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Comment on Have you ever been outed? in ~lgbt
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Comment on Have you ever been outed? in ~lgbt
Kale LinkYes, by my best friend. Apparently she was in love with me and never told me. I loved her too, but I didn’t think she liked me in that way (typical sapphic things). We were 12. If I remember...Yes, by my best friend.
Apparently she was in love with me and never told me. I loved her too, but I didn’t think she liked me in that way (typical sapphic things). We were 12. If I remember correctly, she wasn’t even out as a lesbian yet so how could I have known?
Anyway on an overnight field trip I hooked up with another girl. I’m not even quite sure how she found out about it, I didn’t even have the chance to tell her.
The next day my best friend completely cut me off and wouldn’t tell me why. It ended up being the talk of the whole school because we were almost always inseparable and had a super codependent friendship. Such a dramatic split was very unexpected. Apparently everyone realized what happened except for me.. and I was seen as the bad guy. I was certainly clueless and am slightly embarrassed that I didn’t connect the two events at the time.
So I get home from the field trip and later that day my parents sit me down and ask if I’m gay. I’m like “no???? lol why would you ask that??”
I immediately got grounded after that… To which I asked, “how long am I grounded for?” The answer was until I was no longer gay.It was months that I racked my brain to figure out how the hell my parents found out about me. I lived in a conservative town and had absolutely no intention on telling them anytime soon.
One day I borrowed my mom’s phone and saw on the call list that my best friend and my mom had a ~45 minute conversation that same day I got grounded. It dawned on me that it was her and that is a betrayal I’m still salty about 20 something years later. She snitched on me out of spite.
We literally could have had a relationship! Thank god it went that way though, she was a pretty abusive friend and I didn’t realize the reason I was so attracted to her was because my home life was abusive as well.
Not spending every free moment with her allowed me to make much better friends and foster a relationship with the women who became my now wife (my neopets gf lol).
My parents eventually got over it when my neopets gf drove all the way from California to meet me.
I was a total hoodlum at that time and she very much had her shit together and I think my parents realized I somehow happened to snag someone really, really good for me.
We just celebrated 15 years together this month :). As for my ex bestie, I don’t know exactly how her life turned out but from what I can tell by their Facebook posts they seem like a very unhappy person overall.
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Comment on Elon Musk on tomatoes in ~food
Kale Link ParentI wonder if it depends on your climate? I feel like I can forget about a tomato plant with a wire basket in my backyard and I’ll get something wildly more flavorful than any I have bought at a...I wonder if it depends on your climate? I feel like I can forget about a tomato plant with a wire basket in my backyard and I’ll get something wildly more flavorful than any I have bought at a store and a ton of them. Especially cherry tomatoes.
I still eat grocery store tomatoes but the process of them being picked before they’re ripe makes them taste like something completely different. Even if I buy the organic fancy tomatoes it still doesn’t hit the same.
Just a side rant:
When I was younger we would go to farms and pick them ourselves for cheap because they didn’t have to factor in the price of labor. Now you have to do the “u-pick” experience where it’s prohibitively expensive because it’s novel to get something ripe off the vine AND you’re doing the work yourself! And farmers markets used to be cheap too :( -
Comment on Looking for an effective self-block application for Android in ~tech
Kale LinkI also use a blocker but I am unfamiliar with android software. AFAIK deleting the blocker will work as a loophole for all of the apps, unfortunately. What has worked best for me is a mix of app...I also use a blocker but I am unfamiliar with android software. AFAIK deleting the blocker will work as a loophole for all of the apps, unfortunately.
What has worked best for me is a mix of app blocking, mindfulness and reflection. Blocking yourself isn’t an entire solution and it will never solely work forever if you aren’t incorporating other tools because technology and social media is so prevalent in society and the intention from all of these companies is addiction. The people who make your phone don’t want you to use it less, they aren’t interested in allowing foolproof solutions for people.
You can rewire your brain to stop addictive behaviors but it takes work. Yes, you can still succeed with a neurodivergent mind.
Being mindful: You likely have a lot of anxiety when you aren’t being stimulated by your phone. You need to let yourself be exposed to it in order for it to feel less intense. When the intensity of that anxiety goes down, you need to start taking notice of your environment and discover what you enjoy when you aren’t distracted. For me, I forgot how beautiful the sky and trees were. I forgot the sound of birds chirping, wind blowing, how good the sun on my skin feels. It seems simple, but these small things make me feel genuine happiness in a way that I can never get from a phone.
Honestly I used to think people who suggested meditation were saps, but I was wrong. Guided meditation is so fucking awesome. It really helps shift you into this headspace when you’re having a difficult time achieving it intuitively. It will take practice though.Reflection: Be honest with yourself and think about how you felt about the time spent on your phone vs the time off of it. Did you feel like you accomplished something while you were away? Allow yourself to sit in that feeling of accomplishment for a bit, you deserve it.
Were you on your phone and got lost in a black hole of time and lost your whole day and feel guilty about it? Yes, allow yourself to feel that too, don’t avoid it. The great thing about guilt or any other negative feelings is if you pay attention to it you discover that ultimately you are in control and you can take steps to avoid the things that cause you to feel that way in the future.Also one final note since you mentioned ADHD. Are you medicating it? Don’t fall into the trap of being on your phone until the meds kick in, that’s an easy way to suck yourself into the void and feel delusionally productive lol. Do other things while your meds kick in and pull out the phone after you did what you planned to do. From one ADHD to another lmao.
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Comment on Women should be able to open things in ~life.women
Kale Link ParentI used to be super strict about this and call people out for not using the correct anatomical landmarks for lead placements… so much so that I actually had done repeat EKGs to see the difference...I used to be super strict about this and call people out for not using the correct anatomical landmarks for lead placements… so much so that I actually had done repeat EKGs to see the difference it makes because I learned that it mattered..
What I found was they were exactly the same pretty much every time (and no I wasn’t just checking normal sinus rhythm, I did a good variety including nstemi, vtach, SVT, etc). Not even an increase in artifact… I still do correct placement every time for my own peace of mind but I gave up harassing my coworkers about it after that.
Part of me wonders if the technology is just better now than it used to be, I have no idea tbh.
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Comment on Women should be able to open things in ~life.women
Kale Link ParentPickles are easy, stick a butter knife in between the jar and lid where the seam is and put slight pressure on it by lifting the bottom of the knife up laterally. This releases the seal and it’s...Pickles are easy, stick a butter knife in between the jar and lid where the seam is and put slight pressure on it by lifting the bottom of the knife up laterally.
This releases the seal and it’s very easy to open after. The lid will still function as intended.
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Comment on ‘Citizen Vigilante’ and the rise of basedsploitation in ~movies
Kale Link ParentI wish I’ve seen enough movies to thoughtfully engage with your point, but I don’t know any of the ones you listed. Not because I consider them “triggering,” but because my pop culture literacy is...I wish I’ve seen enough movies to thoughtfully engage with your point, but I don’t know any of the ones you listed. Not because I consider them “triggering,” but because my pop culture literacy is low, so I’ll try my best to reply but I might be missing the mark.
How I think about it is I wouldn’t want to watch a movie made by a pedophile director where the main character is a pedo and the point of the movie is to make the pedophile likeable even though he’s hurting children throughout the movie and we kind of brush that part under the table and they get a happy ending.
I wouldn’t mind watching a movie about the victim’s perspective, a movie where pedophiles are clearly the villain, a redemption arc where they sterilize themselves for the good of society…etc
I personally don’t mind consuming good media from artists who are bad people, sometimes really fucked up people make damn good art. What I care about is if the art is trying to convince me that I should be doing immoral things by using psychological tactics that have evidence backed ways to successfully change people’s mind.
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Comment on ‘Citizen Vigilante’ and the rise of basedsploitation in ~movies
Kale Link ParentHmmm.. I’m not sure if I like the statement “very tumblr way of thinking.” I personally believe exposure to alt-right art can be dangerous, as even people who are against those beliefs are not...Hmmm.. I’m not sure if I like the statement “very tumblr way of thinking.”
I personally believe exposure to alt-right art can be dangerous, as even people who are against those beliefs are not immune to the effects of propaganda. It’s called the illusory truth effect and in a more nuanced way, the mere exposure effect
Also, I’m going to express an my opinion on something- I believe ego can be an Achilles heel for intelligent people. You ever wonder how smart people get into drugs? They might be used to critical thinking and believe they wouldn’t get sucked into addiction like everyone else would. Perhaps it might keep them a casual user for much longer than the average person. But do it enough times, you’ll most likely end up trapped like everyone else.
Same with cults. It never starts off with child raping in the name of the prophet who needs your money in order to take commands from god. It’s slow, frequent exposure with lovebombing and a welcoming community. Intelligent people are more likely to explore alternative living styles, they think that they found a secret that most people don’t know about and believe they have control of their own mind the entire time. Then suddenly, you’re in deep separated from your loved ones, out of money, and stuck. I’ve seen progressive people slowly slip into alt-right and it very much reminds me of that same cult psychology I’m talking about.
I like to be aware of how the alt right is thinking so I know how to meaningfully interact with them since unfortunately they are a part of my life, but I am very intentional on consuming the media only sometimes, I certainly don’t particularly want to interact with art that has potential to activate pathos. I refuse to believe I’m immune even though every fiber in my body rejects that ideology.
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Comment on Cyberpunk: Edgerunners 2 is coming this fall in ~anime
Kale Link ParentOh my god not the cyberpunk Sauske 😂. I actually laughed out loud at that. I’ve watched cyberpunk probably at least 6 times. Can’t wait to bawl my eyes out again.Oh my god not the cyberpunk Sauske 😂. I actually laughed out loud at that.
I’ve watched cyberpunk probably at least 6 times. Can’t wait to bawl my eyes out again.
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Comment on Tildes Survey #10: How often do you visit/read Tildes? (Results) in ~talk
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Comment on Sweden may oppose Tesla's supervised self-driving tech in Europe over speeding concerns in ~transport
Kale Link ParentSometimes you have to speed up to save yourself from an accident like for example if someone is merging into you without looking. Or in some cases of people with road rage trying to run people off...Sometimes you have to speed up to save yourself from an accident like for example if someone is merging into you without looking.
Or in some cases of people with road rage trying to run people off the road, stalking/following, etc. I’m not sure if I would feel comfortable relinquishing that control to protect myself if I had a Tesla.
As for alerting authorities I feel like with how the system is currently this would cause a lot of strain with false positives for the emergency systems speaking as someone who did work in emergency medical services.. but this is based off of my perspective from America so my understanding of dispatch in Europe might not be as relevant- I don’t know.
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Comment on Test your medical knowledge with daily clinical scenarios in ~health
Kale Link Parent100%! It was a totally reasonable guess. Altered mental status can be from both hypo and hyperglycemia. That’s why I went with diabetic keto acidosis for my first guess. Both of those are the most...100%! It was a totally reasonable guess. Altered mental status can be from both hypo and hyperglycemia. That’s why I went with diabetic keto acidosis for my first guess. Both of those are the most common reason I see confusion in younger people.
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Comment on Test your medical knowledge with daily clinical scenarios in ~health
Kale Link ParentI thought today was going to be a hard one, got it on the second try. Wanted to pick dehydration or chronic kidney disease because it would be the most common reason, but it wasn’t an option so I...I thought today was going to be a hard one, got it on the second try.
Wanted to pick dehydration or chronic kidney disease because it would be the most common reason, but it wasn’t an option so I flat out just guessed liver disease since there are so many reasons that could cause elevated total protein.
When they said he was asymptomatic I had to search engine the name because I couldn’t remember exactly what it was called lol. “Monoclonal Gammopathy of Undetermined Significance” probably common for primary care medicine but not something talked about in emergency medicine. This for me was like a “read about it once in school but never mentioned again” 😂
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Comment on Test your medical knowledge with daily clinical scenarios in ~health
Kale (edited )LinkAhhh I can’t believe you only get one a day! This is so fun. It’s a nice little test for my triage skills I’ve gained by working in the emergency department. I’ll totally be playing daily until...Ahhh I can’t believe you only get one a day! This is so fun.
It’s a nice little test for my triage skills I’ve gained by working in the emergency department. I’ll totally be playing daily until the novelty wears off 👀.
See my other comment above for my rationale to getting today’s answer. Let me know if there is any interest in me posting my rational for the next questions when they come, I would be happy to ramble.
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Comment on Test your medical knowledge with daily clinical scenarios in ~health
Kale (edited )Link ParentHaha my first thought was hypoglycemia only based off that small amount of information as well. Since it wasn’t listed I guessed DKA -> subdural hematoma -> viral meningitis -> then got it on the...Haha my first thought was hypoglycemia only based off that small amount of information as well. Since it wasn’t listed I guessed DKA -> subdural hematoma -> viral meningitis -> then got it on the 4th try guessing meningococcal meningitis.
There is NO way anyone would have guessed that on the first try with the info they gave initially 😂. I did subdural hematoma next because of headache after night out, a lot of practice tests use this to make it a sneaky trauma patient by stating they could have hit their head and not remembered it because they were intoxicated. After mentioning the temperature I suspected it was some type of infection + was keeping headache in my mind. Once photophobia and stiff neck was brought up I knew it for sure had to be some sort of meningitis, but it wasn’t sure which type of meningitis until they mentioned the purple lesions.
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Comment on Singer Oliver Tree dead at 32 following tragic helicopter crash in ~music
Kale LinkOooof this one hurts. Not only was his music insanely good, he was very talented in so many ways and produced some incredible, funny and unique art. It was too soon for this legend to go....Oooof this one hurts.
Not only was his music insanely good, he was very talented in so many ways and produced some incredible, funny and unique art.
It was too soon for this legend to go.
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a lot of this songs talked about him dying or being gone… it hits differently now :(. It’s crazy because the story is so wild this is totally a way he would market his music…I know it’s real because of all of the sources but internally I desperately want to deny it. If it does end up being a stunt I will flip a fucking table tho. -
Comment on N Plus Infinity Times Two announced in ~games
Kale LinkYay!!! I played it back when it had very few levels and was a browser game, then eventually downloaded the actual game and spent many nights trying to beat all the levels. About a year ago I...Yay!!!
I played it back when it had very few levels and was a browser game, then eventually downloaded the actual game and spent many nights trying to beat all the levels.
About a year ago I decided to check out the most up to date version and was blown away at how much stuff they added to it (and how much harder they made it!).
Can’t wait to stomp the hell out of my friends and family with multiplayer 😈
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Comment on Bricks & Minifigs corporate stole a man's $200,000 Lego collection and told him to get bent in ~hobbies
Kale LinkSo glad to see Reckless Ben getting some coverage for the work he does. I highly recommend watching his video on the subject. His chaotic vigilantism is top tier entertainment and I’ve been...So glad to see Reckless Ben getting some coverage for the work he does. I highly recommend watching his video on the subject. His chaotic vigilantism is top tier entertainment and I’ve been watching him for years. His mind is absolutely brilliant and hilarious.
This madman has infiltrated cults including Scientology, the only person to beat Mckamey manor (and exposed the sick-o behind it) and I think he’s a stunt man too? So does crazy shit like slack-lining 500 ft in the air to try and capture banksy’s attention.
He frequently gets arrested for the investigations that he does, but he doesn’t give a single fuck. He just wants to help good people.
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Comment on Tiny robot drones learn to navigate the world like honeybees in ~tech
Kale Link ParentI’m curious why someone taking the time to write out a meaningful well thought out response is a negative thing? There are a lot of communities on the internet that exist just for quick banter....I’m curious why someone taking the time to write out a meaningful well thought out response is a negative thing?
There are a lot of communities on the internet that exist just for quick banter.
It’s the intentional conversations that makes tildes feel special to me, personally.
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Comment on Vaping DMT in ~talk
Kale Link ParentHuh. TIL. I didn’t even consider that there could be liquid suspended anti-psychotics, never seen em’ in my practice but it makes sense to have it for some populations.Huh. TIL. I didn’t even consider that there could be liquid suspended anti-psychotics, never seen em’ in my practice but it makes sense to have it for some populations.
It was such a great way to meet people.
So many ways to interact with a large variety of different personalities. Then eventually conversations would switch to MSN/AIM/Yahoo and that allowed me to talk to these friends at basically 80 WPM for hours every day. I miss it, that’s for sure!
Discord really seems like the spiritual successor to instant messengers but I just haven’t been able to get into it the same way.