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  1. Comment on Russian police raid NGINX Moscow office in ~tech

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    Here is another source, definitely doesn't appear to be good for Nginx or those of us that manage it. https://habr.com/en/post/479968/

    Here is another source, definitely doesn't appear to be good for Nginx or those of us that manage it.
    https://habr.com/en/post/479968/

    3 votes

  2. Comment on What does your ideal Friday night look like? in ~talk

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    My wife and I just had a baby. Tonight is my night to watch and feed her for the late shift. We've been trading off the duty every night since she was born. This way we both get REM at least every...

    My wife and I just had a baby. Tonight is my night to watch and feed her for the late shift. We've been trading off the duty every night since she was born. This way we both get REM at least every other night. So far this has kept us sane if not fairly tired.

    Thankfully, from experience this should only last a few more months. Sleep... you're coming someday!

    4 votes

  3. Comment on Why every cyclist needs a pool noodle in ~hobbies

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    I think this is great problem solving. It's: Cheap Improves Safety A Great Conversation Starter Easy to mount vertically when not needed I've personally been hit by a car, and the most stressful...

    I think this is great problem solving. It's:

    • Cheap
    • Improves Safety
    • A Great Conversation Starter
    • Easy to mount vertically when not needed

    I've personally been hit by a car, and the most stressful time is biking in the mountains or islands of Washington state with little or no shoulder. Will I add it to my work commute? Probably not. But for low visibility and dangerous curvy mountain roads, it's definitely something I would consider.

    14 votes

  4. Comment on Epic Games Store - Mega Sale - Up to 75% off and $10 off every game $14.99+ in ~games

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    Caved and finally created an epic account for this. ♪~ ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ

    Caved and finally created an epic account for this. ♪~ ᕕ(ᐛ)ᕗ

    1 vote

  5. Comment on Is there an app for this? Help me fix my terrible security in ~tech

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    No love yet for 1Password? I do think I'm grandfathered in to the old non-cloud plan, but it's great if you need more "commercial" support. e.g. You have a non-technical boss that doesn't like...

    No love yet for 1Password? I do think I'm grandfathered in to the old non-cloud plan, but it's great if you need more "commercial" support. e.g. You have a non-technical boss that doesn't like that "open source crap".

    1password is integrated into iOS now and works really well in most App situations. (There is also autofill support and apps for many major platforms including linux, Android, and Chrome). For those situations where autofill doesn't work. I simply summon the app via hotkey and you can search and copy the password without having to leave the keyboard. (Workflow is slightly less ideal on the phone, but still).

    All of this said, I joined the 1Password family a long time ago before there were the options today. I haven't tried KeePass or some of the alternatives mentioned here.

    Although I would avoid Lastpass, especially in a group situation. Due to the poor browser implementation if you have access to a login you can reveal the password, even if the person sharing has disabled that feature. How? Lastpass stores the actual password in it's "password" input. Changing this input to type="text" reveals the password. Boo... So easy to fix too...

    Good luck in your hunt!

    4 votes

  6. Comment on What's an important life lesson that you learned far later than you should have? in ~talk

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    That concepts, our thoughts and perspectives, are really just illusions. When we develop as humans, one of the first thing (for most of us) is the development of language. We learn simple sounds...
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    That concepts, our thoughts and perspectives, are really just illusions.

    When we develop as humans, one of the first thing (for most of us) is the development of language. We learn simple sounds have meaning. We begin to use those sounds in reference to very powerful forces in our lives. "Dad", "Mom", "Me", your given name and more begin to shape a "reality" that we interact and grow in.

    As the years go on we develop a whole identity out of concepts that we invest with emotion and meaning. Things that happened to us, our social circles and status, our jobs and rolls in society. Of course there is nothing inherently wrong with this and actually we need our concepts and stories to function in society.

    That said, this process creates an inherent error in that by default we treat these concepts and identity as reality instead of referencing reality. We interact with our thoughts, feelings and stories as if they were absolutely real rather than relatively real. This "unconsciousness" keeps us trapped in old toxic patterns and causes much of the suffering on the planet. This is how minimization and demonization work; propagandists create a concept of "the other" that is small and evil. e.g. "Democrats support killing newborn babies!". For humans that are unaware of how this happens they start to imagine evil people that are dangerous and scary because they are going to come steal and murder your baby. Taken to an extreme humans murder each other because they've reduced "the other" to an immanent threat.

    Beyond society, it causes problems at a personal level. I personally had some very toxic coping mechanisms and self-beliefs that drove me in my early 20's. I didn't believe I was lovable. I believed I was destined to become an addict like my father. I had created a toxic identity that ruled my life. I thought there was no escape and it destroyed my first family.

    The hardest thing about learning this however is that it's a sort of anti-concept. Mindfulness, Presence, "Be in the moment" are all concepts that try to point to this practice. I describe it as simply being aware of your thoughts without buying into your thoughts. But regardless it's only something that can be experienced, not intellectualized.

    When my life shattered I met people that taught me about these processes in our mind and I started to see that the stories about myself and the world that I bought into were just stories. At that moment I started interacting with the reality that was happening to me right now rather than interacting with stories in my head.

    In other words, the only thing that is real is this moment. The moment in which you are reading this. Everything else, your future, your past only exist in your head. When are you thinking about the future? Now. When are you thinking about the past? Now. Therefor you can only ever change anything now.

    I really can't describe how powerful it is not to interact with the world through all these stories. Stories put there by our parents, cultures, countries and our selves. When we interact with the reality presented to us in the present moment without the judgments of our stories and pain, we can more clearly see our next steps toward the life we want to live. I personally went from broke, with a broken family to living one of the best lives I could imagine with a fabulous family, work environment and almost no fear or anxiety.

    I believe that had I learned this skill at 20 rather than 29 I wouldn't have destroyed my first marriage, I also think I would have excelled in my career much sooner. That said, I wouldn't change a thing about my journey here. I have a life worth living. I only hope I can continue to share it with my friends, family and children. :-)

    Edit: Edited some phrasing for better clarity.

    3 votes

  7. Comment on How do you structure larger projects? in ~comp

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    Could you tell us a bit more about the outcome these modules are trying to achieve? Are they doing large amounts of ETL of data? Data modeling? Etc? Most starter templates for various applications...

    Could you tell us a bit more about the outcome these modules are trying to achieve? Are they doing large amounts of ETL of data? Data modeling? Etc?

    Most starter templates for various applications types will give you a decent starter organization of your source and header files. But in my experience it’s ultimately dependent on your use-case.

    2 votes

  8. Comment on <deleted topic> in ~tildes

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    These reports would be a great place to "Triage" from to prioritize and highlight items that contributors can grab and start working on. :-)

    These reports would be a great place to "Triage" from to prioritize and highlight items that contributors can grab and start working on. :-)

    3 votes

  9. Comment on Markdown preview is now available when writing topics/comments/etc. in ~tildes.official

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    Fantastic contribution @wirelyre, I was just wishing for this yesterday. :-)

    Fantastic contribution @wirelyre, I was just wishing for this yesterday. :-)

    3 votes

  10. Comment on Avengers Endgame discussion thread, potential spoilers in ~movies

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    I agree, very much a "this should be interesting" feeling after that scene

    I agree, very much a "this should be interesting" feeling after that scene

    6 votes

  11. Comment on What is, in your opinion, missing on Tildes? in ~tildes

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    I'm looking forward to getting reputation management logic iterating. The reputation roadmap is a great start and will help start communities self-manage as they grow. In addition one of the...

    I'm looking forward to getting reputation management logic iterating. The reputation roadmap is a great start and will help start communities self-manage as they grow.

    In addition one of the things I loved about the old BBS communities was that community-leaders came from the community and were identified as such. We had visuals that established someone's reputation on sight and helped the user gauge the source. It would be cool to think of some ways we could simply promote those users that contribute strongly to the culture and/or content of a group.

    6 votes

  12. Comment on What is, in your opinion, missing on Tildes? in ~tildes

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    For a community like Tildes people are being thoughtful about the discussions they engage in. It takes more time to engage in thoughtful conversation vs throwing memes around. We'll all just have...

    For a community like Tildes people are being thoughtful about the discussions they engage in. It takes more time to engage in thoughtful conversation vs throwing memes around. We'll all just have to engage more.

    I can say that I now check Tildes first prior to going to Reddit or alternatives. :-)

    10 votes

  13. Comment on The first ever World Health Organisation (WHO) physical activity guidelines for under-fives, recommend no screen time for one-year-olds and no more than an hour for two- to-four-year-olds. in ~life

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    As a father of 4 and a techie I can say that these guidelines are right on. Kids thrive when you engage with them. Bring activities with you to the restaurant or where-ever that engage them....

    As a father of 4 and a techie I can say that these guidelines are right on. Kids thrive when you engage with them. Bring activities with you to the restaurant or where-ever that engage them.

    Personally, I find the phone to be the least helpful in placating children. At best it seems to just "delay" whatever you were distracting them from.

    5 votes

  14. Comment on The tyranny of convenience in ~life

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    I see this as a major difference in my interactions with with people that identify in various ways on the extreme edges of the political spectrum. It's a lack of awareness over the decisions being...

    Everyone defaults to the convenient thing in areas they haven't thought too hard about.

    I see this as a major difference in my interactions with with people that identify in various ways on the extreme edges of the political spectrum. It's a lack of awareness over the decisions being made. Strong ego identification (something that presents strongly in extreme ideologies) is, from my perspective, the foundation of all of the conflict we are experiencing today.

    One's concept of ones-self by default is all-consuming. Most people live as if the patterns they are living out in their lives are realty. Rather than most probably just an effective evolutionary strategy for survival.

    The fascinating thing I've been experiencing over and over through the last two years of American politics is how much certain humans value stability above all else. While I understand the argument that humans put convenience above all else, isn't this just a consequence of maximizing our competitiveness by taking advantages presented to us?

    2 votes