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  1. Comment on Hey, monthly mystery commenters, what's up with the hit-and-runs? in ~tildes

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    What did you expect to get from this? From my point of view and experience as an anxious person, it seems more of a personal than an intellectual pursuit. You started talking about how people...

    What did you expect to get from this? From my point of view and experience as an anxious person, it seems more of a personal than an intellectual pursuit. You started talking about how people ghosted you in particular before generalizing, then I see you checking users profiles to see if they fit the bill.

    I'm really trying to understand. We all have an inherent need for closure that can be frustrating to be denied. You could change the question to "Does it happen to you too?" and maybe realize it's just a fact of life.

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  2. Comment on Recommendations for laid-back games in ~games

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    I played it with a friend online. Not sure if I used some third party app or steam remote play together.

    I played it with a friend online. Not sure if I used some third party app or steam remote play together.

  3. Comment on No more phone number swaps: Signal messaging app now testing usernames in ~tech

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    Did you mean to say that people can't see your phone number if they added you by username or in a group?

    Did you mean to say that people can't see your phone number if they added you by username or in a group?

  4. Comment on America's most controversial bike lane – a center-lane takeover in ~transport

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    It feels more complex than what cyclists would expect, and confusing at first glance. Bad as a barrier of entry, I'd say, but something to get used to. One of the complaints, if I understood...

    It feels more complex than what cyclists would expect, and confusing at first glance. Bad as a barrier of entry, I'd say, but something to get used to.

    One of the complaints, if I understood correctly, is the loss of convenience. Cyclists getting closer to the pathways of other road vehicles, unable to move as freely. This I feel as a compromise that I'd get behind. Less freedom, more respect.

    3 votes

  5. Comment on What comes after Marvel? Better hope it’s not something worse in ~movies

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    I was going to make the same argument, but, curiously, the part I disagree with you was the basis of mine. I believe the problem is that people don't really watch multiple good movies in sequence....

    I was going to make the same argument, but, curiously, the part I disagree with you was the basis of mine. I believe the problem is that people don't really watch multiple good movies in sequence. And, given the option, they will go with what's familiar.

    Maybe, part of the issue is the high praise for a mega franchise affects their identities. For instance, when I see someone saying Endgame is the best movie of all time, I really get confused. Any other movie before wouldn't bother me, but I just can't understand the thought. Then you have these people that dedicated their lives to the craft and now have to deal with a cultural shift nobody expected. Other parts are elitism and their egos getting hurt, and the media exposing personal opinions as grand declarations.

    2 votes

  6. Comment on Firefox will support at least 200 new extensions on Android this December in ~tech

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    I was about to give up on the android version yesterday before I realized that tampermonkey is available. Lack of extensions is one of the biggest complaints I always see from conversations.

    I was about to give up on the android version yesterday before I realized that tampermonkey is available. Lack of extensions is one of the biggest complaints I always see from conversations.

    6 votes

  7. Comment on Are colonoscopies worth it? in ~health

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    The people I know who had the procedure here in Brazil really hated the prep and it's considerably different. The diet changes two or three days before and it starts being horrible then. They...

    The people I know who had the procedure here in Brazil really hated the prep and it's considerably different. The diet changes two or three days before and it starts being horrible then. They really make sure that your insides are clean and clear.

    2 votes

  8. Comment on ‘Killers Of The Flower Moon’ intermission imposed by handful of theaters spurs intervention from Paramount in ~movies

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    Refills might be a bigger factor than we realize. I always hear that the money the theaters make doesn't come from the ticket, and a movie that could be two will not be as lucrative for sure.

    Refills might be a bigger factor than we realize. I always hear that the money the theaters make doesn't come from the ticket, and a movie that could be two will not be as lucrative for sure.

    7 votes

  9. Comment on "Rabbit Test" by Samantha Mills in ~life.women

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    Reading this, I realize that most of the history that really matters to my everyday life I didn't learn at school or is really considered all that important in the great scheme of things.

    Reading this, I realize that most of the history that really matters to my everyday life I didn't learn at school or is really considered all that important in the great scheme of things.

    2 votes

  10. Comment on There's too many fitness videos on Youtube, I can't decide which one to do in ~health

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    I recommend checking www.fitnessblender.com The videos are on YouTube, but you can use filters by using the site and choose workout time, equipment, which part to focus and more. I've been using...

    I recommend checking www.fitnessblender.com

    The videos are on YouTube, but you can use filters by using the site and choose workout time, equipment, which part to focus and more. I've been using their workouts for several years now.

    3 votes

  11. Comment on After two decades the dominance of Google Search comes into question in ~tech

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    There's a moment I realized that whatever I knew about good practices for searching should be replaced by all the natural practices from the general population. Search engines were optimized for...

    There's a moment I realized that whatever I knew about good practices for searching should be replaced by all the natural practices from the general population. Search engines were optimized for their use. Probably when I stopped bothering going beyond the second page.

    8 votes

  12. Comment on The issues with reusable straws in ~enviro

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    It was all framed from the point of view of people with disabilities and that there isn't a single catchall alternative. All hard alternatives can be dangerous to people with muscle control...

    It was all framed from the point of view of people with disabilities and that there isn't a single catchall alternative.

    All hard alternatives can be dangerous to people with muscle control issues. They will hurt their mouths. People drink soup.

    3 votes

  13. Comment on Sick woman theory in ~health

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    -- The concept of invisible disability comes to mind. They are not so much invisible as just more easily ignored. Disability becomes invisible when your spaces don't allow our presence, when your...

    Psychologists have constructed a myth – that somewhere there exists some state of health which is the norm, meaning that most people presumably are in that state, and those who are anxious, depressed, neurotic, distressed, or generally unhappy are deviant.

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    The Sick Woman is a disabled person who couldn’t go to the lecture on disability rights because it was held in a venue without accessibility.

    The concept of invisible disability comes to mind. They are not so much invisible as just more easily ignored. Disability becomes invisible when your spaces don't allow our presence, when your activities don't accommodate our participation, when your solution is simply to fix us because you believed we are just wrong.

    I knew about the reality women faced when seeking medical treatment before, but the way it was framed resonated with me even more this time. We can be oppressed in so many different ways that we get separated and forget how much society can equalize us by their mistreatment. There are so many ways of oppresing our peers that we should be vigilante not to be contributing to the wrong movement. And silencing is the sin on the menu today.

    Silencing is not hearing one's story, and if we believe everyone should have a voice, we need to go after those who can't speak or find it difficult to do so instead of expecting them to show up. Make spreading other people stories part of your political acts, make them visible in the spaces you visit, in the spaces you want them to visit.

    11 votes

  15. User accountability and complicated technologies

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    I've been thinking about the arguments that are increasingly common when dealing with tech: "it's too complicated" and "I just want something that works". My father gifted a used computer to me...

    I've been thinking about the arguments that are increasingly common when dealing with tech: "it's too complicated" and "I just want something that works".

    My father gifted a used computer to me and my brother when we were kids. Ours to use, ours to take care. He would pay for the eventual screw up, but we had to walk several blocks carrying the tower to get assistance.

    I messed up a lot over the years, mostly because I wanted to explore the little that I knew and learn more. I had some magazines that expected everything to go well if instructions were followed and no access to internet forums to ask for help. I was limited to just one language as well. I had to find a way out. Nowadays things are much more simple and really just work, until they don't and I can't really fix them.

    In this world, what people can do is complain. Or offer a report of how things went wrong and wait patiently. It's not even that common for people in general to just go back to the version that worked. There's no version, only the app we use or can't use and it's not our responsibility any kind of maintenance.

    I have to confess I was going in another direction when I started, but things are really limited from a consumer's point of view. In part, it's our fault for not wanting to deal with the burden of knowledge, it inevitably takes the control away from us, but big tech really approves and incentives this behavior.

    As with so many problems I see in the world, education is the solution. And educating ourselves might be the only dependable option.

    10 votes

  16. Comment on Why AI detectors think the US Constitution was written by AI in ~tech

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    In a practical way, all the solutions are welcome and I'm glad people come forth to offer them. That said, I can't advocate an attitude that rewards power abuse. Prepare for the worst, but don't...

    In a practical way, all the solutions are welcome and I'm glad people come forth to offer them. That said, I can't advocate an attitude that rewards power abuse. Prepare for the worst, but don't accept the worst as the norm.

  17. Comment on What do you think on how suicide prevention is handled in the world? What can be done better? in ~health.mental

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    And I was trying to make an argument against infantilization. I get what you're saying, but we got to the point that we are just throwing opinions without any backing in reality.

    And I was trying to make an argument against infantilization. I get what you're saying, but we got to the point that we are just throwing opinions without any backing in reality.

    2 votes

  18. Comment on Why AI detectors think the US Constitution was written by AI in ~tech

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    I'm a little horrified that the comments accepted the fact you should be defending yourself instead of disputing the accusations. Think of it this way: one of you is doing the work, the other uses...

    I'm a little horrified that the comments accepted the fact you should be defending yourself instead of disputing the accusations. Think of it this way: one of you is doing the work, the other uses tech to do the work because they would not be able otherwise.

    4 votes

  19. Comment on What do you think on how suicide prevention is handled in the world? What can be done better? in ~health.mental

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    People don't want to die, they want to kill the suffering. They take their own lives because they don't see any other option. And the fact they may or may not actually have an option is not...

    People don't want to die, they want to kill the suffering. They take their own lives because they don't see any other option. And the fact they may or may not actually have an option is not important, they won't see it. You don't let drunk people make decisions that will harm them, you don't let people with their mental capacity impaired harm themselves.

    I agree we are treating the symptoms and are much part of the problem as a society.

    2 votes

  20. Comment on How bisexuality changed video games in ~games

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    I guess it will depend on how you play the game. You can role play, which will limit your options, or just don't care about the narrative and be efficient. It reminds me of some MMOs with factions...

    I guess it will depend on how you play the game. You can role play, which will limit your options, or just don't care about the narrative and be efficient. It reminds me of some MMOs with factions at war that never battled because top clans decided all should be at the same side.

    There's always the case of players optimizing the fun out of games.

    2 votes