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  1. Comment on Invite request spam problem - vet through other social media? in ~tildes

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    Funny you should mention being able to cold-shoulder people as a solution since being able to block users is one of the recently requested features that preceeded some of our recent departures.

    Funny you should mention being able to cold-shoulder people as a solution since being able to block users is one of the recently requested features that preceeded some of our recent departures.

    5 votes
  2. Comment on What game are you terrible at? in ~games

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    Good news, Sekiro is made for players who love to parry. The difference is you only get a 'riposte' if you parry until their stamina bar is drained. You can miss a few or whatever, it only grows...

    Good news, Sekiro is made for players who love to parry. The difference is you only get a 'riposte' if you parry until their stamina bar is drained. You can miss a few or whatever, it only grows back slowly. Learning openings to throw in a few sword attacks inbetween parries to keep consistently draining their stamina is the goal. Gotta break the habit of dodging attacks and instead learn the rhythm of attack chains to parry.

    2 votes
  3. Comment on What's happening in Kansas should alarm us all (gifted link) in ~lgbt

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    I was trying to politely inform the person I was responding to that the way they phrased their comment was dehumanizing towards trans women while giving them the benefit of the doubt. I'm not...

    I was trying to politely inform the person I was responding to that the way they phrased their comment was dehumanizing towards trans women while giving them the benefit of the doubt. I'm not really sure what your point has to do with that

    1 vote
  4. Comment on What's happening in Kansas should alarm us all (gifted link) in ~lgbt

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    I don't believe it's your intention to differentiate but trans women are actual women too.

    I don't believe it's your intention to differentiate but trans women are actual women too.

    4 votes
  5. Comment on Any significant changes to Tildes are extremely unlikely in ~tildes.official

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    This makes me so sad. I don't post here often but I've always appreciated your contributions. I wish you all the best.

    This makes me so sad. I don't post here often but I've always appreciated your contributions. I wish you all the best.

    14 votes
  6. Comment on Oranssi Pazuzu – Kuulen Ääniä Maan Alta (Live on KEXP) (2026) in ~music

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    These guys are one of my fav modern metal bands. Thanks for sharing!

    These guys are one of my fav modern metal bands. Thanks for sharing!

    4 votes
  7. Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music

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    been listening to this cool death/thrash album by goetia, mortuary cult. it just came out a few days ago and it's a total ripper

    been listening to this cool death/thrash album by goetia, mortuary cult. it just came out a few days ago and it's a total ripper

    1 vote
  8. Comment on My partner says our relationship has always felt suffocating, but she does not know what she wants. What would you do? in ~life

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    Honestly it sounds like you two are just not a good match. There are people out there that would appreciate the type of care you want to give/receive.

    Honestly it sounds like you two are just not a good match. There are people out there that would appreciate the type of care you want to give/receive.

    7 votes
  9. Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk

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    i relate to so much of what you've written here <3 started my transition a little more than 3 years ago and life has never been better.

    i relate to so much of what you've written here <3

    started my transition a little more than 3 years ago and life has never been better.

    2 votes
  10. Comment on When did your preferred fighting game franchises peak? in ~games

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    project m (the brawl mod) gave it a run for it's money before it got shutdown, imo. melee-like movement/tech/speed with a larger roster of characters. must have sunk 1000's of hours into it with...

    project m (the brawl mod) gave it a run for it's money before it got shutdown, imo. melee-like movement/tech/speed with a larger roster of characters. must have sunk 1000's of hours into it with friends.

    1 vote
  11. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Ahh ok sorry I misread. I thought balatro 101 was another creator you were referencing but then I remembered he did a series with that title.

    Ahh ok sorry I misread. I thought balatro 101 was another creator you were referencing but then I remembered he did a series with that title.

  12. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Interesting. I've never found his content to be narrow in its approach. In fact he shows how any joker and strategy can be viable. To each their own though.

    Interesting. I've never found his content to be narrow in its approach. In fact he shows how any joker and strategy can be viable. To each their own though.

    1 vote
  13. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    You could buy yourself a copy of red dead online and you guys could play together that way.

    You could buy yourself a copy of red dead online and you guys could play together that way.

    1 vote
  14. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    Check out balatro university on YouTube. He does a gold stake run video nearly every day and talks through all his decision making. Dude has done the completionist++ challenge without losing a...

    Check out balatro university on YouTube. He does a gold stake run video nearly every day and talks through all his decision making. Dude has done the completionist++ challenge without losing a match. Definitely gave me a better idea of how to value the different jokers and strategies.

    2 votes
  15. Comment on Denuvo DRM has been cirmumvented using hypervisor based bypass in ~games

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    Doom's Denuvo was cracked, yes. I couldn't tell you if this is related though.

    Doom's Denuvo was cracked, yes. I couldn't tell you if this is related though.

    5 votes
  16. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Thanks so much! I really feel for all my trans siblings that don't have access to free healthcare, it really hurts my heart. I hope you're able to get the care you need somehow.

    Thanks so much! I really feel for all my trans siblings that don't have access to free healthcare, it really hurts my heart. I hope you're able to get the care you need somehow.

    3 votes
  17. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    For the longest time (before I had started any of my transition) I would tell people I identify as a human being. I found it exhausting the thought of fighting against being labelled he/him. Now...

    For the longest time (before I had started any of my transition) I would tell people I identify as a human being. I found it exhausting the thought of fighting against being labelled he/him. Now having started transition and using she/her I still feel more like I just want to be seen as a human but fighting the gender binary is more effort than it's worth. I just really don't want to be perceived as a man, woman is fine, human is best.

    6 votes
  18. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Ya I just wanted to clarify. When I was 25 (2009ish) I told my close friends I didn't identify as a man, but as a human. But I agree with the sentiment that fighting to be seen as not part of the...

    Ya I just wanted to clarify. When I was 25 (2009ish) I told my close friends I didn't identify as a man, but as a human. But I agree with the sentiment that fighting to be seen as not part of the binary is oftentimes more effort than it's worth. Its really sad how constraining language is. I had a convo with a friend recently about her nibbling who has identified as non-binary since they were 8 (they are now 12) and I thought why in the fuck do children even get genders. All children are just children and it's weird as shit to me that we try to tell them what mold to fit in from birth, before they even know themselves.

    Gender reveal parties give me the ick. World would be better if all people were just people. Division breeds conflict and language breeds division.

    11 votes
  19. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    I just want to clarify you identify as non-binary but still let people gender you as she because it's easier than fighting it?

    I just want to clarify you identify as non-binary but still let people gender you as she because it's easier than fighting it?

    5 votes
  20. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Thanks <3. It's actually going really well. I did a zero depth (no vaginal canal, just a vulva and clit) so it's slightly less invasive with fewer risks of complications. I think if I was still...

    Thanks <3.

    It's actually going really well. I did a zero depth (no vaginal canal, just a vulva and clit) so it's slightly less invasive with fewer risks of complications. I think if I was still single and in my 20s then maybe I would have chosen differently. The idea of having to dilate for the rest of my life is still daunting though.

    If there are any confused or scared trans girlies out there feel free to ask Q's.

    I just feel blessed that Canadians have access to these kinds of surgeries and that they are still (for now ...) covered by our healthcare.

    11 votes