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  1. Comment on What if you don't know if you want a child? in ~life

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    Thanks for all the answers and sorry for the rambling and turning this into /r/relationships You guys gave me a lot to think about. I think the first step is fixing my issues with alcohol. I can't...

    Thanks for all the answers and sorry for the rambling and turning this into /r/relationships

    You guys gave me a lot to think about.

    I think the first step is fixing my issues with alcohol. I can't ask other people to do something I'm not doing myself. I'm not throwing the towel.

    If we can't fix our issues, we will have to split, but i'll think about this when we get there.

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  2. What if you don't know if you want a child?

    Sorry for the huge train of thought, but I prefer it raw like this. We are dating for 3.5 years and the subject came up a couple of times. We both didn't want, but it was not set in stone. We just...

    Sorry for the huge train of thought, but I prefer it raw like this.

    We are dating for 3.5 years and the subject came up a couple of times. We both didn't want, but it was not set in stone. We just didn't want at that time.

    Three days ago she said she want one in the future. I don't, but I'm not sure.

    I asked jokingly if this is where we have to let each other go.

    What now?

    I have three nieces and I know the hard work and problems my two brothers are dealing with (two are teenagers).

    I don't want that, but at the same time i look at my youngest niece and she is so amazing.

    I can't figure out if i want this or not.

    I don't think we should have kids because she is obese and dealing with food and anxiety issues, and I deal with anxiety and alcohol issues.

    I would teach them a good relationship with food. I'm active, eat clean, i'm slim, fit, lift weights, but have the problem with alcohol which i try to manage, but not at all. I drink too much at least once every one or two weeks.

    My SO eats junk food, soda, sugar, everything. She is obese now. She wasn't when we started dating. Overweight, but not obese.
    She is now at risk of diabetes. I hate it and i'm resenting this to the point I lost attraction.

    It got to the point were i feel ashamed when I see her family eating a lot, which is all they do. Her brother was ok, now he is obese. His girlfriend turned obese.

    I know people say you need to break up because we are incompatible, but it doesn't work like this. We are good together in every other aspect. We treat each other with respect, we have hobbies in common, we are a good couple on the surface.

    If I break up, what reason I could give? It's not a matter of just telling "we are incompatible" after almost 4 years.

    I have no health issues when i checked with the doctor last year.

    We both made promises of solving these issues, but it's not happening.

    If we have a child, who teaches him about food, what to eat or not? What should we buy? And about alcohol?

    Gym and fitness. I adore. She does not. What example should we give to our kid?

    Alcohol. I drink a lot. She drinks, but only enough.

    How does this work?

    This is eating me alive...

    Edit: we don't live together and have jobs at different cities. In this pandemic we are at our homes, which is the same city, but once this pass we will live apart until one of us can transfer to live together.

    18 votes
  3. Comment on Anyone still listening to music with files instead of streaming? in ~music

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    Nothing. I just like to have the music available as files for me. And i convert to mp3 to listen on my car (usb thumb drive) and opus on my phone. I don't want to subscribe to a service and...

    Nothing. I just like to have the music available as files for me.

    And i convert to mp3 to listen on my car (usb thumb drive) and opus on my phone. I don't want to subscribe to a service and install apps for that kind of thing.

    1 vote
  4. Comment on Anyone still listening to music with files instead of streaming? in ~music

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    Yes. I still download music (flac) because i only listen to full albums. I like to listen the way the artist intended and go through an entire album instead of listen to single songs here and there.

    Yes. I still download music (flac) because i only listen to full albums.

    I like to listen the way the artist intended and go through an entire album instead of listen to single songs here and there.

    2 votes
  5. Comment on What have you been listening to this week? in ~music

  6. Comment on What's something that's better than expected? in ~talk

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    Same. The only way i find peanut butter good is in a shake with milk and fruit. When it was easy to find in my city i bought Maniforce to make protein shakes, now i can only find on MercadoLivre....

    Same. The only way i find peanut butter good is in a shake with milk and fruit.

    When it was easy to find in my city i bought Maniforce to make protein shakes, now i can only find on MercadoLivre. Any other way it was just bad.

  7. Comment on What's something that's better than expected? in ~talk

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    While the tinnitus were way worse during the infection, it is here to stay forever. The ear infection was pretty bad. I took antibiotics for 10 days and the pain in the first day was so extreme I...

    While the tinnitus were way worse during the infection, it is here to stay forever.

    The ear infection was pretty bad. I took antibiotics for 10 days and the pain in the first day was so extreme I almost cried. It was like having a knife in my ear.
    The damage is permanent.

    Thankfully that was my only ear infection and the tinnitus is not loud.

    1 vote
  8. Comment on What's something that's better than expected? in ~talk

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    Sorry to hear that (no pun intended). The father of a girl i dated briefly had super loud tinnitus. I think he worked in construction. She said it really annoyed him. Some people have it so bad...

    Sorry to hear that (no pun intended).

    The father of a girl i dated briefly had super loud tinnitus. I think he worked in construction. She said it really annoyed him. Some people have it so bad that it leads to depression in some cases.

    I gave this to myself when my drunken ass thought it was a good night to clean my ears (i have wax buildup problems) and didn't dried correctly. Slept with water in my ears and next day i got an infection that dropped me to my knees.

    Been hearing the noise since. Biggest regret of my life.

    A doctor said GINKGO BILOBA helps in some cases, but it's just a myth.

    1 vote
  9. Comment on What's something that's better than expected? in ~talk

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    Me too. Not too loud and i notice more only when i talk about it, but yes... the last time i experienced silence was 8 years ago.

    Me too. Not too loud and i notice more only when i talk about it, but yes... the last time i experienced silence was 8 years ago.

    1 vote
  10. Comment on What are you reading these days? in ~books

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    No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai. I watched a movie about it a year ago and am only now reading the book. I'm liking a lot. Pretty short book.

    No Longer Human by Osamu Dazai.

    I watched a movie about it a year ago and am only now reading the book. I'm liking a lot.

    Pretty short book.

    1 vote
  11. Comment on What are your internet time sinks? in ~talk

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    Oh my i didn't knew about Neocities. It's so awesome. Feels like going back in time.

    Oh my i didn't knew about Neocities. It's so awesome. Feels like going back in time.

    3 votes
  12. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    I was thinking of getting a small midi controller with 37 or 49 keys, plug in the computer and have all the sounds I want. Could learn how to play some videogame songs I like.

    I was thinking of getting a small midi controller with 37 or 49 keys, plug in the computer and have all the sounds I want.

    Could learn how to play some videogame songs I like.

    3 votes
  13. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    Kept thinking about playing guitar again. I played for three years I think and got tired of it. Sold my amp, guitar, everything. 3 or 4 years ago I borrowed one for some days because I wanted to...

    Kept thinking about playing guitar again.

    I played for three years I think and got tired of it. Sold my amp, guitar, everything. 3 or 4 years ago I borrowed one for some days because I wanted to play again. Touched it one day and never more.

    Now I'm getting the urge again, but it is a time and money commitment to do this again and I fear it will be all the same.

    Is there any way to know if this will stick before going after everything? I don't have any to borrow anymore.

    I think I will give a time until the end of this pandemic. I might just be bored...

    After things go back to normal if i still want this, I will go after it.

    With work, my courses and other things going on I'm sure I won't care so much about adding another commitment.

    4 votes
  14. Comment on What's something you've learned about yourself recently? in ~talk

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    Agree. I'm not sleeping well at all. Sleeping late and waking up early. Without the gym, walking everywhere and my vitamin d supplement, i'm a mess. I'm not gonna lie and say that i'm hating not...

    I've also found my sleep schedule to be completely chaotic, and I think part of it is attributable to disrupting my circadian rhythm due to lack of sunlight, and higher than normal energy due to lack of exercise. It's something I had been trying to work on prior to quarantine, but boy is it apparent how much the simple act of going outside can change your whole mood.

    Agree. I'm not sleeping well at all. Sleeping late and waking up early.

    Without the gym, walking everywhere and my vitamin d supplement, i'm a mess.

    I'm not gonna lie and say that i'm hating not have to work, but the trade off is not worth it.

    3 votes
  15. Comment on What's something you've learned about yourself recently? in ~talk

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    Just to offer a perspective. I was like that. Never did anything and got good grades. Until i didn't because the subjects became much harder and i never learned how to study. Learning how to study...

    Before lockdown, I could just kinda absorb stuff in class and not really have to do any extra studying outside of class, but now, that's all there is. I guess it's better that I get used to studying now instead of getting blindsided later.

    Just to offer a perspective. I was like that. Never did anything and got good grades. Until i didn't because the subjects became much harder and i never learned how to study.

    Learning how to study is something that will help you forever. I learned late at 30 and i regret not doing it when i was a kid.

    8 votes
  16. Comment on What's something you've learned about yourself recently? in ~talk

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    I'm 33 and lived with my parents until one year ago. I moved to another city 4 hours away from were i was living. I didn't start living alone, i got in a house with a bunch of people to save money...

    I'm 33 and lived with my parents until one year ago. I moved to another city 4 hours away from were i was living.

    I didn't start living alone, i got in a house with a bunch of people to save money and not buy so much stuff first. I started living completely alone 4 months ago.

    It is awesome. I'm growing as a person, i feel happy and independent and i started thinking what you are thinking.

    I'm in a relationship of 3.5 years. I come back almost every weekend to see her and my family, but when i'm alone at my new home i feel more free and happy.

    Now with this COVID thing i'm back at home with my parents and i'm a mess, but i think everybody is a little depressed because of this pandemic.

    Anyway... I attribute that to the novelty of living all by yourself and not needing to compromise for anything. I don't dislike being with my SO. We get along well. It's just that i've been living with people for 32 years and only now i'm learning how to live alone.

    Now my SO will move to another city to live alone too. I think she will have more problems because she dislikes being alone even in her house when her parents are away, but i hope she can learn to appreciate it.

    Probably every person who lives with another one for some time have the same feeling when they are away. Is not the first time i read about this.

    I too prefer to have alone time to do my things, so i think this has to be clear if you choose to stay with her and live together in the future.

    Anyway, i don't really know if being alone in my case is better or worse. What i know is that i like her and we are good together and this is hard to find nowadays. Just offering my perspective, but in the end it's up to you.

    Give it half a year or more living alone and see if things change.

    3 votes
  17. Comment on Do you think there is anything from the past we should bring back? in ~talk

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    Static websites.

    Static websites.

    2 votes
  18. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    I ain't doing anything after lockdown. Every four or five days i do 4 sets of ab-wheel, 4 sets of dips, 4 sets of pike press, 4 sets of pistol squats and that's it. I miss the gym. I miss my old...

    I ain't doing anything after lockdown.

    Every four or five days i do 4 sets of ab-wheel, 4 sets of dips, 4 sets of pike press, 4 sets of pistol squats and that's it.

    I miss the gym. I miss my old routine.

    3 votes
  19. Comment on What old tech are you holding onto and why? in ~tech

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    Is this a thing only in US? I have a Paperwhite 3 and it shows no ads (Brazil). I think I will never turn airplane mode off just to be safe. Maybe it will appear in a future update.

    Is this a thing only in US? I have a Paperwhite 3 and it shows no ads (Brazil).

    I think I will never turn airplane mode off just to be safe. Maybe it will appear in a future update.

  20. Comment on The zen of KISS Linux in ~comp

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    Yeah i know, but it's a compromise i'm willing to make for now. It's not super sensitive information.

    Yeah i know, but it's a compromise i'm willing to make for now. It's not super sensitive information.