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Comment on What is it like to have both ADHD and autism? in ~health.mental
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Comment on What is it like to have both ADHD and autism? in ~health.mental
PossiblyBipedal (edited )Link ParentI think it is great that you have found ways to make it work for you. I am trying to do the same. But I'm sorry. I do take offense to your last statement. Nothing in my post has said that it has...I think it is great that you have found ways to make it work for you. I am trying to do the same.
I have tried to use my diagnosis to help me, rather than to let it define or constrain me. I don't see why you or anyone else can't do the same.
But I'm sorry. I do take offense to your last statement. Nothing in my post has said that it has defined or constrained me. It's just the opposite, by learning that my issues could possibly be ADHD, it would help to reframe my issues and make it work for me instead. I often power through life and ignore what my body or brain is actually telling me.
I am at an exploratory stage and seeking information to see if this was something viable for me to help understand my brain rather than working against it. It is not a complaint on how possibly negative my life is.
The other posts here have also been replies from people who have lived in ways that accommodated to their brain. It is not very empathetic to assume that others aren't living well or trying to work hard with what they have.
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What is it like to have both ADHD and autism?
I've been doing a lot of work with my therapist and it has been suggested that I might have a mix of both Autism and ADHD. I have always related to Autism to a certain extent but I would never say...
I've been doing a lot of work with my therapist and it has been suggested that I might have a mix of both Autism and ADHD.
I have always related to Autism to a certain extent but I would never say it because I felt like I didn't really fit because some things I do don't make sense it that context. I was also obsessed with learning to be human since young and have a lot of systems to deal with it and apparently that means I've been masking for a very long time.
But my therapist also brought up ADHD and that has explained a lot about some the things I'm still currently struggling with. But again, when I look it up, I don't feel like I fully fit. But also, I have developed a lot of systems over the years to deal with my issues and function like a normal human being. So a lot of the things I struggle with is hidden because I've "fixed" them.
I'm still reluctant to say I have either of those two things because I feel like an imposter. So I've just settled on Neurodivergent and think that I can always learn the tools that help people with ADHD even if I don't have it. Because if the tools work for you, then why not?
But my therapist has suggested getting diagnosed because it does change what kind of medication you might get. I'm currently on medication for anxiety and depression.
So now I'm wondering how common it is to have a mix of both ADHD and Autism. For those who have both, what is it like for you? What is your daily life like? What are your struggles and how do you deal with them? When did you realise you might have a mix of both? How do you feel about yourself and your brain?
I apologize if this isn't the right place to ask this. I don't post very often and am getting used to it.
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Comment on Can noise canceling headphones be effective against non continuous noise such as music? in ~tech
PossiblyBipedal LinkI've been wondering the same thing. I used to work in a cafe, and it would block out noise except the music and I really wanted the music gone. I didn't find noise cancelling headphones that...I've been wondering the same thing. I used to work in a cafe, and it would block out noise except the music and I really wanted the music gone.
I didn't find noise cancelling headphones that blocked out music. So what I did was to play white noise on my noise cancelling headphones and that combination helped. The white noise also helped calm me down. So that was a good side effect for me.
That's basically what I do for everything now. I put on the noise cancelling headphones and play something to drown out the rest of the noise.
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Comment on What AI tools are you actually using? in ~tech
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI use it in a similar way. I write a first draft quickly and then give it to the AI to help restructure my sentences better. I then edit it again to remove bloat, make it more concise, and reword...I use it in a similar way. I write a first draft quickly and then give it to the AI to help restructure my sentences better. I then edit it again to remove bloat, make it more concise, and reword things to sound more like me.
AI helps me write emails faster because I spend less time staring at a blank page and second guessing the way I word things. It's less daunting to edit than it is to write from scratch.
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Comment on Hey, monthly mystery commenters, what's up with the hit-and-runs? in ~tildes
PossiblyBipedal LinkI'm not very active on tildes. I do visit often enough but I don't comment as much. Mainly because I don't think I can contribute much. I'm not as knowledgeable or verbose as many here. While I do...I'm not very active on tildes. I do visit often enough but I don't comment as much. Mainly because I don't think I can contribute much. I'm not as knowledgeable or verbose as many here.
While I do try to reply, there have been many times where someone has replied to me, and I want to reply, but I got busy. Or I've had too much going on mentally or something else and I'd forget about Tildes entirely for a while.
Then by the time I remember, it would have been way too long.
But also, I have commented in different online spaces without replying sometimes. Sometimes you just want to yell your opinion into the void and then move on with life.
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentYes! I think Vic would make a very good Taskmaster too. I did consider Grant as the assistant too, but I came to the same conclusion. He would make it weird and sexual at some point. I could see...Yes! I think Vic would make a very good Taskmaster too.
I did consider Grant as the assistant too, but I came to the same conclusion. He would make it weird and sexual at some point. I could see Zac or Katie as the assistant.
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Comment on I want to hear about your unknown favorites! in ~books
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI've been looking for something humorous and fun. I've gone through all of Discworld so this should be a good replacement.I've been looking for something humorous and fun. I've gone through all of Discworld so this should be a good replacement.
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentAw man. I'd shill Dropout to death if that could help them make "Dropout Does Taskmaster" exist. But yea. At this point, I'd still be happy if all they can do is parody it. I was reading the...Aw man. I'd shill Dropout to death if that could help them make "Dropout Does Taskmaster" exist.
But yea. At this point, I'd still be happy if all they can do is parody it.I was reading the comments when the new Um Actually season trailer came up, and someone mentioned that Ify and BDG would make a great Taskmaster and Assistant. BDG as the assistant would be so fun. He could go into an existential crisis from time too time.
But yea! When I watched the new Game Changer episode and
Brennan ran off to modify things to make his gong strike louder, I immediately thought he would fit right in with Taskmaster.Later on, when Ally interpreted the question differently and said they would choose Brennan as the winner instead of hitting the gong, I could see how fun their solutions to tasks would be.
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentHave you seen the latest Game Changer? I really really want Brennan on Taskmaster now. Ally would be great on Taskmaster too!Have you seen the latest Game Changer? I really really want Brennan on Taskmaster now. Ally would be great on Taskmaster too!
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal (edited )Link ParentI don't know how Brennan makes being competitive so entertaining. I got my friend to subscribe to dropout because of the queens. He's a big fan of drag race. But he ended up watching all the other...I don't know how Brennan makes being competitive so entertaining.
I got my friend to subscribe to dropout because of the queens. He's a big fan of drag race.
But he ended up watching all the other shows on dropout instead (he couldn't get into dimension 20) and watched the survivor episode. He then said he really liked Brennan even though he usually doesn't like competitive people/characters.
Brennan manages to merge competitiveness and being wholesome somehow. Add comedy to that and it's incredibly entertaining.
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI didn't like Jeremy for all the same reasons too. To me, the Taskmaster's job is to banter and facilitate banter among the contestants. And he doesn't do that. But I've watched their 4th season...I didn't like Jeremy for all the same reasons too.
To me, the Taskmaster's job is to banter and facilitate banter among the contestants. And he doesn't do that.But I've watched their 4th season recently and I don't know if it's wishful thinking, but it feels like he's bantering a little more in that one.
So maybe he just needs time.
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Comment on Taskmaster NZ | Series 2 complete playlist in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentSometimes I wish Dropout would attempt Taskmaster. They seem to be the best set of people to be able to pull it off. I don't know why they work so well together when they do unscripted things...Sometimes I wish Dropout would attempt Taskmaster. They seem to be the best set of people to be able to pull it off.
I don't know why they work so well together when they do unscripted things compared to other non-dropout shows.
Sometimes I think it's because they all kind of know each other. It's similar enough to the UK panelshows where the scene is small enough that the comedians can be familiar with each other sometimes.
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Comment on Broke my dominant arm, will be out of work for a few months. Any advice or tips to adapt to this period of one-armed life? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal LinkI injured my dominant hand many years ago. What I ended up doing was to use my left hand for everything. I was surprised how incredibly fast a human could adapt if they're forced to use only one...I injured my dominant hand many years ago. What I ended up doing was to use my left hand for everything. I was surprised how incredibly fast a human could adapt if they're forced to use only one arm.
I learned to write and draw with my left hand. It's not as good as my right hand, but it was legible. I also got pretty good at handling daily life with my left hand too.
I could even do work with just my left hand. So I thought I was learning a new skill and could be ambidextrous.
But when my right hand was usable again, I quickly lost a lot of my left hand skills because I didn't practice using it. So remember to keep using your left hand periodically!
But I think what I'm saying is, you don't have to limit yourself to just passive things or scrolling through social media. You can do some independent things! But it'll just be slow and tedious at first!
Just go about your life and do your hobbies one handed. It's quite an interesting endeavour. Think of it as the best excuse to learn a new of skill.
Sorry I don't really have more tangible advice. This happened so long ago, I've forgotten a lot it.
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Comment on Is anyone else here completely unable to imagine any faces? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentWhat if they're less accurate than they think they are? I do have a sense of time of when things happen, but it's incredible unreliable. Something can feel like it happened 3 months ago, but it...What if they're less accurate than they think they are?
I do have a sense of time of when things happen, but it's incredible unreliable. Something can feel like it happened 3 months ago, but it actually happened 2 days ago. And the opposite too.
Even with covid at its peak, many people kept saying it felt like an incredibly long time and are usually surprised to discover they haven't been home for all that long.
My experience with figuring out "weird" issues my vision has, has been kind of revealing.
As a kid, I was obsessed. I wondered if I was slowly going blind. Because every night, if I look at the wall, the clock on my wall would disappear if it's in the corner of my vision.
I kept asking so many people if they have the same thing. If it's normal. And everyone says they don't experience it. Things don't disappear. So I worried even more.
Then I got older and the internet got more robust and then there was this viral thing that people were sharing. Basically it was about the weird things you don't notice about your eye. And one of it was that everyone has a blind spot at the corner of their vision, but the brain will compensate for it and fill in the gaps.
And suddenly everyone I asked before was like "Wow! Interesting! I never knew!"
And as a teenager, I went wtf! I asked and everyone said no! I was paranoid for a long time since nobody knew what I was talking about!
Then I realised I just am more aware and notice more things with vision than other people. Even with imagination, I'm pretty aware of what my limitations are. I assume it's because I tend to get obsessive and paranoid about things.
Since I draw, and learning how to draw really shows how unreliable the image in your head is. You can think it's vivid. You can think it has details. But try put those details down on paper and you'll realise how far off the details in your brain actually are.
There's a whole exercise for learning to train your brain to really see and observe things properly when it comes to drawing. Because it's rare to naturally be able to do it.
Maybe many other people have the same issue you have. They just don't notice it and go on with their lives. So when you ask, people say no. They don't have that issue.
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Comment on Dropbox spooks users with new AI features that send data to OpenAI when used in ~tech
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentThank you for that! I'll look into it. What is VPS?Thank you for that! I'll look into it.
What is VPS?
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Comment on Dropbox spooks users with new AI features that send data to OpenAI when used in ~tech
PossiblyBipedal LinkThis is disappointing. I've been using Dropbox for years. Since its early days. What service would be good for someone who isn't very technically inclined? I guess I'm not technologically...This is disappointing. I've been using Dropbox for years. Since its early days.
What service would be good for someone who isn't very technically inclined? I guess I'm not technologically illiterate, but more busy and tired with very little mental capacity left.
I do not want to use Google Drive or One Drive though.
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Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal LinkI just started watching Bodies on Netflix. I'm only on episode 3 but it has been very interesting so far. I wasn't expecting to be hooked. The premise is that the same dead body has been found in...I just started watching Bodies on Netflix. I'm only on episode 3 but it has been very interesting so far. I wasn't expecting to be hooked.
The premise is that the same dead body has been found in three different time periods and they're all trying to solve the murder.
I don't know why, but I kept thinking this would have been a great videogame to play.
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Comment on Mental health and sense of belonging in ~health.mental
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentNo problem! Hope it helped somewhat.No problem! Hope it helped somewhat.
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Comment on How do you counter pessimism? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal LinkFor countering pessimism in myself, I have a more delusional way of handling it. Basically, I like Star Trek. I like the general hopeful, accepting, competent feel of Star Trek. It's supposed to...For countering pessimism in myself, I have a more delusional way of handling it. Basically, I like Star Trek. I like the general hopeful, accepting, competent feel of Star Trek. It's supposed to be somewhat utopian far into the future.
But you know, in Star Trek lore, there's going to be World War 3, Eugenics Wars (although I think we've passed the date for that?) and many other terrible things that would happen before things for a lot better for humanity.
So basically, I just delusinally hold onto the belief that humanity and things will get better. But there's a big chance that I just wouldn't see it in my lifetime.
But somehow that's not depressing to me. You still try to recycle and donate and so what you think is good while accepting that you might not see the results of it in your lifetime. It's the whole plant a tree for the next generation sort of thing.
Then when it comes to myself, for my own personal life. I sometimes try to think of how you can react to things in a competent and reasonable manner like the characters in the show.
And my life isn't all that great now and I do get depressed but I still have this dumb delusional thought that it will pass and it will be okay. Just think about how this particular character would have handled it. Yes. Because I can't handle it otherwise.
But how do you deal with it in others? I just listen to them, ask questions, find out where the pessimism is coming from. Try to understand why they think the way they do and try to validate and relate.
And after sufficient amount of relating, I would then tell them how I think about the same situation which isn't as pessimistic. But it isn't put in a way that my way is better.
It's more wow it's interesting that we're very different people and react differently. And explain my view and specify that it is just how I think of it and it is not necessarily objective reality.
And then validate their feelings again. You don't have to validate their conclusion but you can validate feelings about a situation.
I have no idea if this is a good way to handle it though. But I'm pretty close friends with some cynical/pessimistic people and they've not booted me yet.
Thank you. I appreciate the reply.
I am sorry for the misunderstanding and uncharitable reading of the tone of your post. I should have given you the benefit of the doubt rather than have a knee jerk reaction.
I do tend to react terribly to this topic and am working with my therapist on why I get very worked up when we discuss it. So I think that happened again here.
I do aim to figure out how to do better in life in a way that isn't antagonistic to my body. So I am glad to know that you have made it work out for you.