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Comment on "The therapeutic industry is platonic prostitution" in ~health.mental
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Comment on "The therapeutic industry is platonic prostitution" in ~health.mental
fuzzy (edited )Link ParentI hear you. There are a lot of threads worth pulling at in this response, and I won't be able to get to all of them. But I hear a lot of anguish and pain coming through your response, and I want...- Exemplary
I hear you.
There are a lot of threads worth pulling at in this response, and I won't be able to get to all of them. But I hear a lot of anguish and pain coming through your response, and I want you to know I recognize it and in no way intend to belittle it.
In my response I didn't intend to discount or criticize your original post or condescend. I apologize that it functioned that way; clearly that is my error. I read the whole of your post and found it very well written and interesting. Thank you for typing it up and contributing it, it's given me a lot to chew on.
I have a lot of feelings about it, but none of them - seriously ZERO - are that you or your writing are not good enough. In your jumping to that I feel that I'm seeing a window into some of your personal anguish. You are good enough, and this post was well written. I think I speak for more than just myself in declaring that that is not in question here and you are not being personally judged in that nature. I am not intending to victim blame, criticize your English (you seem like a native speaker to me), or doubt the effort that has gone into your engagement.
Among the contents of the post, like with any longform written material, there are things that resonate with me and things I disagree with. I 100% agree with your disdain for an atomized, individualistic, and altogether 'separated' culture; on the other hand I agree with others that you're romanticizing a past that never existed in the sense that you long for it (I also do this all the time...). Your difficulties with finding a therapist, compressing what you need into appointments that were too short and too expensive, and finding the bond to be lacking really resonates with a lot of the therapy experiences I've had. On the other hand I've also had a couple of therapists in the past 20 years who did care, who did find a way to form a bond across the personal/professional divide, and ultimately changed my life in a way that no friend or family member could have. One of them I largely credit with saving me from suicide.
As I read the whole piece, through the parts that resonated with me and the parts that didn't, I did pick up on, as I referred to, a common thread of viewing ones own personal views and experiences as the one 'real' or 'true' appraisal of society / existence, as opposed to the folks who are trapped in their atomized life where they pay for platonic prostitution or whatnot. I didn't initially respond because some of the other responses already covered it much better than I could have, but in seeing this additional response that doubled down on that element I felt compelled to chime in.
I freely admit that's due to my own sensitivities of having my mental health struggles minimized. I spent years and years of my life in and out of psychiatric hospitals, on dozens of meds, with a whole cast of therapists, wanting to kill myself off and on the whole time. I'm surprised (and glad) that I never did. It left a lot of scars. One of them is a sensitivity to presumptions about what I've been through.
I'm sure that was not their intention, but it felt, to me, that the implication of that post was that anyone who didn't agree fully with your (and their) perspective are simply not 'trapped by the externalities' of our 'toxic system,' and are, ‘as usual,’ making excuses for the 'therapeutic complex.' That's a ton of charged terms, loaded with presumptions, that hit squarely on my sensitivity. That's a me issue. Like you I am a human being with emotions and sensitivities.
This gets to another thing that strikes me about your response here, though - I hear you taking all of the other folks' thoughts and feedback very, very personally. I disagreed with wervenyt's response and thus wrote up my own but I don't feel that they attacked me, hate me, or that it's personal in any way like that. Yet it's clear here from what you've written that you're really hurting, on a very personal level, from some of the responses you've received.
First of all, I apologize I have caused hurt and anguish. It is certainly not my intention.
Second, can you help me understand how I, and others, can respond to what you write, including disagreeing with some of your viewpoints, without making it personal or making you feel like you're not good enough?
To reiterate again: you are good enough, I'm glad you wrote this up and shared it with us, and I hope you stay with us in the Tildes community. Also your English is better than many native speakers!
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Comment on "The therapeutic industry is platonic prostitution" in ~health.mental
fuzzy Link ParentI find this response even more oddly presumptuous than the original post. There's a common thread of treating personal experience as a universal truth. Others have had different experiences; that...I find this response even more oddly presumptuous than the original post. There's a common thread of treating personal experience as a universal truth. Others have had different experiences; that doesn't mean they don't struggle, don't feel trapped, or don't 'get it.'
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Comment on Midweek Movie Free Talk in ~movies
fuzzy Link ParentI appreciate the warning! Though it also sounds good and interesting enough that maybe someday I'll roll the dice and give it a watch...I appreciate the warning! Though it also sounds good and interesting enough that maybe someday I'll roll the dice and give it a watch...
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Comment on Has anyone else seen a LOT of dead birds on the side of the road this year? in ~enviro
fuzzy LinkI have not noticed any increased amount of dead birds, no.I have not noticed any increased amount of dead birds, no.
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Comment on People who want less AI are breaking up with Google Search in ~tech
fuzzy Link ParentDuckDuckGo has a dedicated No AI search: https://noai.DuckDuckGo.com I’ve set it as the default search engine on all of my devices & browsers.DuckDuckGo has a dedicated No AI search:
I’ve set it as the default search engine on all of my devices & browsers.
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Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life
fuzzy Link ParentIt's hard to let go. Remember: doors that are closed can be re-opened ... as long as you don't bolt them shut by creating too much baggage on the way out. From what you've written here it seems...It's hard to let go. Remember: doors that are closed can be re-opened ... as long as you don't bolt them shut by creating too much baggage on the way out.
From what you've written here it seems that sticking around now and trying to work through everything has little chance of fixing the fundamental issues with the relationship and a high chance of creating baggage and stymieing the personal growth that your partner clearly needs some time and space to work through (though you cannot force or expect her to).
I've had two what I would term 'very serious' relationships in my life. In both of them we at some point took a significant break where we broke up and had no contact because we had things to work through on our own (though our circumstances were very, very different than yours). In both instances both I and my (ex) partner grew a lot from the separation. And in the second instance we 'chose' each other again after we'd learned and grown and thought things through and are now happily married.
Relationships can take a lot of paths, and none of it is a waste as long as we're learning and growing. It seems that you sticking around will slow the growth and increase the chance of the door being welded shut. It sounds as though it's time to let go, at least for now.
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Comment on ‘Backrooms’ stuns with $81 million debut, ‘Obsession’ has another unprecedented jump, ‘Mandalorian and Grogu’ suffers 70% drop in ~movies
fuzzy Link ParentIs it 'Get Out scary' or, like, scary-scary? I generally don't like horror films but have loved some that aren't actually all that scary, more like tense and spooky - like Get Out, 28 Days Later,...Is it 'Get Out scary' or, like, scary-scary?
I generally don't like horror films but have loved some that aren't actually all that scary, more like tense and spooky - like Get Out, 28 Days Later, Alien etc. I don't enjoy tons of jump scares or something that'll keep me up at night.
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Comment on A start-up aiming to make geothermal energy mainstream goes public in ~enviro
fuzzy Link ParentI hear you - and I encourage you to read the resources I linked, which go over these concerns in detail. First, even extreme levels of stratospheric aerosol injection wouldn't necessarily reach...I hear you - and I encourage you to read the resources I linked, which go over these concerns in detail.
First, even extreme levels of stratospheric aerosol injection wouldn't necessarily reach the level of global dimming that we experienced (and thus survived) in the 1970s and 1980s. A lot of the research into SAI is into where and at what altitude to deploy them precisely to get maximum cooling benefit with minimum side effects, including effects on crops and photovoltaics.
Second, while the most understood particle for SAI is sulfur (similar to volcanic eruptions and diesel emissions) there's another branch of research into finding alternative substances that have the same benefits (cheap, easy to scatter, block solar radiation) with fewer of the negative effects. One substance of promise is calcium carbonate, which would sidestep a lot of the pollution concerns.
Plus all of these effects would be much less in a scenario where SAI is being responsibly used to cool things slightly (i.e. keep us under 1.5 or 2C for some decades) rather than being overused (to totally undo all warming indefinitely).
Ultimately it's a question of drawbacks. We've missed our shot to avoid 2C+ of warming through emissions cuts alone, so we're stuck choosing our least bad options. A world with changed rainfall patterns and a bit of global dimming may be preferable to societal and ecological collapse of runaway warming.
Plus the technology is already out there - many countries could deploy it at some scale within a few years - so research is necessary now before some desperate country in a rapidly warming region throws caution to the wind in the 2030s or 2040s. Essentially 'don't do it' isn't an option. There are already some idiotic and dangerous tech startups threatening escalating deployment without oversight.
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Comment on A start-up aiming to make geothermal energy mainstream goes public in ~enviro
fuzzy (edited )Link ParentIt's a blanket term for any technique to block some amount of sunlight (and thus heat) from getting to the earth. The most researched and plausible form of it is Stratospheric Aerosol Injection...It's a blanket term for any technique to block some amount of sunlight (and thus heat) from getting to the earth. The most researched and plausible form of it is Stratospheric Aerosol Injection (SAI), which scatters particulates in the stratosphere - as many sources, from volcanic eruptions to ship emissions, already do. Volcanic aerosols have cooled us at many points over the millennia and pollution aerosols have been artificially cooling us for over a century (they peaked in the 80s). The acceleration of warming in the past decade, especially in the oceans, is suspected to be in part due to updated emissions limits on ships. Fewer aerosols = more heat getting through.
The blanket opposition of climate scientists and environmental groups to any research into it has softened a ton over the past decade. A number of environmental groups are now supporting research (though not deployment - which is a very good thing at this stage) and prominent climate scientist James Hansen joined that chorus last year.
Basically it's one of the only plausible, deployable-at-scale geoengineering solutions to cool the planet. It wouldn't fix climate change but would buy time and delay tipping points while we decarbonize. We know it works, we know we could do it, but we don't yet have a full understanding of how it would affect things like rainfall patterns. Scientists are coming around because we're quickly entering a world where the risks of not doing it are greater than the risks of doing it.
Plus, as Hansen has explained, 'we shouldn't do any geoengineering' doesn't really add up when that's what we've been doing for almost 200 years. That's what climate change is!
Here are some good starting points to learn more:
https://cicoes.uw.edu/2023/03/01/efforts-to-block-sunlight-get-boost-from-prominent-scientists/
https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Global_dimming
https://www.edf.org/studying-impacts-solar-radiation-modification
https://srm360.org/article/stratospheric-aerosol-injection/I've long considered making a more comprehensive topic on Tildes about this stuff. Maybe some day.
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Comment on A start-up aiming to make geothermal energy mainstream goes public in ~enviro
fuzzy LinkThe potential of geothermal energy is one of the handful of things that makes me a bit ‘climate hopeful.’ Some of the others: the rapid expansion of solar energy, battery improvements on the...The potential of geothermal energy is one of the handful of things that makes me a bit ‘climate hopeful.’
Some of the others: the rapid expansion of solar energy, battery improvements on the horizon, and the increasing acceptance of the need for solar radiation modification.
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Comment on ‘The Devil Wears Prada 2’ stunning with $233m+ WW opening, $77m US in ~movies
fuzzy LinkFrom the reviews I've seen this one seems to be a cut above a lot of the other years-later sequels to popular movies we've been getting recently. Apparently it's not just a total retread.From the reviews I've seen this one seems to be a cut above a lot of the other years-later sequels to popular movies we've been getting recently. Apparently it's not just a total retread.
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Comment on Street Fighter | Official trailer in ~movies
fuzzy LinkThis comes across to me as a very well edited trailer for a bad movie. Like Suicide Squad a few years back.This comes across to me as a very well edited trailer for a bad movie. Like Suicide Squad a few years back.
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Comment on Why cheap waste management is key to stopping plastic pollution in ~enviro
fuzzy Link ParentThis is a tremendously thorough and insightful post - thank you for that. I want to raise one red flag, though. I’m not familiar with the other two groups you linked related to waste management...This is a tremendously thorough and insightful post - thank you for that.
I want to raise one red flag, though. I’m not familiar with the other two groups you linked related to waste management work but everyone should be aware that Alliance to End Plastic Waste is an industry front group. If you go to their funding page you’ll see petro, chemical, and plastics companies including TotalEnergies and Dow.
“But what’s the harm if they’re funding municipal waste improvements?” - they donate an extremely small portion of their profits to this group, among others, so they can point to it as their concern for problems of plastic pollution and use it to fight against any other form of regulation or pollution policy, like lifecycle regulations.
Most recently these companies + petrostates defeated a UN treaty to put limits on unnecessary plastics (especially packaging). A majority of participating countries, including a ton of the poorest and most polluted countries in the world, supported the measures, but these companies and their allied petrostates stalled and muddied the waters by claiming it’s SOLELY a waste management issue for which they share no responsibility and succeeded in derailing the process.
Waste management is extremely important, as you outline here. But it isn’t mutually exclusive with limiting unnecessary plastics and both measures are badly necessary.
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Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech
fuzzy Link ParentI had no idea this existed, I'll look into it. Thank you!I had no idea this existed, I'll look into it. Thank you!
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Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech
fuzzy Link ParentUnfortunately my stoop is narrow such that there isn't anywhere to put a big enough box that wouldn't end up blocking the ability to open the front door. (Yes, we sometimes get partially blocked...Unfortunately my stoop is narrow such that there isn't anywhere to put a big enough box that wouldn't end up blocking the ability to open the front door.
(Yes, we sometimes get partially blocked in by delivered packages as well).
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Comment on Leaked email suggests Ring plans to expand ‘search party’ surveillance beyond dogs in ~tech
fuzzy Link ParentI’m currently caught between this rock and hard place. Our doorbell isn’t audible from from the whole home and our HOA forbids an awning over our stoop - so after a couple of packages we weren’t...I’m currently caught between this rock and hard place.
Our doorbell isn’t audible from from the whole home and our HOA forbids an awning over our stoop - so after a couple of packages we weren’t aware of got soaked by rain we set up a nest doorbell. As a result any time someone rings the doorbell or a package is delivered our phones buzz.
Now 5 years later we’re not comfortable with having a cloud connected doorbell camera any more but I have no idea what to do instead.
I’m not aware of any local-only camera or solution that’s set-it-and-forget it. And increasing the volume of the chime itself will make it audible everywhere but ear-damaging in the front room where we sometimes hang out.
If anyone has any thoughts or ideas please do let me know…
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Comment on Humble Choice - October 2025 in ~games
fuzzy Link ParentCaravan SandWitch got review bombed because the developer said something anti-Charlie Kirk after he was killed, I believe (I have not looked up the post myself).Caravan SandWitch got review bombed because the developer said something anti-Charlie Kirk after he was killed, I believe (I have not looked up the post myself).
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Comment on Song That Plays When Somebody Verses Sans (UNDERTALE 10th Anniversary Song) (2025) in ~music
fuzzy LinkWhoa! This is both a fantastic arrangement and an exceptionally well made video. It's familiar and honors Megalovania while still very much being its own thing - a tough balance to strike with a...Whoa! This is both a fantastic arrangement and an exceptionally well made video. It's familiar and honors Megalovania while still very much being its own thing - a tough balance to strike with a musical arrangement of a beloved tune.
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Comment on What's a setting that you'd recommend? in ~tech
fuzzy Link ParentIn ad-supported apps it may blank out the ads, because it prevents them from loading, but the ad 'screen' may still be there. It does not block YouTube ads. DNS ad-blocking like this essentially...In ad-supported apps it may blank out the ads, because it prevents them from loading, but the ad 'screen' may still be there.
It does not block YouTube ads. DNS ad-blocking like this essentially blocks per-domain and YouTube is clever enough to serve ads from the same place that serves the videos.
I appreciate your thoughtful response here - but also, not to worry. I didn't (and don't) feel attacked at all. I didn't take your post personally in any way, I just wanted to share a counterpoint to (my read of) your comment.
In times like these one wishes there was a better way to express tone and intent via text on the internet. I'm guessing there is a lot of overlap in the ire we feel the institutional elements you're referring to.
Be well and I hope you have a great weekend - or as great as is reasonably possible, given the world as it is.