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  1. Comment on Denuvo DRM has been cirmumvented using hypervisor based bypass in ~games

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    Doom's Denuvo was cracked, yes. I couldn't tell you if this is related though.

    Doom's Denuvo was cracked, yes. I couldn't tell you if this is related though.

    5 votes

  2. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Thanks so much! I really feel for all my trans siblings that don't have access to free healthcare, it really hurts my heart. I hope you're able to get the care you need somehow.

    Thanks so much! I really feel for all my trans siblings that don't have access to free healthcare, it really hurts my heart. I hope you're able to get the care you need somehow.

    3 votes

  3. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    For the longest time (before I had started any of my transition) I would tell people I identify as a human being. I found it exhausting the thought of fighting against being labelled he/him. Now...

    For the longest time (before I had started any of my transition) I would tell people I identify as a human being. I found it exhausting the thought of fighting against being labelled he/him. Now having started transition and using she/her I still feel more like I just want to be seen as a human but fighting the gender binary is more effort than it's worth. I just really don't want to be perceived as a man, woman is fine, human is best.

    6 votes

  4. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Ya I just wanted to clarify. When I was 25 (2009ish) I told my close friends I didn't identify as a man, but as a human. But I agree with the sentiment that fighting to be seen as not part of the...

    Ya I just wanted to clarify. When I was 25 (2009ish) I told my close friends I didn't identify as a man, but as a human. But I agree with the sentiment that fighting to be seen as not part of the binary is oftentimes more effort than it's worth. Its really sad how constraining language is. I had a convo with a friend recently about her nibbling who has identified as non-binary since they were 8 (they are now 12) and I thought why in the fuck do children even get genders. All children are just children and it's weird as shit to me that we try to tell them what mold to fit in from birth, before they even know themselves.

    Gender reveal parties give me the ick. World would be better if all people were just people. Division breeds conflict and language breeds division.

    10 votes

  5. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    I just want to clarify you identify as non-binary but still let people gender you as she because it's easier than fighting it?

    I just want to clarify you identify as non-binary but still let people gender you as she because it's easier than fighting it?

    5 votes

  6. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Thanks <3. It's actually going really well. I did a zero depth (no vaginal canal, just a vulva and clit) so it's slightly less invasive with fewer risks of complications. I think if I was still...

    Thanks <3.

    It's actually going really well. I did a zero depth (no vaginal canal, just a vulva and clit) so it's slightly less invasive with fewer risks of complications. I think if I was still single and in my 20s then maybe I would have chosen differently. The idea of having to dilate for the rest of my life is still daunting though.

    If there are any confused or scared trans girlies out there feel free to ask Q's.

    I just feel blessed that Canadians have access to these kinds of surgeries and that they are still (for now ...) covered by our healthcare.

    11 votes

  7. Comment on Trans Day of Visibility in ~lgbt

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    Neat coincidence. I just got home from the hospital today after having my vaginaplasty. It feels so surreal to me. I'm excited to pick out a bathing suit for summer and finally feel safe to wear...

    Neat coincidence. I just got home from the hospital today after having my vaginaplasty. It feels so surreal to me. I'm excited to pick out a bathing suit for summer and finally feel safe to wear leggings and short shorts and rompers.

    I love fashion and have always enjoyed going shopping with my partners to help them pick out clothes. It took me a long time to realize I wanted to wear the clothes I was helping them to pick out. I finally accepted myself as a trans woman at 30, but only decided to transition and come out at 39. Now at 42 I finally feel like I belong in my body. Life is in some ways scarier, but not scarier than the idea of living with regret my entire life.

    That year I turned 30 I also met my now wife (bisexual ciswoman). I told her about my desire to have been born a woman when we first met. We got married a few months later and have been married for 12 years now. She has been my rock and I'm so grateful how she has supported me through all of this self actualization.

    In some ways I find it weird there is a day for trans visibility, as most trans people just want to blend in and go about their lives. But if I had never learned more and more about what being trans is through social osmosis of the 2010s shift in online dialogue around the subject, I may never have found myself.

    Edit:
    I'm just going to leave this here as a tool to share with loved ones who have a hard time understanding gender dysphoria.

    https://m.youtube.com/shorts/km7Spfk2_T8

    27 votes

  8. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Oh so happy to help. Halfway through season 2 the network forced lynch to reveal the killer even though the mystery was intended to last the duration of the show. After that happened the second...

    Oh so happy to help. Halfway through season 2 the network forced lynch to reveal the killer even though the mystery was intended to last the duration of the show. After that happened the second half of season two kinda gets a little less good but it's still fun in it's own right. The finale of the series is amazing and worth slogging through the 2nd half of S2. If you liked it there is a prequel movie that shows the last days of Laura Palmer's life leading up to her eventual murder. It's much more akin to the vibes of like Lost Highway or Mulholland Drive, but still an excellent look into some more of the world of twin peaks with far darker horrific elements than the show was allowed to have.

    25 years after the end of S2 Lynch was given the opportunity to bring the series back (the timeframe is actually relevant to how the og show ended) but this time was given 18 one hour episodes with full creative control and final cut. It does not have the same vibe as the original series and is instead a totally new vibe exploring where all these characters ended up 25 years later. I have to say Twin Peaks is probably my all time favourite series, but not because it has the tightest writing or is the most consistent but because it has some of the wildest creative swings and is really a singular show. Dark (and more recently Severance) is one of the few shows that has scratched that same itch for me.

  9. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Avatar really is up there for me with Adventure Time as best, most fulfilling animated shows aimed at kids that still hit for adults.

    Avatar really is up there for me with Adventure Time as best, most fulfilling animated shows aimed at kids that still hit for adults.

    1 vote

  10. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Your list of more niche weird shows is stellar. I am coming to second all of them except the only one I've never heard of is Brockmire. But I love Hank azaria so I'm going to have to check it out....

    Your list of more niche weird shows is stellar. I am coming to second all of them except the only one I've never heard of is Brockmire. But I love Hank azaria so I'm going to have to check it out.

    Seeing his name made the 2004 show Huff pop to mind. Hank azaria plays a psychologist who witnesses a dark turn with one of his patients. His wife is played by Paget Brewster, his teen son Anton Yelchin, and his best friend/lawyer Oliver Platt. Great show. It only ran for two seasons though and I'm not sure where you'd find it streaming.

    2 votes

  11. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Glad you liked it. If that style of humour fits you check out Garth Marenghis Darkplace. It's only 6 episodes but it has a very similar vibe except it's a hospital drama set in the 80s. I don't...

    Glad you liked it. If that style of humour fits you check out Garth Marenghis Darkplace. It's only 6 episodes but it has a very similar vibe except it's a hospital drama set in the 80s. I don't know where you can stream it but all the episodes are on youtube

    Edi:t just realized I already responded to this last night. You'll have to forgive me I'm in hospital ATM recovering from surgery so not fully present lmao.

  12. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Thirding the Great as well. We just discovered it a few weeks ago and finished all 3 seasons. What a hilarious and wholesome show

    Thirding the Great as well. We just discovered it a few weeks ago and finished all 3 seasons. What a hilarious and wholesome show

    1 vote

  13. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    If you enjoyed adventure time you should check out the sequel show Fionna and Cake. It's a straight sequel to adventure time but is aimed more at young 20s plots and themes. I was nervous because...

    If you enjoyed adventure time you should check out the sequel show Fionna and Cake. It's a straight sequel to adventure time but is aimed more at young 20s plots and themes. I was nervous because adventure time is an alltimer for me, a 42 year old trans woman, but the sequel did a great job expanding on what came before it.

    Also a similiar show to AT would be Bee and Puppycat. I think there were only two seasons ever made but it's another great wholesome but more adult themed show in the vein of Adventure Time.

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    I have to mention that if you enjoyed Dark you absolutely should watch Twin Peaks. Dark borrow so much from it's DNA.

    Twin Peaks is a slice of life soap opera set in the titular town of Twin Peaks Washington. In the opening episode a body of a young highschool girl is found washed up on shore wrapped in plastic. The FBI gets called in to investigate and so the crux of the show is the mystery of who killed Laura Palmer. Kyle McLachlan stars as FBI agent Dale Cooper and the entire cast of characters is just so well done. I only saw Twin Peaks for the first time in the '10s when it came on to Canadian Netflix. A++ show. The X-files took a lot of inspiration from this one though it leaned more into alien and government conspiracy whereas TP has a more mystical and supernatural bent to it exploring the nature of dreams, abuse, and mental illness. David Duchovny even has a cameo. Don't let the super cheesy 80s intro music turn you off, you will come to love it.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Glad you enjoyed it! Another in the same vein would be Garth Marenghis Darkplace. It's only 6 eps so really no time investment but the cast is so good. It just leans into the absurdity. Matt Berry...

    Glad you enjoyed it! Another in the same vein would be Garth Marenghis Darkplace. It's only 6 eps so really no time investment but the cast is so good. It just leans into the absurdity. Matt Berry and Richard Ayode are part of the supporting cast.

    1 vote

  15. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    Coming in here to say I wish I remembered to include the Curse, the Chair Company, and I Think You Should Leave on my suggestions. These shows are pure comedy gold. Very unique and interesting...

    Coming in here to say I wish I remembered to include the Curse, the Chair Company, and I Think You Should Leave on my suggestions. These shows are pure comedy gold. Very unique and interesting style of humour.

    1 vote

  16. Comment on TV series suggestions in ~tv

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    I'm definately going to date myself with some of these but here goes. Adventure Time: Don't write this off as a kids show. I think this might be one of the best shows out there for new parents....

    I'm definately going to date myself with some of these but here goes.

    Adventure Time:
    Don't write this off as a kids show. I think this might be one of the best shows out there for new parents.

    Andor:
    It doesn't matter if you don't know anything about Star wars, this is one of the best political thrillers full stop. It's only two seasons so not a huge commitment. Showrunner/Creator Tony Gilroy of Bourne movie fame; to give an idea of what you're in for.

    Atlanta:
    My favorite thing I've ever seen Donald Glover in. Really the whole main cast kills it. You never really know where the show is going to take you.

    Danger 5:
    Very goofy parody of 60s and 70s era MI5 style spy show. Set in an alternate timeline where the Germans won WWII and the ultimate mission of each absurdist episode is to kill Hitler.

    Justified:
    Like the Wires little brother set in Kentucky. Focuses on the story of 2 men that grew up as friends and ended up on opposite sides of the law. Walton Goggins is amazing in this, and so is Timothy Olyphant.

    The kids in the hall:
    Amazing absurdist Canadian sketch comedy show. Must see and so forward thinking for it's time.

    Mr show with Bob and David:
    Phenomenal sketchy comedy show with David Cross and Bob Odenkirk from the mid 90s. And early HBO gem. Cameos from people like Jack Black from way before they became household names.

    Peep Show:
    Early 00s British comedy about two loser roommates trying to get by. One is a wannabe musician with no job and the other is a bank drone who thinks he's so much better than everyone else. Olivia Coleman is a part of the main cast and this is where she got her start (Fleabags stepmom)

    Twin peaks:
    The quintessential water cooler show of the early 90s. David Lynch does soap opera. The first season is the strongest of the original series. Twin Peaks the Return is amazing in its own right but more out there.

    4 votes

  17. Comment on I think Tildes moderators and admins may need to make a decision regarding how to handle Harry Potter related posts in ~tildes

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    If you want to discuss HP fandom in an echo chamber where extremely relevant harmful information isn't shared regarding the series' authors politics, go make yourself a HP discord and police it...
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    If you want to discuss HP fandom in an echo chamber where extremely relevant harmful information isn't shared regarding the series' authors politics, go make yourself a HP discord and police it how you like.

    If you're mad that people will continually bring up Rowling's self-inflicted hate in HP related threads, maybe ask yourself why an imaginary fantasy world is more important to be discussed than the real harm her actions have on real world people.

    43 votes

  18. Comment on Game testers wanted for science fiction game in ~games

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    If you still want more testers I'm about to have a month off work and would love to help out.

    If you still want more testers I'm about to have a month off work and would love to help out.

    1 vote

  19. Comment on I tried ranking my albums out of five stars - I think I've gotten it wrong. Thoughts? in ~music

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    I use a simple 5 star system on rym, but I don't rate individual tracks only albums as a whole. 5 star albums are albums I love and that I've continued to listen to over many years. There really...

    I use a simple 5 star system on rym, but I don't rate individual tracks only albums as a whole.

    5 star albums are albums I love and that I've continued to listen to over many years. There really aren't many of those.

    4 stars are albums I loved but doesn't quite mean as much to me or I haven't spent enough time with it to qualify as 5 star, but it has potential to be upgraded if it holds up over years.

    3 stars are albums I find enjoyable but maybe aren't always in the mood for them. Above average, acceptable. I like it.

    2 stars are not for me but it's not awful and I can see how someone could enjoy it.

    1 star is what I'd consider a total waste of time, very few albums meet this criteria for me.

    Personally. I find not using half-stars, and also not rating individual tracks makes it a lot easier to fit my music into the different categories.

    3 votes

  20. Comment on Tell me about your favourite web-based logic puzzles! in ~games

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    youtube channel cracking the cryptic always posts a free web version of their daily puzzles for you to solve on your own before you watch them do the solve. got hooked on this channel during the...

    youtube channel cracking the cryptic always posts a free web version of their daily puzzles for you to solve on your own before you watch them do the solve. got hooked on this channel during the pandemic and i've cherished it ever since. i linked an example below.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=3FNc6mO0l5o the solve
    https://sudokupad.app/vjn0pdempw the puzzle. there is a button to show the puzzles rules

    1 vote