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  1. Comment on Why brainwashing yourself keeps you stuck in life in ~health.mental

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    Hard no here. A psychiatrist very much learns psychotherapy and all that in their training. They actually do that in their residence. In short, a psychiatrist can do what a psychologist can do...

    Hard no here. A psychiatrist very much learns psychotherapy and all that in their training. They actually do that in their residence.

    In short, a psychiatrist can do what a psychologist can do therapy will se, plus the medical background.

    4 votes

  2. Comment on Struggling with first dev job - seeking advice in ~tech

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    Oh boy, I’m sorry that you ended up in such a mess. To reaffirm what has already been said. This is not what a junior position should be like. At the same time, it is what it is. And there is a...

    Oh boy, I’m sorry that you ended up in such a mess. To reaffirm what has already been said. This is not what a junior position should be like.

    At the same time, it is what it is. And there is a thing called radical acceptance. Which means to completely embrace and, well, accept reality as it is. Those are the cards you have been dealt.

    How is your relationship to your supervisor? Tech lead, team lead, whatever they are called. Are there more people in your team working around that code? Do they know the situation? Do they have your back?

    Like others have said. The sorry state the system you’re working on is not your responsibility.

    Probably a huge issue is prioritizing and triaging issues. What is the next step to take? So I would start making a long list of things that you see that should be done. Again, is there someone else working with you that can support? Even if they are not a dev.

    8 votes

  3. Comment on Let's build a playlist! in ~music

  4. Comment on Let's build a playlist! in ~music

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    Talking Heads: This must be the place (Naive Melody) [Live // Stop making sense] Die Sterne: Hallo Euphoria Bomb the bass: Bug Powder Dust [Kruder & Dorfmeister Remix] Dota Kehr: Vergiftet The...
    • Talking Heads: This must be the place (Naive Melody) [Live // Stop making sense]
    • Die Sterne: Hallo Euphoria
    • Bomb the bass: Bug Powder Dust [Kruder & Dorfmeister Remix]
    • Dota Kehr: Vergiftet
    • The Knife: Pass This On
    2 votes

  5. Comment on Routine and structure are very valuable to me for performing my best and achieving my goals. With my first kid on the way, any tips for getting back on track when days go "off script?" in ~life

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    And then, boom, one of those naps on hour chest will have been the last one and you didn’t even realize that at the time. It’s like they say. The nights are long but the years are short.

    And then, boom, one of those naps on hour chest will have been the last one and you didn’t even realize that at the time.

    It’s like they say. The nights are long but the years are short.

    3 votes

  6. Comment on Routine and structure are very valuable to me for performing my best and achieving my goals. With my first kid on the way, any tips for getting back on track when days go "off script?" in ~life

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    Good to see another flexible routine person. I just posted a rambling post below/above discussing this.

    Good to see another flexible routine person. I just posted a rambling post below/above discussing this.

    3 votes

  7. Comment on Routine and structure are very valuable to me for performing my best and achieving my goals. With my first kid on the way, any tips for getting back on track when days go "off script?" in ~life

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    Couple of things to unpack in your post. I would start with that routine. Good news is, kids love routines. At least in my experience. Bad news is, they suck at sticking to it. They’ll need you to...

    Couple of things to unpack in your post.

    I would start with that routine. Good news is, kids love routines. At least in my experience. Bad news is, they suck at sticking to it. They’ll need you to show them. The good thing is that they have no point of reference in the beginning. So everything you show them is normal to them. It’s you setting the standards.

    What we did with our two children was to develop a routine for the evening. Dinner, play, bath, cuddle and read, sing, sleep. In that order. What was flexible was the time.

    We could have dinner early or a bit later. Depending on what was happening that day. Sometimes we could play a little or a bit more, depending on the day. You get the idea. But it was always the same pattern.

    That way we could on the one hand adjust organically to the needs in the moments while at the same time give our children and us a framework of what to expect and what to do. It was the routine, no questions asked.

    I did then also develop the habit of planning in little pockets of time. I did for example pass the time on a commute editing images and that way creating a nice series of digital collages. That way I didn’t have to give up my lofty dream of being an artist, while at the same time not suffer under the situation that I wouldn’t get a couple of uninterrupted hours in one block to do unpaid work. That being said, it is important to get some time to take care of yourself, but it’s a matter of negotiation with your partner and checking in with everyone.

    You have around twelve years until your child tells you to leave them alone. Enjoy them and make the most out of them, you won’t get them back. Your dreams are patient, your child not so much.

    Another thing is developing a triage system that works for you. You won’t get everything done, so choose wisely. (Watching the wall for half an hour is a valid, fulfilling activity, trust me).

    As your child grows, they’ll a) get more and more independent, so you will get more time for your own things. I first noticed this when they left the diapers. Suddenly some magic little windows of time opened up and at first I had to adjust and had no idea what to do with this extra time I had available and b) the activities you can do together become more and more grown up. E.g. I recently went to a maker space with my kids and we had a blast 3D printing some little figurines. I got to tinker with tech and spent time with them. Awesome.

    The first years are a bit like surfing. You can steer to a certain degree where you’re going, but the wave has a momentum of its own. Some days you’ll screw up and some days you’ll ride and feel unbeatable. It’s important to be kind to yourself either way and learn to be forgiving. There’s another wave tomorrow.

    Communication with your partner is key.

    14 votes

  8. Comment on How frequently does vscode save dirty files? in ~comp

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    Nothing gets lost? I can write in a file, not save, restart the computer and continue editing from where I was. Using it in my day job and while I’m not a personal fan, it’s really reliable.

    Nothing gets lost? I can write in a file, not save, restart the computer and continue editing from where I was.

    Using it in my day job and while I’m not a personal fan, it’s really reliable.

    3 votes

  9. Comment on The quick trick for softening canned chickpeas for silky-smooth hummus, stews, and more in ~food

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    The soda trick also reduces the soaking time for dried beans and chickpeas. Another trick is soaking them in warm to medium hot water. But yes, you’ll want a pressure cooker. We got a Ninja Foodi...

    The soda trick also reduces the soaking time for dried beans and chickpeas.

    Another trick is soaking them in warm to medium hot water.

    But yes, you’ll want a pressure cooker. We got a Ninja Foodi last year and it’s a seriously great cooker. Best thing is that it turns of by itself. Slow cooked beans are also awesome.

    I usually prepare a big pot of beans and then freeze batches. Gives me a similar convenience as having canned beans, with the added benefit of them already being seasoned and ready to go.

    14 votes

  10. Comment on German court says far-right AfD is suspected of extremism in ~society

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    Of course, none of this comes as a surprise if one stops and listen to those being affected by it, who have said this since basically forever. It’s just now that the nazi are getting bold enough...

    Of course, none of this comes as a surprise if one stops and listen to those being affected by it, who have said this since basically forever. It’s just now that the nazi are getting bold enough to not only hurt minorities and marginalized, but also punch white cis-males into surgery that this gets the attention it should have gotten from the get go.

    Guess it goes to show that (most) people only start to care once they are affected.

    2 votes

  11. Comment on German court says far-right AfD is suspected of extremism in ~society

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    Not only are they unhappy. They are privileged white racist, classist, sexist, ableist and call themselves christians who never had a reality check and now, thanks to a lack of media competence...

    Not only are they unhappy. They are privileged white racist, classist, sexist, ableist and call themselves christians who never had a reality check and now, thanks to a lack of media competence believed the populists that they are threatened.

    Also it didn’t help that Germany for decades had a conservative white government that couldn’t have cared less about nazi groups organizing and networking effectively since the 90s. This lead to them now being highly connected and established in their regions.

    And only now that white politicians get attacked every one is starting to call for the police and is shocked about neo-nazi violence. We have a systemic and structural issue here.

    How do we change that?

    2 votes

  12. Comment on Best "dad" jokes and puns! in ~talk

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    When does a joke turn into a dad joke?When it becomes a parent.
    When does a joke turn into a dad joke?When it becomes a parent.
    2 votes

  13. Comment on Kagi recently changed their dark mode, fix inside in ~tech

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    I found that (for me at least) the issue with the broken dark mode was when it was set on System in the settings. Setting it explicitly on Dark fixed the issues for me. Thanks for the CSS though.

    I found that (for me at least) the issue with the broken dark mode was when it was set on System in the settings. Setting it explicitly on Dark fixed the issues for me.

    Thanks for the CSS though.

    1 vote

  14. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    Fell of my training plan. Race day is beginning of May and I am bad out of shape after this winter. I love running, but at the moment it is something I should be doing more often. Those are the...

    Fell of my training plan. Race day is beginning of May and I am bad out of shape after this winter. I love running, but at the moment it is something I should be doing more often. Those are the times when it is not fun.

    Dang. Will go out now and run.

    1 vote

  15. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    Congrats. I will not drink with you today.

    Congrats. I will not drink with you today.

    1 vote

  16. Comment on I want to tell you about my favorite fight scene in ~arts

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    Another take on this movie from a direction standpoint in this podcast episode https://www.patreon.com/posts/73199375 Can’t add to the posted video, since I didn’t take the time yet to watch 30...

    Another take on this movie from a direction standpoint in this podcast episode https://www.patreon.com/posts/73199375

    Can’t add to the posted video, since I didn’t take the time yet to watch 30 minutes of video essay.

  17. Comment on Conservative government would require websites to verify age to watch porn: Pierre Poilievre in ~society

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    Plus even more and better hidden illegal market including CSAM and such. Making it even harder than it is now to take down that rape or revenge video. Awesome initiative.

    Plus even more and better hidden illegal market including CSAM and such. Making it even harder than it is now to take down that rape or revenge video. Awesome initiative.

    1 vote

  18. Comment on How Google is killing independent sites like ours in ~tech

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    Sure. There is a little shield icon next to each result. Clicking on that opens up a dialog where you can rank the site the result is from, so that it gets weighted more heavily or blocked...

    Sure. There is a little shield icon next to each result. Clicking on that opens up a dialog where you can rank the site the result is from, so that it gets weighted more heavily or blocked essentially. It’s on a scale so you have some granular point system.

    Example use case: Looking up recipes or reviews. All those spammy sites just generating or scraping content get weeded out by a personal block list.

    Another feature is lists that allow you to collect pages for certain topics. So you can focus on certain areas when looking for things that might return different results depending on context, eg compressors for audio context or for machines. To be honest, I hadn’t taken the time to fully dive into this feature since the results I am getting are generally good enough as they are in my general list.

    Not sure how this compares to the competition, but I find Kagi’s time filter very good. Looking for recent news? Just show me results from the last 24 hours. Reviews for for some gadget? Only the last 6 months please. Works like a charm.

    Ever since discovering them around 6 month ago, I made the jump and hadn’t looked back. It’s really well integrated with my browser on desktop as well as mobile and would be definitely in my top five utility subscriptions.

    5 votes

  19. Comment on How Google is killing independent sites like ours in ~tech

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    I am really enjoying the curation tools Kagi gives me. Sure, like a decent adblocker, it takes time to develop and set up the lists and rankings, but then it really helps to weed out the clickbait...

    I am really enjoying the curation tools Kagi gives me. Sure, like a decent adblocker, it takes time to develop and set up the lists and rankings, but then it really helps to weed out the clickbait and AI generated noise.

    Not sure if I’d want someone else to do that for me, would just open up the whole pay for exposure dynamic again.

    3 votes

  20. Comment on Using work OSX machine while travelling in ~comp

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    True. I forgot. Well, there is this repo, which looks like it might work: https://github.com/leifliddy/asahi-fedora-builder Since it’s your work machine, maybe use an external drive to install...

    True. I forgot.

    Well, there is this repo, which looks like it might work: https://github.com/leifliddy/asahi-fedora-builder

    Since it’s your work machine, maybe use an external drive to install this and change the startup disk.

    2 votes