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Comment on Hi, how are you? Mental health support and discussion thread (December 2024) in ~health.mental
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Comment on Balancing self-expression and parents in ~life
PossiblyBipedal LinkYou're not entitled at all. Other people suffering in other places doesn't automatically make your situation go away. I don't know how to give you advice even though I lived through a very similar...You're not entitled at all. Other people suffering in other places doesn't automatically make your situation go away.
I don't know how to give you advice even though I lived through a very similar life.
What I ended up doing was having a separate outdoor life and indoor life. I joined a community of people who were similar to me and could be myself as long as I was out the door. I also had little trinkets that had meaning to me and maybe to others that I knew my parents wouldn't understand.
I say that as if it was easy. I had a lot to hide and got paranoid quite a fair bit. I got into arguments with my parents without straight up revealing myself.
My parents once asked if I was gay and I evaded that with weird dumb answers I was well known for.
Once I was no longer in school, I was barely home and spent a lot of time outside either in the office working or hanging out with friends.
At the time, I didn't think of it as a hard life at all. It was the only thing I knew. It was just life.
But after I got out of the situation, suddenly my life was so easy and I had no idea it could have been this way the whole time.
I'm sorry. I have zero advice. I just wanted to let you know people can relate. I think I know which country you might live in. I'll DM to ask. You don't have to answer if you're uncomfortable with it.
We might be able to chat about what's possible. Living situation wise.
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Comment on Where does your username come from? (Following up on last year's thread) in ~tildes
PossiblyBipedal LinkI may or may not be bipedal. I'm not sure. I like usernames allude to being human as that's what I am. It doesn't feel that way often. I remind myself every day that I am human.I may or may not be bipedal. I'm not sure.
I like usernames allude to being human as that's what I am. It doesn't feel that way often. I remind myself every day that I am human.
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentYeah. Same here. If I were to discuss it, I would tell then what my reaction is right now and not what happened in the past. Mainly because I don't want people to invalidate my experiences. At...Yeah. Same here. If I were to discuss it, I would tell then what my reaction is right now and not what happened in the past.
Mainly because I don't want people to invalidate my experiences.
At some point when someone was telling me that your parents are still your parents, I then mentioned there was abuse. But I didn't go into detail and it was just part of a larger thing I wanted to say.
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentThank you! I don't have many things in life, but I do have great supportive friends!Thank you! I don't have many things in life, but I do have great supportive friends!
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentYeah. I often half joke similarly. It is often difficult to discuss things when people kind of transplant their experiences onto yours. I know they don't realise they're doing it. I do it when I...Yeah. I often half joke similarly.
It is often difficult to discuss things when people kind of transplant their experiences onto yours. I know they don't realise they're doing it. I do it when I don't realise it too.
But that is a good reminder to have that they don't know the full picture.
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentThank you! I appreciate you saying that even if they need care, I wouldn't have to be the one doing it. And also I if helped it was because I wanted to. Not because I have to.Thank you! I appreciate you saying that even if they need care, I wouldn't have to be the one doing it. And also I if helped it was because I wanted to. Not because I have to.
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentThank you! Yeah. It's hard not to let people's ideas of things get to you. But I have to try.Thank you! Yeah. It's hard not to let people's ideas of things get to you. But I have to try.
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Comment on Community Check-In: How is everyone doing? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal LinkI don't know. I've recently moved out of my family home after a year and a half of being unwell (physically and mentally) , hoping that the location change will help me as I have childhood...I don't know. I've recently moved out of my family home after a year and a half of being unwell (physically and mentally) , hoping that the location change will help me as I have childhood traumatic issues tied to the place.
I'm not suddenly super happy (I still have pain issues) , but I think I'm objectively doing better in the new place.
But the problem is people keep guilting me for leaving my parent behind (Even random cab drivers) . Saying they're old and alone and all that. But they're not that old. And I go back at least once a month to check in. And I'm not the only child they have.
So I don't really reveal I've moved out to people unless it's in topic or I know they're safe people.
Side note: I just realised this is a public forum with people with many opinions. I hope not to get replies telling me that they're still my parent and all that. I get that all time in person already. =(
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Comment on Announcing Tildes' Make Something Month (Timasomo) for 2024! in ~tildes
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI'd say record the entire process! From all your sketches where you're learning how to draw and things like that to the final product. It's very satisfying when you see all the behind the scenes...I'd say record the entire process! From all your sketches where you're learning how to draw and things like that to the final product. It's very satisfying when you see all the behind the scenes work you've put into it.
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Comment on Announcing Tildes' Make Something Month (Timasomo) for 2024! in ~tildes
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI second this book! It's great fun. And it somehow still made sense why the kids had to do what they did.I second this book! It's great fun. And it somehow still made sense why the kids had to do what they did.
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Comment on Is it a red flag that I don’t have any childhood friends? in ~life
PossiblyBipedal (edited )LinkI don't think it's a red flag. I think the author sounds like she's looking at her childhood with nostalgia. I definitely was not my true self at 12. Even then, you can be a different person at a...I don't think it's a red flag. I think the author sounds like she's looking at her childhood with nostalgia.
I definitely was not my true self at 12. Even then, you can be a different person at a different age with experiences that have shaped you and still be your true self.
I think whether people have childhood friends or not is completely dependent on circumstance. Some people are late bloomers and only find their people later in life.
I also don't think mainly having childhood friends is a red flag too. One of my close new (by new I mean we've known each other for 3 years now maybe) friends mainly only has her childhood friends and she's great to be around.
She just didn't get out much (but has met many types of people through work. They just didn't become non-work friends. ) and is now branching out and trying to make more adult friends.
I think childhood friends are not a good gauge in general.
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Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI've chatted with people who do that. It is a thing here. Not everyone does it though. Might be an Asian thing. I know Asia is big but I'm being vague about where I live on purpose. But I've...I've chatted with people who do that. It is a thing here. Not everyone does it though. Might be an Asian thing.
I know Asia is big but I'm being vague about where I live on purpose.
But I've always interpreted it like someone trailing off at the end of their sentence. Like "maybe..." but used more excessively.
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Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal LinkHow do you care for your spectacles? I've never had to wear glasses before and I have one I wear semi regularly now. But have no idea how to deal with upkeep. Or do you just.. Not?How do you care for your spectacles? I've never had to wear glasses before and I have one I wear semi regularly now. But have no idea how to deal with upkeep. Or do you just.. Not?
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Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentI would get the fuck out of there ASAP. Not because of the no license, illegal immigrant thing. But because it feels too much like a horror movie. It's a trap! He's not freezing and you're not...I would get the fuck out of there ASAP. Not because of the no license, illegal immigrant thing.
But because it feels too much like a horror movie. It's a trap! He's not freezing and you're not allowed to contact anyone? Clearly, he's not human. He might be a giant alien fly in a human body and this is a trap to lure humans into his den.
Maybe they have to be a specific type of human. It's a test too. The ones that return with an air pump make good host bodies for his young ones.
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Comment on What small questions do you have that aren’t worth a full topic on their own? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentTeal is my favourite colour too. I don't know why. I guess it's calm? It's neither blue nor green. It's as confused as me. But for some reason, if I have to colour code myself for work documents,...Teal is my favourite colour too. I don't know why. I guess it's calm? It's neither blue nor green. It's as confused as me.
But for some reason, if I have to colour code myself for work documents, I use orange to represent me.
Again, not sure why. Teal is my favourite colour but Orange represents me the most. It feels awkward if orange is not me.
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Comment on Stranded astronauts make first public statement since being left behind on ISS in ~space
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentYeah. There's a difference when you're mentally prepared to be there for months and by choice. Compared to suddenly being stranded.Yeah. There's a difference when you're mentally prepared to be there for months and by choice. Compared to suddenly being stranded.
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Comment on TV Tuesdays Free Talk in ~tv
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentIs the other half of the new season of Futurama out? I had no idea!Is the other half of the new season of Futurama out? I had no idea!
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Comment on If you could send someone to any historic moment, who and when? in ~talk
PossiblyBipedal (edited )LinkSend Hitler to Hitler's birth and tell him the prophecy is that that child will be the one to end him. And that he only has this one small chance to act and save himself. Whatever that may be.Send Hitler to Hitler's birth and tell him the prophecy is that that child will be the one to end him.
And that he only has this one small chance to act and save himself. Whatever that may be.
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Comment on Game Changer - The Opening Song from "Welcome to Mountport" (2022) in ~music
PossiblyBipedal Link ParentThat's interesting. But I wonder where Sam is from.That's interesting. But I wonder where Sam is from.
I just got diagnosed with ADHD. We've been suspecting it for a while but finally I've got validation.
I've posted asking about ADHD/Autism before, but I didn't reply to many of the comments because I couldn't bring myself to.
Reading about ADHD at the time brought up complex feelings. Now I can though. Probably. Maybe.
A long while back I ended up crying at my therapy session because I was finally realising that life didn't have to be this hard and I felt sad for the person (past me) who worked really hard to exist like everyone else without knowing I wasn't just weak and lazy.
So now I'm fine? Maybe? Maybe.