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  1. Comment on Petition: Bring back KFC potato wedges in ~food

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    Can we add a rider to bring back the Mexi-nuggets at Taco Bell? I miss my terrible for you delicious potatoes from my childhood.

    Can we add a rider to bring back the Mexi-nuggets at Taco Bell? I miss my terrible for you delicious potatoes from my childhood.

    2 votes

  2. Comment on What is your most annoying (minor) movie trope? in ~movies

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    My partner despises the Wilhelm scream even as a joke. It drives him nuts. Can ruin a whole movie for him.

    My partner despises the Wilhelm scream even as a joke. It drives him nuts. Can ruin a whole movie for him.

    1 vote

  3. Comment on What silly thing do you argue about with your significant other? in ~talk

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    This is the way, I was mocked once for my tiny one egg pan, then I made perfectly sized eggs for sammiches with it and my roommates came to see the light. I will fry eggs one at a time to make...

    This is the way, I was mocked once for my tiny one egg pan, then I made perfectly sized eggs for sammiches with it and my roommates came to see the light. I will fry eggs one at a time to make perfect sandwich eggs with my tiny skillet. (also there has to be butter or bacon fat...no canola is NOT the same)

    4 votes

  4. Comment on Lets talk roguelikes! in ~games

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    I'm a Don't Starve and Don't Starve Together fan too. I enjoyed Desktop Dungeons when I played it though it has been ages, and Rogue Legacy was pretty fun. It is a refreshing genre to play...

    I'm a Don't Starve and Don't Starve Together fan too. I enjoyed Desktop Dungeons when I played it though it has been ages, and Rogue Legacy was pretty fun. It is a refreshing genre to play inbetween adventure and other genres, because you learn the core skills and then everything changes around it.

  5. Comment on Tildes Minecraft server launch - Java Edition SMP in ~games

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    I've missed a community based server. I was a mod on a small server for a while in college. This is so nice, thanks for starting it up. I'm StarlightSonnata in Minecraft see you serverside.

    I've missed a community based server. I was a mod on a small server for a while in college. This is so nice, thanks for starting it up. I'm StarlightSonnata in Minecraft see you serverside.

    6 votes

  6. Comment on I have severe and persistent mental illness. I now work as a public mental health professional. Ask me anything. in ~health.mental

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    My fiancé is struggling with his mental health, and has tried several therapists/psychologists/emergency care options and he feels like none of them are helpful. Because of this he rejects the...

    My fiancé is struggling with his mental health, and has tried several therapists/psychologists/emergency care options and he feels like none of them are helpful. Because of this he rejects the very idea of seeking outside help and has been in a constant state of mental anguish that ebbs and flows but never goes away. Do you have any advice on how I can help him find assistance that is effective? Currently his past experiences with mental health care are a barrier.

    13 votes

  7. Comment on As a cis het white male, how do I better understand trans and trans issues? in ~lgbt

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    Ooo thanks. I love learning about others perspectives from their own words.

    Ooo thanks. I love learning about others perspectives from their own words.

    1 vote

  8. Comment on As a cis het white male, how do I better understand trans and trans issues? in ~lgbt

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    I can't speak from direct Trans experience because I too am cis/het, but the way I've wrapped my head around it is that it is a constant irritation/discomfort for a Trans person to be misgendered....

    I can't speak from direct Trans experience because I too am cis/het, but the way I've wrapped my head around it is that it is a constant irritation/discomfort for a Trans person to be misgendered. Like a low level hum constantly putting you on edge. Something feels off and you want to fix it but various outside factors are constantly adding to it. Dysphoria ebbs and flows but it is always there until the person finds the balance that allows them to feel at peace. That may be presenting as the gender that feels right to them, or just using neutral pronouns. It is different for each person and as fellow people we need to be kind to each other while navigating this, taking correction with grace and giving correction with grace. No one knows what is happening in another person's head and kind and forgiving communication is the smoothest way to bring everyone up to speed.

    Just a simple "I prefer to be called this" with a reply of "oh I didn't know, thanks for telling me" goes a long way, but it is difficult sometimes to know who it is Safe to say something like that to, since the current zeitgeist is not as accepting of the basic humanity of people on the gender dysphoric spectrum.

    I hope this is helpful, because honestly empathy comes from understanding, which if it isn't your lived experience requires imagining what it would be like. I like Balen's mirror example, since it brings in the constant outside influences pressuring against inner feeling.

    2 votes

  9. Comment on What’s the one item you make for get togethers that everyone loves that is secretly super easy to prepare? in ~food

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    Mine is similar to your meatballs, but lil smokies in grape jelly (makes it's own BBQ sauce!) is my mom's secret weapon of party time. I do it all the time now too, so simple and tasty.

    Mine is similar to your meatballs, but lil smokies in grape jelly (makes it's own BBQ sauce!) is my mom's secret weapon of party time. I do it all the time now too, so simple and tasty.

    1 vote

  10. Comment on That essential morning coffee may be a placebo in ~food

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    Similarly to Arqalite I wonder if adding another variable with other morning beverages might come out with interesting results, since coffee is a part of a LOT of people's routines but not...

    Similarly to Arqalite I wonder if adding another variable with other morning beverages might come out with interesting results, since coffee is a part of a LOT of people's routines but not everyone's. I myself am a tea drinker, and I like the strong black British style for waking up, so I'd love to see that comparison, as well as decaf and coffee substitutes as others have mentioned. I think the study is interesting but not as comprehensive as it could be, though setting up double blind studies with that many variables would take a lot of time and resources.

    1 vote

  11. Comment on I'm from the Reddit exodus. I'm really liking it here. What should I know? in ~tildes

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    This is what I have found as well. I'm enjoying the novel experience of having people to actually communicate with rather than just meme each other to death. It's refreshing to reply to a post and...

    This is what I have found as well. I'm enjoying the novel experience of having people to actually communicate with rather than just meme each other to death. It's refreshing to reply to a post and have people actually care about your reply and want to discuss things more deeply. I don't know if I could ever do a Reddit like environment again now that I am part of Tildes.

    7 votes

  12. Comment on What is "that part" for you in any game? in ~games

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    I haven't played Escape from Monkey Island in an age because of the clunky monkey fights. That sounds funny but really since it was the series jump to 3d it already was a pain, then the way the...

    I haven't played Escape from Monkey Island in an age because of the clunky monkey fights. That sounds funny but really since it was the series jump to 3d it already was a pain, then the way the fights work just feels like a slog. I loved the previous game's insult sword fights, and they kinda have that in Escape, but it is limited to arm wrestling and the big bad boss uses the Monkey Kombat, which was hard to wrap my head around. With insult sword fighting the puzzle was finding the response that matches the insult to counter it, but with Monkey Kombat it is strings of Oop, Ack, Eek and Chee, which are harder to intuitively keep track of. I ended up having to write out each combo and counter. Oh and they are randomized every time you play, so your old notes are probably worthless.

    2 votes

  13. Comment on Former US President Donald Trump pleads not guilty to classified documents charges in ~news

  14. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

  15. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    Yeah, a lot of stage craft skills parlay well into other fields. I'm a decent carpenter, and I know how to weld, all of which I learned in scene shop building sets and frames.

    Yeah, a lot of stage craft skills parlay well into other fields. I'm a decent carpenter, and I know how to weld, all of which I learned in scene shop building sets and frames.

  16. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    Yeah, it is amazing how the ability to read/use common sense goes out the window when people are out of their element. Though the device is labeled as a "personal air filter" and you are supposed...

    Yeah, it is amazing how the ability to read/use common sense goes out the window when people are out of their element. Though the device is labeled as a "personal air filter" and you are supposed to breathe the smoke out through it. It's called a "Smoke Buddy". I think the item is definitely preying on desperate people.

    1 vote

  17. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    I went out of town for my weekend (Mon Tue) so I'm back where I can reply. My particular hotel uses the front desk as the information center, so when housekeeping finishes their rooms myself or a...

    I went out of town for my weekend (Mon Tue) so I'm back where I can reply. My particular hotel uses the front desk as the information center, so when housekeeping finishes their rooms myself or a manager will go do the final check and make sure everything is as it should be for a guest checking in. I also answer the phone and act as a concierge giving advice about local attractions and places to eat/do things. There is light cleaning as the lobby is the Front Desk's responsibility as well as the kitchen. My job in the afternoon is checking guests in and deals more with putting away dishes left from breakfast and the morning shift tends to be focused on getting breakfast out and check outs. I'm also involved in invoicing for companies that have negotiated rates with us. I make reservations and do courtesy calls to make sure people don't forget they have a reservation (this is not an industry standard, it's just something we do here as a little above and beyond the norm) We have a gift shop so I make sales for that, make coffee, chat with guests. I have a lot of fun at my job, but finding the right property/company is crucial for that. In my previous work in a corporate hotel I was much less happy.

  18. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    I wasn't in hospitality during the Pandemic, I was a grocery clerk. Both are public facing though so I can comment on my work during that time. And we still have measures for cleaning that are...

    I wasn't in hospitality during the Pandemic, I was a grocery clerk. Both are public facing though so I can comment on my work during that time. And we still have measures for cleaning that are more stringent at our hotel. We clean with 70% Alcohol for sanitizing, and rooms must be deep cleaned every three days, on top of the normal cleaning process. This means that we go in and strip everything out and fully clean everything after 3 nights of use.

    At the grocery I found that we were understaffed for the increased sanitizing, and in rural Montana it was hard to not be on someone's nerves mask wise, wearing one bothered some people and not others.

    2 votes

  19. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    That is a fascinating job! Coordinating all sorts of people takes a particular set of skills, you are impressive. I hope you get fitted and used to your prosthetic soon so you can go enjoy the...

    That is a fascinating job! Coordinating all sorts of people takes a particular set of skills, you are impressive. I hope you get fitted and used to your prosthetic soon so you can go enjoy the experience again. I would love to be above the Blacksmith, though I don't know how I could get work done wanting to watch them all the time. I took a course on Blacksmithing in college and I love the process of taking raw material and making it into something.

    3 votes

  20. Comment on A "low-risk" AMA thread for everyone in ~talk

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    That is the way to go. I was lucky to have a robust program in my (US) High School, and then went to a college with a good program. Try everything and see what fits best. I thought I'd like...

    That is the way to go. I was lucky to have a robust program in my (US) High School, and then went to a college with a good program. Try everything and see what fits best. I thought I'd like costuming more than I did, it was ok, but not my jam.

    1 vote