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  1. Comment on How do I cope with/recover from divorce? in ~health.mental

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    It's sooooOOOOoooo much better already having a therapist you're able to connect with and trust. I'm excited for you. For anyone else reading this - the time to get a therapist is when things are...

    It's sooooOOOOoooo much better already having a therapist you're able to connect with and trust. I'm excited for you.

    For anyone else reading this - the time to get a therapist is when things are going well. They'll help you continue to have things go well. They'll help you to recognize, appreciate and enjoy things going well. Possibly most importantly, they'll help you shorten the amount of time you spend feeling bad about, repairing and recovering when sometimes things still do go wrong.

    I wish I'd understood that 30+ years ago.

    The comment that finally got through to me to seek therapy was something along the lines of:

    World class athletes are surrounded by coaches and trainers and sports psychologists. Its statistically unlikely that you've got any where near the natural talents, physical gifts, and mental acuity they were blessed with. So why would you think you don't need and wouldn't benefit from coaching/training/psychological guidance when striving for the goals you care about?

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  2. Comment on How do I cope with/recover from divorce? in ~health.mental

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    IMHO maintaining connection to the rest of your world is key. Spend time with your family. Spend time with your friends. Dog sit. Especially when you're not in the mood to socialize. Watch a bunch...

    IMHO maintaining connection to the rest of your world is key.

    Spend time with your family.
    Spend time with your friends.
    Dog sit.
    Especially when you're not in the mood to socialize.

    Watch a bunch of Brene Brown videos on connection and vulnerability.

    Take time to grieve, but stop before it morphs into suffering.

    Find and engage with a therapist. Talk it out with them. You didn't see it coming and didn't get the outcome you were hoping (and hopefully working) for. There's opportunity for real personal growth in that.

    just my 2 cents.

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  3. Comment on BYD's self-driving U9 jumps over obstacles in ~transport

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    Would be fun to watch a physics engine simulate that car hopping an obstacle while car was on a curve

    Would be fun to watch a physics engine simulate that car hopping an obstacle while car was on a curve

  4. Comment on BYD's self-driving U9 jumps over obstacles in ~transport

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    With the kind of down forces that tail wing (?and front hood?) are generating at high speeds, I have to wonder how high that car would jump if it did the same 'hop' standing still... (spoiler:...

    With the kind of down forces that tail wing (?and front hood?) are generating at high speeds, I have to wonder how high that car would jump if it did the same 'hop' standing still... (spoiler: good thing it's unmanned).

    Also, I'm calling bs on it (unless maybe it was travelling at a far slower speed than the impression the video gives).

    Disclaimer: C- in college level engineering physics 30 years ago

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  5. Comment on All main Disney animated canon films are going to be destroyed and you can save five, which five do you pick? in ~movies

  6. Comment on Looking for some insight / advice on dog behavior in ~life.pets

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    Thanks. Makes perfect sense. Sadly, not much is going to change for the dogs daily exercise routine until something really bad happens. The situation is a total nightmare so something bad is going...

    Thanks. Makes perfect sense. Sadly, not much is going to change for the dogs daily exercise routine until something really bad happens. The situation is a total nightmare so something bad is going to happen...

    <trigger warning animal abuse> they're not beating them, they're well groomed and fed, just the conditions they keep them in is so unsuited to the breed/any dog really.

    I'm just ranting now because I'm sad and feel powerless in the situation

    My in-laws are in their late 80s and "have to have border collies because they're the smartest breed". The dogs are mostly only let outside to use the bathroom. Most days they get 1 walk in the evenings, but that's ~10 minutes tops, and on the other end of the leash is always an octogenarian (it's like you're challenging their self sufficiency if you offer to walk the dogs). The dogs pull them around the block, and falls happen pretty routinely (MIL broke her wrist after being pulled over on a walk in mid 2024). In-laws have an acre+ back yard but if you take the dogs out to play fetch for more than ~5 minutes, MIL gets upset b/c you're 'over exerting them'.

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  7. Looking for some insight / advice on dog behavior

    I visited my in-laws over the holiday break. They have 2 border collies (and really shouldn't but that's a whole nother other...). Both border collies absolutely lose it barking and aggressively...

    I visited my in-laws over the holiday break. They have 2 border collies (and really shouldn't but that's a whole nother other...). Both border collies absolutely lose it barking and aggressively posturing when anyone but MIL/FIL enter a room they are in, UNLESS MIL/FIL are not home. Then they can't be bothered to even sit up from where they are napping.

    I find this behavior really confusing. It appears the dogs are ?protecting? my in-laws, and that in-laws have somehow unwittingly trained them to do so?

    After they're done barking they're affectionate and playful. I'd love to find a way to encourage the dogs to skip straight to the petting/play time.

    Thoughts? Advice?

    thanks in advance Tildes!

    10 votes
  8. Comment on The Walmart effect in ~finance

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    Except walmart doesn't pay a living wage either... https://www.worldhunger.org/report-walmart-workers-cost-taxpayers-6-2-billion-public-assistance/ edit woops that link is just a redirect to:...
    2 votes
  9. Comment on Merry Christmas, people of Tildes in ~talk

  10. Comment on [SOLVED] Can y'all help me find a copy of a lecture that appears to have been removed from Youtube? in ~misc

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    @cfabbro thanks for adding the 'solved' tag - I didn't know that was a thing, excited to use it in the future.

    @cfabbro thanks for adding the 'solved' tag - I didn't know that was a thing, excited to use it in the future.

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  11. Comment on [SOLVED] Can y'all help me find a copy of a lecture that appears to have been removed from Youtube? in ~misc

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    I think you're on to something. It seems I conflated the Patel interview with the Hudson lecture and attributed it in my head to a Heritage Institute lecture... That's what I get for watching...

    I think you're on to something. It seems I conflated the Patel interview with the Hudson lecture and attributed it in my head to a Heritage Institute lecture... That's what I get for watching youtube as a way to fall asleep at night.

    Thank you!!!

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  12. [SOLVED] Can y'all help me find a copy of a lecture that appears to have been removed from Youtube?

    The lecturer was Sarah C. M. Paine (works at the US Naval War College) I believe the lecture host was The Heritage Foundation. The lecture was focused on national strategies and motivations. It...

    The lecturer was Sarah C. M. Paine (works at the US Naval War College)
    I believe the lecture host was The Heritage Foundation.
    The lecture was focused on national strategies and motivations.
    It touched on the differences between nations she described as maritime powers vs. geographic powers.
    The part I'm most interested in watching again was her explanation of the compounding effects of economic sanctions over years/decades.

    I believe this interview with Dwarkesh Patel touches on a lot of similar material

    However I am 99% certain she delivered a very similar talk to The Heritage Foundation and the person I want to watch the video puts a lot more intellectual value into The Heritage Foundation than they do Dwarkesh Patel...

    I'm also pretty sure I saved the heritage foundation video in one of my youtube playlists, but ... it's gone without a trace, and I'm finding no mention of it on The Heritage Foundation website now either.

    Thanks and please let me know if I should post this under a more suitable topic.

    17 votes
  13. Comment on What are your favorite special kitchen ingredients? in ~food

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    I recently got down a rabbit hole on youtube, and it turns out that in conjunction with MSG, certain ribonucleotides greatly increase umami. In my (very minimal) research, bonito flakes and dried...

    I recently got down a rabbit hole on youtube, and it turns out that in conjunction with MSG, certain ribonucleotides greatly increase umami. In my (very minimal) research, bonito flakes and dried shiitake mushrooms stood out as being particularly rich sources of both msg and ribonucleotides.

    All of which is to say, my 2 new special kitchen ingredients are

    • dried shiitake mushrooms
    • bonito flakes
    5 votes
  14. Comment on Study: essay graders rarely detect AI, give higher grades in ~tech

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    Universities have ?gotten away with? using prof(or TA):student ratios that make it all but impossible for the teacher/grader to do anything more than lightly skim essays looking for key words and...

    Universities have ?gotten away with? using prof(or TA):student ratios that make it all but impossible for the teacher/grader to do anything more than lightly skim essays looking for key words and basic reasoning.

    My hot take: "AI exposes educational bankruptcy of current educational system"

    *this really only applied to non-STEM undergrad classes... STEM classes having the benefit of objectively right/wrong answers to questions (and 0 essays).

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  15. Comment on What are your Christmas movies? in ~movies

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    Klaus 2019 (streaming on netflix) trailer I'm a 52 yo male who grew up under stereotypical masculine expectations and it makes me cry. every. time. So. Good.

    Klaus 2019 (streaming on netflix) trailer

    I'm a 52 yo male who grew up under stereotypical masculine expectations and it makes me cry. every. time.

    So. Good.

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  16. Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life

  17. Comment on How do you shave your nose and ears? in ~life.men

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    I've been using one of these Panasonic er-gn30's for ~15 years, and have gone through most every other option I've seen posted here on my way to it. Its safe. Its effective. Its fast. Its easy to...

    I've been using one of these Panasonic er-gn30's for ~15 years, and have gone through most every other option I've seen posted here on my way to it. Its safe. Its effective. Its fast. Its easy to clean.

    The er-gn30 has an electric motor powered spinner with 2 blades that rotate very quickly just inside the slotted metal dome (see link). The spinner is very very low mass, and thus very very low momentum, even for how fast those blades are moving. I most frequently use it kind of mindlessly while watching videos in my home office. Possibly TMI but there are some nooks/crannies in my snozz where hairs are kind of a pain to get at. My go to move is to forcefully jam that trimmer up in those nooks/crannies and rotate violently (b/c pushing harder makes things work better DUH). In weekly use over 15 years, I've yet to ever encounter any sort of pinch/pull/pain. I honestly don't think its possible to hurt yourself with it. Note: if you're worried you might stab yourself in the eye with it, you are not a member of my intended audience for this review...

    It works great with ear /ear lobe hair too, though it can get a bit loud while I'm digging deep in the inner ear.

    It's also nice for trimming the bit of my mustache that's too close to my nose for my regular mustache clippers to deal with reasonably.

    I have managed to cut myself with one of these manual trimmers, but I was really digging at a stupid nose hair that was taunting me and laughing in my face...

    4 votes
  18. Comment on The history of slipping on banana peels | Pretty Good, episode 14 in ~humanities.history

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    Now if we can just get an eye witness account of someone actually drowning in quicksand in real life, my childhood will be vindicated... (pretty sure mythbusters tackled the quicksand conundrum...

    Now if we can just get an eye witness account of someone actually drowning in quicksand in real life, my childhood will be vindicated...

    (pretty sure mythbusters tackled the quicksand conundrum and found it highly unlikely)

    4 votes
  19. Comment on Iowa Police chief caught selling machine guns says "every cop" is guilty in ~society

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    After reading that, it strikes me that economics may be highly resistant from trickle down, but corruption has a strong affinity for it.

    After reading that, it strikes me that economics may be highly resistant from trickle down, but corruption has a strong affinity for it.

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  20. Comment on What’s your “I didn’t know I needed that” item? in ~life

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    Scrolled all the way through the comments. I'm shocked to be the first suggest a bidet toilet seat. The one I've got includes a heated seat (see other commenters suggesting heated toilet seats)...

    Scrolled all the way through the comments. I'm shocked to be the first suggest a bidet toilet seat. The one I've got includes a heated seat (see other commenters suggesting heated toilet seats) and heated water. If you've never used one I really can't convey how much better life is with one. And with the price of toilet paper these days it eventually pays for itself...

    edit - took ~15 minutes to install. It connects between your toilet's water source and the tank, bolts on with the same holes your current toilet seat uses. Finding an outlet might be an issue for some bathrooms, but honestly I'd run an extension cord across the floor, out the door, and down the hall if that's what it took. It's really that good.

    20 votes