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Comment on Google's new app will help warn you about nude images in Messages in ~tech
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Comment on Google's new app will help warn you about nude images in Messages in ~tech
arch LinkI honestly don't know how I feel about this. My only interaction with Google and their nudity filters was when Photos automatically backed up a picture of my kid playing in a bathtub (waist up).I honestly don't know how I feel about this. My only interaction with Google and their nudity filters was when Photos automatically backed up a picture of my kid playing in a bathtub (waist up).
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Comment on Car maintenance/replacement advice in ~transport
arch Link ParentPark over a clean piece of cardboard for a night. It will clearly show stains if you are leaking oil. If it has never been done before, then try to find someone to adjust the valve clearance on...Park over a clean piece of cardboard for a night. It will clearly show stains if you are leaking oil.
If it has never been done before, then try to find someone to adjust the valve clearance on your Honda. It is supposed to be adjusted at a regular interval, but most mechanics will not do it "unless there is a reason to". One of the reasons to do it is burning oil.
You can also stand behind the car while it's in park and have someone rev the engine. If it is burning a lot of oil you will notice a whitish blue smoke from the exhaust.
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Comment on Car maintenance/replacement advice in ~transport
arch Link ParentIt may be something as "simple" as the valve clearance needing to be adjusted.It may be something as "simple" as the valve clearance needing to be adjusted.
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Comment on Is ADHD really that debilitating? in ~health.mental
arch (edited )Link ParentThe biggest harmful coping mechanism I learned was anxiety. My mom (not diagnosed) was constantly worried we were going to be late, look disheveled, get in trouble at work, or school. I...How so? Would you care to give an example or two of a bad ADHD compensatory habit?
The biggest harmful coping mechanism I learned was anxiety. My mom (not diagnosed) was constantly worried we were going to be late, look disheveled, get in trouble at work, or school. I internalized this, and used anxiety as my driving force to do everything. I thought I had to complete my work as quickly as possible, without breaks, or I would get fired. I thought I had to lie on mental health questionnaires or my life would be made hell by continuous meetings, lessons and obligations. I thought I had to wash all of the dishes every day, or my wife wouldn't love me. I had to make sure I showered as soon as I woke up or others would be offended and dislike me. For decades it gave me passable skills to come off as a fairly normal but otherwise forgetful person who could just make jokes about never remembering people's names. I people pleased to make sure they were happy with me, then eventually got enough time to be left alone and dissociate. Until eventually it finally got to be too much, and I started having regular anxiety attacks, and I sought professional help. It took almost a year of working away at the anxiety to realize that as I was dealing with it, I was getting less successful at completing tasks on time and doing chores. And then there is the evidence that living in a state of heightened anxiety is bad for your physical health.
The second biggest one is avoidance, and lowering expectations. I have passed up promotions at work because I felt they would overwhelm me. I chose not to take on projects because I know I will fail at them and feel bad. I picked a college and major that was easy for me so I wouldn't have to struggle. I avoid giving presents because it means I will get fewer presents, and then I don't have to feel bad when I forget to thank someone or reciprocate toward them.
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Comment on Looking for eclectic and little-known websites that bring joy in ~health.mental
arch Link ParentThe anxiety-avoidance cycle is really far more complicated this. I don't think it really applies in this particular situation where OP is talking about not reading news websites or interacting on...The anxiety-avoidance cycle is really far more complicated this. I don't think it really applies in this particular situation where OP is talking about not reading news websites or interacting on social media websites daily. If OP is anything like me, they are looking for websites to redirect to when they try to go to reddit.com that will still give a little dopamine spike, but not show us AITA posts detailing abusive relationships, showing us pictures of workers being taken advantage of, etc.
No psychiatrist, social worker, therapist, etc. is going to recommend that their patient with anxiety expose themselves more to current events and world news the way they would treat a fear of heights. Exposure therapy relies on a positive outcome, that's why you step up on a step-stool first, to reinforce that you did not fall.
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Comment on Is ADHD really that debilitating? in ~health.mental
arch Link ParentI really connect with you on these two points. I've never thought of it as compulsive honesty before, but I really connect with that term. I also would qualify as 'highly successful' with ADHD. I...I have impulse control problems. I'll interrupt other people during conversations. I'll unintentionally say things that are rude without realizing, and I'm somewhat compulsively honest, even when a white lie or lying by omission would be a better idea. I tend to babble and can accidentally take over a conversation.
I think I technically qualify as a 'highly successful' person with ADHD. I managed to graduate with a 4 year degree. I've held the same, good job for 5 years, and they seem happy with me. ADHD is debilitating.
I really connect with you on these two points. I've never thought of it as compulsive honesty before, but I really connect with that term.
I also would qualify as 'highly successful' with ADHD. I too hold a 4 year degree (which took me 6 years to get) and I have held the same good job for 11 years now. But in hindsight, un-diagnosed until 2 weeks ago, I picked my major based on what I knew I could handle, not what I actually wanted to learn and do. I dropped my minor of theater in college because it was too much for me. I had to drop my latin class because I was going to fail it and tank my GPA, even though it was the only elective I chose to take because I really wanted to learn it. I have never been able to learn skills that I have tried to learn for decades because I can not remember the content well enough (namely programming). I have picked my career based on what could hold my focus well enough to not get in trouble constantly, but it's not anything I actually enjoy. I have turned down promotions because being held responsible for other people's work make me viscerally angry and miserable.
I have been able to lead a good life because I have reasonable high intelligence, and I am willing to brute force things that I cannot otherwise achieve. But if I had been diagnosed and medicated as a child, I am very certain that I would have made different choices in my life that would have let me be more of the person who I always wanted to be, but always felt like I couldn't achieve being.
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Comment on FEMA can kind of suck in ~life
arch LinkI'm having a bad day at work today, so I'm going to reply to your one statement here and it honestly might be less than perfectly kind. The expectation that any publicly facing worker should...They said it was totally fair that I should be responsible, out of pocket for trees. I asked why that was? Their reponse was "this conversation is over," and they hung up. The answer from a decent person would be, I understand your frustration, but FEMA isn't set up to handle this circumstance. Please reach out to SBA.
I'm having a bad day at work today, so I'm going to reply to your one statement here and it honestly might be less than perfectly kind. The expectation that any publicly facing worker should realistically have to constantly empathize with every individual they interact with in every situation is totally wrong. All the while we dismiss any obligation of the person interacting with the worker to empathize with their situation at all. You're asking a call center worker to justify a government policy to you that they have no part in making.
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Comment on Devin James Stone (Legal Eagle) presents his legal reasoning for public endorsing Kamala Harris in ~society
arch Link ParentI'm going to be honest, I doubt it matters much. I've been watching his videos intermittently for a few years now, and his channel is pretty clearly and unabashedly centrist and Democratic...I'm going to be honest, I doubt it matters much. I've been watching his videos intermittently for a few years now, and his channel is pretty clearly and unabashedly centrist and Democratic leaning. I don't really want to call it leftist or liberal, because honestly there is little about the channel that displays any of those tendencies in my opinion. This is not a channel that is going to be watched by Republicans, and his content is not something that could be plunked in front of a staunch Trump supported to change their mind. He can rally people to vote, though, be they law abiding centrists or liberals.
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Comment on Japan was the future but it's stuck in the past in ~life
arch Link ParentI guess I'll chime in as well as another point of view to the affirmative, it is very much a real thing in my day to day. I have been in formal treatment for anxiety for about a year now. Anxiety...I guess I'll chime in as well as another point of view to the affirmative, it is very much a real thing in my day to day. I have been in formal treatment for anxiety for about a year now. Anxiety is something that has been with me for at least 20 years, if not life long. I have distinct memories of being in elementary school and feeling uncomfortable around the armed resource officers (one shot himself in the foot accidentally in a school). I regularly have intrusive thoughts about people with guns, and mentally plan out what I would do in case of an emergency when I am in a new place. I do this silently, in my head, and it is not apparent to others that I am anxious, it is just a way of life. Working with my therapist, it's unclear so far if this is a symptom of something out of the ordinary (ADHD is possible but the testing is taking a long time). CBT has been effective in helping me recognize that I do this and stop the rumination, but it still happens and likely always will. I can definitely say that I would personally feel more comfortable in a country with gun control.
I would also make the argument that there are many, many people in this country who can not feel safe in their own homes without a gun. I personally think that is the other side of the coin, and that many gun positive Americans are equally if not more afraid, even if they hide it better.
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Comment on Switch emulator Ryujinx is shut down in ~games
arch Link ParentWho knows, maybe they hired him as a full time employee. Maybe they want or need to use an emulator for Switch support on the Switch 2.Who knows, maybe they hired him as a full time employee. Maybe they want or need to use an emulator for Switch support on the Switch 2.
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Comment on Reddit moderators will now have to submit a request to switch their subreddit from public to private in ~tech
arch Link ParentI agree with you, the language they are using is at best a subtle attempt to appeal to the reader's sensibilities. If we are all being completely honest here, the people being hurt by subreddits...I agree with you, the language they are using is at best a subtle attempt to appeal to the reader's sensibilities. If we are all being completely honest here, the people being hurt by subreddits being set to private are the shareholders. For over a year now everything done by Reddit was in the interest of IPO, and now that it has happened everything they do is in the interest of instilling value for the shareholders.
Reading between the lines a little bit, I am also half expecting them to make some announcement in the coming weeks that will lead to another round of protests.
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Comment on Poppy - they're all around us (2024) in ~music
arch LinkWow, she really has come a long way from the "I'm Poppy" video that I remember her from. It's impressive to see someone stick with something for a decade and also keep turning it into something new.Wow, she really has come a long way from the "I'm Poppy" video that I remember her from. It's impressive to see someone stick with something for a decade and also keep turning it into something new.
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Comment on PC players must now install BattlEye anticheat to play GTA Online. Steam Deck and Linux users are locked out. in ~games
arch Link ParentIt's still possible to write undetectable Windows hacks, and to use macros, aimbots. Not that aimbots really matter, due to the leveling system and pay to win upgrades in the game they have...It's still possible to write undetectable Windows hacks, and to use macros, aimbots. Not that aimbots really matter, due to the leveling system and pay to win upgrades in the game they have sanctioned aimbots already. This does next to nothing to combat cheaters over allowing Linux support with BattleEye.
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Comment on How accurate is the conventional wisdom about dopamine? in ~health.mental
arch Link ParentCounterpoint, Dr. Kanojia holds a BS in biology from University of Texas at Austin, as well as a MD/MPH from Tufts University. He is a licensed and practicing Psychiatrist. He is not without...Counterpoint, Dr. Kanojia holds a BS in biology from University of Texas at Austin, as well as a MD/MPH from Tufts University. He is a licensed and practicing Psychiatrist. He is not without legitimate controversy, though I can't find any legitimate source of it being related to his views on pseudoscience. I can find plenty of it from youtube comments and the like, but nothing from a medical board or other medical professional. I in no way turned over every rock in looking.
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Comment on Bat loss linked to death of human infants in ~enviro
arch Link ParentGovernment regulation should be the solution there.Getting farmers to spray less pesticides when that means losing more crops doesn't seem all that feasible at present, although I could easily be wrong about that.
Government regulation should be the solution there.
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Comment on Can solar costs keep shrinking? in ~enviro
arch Link ParentAlso the cost of roof replacement and maintenance. You have to remove the panels to have work done on your roof, so it only really makes sense to me to get them installed with a new roof.Also the cost of roof replacement and maintenance. You have to remove the panels to have work done on your roof, so it only really makes sense to me to get them installed with a new roof.
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Comment on My experience buying a used low-range EV a year later in ~transport
arch Link ParentI believe a 220v circuit breaker should take up two slots and they need to be joined together like this example product. I believe if you combine from two circuit breakers and one of them trips...I believe a 220v circuit breaker should take up two slots and they need to be joined together like this example product. I believe if you combine from two circuit breakers and one of them trips but the other doesn't is a potential fire hazard. Maybe this magic box they sell has some sort of protection against that?
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Comment on My experience buying a used low-range EV a year later in ~transport
arch Link ParentIsn't that just a house wired for 220v then? The seems like a huge potential fire hazard. What happens if 1 circuit breaks but the other doesn't?Two 120 V grounded outlets on two different electrical phases
Isn't that just a house wired for 220v then? The seems like a huge potential fire hazard. What happens if 1 circuit breaks but the other doesn't?
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Comment on American teachers are burning out on the job in ~life
arch Link ParentIs work life balance notably worse for teachers than in any other field? My understanding based on my location is that it is better. They have more holidays, the summer off, etc. I understand that...Is work life balance notably worse for teachers than in any other field? My understanding based on my location is that it is better. They have more holidays, the summer off, etc. I understand that there is some out of school planning that goes on, grading homework, filling out paperwork, I've even had an elementary school teacher for my daughter he was gracious enough to respond to messages on a weekend when our daughter told us she was being bullied, but this was in no way a requirement of the job or an expectation on our part. We were extremely grateful for it and we made sure to shower her with thanks for it. The teachers I have known in my personal life have specifically told me that after the first few years, their lesson plans are pretty well set and they don't have much work during their downtime.
Could your sister have un-diagnosed depression, anxiety, or ADHD (speaking from personal experience here)?
If I'm remembering correctly (it was maybe 4 or more years ago) they blacked out and/or deleted the picture, and flagged it as potentially harmful, in way that insinuated the potential for child porn.