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Comment on What radicalized you? in ~talk
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Comment on What radicalized you? in ~talk
fnulare (edited )LinkThe understanding that my mother didn't choose me. While she chose to become a parent she didnt decide to have exactly me as a child. This became the foundation for my parenting — that no matter...The understanding that my mother didn't choose me. While she chose to become a parent she didnt decide to have exactly me as a child.
This became the foundation for my parenting — that no matter what I must take responsibility for bringing a person to this world — and my view on children in general: that they are just humans with a little less experience and sometimes worse fine motor skills than adults.
[Edit, adding:]
Also, I think I was radicalised in 3 other ways by boredom (sobriety from alcohol) and 2 specific subreddits (intermittent fasting and barefoot:ing)These 4 things are where I seem to confuse other people the most for going outside the box.
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Comment on What radicalized you? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentI don't understand what this refers to. (I'm 40+ and non-USA:er, so try to consider that when explaining, thx <3)I don't understand what this refers to.
(I'm 40+ and non-USA:er, so try to consider that when explaining, thx <3)
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Comment on What are people using instead of VS Code? in ~comp
fnulare Link ParentI want to get into Emacs (because I use a custom org-mode app on my phone) but it is soooo ugly to me. Do you happen to have any recommendations or resources on making it look nicer (= like a...I want to get into Emacs (because I use a custom org-mode app on my phone) but it is soooo ugly to me.
Do you happen to have any recommendations or resources on making it look nicer (= like a "normal" gui app in X - that often isn't X anymore, but you know what I mean)?
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Comment on Alternative news source recommendations in ~news
fnulare LinkMay I suggest 2-3 monthly or preferably quarterly magazines instead? The format forces a kind of slowness and for me it's been a nice way to forget to pick up my phone a little by having small...May I suggest 2-3 monthly or preferably quarterly magazines instead?
The format forces a kind of slowness and for me it's been a nice way to forget to pick up my phone a little by having small piles in the bathroom and in other suitable spots.
If you're so inclined you might even go straight to scientific journals in a subject that interests you.
Since everyone on the internet is an American FBI agent (or however the saying goes) and I assume you are too I won't recommend any from my part of the world and my interest's but I'm sure there must be magazines around to subscribe to.
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentThank you, this looks like great fun! Unfortunately for me it looks like there isn't a good way to do this in my climate... Speculating it might work if you do it underground, like in a root...Thank you, this looks like great fun!
Unfortunately for me it looks like there isn't a good way to do this in my climate... Speculating it might work if you do it underground, like in a root cellar so it doesn't freeze, but then again that might be a bit excessive :)
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentThank you, it is helpful to me to hear different stories and reasons so that I can help my friend sort things out for themselves.Thank you, it is helpful to me to hear different stories and reasons so that I can help my friend sort things out for themselves.
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentWould you mind sharing a little bit about your motives for this. I have a friend who is thinking about going off theirs, mostly to see how it would be since they have taken them for really long...Would you mind sharing a little bit about your motives for this.
I have a friend who is thinking about going off theirs, mostly to see how it would be since they have taken them for really long and aren't really sure how they are underneath.
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentNot to be the basher king of easy bashings of the open door that really didn't need a bashing, but it brings me joy that you have some sort of feelings around EDC and none whatsoever around...Not to be the basher king of easy bashings of the open door that really didn't need a bashing, but it brings me joy that you have some sort of feelings around EDC and none whatsoever around drones.
We are just different people with different kinds of issues.
Keep on being you and enjoy your things! <3
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
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Comment on I need to talk to someone with social mobility experience, and I'm out of ideas in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentI understand this discussion is in an USA context but I just want to remind you that most of the losers don't even have a 401 since they don't live in the USA, capitalism is global and the...I understand this discussion is in an USA context but I just want to remind you that most of the losers don't even have a 401 since they don't live in the USA, capitalism is global and the extraction of value too.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2026) in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentThank you for telling us. It's encouraging for me to read about someone understanding something about themselves. Makes me feel less alone and also hopeful.Thank you for telling us.
It's encouraging for me to read about someone understanding something about themselves. Makes me feel less alone and also hopeful.
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare LinkI've been fighting off the last of a cold and been struggling with tooth ache. Finally on Friday morning I called the dentist and then spent all day waiting for my appointment. Unfortunately I...I've been fighting off the last of a cold and been struggling with tooth ache.
Finally on Friday morning I called the dentist and then spent all day waiting for my appointment.
Unfortunately I forgot to ask to keep the tooth for the tooth fairy (is there only one or are they more like a sub-species or -culture???) so I'm short 20SEK (which I heard from a friend is the going rate).
This weekend I'm working, so not doing much, but it allows me to put the final touches on eradicating whatever virus invited itself in.
I'm also finally restarting a book I lent from a friend, I like the writing style it reminds me of Douglas Addams style for the Hitchhiker's guide to the galaxy series (which are my all time favourite books)
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Comment on What did you do this week (and weekend)? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentHonestly... Goals! (Sorry, wanted to add some encouragement and this phrase — showing not my but my kids age — popped out!) How did you find the first list to go through and select the three you...Honestly... Goals!
(Sorry, wanted to add some encouragement and this phrase — showing not my but my kids age — popped out!)
How did you find the first list to go through and select the three you did inquire to? Or did you just quack "psychotherapist [locality]"?
Are you looking for a specific kind of therapy or a specific therapist (I mean is the method or person most important?)
Would you mind sharing what kind of therapy you're looking for and your reasoning?
I recently got dumped by my therapist (for being too complex for their capabilities) and at the exit session I asked them about resources or methods they thought would be able useful for me. They did a good job with that so now I'm almost tingling with excitement to find a good therapist but I'll wait to see how my NP-assessment turns out before I start looking.
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Comment on Good News Everyone! - your semi regular good news thread in ~talk
fnulare LinkUnionising works, even against the big-big corporations. It's also uplifting that they tried something new and it worked. The more different tactics we have experience with the more power we can gain.Unionising works, even against the big-big corporations.
It's also uplifting that they tried something new and it worked. The more different tactics we have experience with the more power we can gain.
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2026) in ~health.mental
fnulare Link ParentI find myself thinking a lot about friendships. Or rather I realise I do some small things quite often that someone taught me and everytime I do the thing I think about that person. I think of...I find myself thinking a lot about friendships.
Or rather I realise I do some small things quite often that someone taught me and everytime I do the thing I think about that person. I think of them fondly, but I also wonder why we never really became friends.
One of them, I haven't talked with in years, that makes it slightly less heavy. The other one I still chase from time to time (and now is one of those periods, but instead of reaching out I hold off on reaching out, since I don't feel it's welcome but I still think about it several times a day).
I'm sad, but not sad enough to cry. Maybe I can't really grief since I somehow think we will become friends soon.
I got the tooth thing fixed yesterday (and it seems to have helped with the dizziness too): it was loose, and now it's gone! (There is a whisper of a tune playing in my head, but I don't know which one.)
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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (March 2026) in ~health.mental
fnulare Link Parent2 > 0 I'm big on actually feeling the feelings, so well done in another shit situation!2 > 0
I'm big on actually feeling the feelings, so well done in another shit situation!
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Comment on What are you no longer a fan of? in ~talk
fnulare Link ParentHmm, interesting, I find that the clarity of the situation helps with showing what's OK or not. It helps passive bystanders to see what's what.Hmm, interesting, I find that the clarity of the situation helps with showing what's OK or not. It helps passive bystanders to see what's what.
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Comment on Struggling in my relationship in ~life
fnulare Link ParentHappy to hear things are looking up for you (is that an actual phrase or did I just make it up? Anyway: yay!) I'm sure you'll figure out the finances, especially now (or at least soon) when the...Happy to hear things are looking up for you (is that an actual phrase or did I just make it up? Anyway: yay!)
I'm sure you'll figure out the finances, especially now (or at least soon) when the mental load of living together and building that life with your ex is dwindling. (You will of course always have to deal with your ex in some capacity, but it will get easier.)
Good look home-hunting!
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Comment on Danish PM Mette Frederiksen has advocated for reinstating a tax on the country's largest fortunes – proposal has faced strong criticism from business leaders and the right before upcoming elections in ~society
fnulare Link ParentI believe you. Still, I do think that just having it as a talking point is an improvement over the fawning over the right of wealth acquisition that has been the norm since the late 80's.I believe you.
Still, I do think that just having it as a talking point is an improvement over the fawning over the right of wealth acquisition that has been the norm since the late 80's.
I see, thanks