I just forgot we where going to....

    And

    I am sorry, I forgot about it. I understand that it was humiliating to wait for me at X and that you're sad because you feel unloved. I still love you and our friendship. How can I repair this for you and our relationship?

    If possible I think a reasonable suggestion to repair the damage is even better. And if there is a way to change some part of a behaviour that is also reasonable that should be added to, like

    In the future I will be more considerate of you and myself when making and upholding plans by checking my calendar more often by setting a few reminders.

  3. Comment on I made a word game - and it has come a long way in ~games

  4. Comment on Communities, relationships, and navigating the enshittification of absolutely everything in ~talk

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    Would you mind sharing those communities or information on this better software, etc? Or something about what to look for (if you don't want to connect your community-identities)?

    Would you mind sharing those communities or information on this better software, etc?

    Or something about what to look for (if you don't want to connect your community-identities)?

    2 votes

  5. Comment on I made a word game - and it has come a long way in ~games

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    Since you're offering to play the replay of the current leader after completing the puzzle maybe you could also offer that same replay from the leader board... Something like: 👑 name 📽️ other name

    Since you're offering to play the replay of the current leader after completing the puzzle maybe you could also offer that same replay from the leader board...

    Something like:

    1. 👑 name 📽️
    2. other name
    1 vote

  6. Comment on Culture is the mass-synchronization of framings in ~life

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    Nice! I will now reread the first article :) Also: there is an extra " at the end of the URL of the link you posted.

    Nice! I will now reread the first article :)

    Also: there is an extra " at the end of the URL of the link you posted.

  7. Comment on Culture is the mass-synchronization of framings in ~life

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    In my mind it is about following the cool and/or powerful. It is not clear to me how groups decide who is it, but once it's decided it is very hard to change. I see it as the basis for bullying...

    In my mind it is about following the cool and/or powerful.

    It is not clear to me how groups decide who is it, but once it's decided it is very hard to change.

    I see it as the basis for bullying (that's why you can't change what you do when you're bullied because it's not about that, it's about power) but also for who gives way when meeting someone on a sidewalk, path or in a corridor.

    You can do an experiment of awkwardness... Just for one week try to go against your instinct on who gives way... So move over when you don't feel you should and stay when you don't want to. Its very enlightening in my experience.

    1 vote

  8. Comment on Culture is the mass-synchronization of framings in ~life

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    This is a link with lots of content that seems very interesting. It's a bit much to process atm but thanks for posting it. I'll keep at it and maybe I'll remember to reply here with my findings...

    This is a link with lots of content that seems very interesting. It's a bit much to process atm but thanks for posting it.

    I'll keep at it and maybe I'll remember to reply here with my findings...

    1 vote

  9. Comment on Culture is the mass-synchronization of framings in ~life

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    I admit that I don't quite understand the "framings" concept used here, and maybe it's a crucial part. Anyway, I wanted to add my perspective: The way I understand humans, the "not stand out"-rule...

    I admit that I don't quite understand the "framings" concept used here, and maybe it's a crucial part.

    Anyway, I wanted to add my perspective:

    The way I understand humans, the "not stand out"-rule is the most basic threat for us as social creatures.

    I theorise that getting kicked out is a more primal fear than getting eaten by lions.

    Obviously what gets you kicked out differs from different cultures. And I'll also add that culture exists as soon as you have two or more persons in a place.

    1 vote

  10. Comment on In a blind test, audiophiles couldn't tell the difference between audio signals sent through copper wire, a banana, or wet mud in ~tech

  11. Comment on What are you working through? in ~life

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    Apologising is difficult stuff... I'm not good at it, I just have a few things I'm fairly sure are useful to think about. You seem to be aware that it can't be about yourself feeling good, this is...

    Apologising is difficult stuff...

    I'm not good at it, I just have a few things I'm fairly sure are useful to think about.

    You seem to be aware that it can't be about yourself feeling good, this is important.

    I also think there is an important distinction between apologising and explaining. Apologising is about the other person while explaining is about myself.

    I also think it is important to not give promises I can't hold.

    For me, I've had instances where I can't apologise (because I won't be able to be sure to act differently in the future) but still acknowledge that I was in the wrong. This seems to have some value anyway.

    4 votes

  12. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (February 2026) in ~health.mental

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    A hug, or two, or whatever equivalent you prefer. Just something, to let you take a breath, and a short pause with another person.

    A hug, or two, or whatever equivalent you prefer.

    Just something, to let you take a breath, and a short pause with another person.

    2 votes

  13. Comment on I made a word game in ~games

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    Capabilities are a thing... Like the "share" link used in many modern online platforms. This negates the need to have accounts, etc. You "only" need a way to create valid links for people to share...

    Capabilities are a thing... Like the "share" link used in many modern online platforms.

    This negates the need to have accounts, etc. You "only" need a way to create valid links for people to share (you don't even need to have a UI for deletion just a a way to delete links, and their associated data, that haven't been visited in X time)

    2 votes

  14. Comment on I made a word game in ~games

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    I'm guessing that locking it down is not worth it. Unless you're interested in playing the game of building a perfect system that noone can find any holes in. It can be a fun game even from your...

    I'm guessing that locking it down is not worth it.

    Unless you're interested in playing the game of building a perfect system that noone can find any holes in. It can be a fun game even from your side, and you'd make some people happy (who play on the other side).

    Maybe you could do custom leaderboards instead. So groups of people (friend groups, online communities, etc) can compete within the group. And then you just treat the global leaderboard as a special case?

    Just spit balling here ;)

    1 vote

  15. Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (February 2026) in ~health.mental

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    My heart goes out to that little child. It is confusing to still be caught up in that trauma. But I'm glad you know, somewhere, that you are in fact safe now. And an adult. I have a few more,...

    My heart goes out to that little child.

    It is confusing to still be caught up in that trauma.

    But I'm glad you know, somewhere, that you are in fact safe now. And an adult.

    I have a few more, advice-adjacent, thoughts bit I'll keep them to myself for now.

    5 votes

  16. Comment on I made a word game in ~games

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    Hullo... Since it seems you're leaning into this game and working on it a little more I have a suggestion that suits me, but might not be what you are aiming for so do with it whatever you want....

    Hullo...

    Since it seems you're leaning into this game and working on it a little more I have a suggestion that suits me, but might not be what you are aiming for so do with it whatever you want.

    In my opinion the puzzle holds its own weight, it's a good, interesting and challenging puzzle all by itself. The meta game is mostly distracting until I've solved todays game but then it serves as a good way to want me to try again and even come back tomorrow.

    What I mean is that I think that if it was up to me I would have only todays game showing without any stats at first.

    And then only show stats about my streak, comparisons to others and the optimal solution after I've solved todays puzzle.

    [Edit:] I'm sorry, I keep forgetting: this is a good puzzle and I'm enjoying it quite a bit. Reminds me of old school pen & paper puzzles from pop science magazines, but with just a little interactive juice sprinkled on top.

    1 vote

  17. Comment on I made a word game in ~games

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    Today "nuck" is all over the leaderboard. I don't care about "cheating" or name-sharing, I'm mentioning it because if there is a bug you might want to look into it.

    Today "nuck" is all over the leaderboard.

    I don't care about "cheating" or name-sharing, I'm mentioning it because if there is a bug you might want to look into it.

  18. Comment on The incidence of autism is similar in boys and girls, although boys are diagnosed earlier – study conducted on a sample of 2.7 million people in Sweden over a thirty-five year period in ~health.mental

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    And you did, I should have mentioned you too in my reply down the line to sparksbet.

    However even if so, the previous poster was concerned and I hoped to alleviate it

    And you did, I should have mentioned you too in my reply down the line to sparksbet.

    2 votes

  19. Comment on The incidence of autism is similar in boys and girls, although boys are diagnosed earlier – study conducted on a sample of 2.7 million people in Sweden over a thirty-five year period in ~health.mental

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    Thank you, I found it weird and in my skimmy way of reading I missed the explanation.

    Thank you, I found it weird and in my skimmy way of reading I missed the explanation.

    3 votes

  20. Comment on How many Hosers are there on Tildes? in ~talk