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Comment on Topless men: should they be banned if they’re not at the pool or the beach? in ~life.men
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Comment on What game do you consider an unconventional masterpiece? in ~games
Tuna Link ParentIsn't Factorio considered the parent of all factory building games? If so, I don't think it would qualify as unappreciated.Isn't Factorio considered the parent of all factory building games?
If so, I don't think it would qualify as unappreciated.
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Comment on Former US President Donald Trump backs out of ABC debate, says he will only debate Kamala Harris on Fox in ~news
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Comment on What's a life lesson you've applied that has changed your life? in ~life
Tuna Link ParentClosely related to that is "luck will never be on your side". Maybe not the best mindset, similar to yours, but it helped me through my teenage years. It softened the blow of failures and helped...Closely related to that is "luck will never be on your side".
Maybe not the best mindset, similar to yours, but it helped me through my teenage years. It softened the blow of failures and helped me to stand up and try again. Embracing being unlucky gave me the mindset to face the future without fear; like looking life in the eyes and asking " is that the worst you can do?".
It also had the added benefit of keeping myself from gambling since my win chance is always 0, no matter the odds.
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Comment on Pride Month at Tildes: #6 - What media representation resonated with you personally? in ~lgbt
Tuna LinkXenogenesis Series written by Octavia Butler between '87 and '89. My favourite books. They widen the view on gender via an alien species with three genders. The aliens are well thought out with...Xenogenesis Series written by Octavia Butler between '87 and '89.
My favourite books. They widen the view on gender via an alien species with three genders. The aliens are well thought out with their own goals and views and not superficially humanised. Each book offers a different view: human views on and relationships with three-gendered aliens, binary gender, third gender.Window: Nimona (Netflix)
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Comment on Pride Month at Tildes: #5 - Ask almost anything in ~lgbt
Tuna Link ParentI've run into the same problems. The data is very limited and the people surveyed are from selected points of contact (i.e. people seeking surgery). There is this survey made by trans people,...I've run into the same problems. The data is very limited and the people surveyed are from selected points of contact (i.e. people seeking surgery).
There is this survey made by trans people, which has data on a pretty big population. Their last survey was done in 2022
and its early report can be found here.It had 92 329 respondents from the USA.
The study presented the following numbers:- 38% Nonbinary (30% AFAB, 8% AMAB)
- 35% Trans women
- 25% Trans men
- 2% Crossdresser
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Comment on 2024 European election results in ~news
Tuna LinkGermany here, the results are shocking but sadly not surprising... How can a right wing party like the AFD gain so many votes. They even had a lot of bad press right before the vote. What...Germany here, the results are shocking but sadly not surprising...
How can a right wing party like the AFD gain so many votes. They even had a lot of bad press right before the vote. What especially saddens me that they gained estimated 17% of votes from 16-24 year olds, which puts them at the first place next to CDU.
There is some good news. Poland, the country that had a very strong right wing orientation for many years, managed a shift towards the left.
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Comment on Pride Month at Tildes: #1 - Introductions and Playlist in ~lgbt
Tuna Link ParentI forgot to answer the playlist question o.o Resistance by Muse perfectly captures the yearning and sense of forbiddeness of queer love. All of their songs are written gender neutral, which makes...I forgot to answer the playlist question o.o
Resistance by Muse perfectly captures the yearning and sense of forbiddeness of queer love. All of their songs are written gender neutral, which makes it very refreshing.
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Comment on Pride Month at Tildes: #1 - Introductions and Playlist in ~lgbt
Tuna LinkThank you for spearheading this topic. A little introduction first. I am a bi and trans woman in her late twenties. To preface this, I grew up in a very liberal household. My parents were sexually...- Exemplary
Thank you for spearheading this topic.
A little introduction first. I am a bi and trans woman in her late twenties.
To preface this, I grew up in a very liberal household. My parents were sexually open and experienced. Nonetheless, this was not talked about. Not that it was taboo, just not something they brought up.
When I grew up queer topics were foreign concepts. There were the straights (the status quo) and a few people outside of our social circles were gay. "Are you gay" was a negative rebuttal we used, because no one wanted to be gay and therefore different. I was asked this question seriously a few times, to ascertain my sexuality, because I did not show typical male behaviours throughout my puberty. I always answered "no, I like girls", which was completely true and since you were either gay or straight it was the more fitting box. I have already heard about bisexuality, but at that time it was something abstract, nothing anyone actually is.
From around 13 years old sexuality gave way for more pressing matters. It was at this time I started developing depression. At the time I did not know why. There was no traumatic experience, my life was still the same. Waking up in the morning became torture, I withdrew socially and let time pass as fast as possible.
It was not until ~16 years old, when I grasped the reigns of my life again and moved forward. My best friend at the time helped me a lot, when he dragged my ass thrice a week up to the gym, which rebuild some confidence. I was still depressed, but at least I moved forward. I went to university, started my first therapy and got antidepressants to allow me to finally sleep at night. 2 years later, I got some to allow me to leave my bed in the morning. At this time I finally had the mental capacity to figure myself out. It was then when I labeled myself as bisexual. 2018 was the first pride march I was on.I switched my field of study and moved cities during covid. An overdue choice, looking back. I restarted therapy and found my current therapist. While I had my depression under control, life was still not worth living. I only endured for my loved ones.
I've gotten more confident in myself, but it all came crashing down when repressed memories of my teenage years resurfaced. It was around the time my depression took root. I struggled with who I was and who I want to be. I questioned if I am trans or not and struggled to decide. Mind you, at that time transness was foreign so the only source of information was the internet and even big brother had nil idea of what defines a trans person. The only definite answer it gave "you have to have crippling dysphoria". I did not have complete disgust when seeing my body, so the answer was clear: I could not be trans. So I decided then and there that I would become the manliest man out there and surpress everything that indicates otherwise. And so I did. I became a hollow shell driven by two principles: survive every day and become the pride example of a man (thankfully toxic traits towards others never was part of the goal). Emotions were deemed dangerous, so I learned to surpress them. I still lack the ability to discern nuances between them.So I relieved that time of my life. I came to terms with being transgender. Seeing myself as a woman was the first time I was looking forward to my future. A future that was not bleak and tormented by waking up every morning, but colourful . I felt like a bird imprisoned in a cage of its own making, which is finally let out and free to roam the world.
Make no mistake. I still have depression; I still struggle with everyday life, but I've seen the light at the end of a long and dark tunnel. Something to strive towards; Something to look forward to.
This new angle on myself gave me the tool to get to the bottom of my inner self. Who I am. What I want in life. What makes me happy. Why I am the way I am.
I am still not at the end of figuring myself out. I still have the aha moments when I make sense of another facette of my past.So what do I look forward to during pride month? Nothing specific. The pride march in my current city is sadly a bit meager, but I look forward to it nonetheless. As faulty as the pride month is, it is absolutely essential for our kids. I long for a world where sexualities and gender identities are not used as insults; where children are not ostracised for being themselves. It teaches people about others and gives them the vocabulary to figure themselves out.
We've already made big strives towards that goal and every pride march is a sign that our society is moving forward, towards an inclusive future.Oh boy, I did not intend to write that much...
To close this comment of: be proud of who you are and be kind to one another.P.S. If there are any questions (or if you need someone to talk to) just comment or send a private message.
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Comment on Fifth American tourist arrested at Turks and Caicos airport after ammo allegedly found in luggage in ~travel
Tuna Link ParentAs @DefinitelyNotAFae kindly posted there are travel alerts concerning this topic going back to autumn 2023. It is also point number one under Local Laws warning about it. While it might be too...As @DefinitelyNotAFae kindly posted there are travel alerts concerning this topic going back to autumn 2023. It is also point number one under Local Laws warning about it.
While it might be too harsh of a punishment for the crime, you are a guest in their country and as such you automatically agree to follow their laws when entering their borders. If you don't like it or can't abide by their rules, then don't take vacation there.
As a queer person there are a lot of countries I can't travel to. Do I criticise it? Of course! Do I travel there? Hell no!As outsiders it is not our place to dictate how they govern themselves.
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Comment on This YouTuber has been uploading Half-Life 3 ‘updates’ every day for over six years in ~games
Tuna LinkThis reminds me of this youtuber. They are waiting for the sequel to hollow knight. Until it releases they will defeat hornet every day and upload it Although they have not reached 6 years yet,...This reminds me of this youtuber. They are waiting for the sequel to hollow knight. Until it releases they will defeat hornet every day and upload it
Although they have not reached 6 years yet, they are already at day 954.
For those unfamiliar with hollow knight:
Hornet is a character which appears twice as a boss in hollow knight. She is supposed to be the protagonist of the sequel called Silk Song, which was announced in 2019 and "recently" got a steam store page. -
Comment on What was it like choosing your own name? in ~lgbt
Tuna LinkWhen I was around 6 years old I took ballet classes and there was this one girl called Rahel I was for some reason infuriated with (today I would say she was someone I aspired to be like). The...When I was around 6 years old I took ballet classes and there was this one girl called Rahel I was for some reason infuriated with (today I would say she was someone I aspired to be like).
The name and the concept of her stuck with me for my whole life.
I daydreamed all the time and in these stories I would most times be a girl/woman called Rahel (with different backstories). In games this would also be the name of the characters I played. In my late teenage years I played with the thought of naming my first daughter Rahel, but it just felt really wrong to me.In conclusion it is a name that stuck with me for almost my whole life and it feels natural to use and associate myself with it.
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Comment on The cycling revolution in Paris continues: Bicycle use now exceeds car use in ~transport
Tuna LinkSadly this point doesn't get elaborated further.“There is also a big change in how men behave when they see a woman on a bike,”
Sadly this point doesn't get elaborated further.
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Comment on The cycling revolution in Paris continues: Bicycle use now exceeds car use in ~transport
Tuna Link ParentMy hometown is in the north of germany is bicycle-centered, while my current city is in the south is car-centered. You can see such a difference in behaviour between the car drivers of these two...My hometown is in the north of germany is bicycle-centered, while my current city is in the south is car-centered.
You can see such a difference in behaviour between the car drivers of these two cities. In my hometown it is very pleasant, because the cars drive much more safely and considerate. In my current city they are more aggressive (driving style and reactions), inconsiderate and frankly just dangerous, often injuring cyclists in the process. You have to drive aggressively yourselves, to protect your safety and the right to be on the street i.e. driving further on the road to have the possibility to sway right when the car overtakes you dangerously close.
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Comment on ‘Escape From Tarkov’ fans are outraged at new $250 pay-to-win edition in ~games
Tuna Link ParentI've never played EFT, but their try to label the new content as not a DLC is preposterous. Every new content that is not part of a base game update is a DLC. If I would have payed 100€ for a "all...I've never played EFT, but their try to label the new content as not a DLC is preposterous.
Every new content that is not part of a base game update is a DLC. If I would have payed 100€ for a "all future DLCs included" version I would seek legal action to get my money back.
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Comment on The International Olympic Committee published a study comparing trans- and cisgender athletes in ~lgbt
Tuna LinkLink to the paper. From the article:From the article:
It’s just one study, so we should avoid drawing grand conclusions from it, but, at the very least, the study shows that the bodies of trans women who’ve been on at least one year of hormone replacement therapy are very, very different from cis men’s bodies. In their conclusion, researchers cautioned against hurdling into blanket bans on trans women’s participation in women’s sports and declared that using data comparing cis men and cis women’s bodies to justify these bans is wrong.
Just this week, the conservative crusade against trans athletes reached a new low as Oklahoma state athletic officials proposed punishing All Elite Wrestling for featuring a trans woman in its women’s division during a show held in Oklahoma City. That’s professional wrestling … where the outcomes are predetermined and scripted. Now they’re saying we have no right to even be in fake sports.
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The International Olympic Committee published a study comparing trans- and cisgender athletes
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Comment on Laziness does not exist in ~humanities
Tuna Link ParentGermany has the same problem. Every cent you make gets deducted from the welfare fund. This has the consequence of feeling "punished" for trying to get out of poverty. There is no way to start...Germany has the same problem.
Every cent you make gets deducted from the welfare fund. This has the consequence of feeling "punished" for trying to get out of poverty. There is no way to start saving for future opportunities (like moving cities for a new job).
I fear ever getting the benefits, because once you're in there it's almost impossible to ever get out and the longer you stay the higher the hurdle becomes. -
Comment on Swedish company Scout Park has launched a mobile app where you can tip off wrongly parked cars to traffic wardens to earn money in ~transport
Tuna Link ParentI live in a very car centered city in germany. There are so many people parking like complete assholes. For example they park so far on the sidewalk that you are not able to use the sidewalk...I live in a very car centered city in germany.
There are so many people parking like complete assholes. For example they park so far on the sidewalk that you are not able to use the sidewalk properly: if you have a babystroller or a wheelchair you do not have the space to pass the car and are forced to walk on the street.
There is currently no proper way to make the police enforce good parking.
I would remove the monetary incentive for "snitching" to prevent abuse, but keep the possibility of contacting the authorities to improve the safety for pedestrians. -
Comment on What irrational video game requirements do you have? in ~games
Tuna Link ParentI am the exaxt opposite. I love fishing in games. It is not a hard limit that it has to include it, but if it is it's a big plus point for the game.I am the exaxt opposite.
I love fishing in games. It is not a hard limit that it has to include it, but if it is it's a big plus point for the game.
In Germany there is quite the interesting cultural "divide". In the former eastern germany counties you see quite often topless women at lakes (with often I mean, it is likely to spot at least one or two people at the lake).
It would be interesting to know if this number is dwindling since the reunification.
As a side note, in my hometown in northern germany there was a judge ruling a few years ago that being topless in a public pool can not be prohibited. As you said, due to societal pressure you will almost never see someone go topless.