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Comment on How has your industry changed in the past decade? in ~life
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Comment on Work life balance in a startup in ~life
Kale Link ParentFantastic advice. One thing I would add, when you say no to things, just leave it at “no.” Do not give an explanation. I used to work in EMS, and they used the guise of “it’s an emergency we need...Fantastic advice.
One thing I would add, when you say no to things, just leave it at “no.” Do not give an explanation.
I used to work in EMS, and they used the guise of “it’s an emergency we need you” alllll the time. I found if I said it things like “I can’t because of xyz,” they would find holes in the xyz to try and leverage you to come in still. Much harder to argue when you are firm and offer nothing to work with.
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Comment on How do you listen to your favorite obscure music that never made it onto any streaming platforms? in ~music
Kale LinkYou can actually listen to any music you have a file for on Spotify, just like how you would in the old days on iTunes or whatever software you’re familiar with. So you’ll just need to buy the...You can actually listen to any music you have a file for on Spotify, just like how you would in the old days on iTunes or whatever software you’re familiar with. So you’ll just need to buy the music somehow, then upload it. The upload is only for you to use, no one else has access to it.
Use this link to see how to do it in your device.
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Comment on I'm looking for a spicy wasabi snack that will kick my ass and make me regret eating it in ~food
Kale Link ParentAs someone who very rarely has to use these on patients at work…. This comment right here made my toes curl. Like, I understand wanting to feel the spice of life but good god even just cracking...As someone who very rarely has to use these on patients at work…. This comment right here made my toes curl.
Like, I understand wanting to feel the spice of life but good god even just cracking one open makes my eyelids feel like they’re going to peel. I don’t even think it triggers an endorphin rush like hot sauce would (at least for me). It’s just pure unadulterated noxious stimuli.
What kinda occasion calls for the ammonia salts?? Do you have a secret to living life I don’t know about?
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Comment on Heavy Is The Crown ft. Linkin Park (Official Music Video) | League of Legends Worlds 2024 Anthem in ~games
Kale Link ParentI hate Scientology as much as the next guy. I think the Danny Masterson section was covered already, so I’ll skip that. I have a few questions to ask: Has she ever advocated for the church? Did...I hate Scientology as much as the next guy. I think the Danny Masterson section was covered already, so I’ll skip that. I have a few questions to ask:
Has she ever advocated for the church?
Did she join by her own volition?
Can we confidently say that she is not currently being victimized by Scientology herself?From my research, it appears that she was born into it and has never publicly identified with it.
I watched Leah Remini’s documentary on leaving the church and the impact that it had on her career and mental health, not to mention the extreme levels of harassment. If you haven’t seen it, I highly recommend.
Is it really fair to expect someone who dedicated their life to music to potentially destroy their ability to succeed in this industry? Is it fair to expect her to leave when her entire family will have to cut her out of their life permanently? Is it fair to ask her to undergo continuous harassment and threats to her life daily, potentially forever?
I just feel iffy about dog piling on someone who could be suffering silently, especially since they aren’t publicly recruiting for the church or singing their graces.
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Comment on Heavy Is The Crown ft. Linkin Park (Official Music Video) | League of Legends Worlds 2024 Anthem in ~games
Kale LinkSuch a good comeback. If I were listening to Meteora for the first time again and someone stuck this song in the middle of it, it would fit right in. I see a lot of hate for the new singer but she...Such a good comeback. If I were listening to Meteora for the first time again and someone stuck this song in the middle of it, it would fit right in.
I see a lot of hate for the new singer but she really is fantastic. Some of the initial lives she seemed a bit nervous, but now that more live videos have come out I have seen her nail some REALLY difficult songs like “crawling.” Chester even said he doesn’t like doing that song live due to how hard it is to hit those notes.
You can call me impressed!
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Comment on Gender Census 2024: Worldwide report in ~lgbt
Kale (edited )Link ParentI think a lot of the resistance is from the aging gays (aka me). I’m old enough to remember getting called “it” by people who wanted to dehumanize me for being a lesbian. It might have been you (I...I think a lot of the resistance is from the aging gays (aka me).
I’m old enough to remember getting called “it” by people who wanted to dehumanize me for being a lesbian. It might have been you (I remember it was someone on tildes) who produced a compelling argument that made me significantly less uncomfortable about people identifying as those pronouns, as I used to be vehemently against it.
I still don’t feel comfortable adding it/it’s to my vernacular quite yet…Internally it feels similar to calling someone a faggot in conversation, even if the context wasn’t as a slur. I probably would comply if it/it’s were the only pronouns that someone identified with out of respect, though. But I would be lying if I denied having this strange internal battle every time.
Edit: Shoot, I read your comment below before I wrote this post, but it didn’t click in my brain until after I reread it again after I spoke. You’re well aware of how folks like me feel and once again you have such compelling points that I feel like I just need to take a seat and reevaluate my own feelings. I really appreciate the patience you have for speaking on this topic.
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Comment on Poppy - they're all around us (2024) in ~music
Kale LinkI’ve posted on tildes before about how much I love Poppy. I enjoy that she made a metalcore song, as that is my favorite genre. Although, I feel like this one is missing a bit of the magic that...I’ve posted on tildes before about how much I love Poppy.
I enjoy that she made a metalcore song, as that is my favorite genre. Although, I feel like this one is missing a bit of the magic that Poppy adds to all of her music. It is super generic by metalcore standards…and relies heavily on using oversaturated tropes in the genre (such as the blegh).
I am still super excited at the idea of her potentially releasing a heavy album though. I would give my entire soul to hear an album similar to I disagree but with more of her harsh vocals.
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Comment on The growing scientific case for using Ozempic and other GLP-1s to treat opioid, alcohol, and nicotine addiction in ~health
Kale Link ParentI’ve written on Tildes before about my experience with semaglutide and addiction before. I love that you brought this up, because in my experience I feel like it has changed my overall behavior...I’ve written on Tildes before about my experience with semaglutide and addiction before.
I love that you brought this up, because in my experience I feel like it has changed my overall behavior like you mentioned.
For example, I’m an overachiever workaholic who works in the emergency department.
I used to feel fantastic at work riding adrenaline highs and felt great about productive I was. Now… I don’t feel any rush, even during codes. Not burnt out, but i’m not nearly as motivated to maintain the high standard that I used to hold myself to. I don’t feel disinhibited either, though. I still get the stuff that needs to be done, done.I describe it as feeling….more balanced. I don’t get the same highs from shopping, saying something witty in conversation, winning a game, etc. So, as a result, I guess I am much lazier.
All of that sounds horrible and depressing but it doesn’t feel like that to me, I just feel like I’m simply content for the first time in my life and I don’t have to go to extremes anymore to get that.
I really can’t wait until more information comes out about semaglutide and its psychological effects.
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Comment on How late is too late for a house party? in ~talk
Kale Link ParentCompletely agree. If it’s a nice area and parties aren’t happening this late regularly, just go talk to the people and ask them to turn it down. It’s probably a genuine special occasion and might...Completely agree.
If it’s a nice area and parties aren’t happening this late regularly, just go talk to the people and ask them to turn it down. It’s probably a genuine special occasion and might not have realized how loud they were.
If they’re assholes about it, that’s another story. But your neighborhood is a little community, why not try to foster a positive relationship?
Edit: also, on the other side of things: kind of a complete waste of emergency resources as well if the neighbors are normal reasonable people as well…
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Comment on Knocked Loose - Suffocate (ft. Poppy) (2024) in ~music
Kale LinkI absolutely love both of these artists and I am so impressed with this track. I wasn’t sure how well they would mix initially but it ended up working out perfectly. For those into poppy’s heavier...I absolutely love both of these artists and I am so impressed with this track. I wasn’t sure how well they would mix initially but it ended up working out perfectly.
For those into poppy’s heavier vocals, check out her Kitty cover of “Spit.” The lyrics are especially satisfying knowing she just got out of a horrific relationship.
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Comment on Clothes shopping as a short & fat (trans) guy with narrow shoulders in ~life.style
Kale Link ParentI hope you like them! Pants shopping can be so exhausting emotionally. The extra cost was so worth it to have a pair of jeans that...just do exactly what I wanted them to do. If you happen to be...I hope you like them!
Pants shopping can be so exhausting emotionally. The extra cost was so worth it to have a pair of jeans that...just do exactly what I wanted them to do.If you happen to be 36” and willing to pay for shipping I’d be happy to send you some of mine that no longer fit me!
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Comment on Kroger’s panopticon: Making criminals of grocery shoppers in ~tech
Kale LinkI’m so glad that other people are talking about this. I hear “if you have nothing to be afraid of, why are you complaining?” often when I complain about my privacy rights regarding the internet,...I’m so glad that other people are talking about this. I hear “if you have nothing to be afraid of, why are you complaining?” often when I complain about my privacy rights regarding the internet, so I haven’t felt like I could really express my discomfort that has cropped up since Kroger made these changes.
I am such an anxious person, grocery shopping was already uncomfortable for me before all of these additional measures were added. I must have some sort of look because employees badger to help me frequently. Fellow customers often think that I am an employee as well….to the point that I almost always get asked customer service questions when I shop even though I am not wearing a uniform, or I take some brunt of whatever anger fueled rant they feel about the store. No clue if it’s my body language, if it’s because I look young, or it’s my style of clothing but the amount of attention I get makes this chore so exhausting as is.
Now that these security features have been added, the discomfort I experience has multiplied to the point where I avoid grocery shopping as much as possible- to my own detriment.
Self-checkout takes forever, now that it has to replay some cringy video of me struggling to scan an oddly placed barcode for the overworked employee monitoring a ton of other stations. Leaving the store is now an ordeal because the security officer profiled me and does actually want to thoroughly make sure every item on my cart is actually on the receipt. I’m annoyed that if I forgot to grab an item I have to be corralled around a pre-designed path that forces me to waste a bunch of time going though every single isle again. Not to mention how expensive food is now.
I’m tired, man. Why do I have to spend so much money just to feel like I’m so inherently bad while I’m just trying to do normal human shit?
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Comment on Clothes shopping as a short & fat (trans) guy with narrow shoulders in ~life.style
Kale LinkBoth& is a clothing company made to be gender affirming for transmasc men. Their denim pants do a wonderful job of concealing wide curvey hips in short folks. Kinda $$$ but I think they’re worth...Both& is a clothing company made to be gender affirming for transmasc men. Their denim pants do a wonderful job of concealing wide curvey hips in short folks.
Kinda $$$ but I think they’re worth the price.
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Comment on How long was it before you let your dog off leash? in ~life.pets
Kale LinkA lot of folks are saying never, but I want to point out that there are circumstances where it is appropriate, such as working dogs. I take mine mushroom hunting in dense forest, so it’s not...A lot of folks are saying never, but I want to point out that there are circumstances where it is appropriate, such as working dogs. I take mine mushroom hunting in dense forest, so it’s not feasible for me to have my dog on a leash at all times.
I don’t know what you plan on doing with your dog and I’m going to assume you will be responsible, so I’ll give my best answer. Just consider that my dog off leash in the forest has different risks than a dog off leash in an urban environment. We also don’t go off leash on public trails.
As for when to know when your dog is ready, I would base it more on where they are at training wise than age.
I start my dogs off by training them to have “auto eyes.” This is where I reward the dog just for looking at me spontaneously. Seems simple, but having a dog that checks to see what you are doing every couple minutes or so is the foundation for keeping them near you and on track. So even if my dog sees something exciting and distracting, he’ll flip his head around to peek at me and will decide to run back if he notices there’s too much distance between us.
I also have an emergency recall that is different than normal recall. This is very, very rarely used so when I do have to use it the dog responds immediately without thinking (compared with normal recall where the dog might be like “ok fine mom, but I’m going to finish sniffing this bush first”). You train them by giving it a distinct sound (people tend to default to using the dogs name in emergencies, don’t do this) and make the reward super high value every time. I see a lot of people try to achieve this “perfect recall” /every/ time they call out to their dog, but in my experience I rarely see it work out for those folks. Use it sparingly.
Once my dogs grasp both those aspects of training, I test it out at the dog park. If they do well then I let them off leash. I always re-leash when I get near a road, if I hear other people or another animal. Make it rewarding to get leashed up too, that way they don’t feel like the fun is over.
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Comment on Ozempic cuts alcohol cravings. Liquor companies aren’t ready. in ~health
Kale Link ParentI’d like to offer my own anecdote as someone who is an atypical user of the drug. Context: I do not see a provider, I purchase it as grey market item and DIY my dose, and have for ~1 year. I was...I’d like to offer my own anecdote as someone who is an atypical user of the drug.
Context: I do not see a provider, I purchase it as grey market item and DIY my dose, and have for ~1 year. I was not obese, but overweight. My usage is controversial, risky, and I do not recommend anyone doing it without seeing a doctor.
I like to experiment with my body, so I started taking it and had no intention on changing my diet or alcohol intake just to see how effective this drug was for weight loss.
I used to be a daily drinker between ~1-5 beers daily. Most days just one or two beers spread apart, like with a meal or in the shower. Some days a few in a row to get a buzz after work. So like, I’m technically an alcoholic, probably, if we look at it objectively.
Ozempic really did put an end to my daily drinking habits. Not because I wanted to or tried to.
I would still open a beer daily for a while. But after a month of dumping out my unfinished beer from the opened can I decided maybe I should only open one if my actual intention is to catch a buzz. It didn’t make me sick or anything, I just…didn’t feel like drinking the whole thing.
So unintentionally, I’ve become exclusively a social drinker and now I opt for a cocktail instead. I still enjoy alcohol greatly, but I probably only drink once a week or so if that. Tolerance has decreased, so I need way less to party as well.
I suspect that those who have a more emotional relationship with alcohol, such as those who need to drink to feel numb might not have the same outcome as me.
So to answer your question… this absolutely could be bait for more off label usage. But can we take this information gained to further research this topic and use it to benefit people? I really hope so.
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Comment on How did you handle coming out? in ~lgbt
Kale LinkI unfortunately didn’t get to come out, another girl chose to out me. I knew I was a lesbian from a young age and I grew up in a conservative town. I had known my best friend since elementary...I unfortunately didn’t get to come out, another girl chose to out me.
I knew I was a lesbian from a young age and I grew up in a conservative town. I had known my best friend since elementary school, and at the time she was surprisingly cool with it. That is, until I hooked up with a classmate.
The next day, she publicly cut contact with me and made it clear we were no longer friends and our friend group got divided up. Me and that girl were historically inseparable so even the teachers tried to involve themselves (all this happened on a field trip, so we were trapped on a bus for 5 hours to get home) and I was made out to be the bad guy. She didn’t communicate to me why she was upset with me, just that we were no longer friends.
When I got home my mom asked me if I was gay. I tried to deny it, and I got grounded. I asked how long I was grounded for, and she said until I was no longer gay (lol). My grandmother bawled like I had broken her heart, she said I was choosing a hard life. I had to go to therapy where the therapist would ask questions like “why do you think that you are a homosexual?” It wasn’t conversation therapy, thankfully, but they all tried to convince me I was confused. My mom also told my primary care provider like it was a fucking medical condition.
I had a lot of shame thrown at me from different directions. I was brought up catholic, so my religion encouraged the guilt. I just couldn’t believe how quickly my life changed and how different people saw me. I wasn’t even sure how my family found out.
That is…until I saw my mom’s phone. She had a few calls from my ex-best friend post blowup. I asked her about them, and I found out it was my friend who outted me.
About a few years later, that same ex-best friend also came out as lesbian. One of the people that stuck by her side when the friend group split told me that the reason she originally cut me off is because I broke her heart and that she was in love with me.
The thing that gets me is if I had known she was in love with me, I would have gotten together with her instead of the classmate. I loved her too, but I didn’t think she was into girls at the time. In all honesty, she did me a favor by showing me her true colors because I feel like I truly dodged a bullet.
That is interesting because at my emergency department where I work it’s been the opposite. Pre-covid, our hospital used to get absolutely slammed with mental health.
We only have 21 rooms and nearly every day we would get so clogged up that over half of our department would be boarding psych patients and it made such a strong funnel effect we couldn’t get medical patients out of our lobby.
Post-Covid, I very rarely see intentional overdoses or young suicidal ideation patients. We still get a decent amount of psychosis patients, though.
On the medical side on the other hand, our volume has tripled and the acuity is much higher. It hasn’t quite recovered from that yet. I believe that we are still seeing the impact of routine medical office visits getting cancelled/too competitive to get into.