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Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk
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Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk
jordasaur Link ParentWow, being bullied and singled out for just trying to exist invisibly really resonates with me. People would chant my name at me on the bus because they could tell it bothered me, even though I...Wow, being bullied and singled out for just trying to exist invisibly really resonates with me. People would chant my name at me on the bus because they could tell it bothered me, even though I had not ever said a single word to any of those kids. That was most of my elementary and middle school experience, before I started getting better at masking my “weirdness.” I have ADHD and was diagnosed at 6, but knowing my diagnosis didn’t stop me from feeling like an outsider.
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Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk
jordasaur Link ParentI disagree that your life has to be in shambles in order to justify using the meds. I also managed to graduate with a degree in engineering and gain several promotions as an engineer without the...I disagree that your life has to be in shambles in order to justify using the meds. I also managed to graduate with a degree in engineering and gain several promotions as an engineer without the meds, but the cost to my personal life and mental health was so much greater than was necessary. I’ve been taking the meds on weekdays for a year now, and it takes so much less mental toll to perform my job at the same level I was before without them. Everyone should do what’s right for them, but I disagree with adding more unnecessary stigma to stimulant medication.
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Comment on When did you realize you were different? in ~talk
jordasaur Link ParentYour son will appreciate your patience and understanding when he gets to adulthood. My parents did right by me by getting me diagnosed very young, especially since diagnosis is harder as a...Your son will appreciate your patience and understanding when he gets to adulthood. My parents did right by me by getting me diagnosed very young, especially since diagnosis is harder as a girl/woman. But I don’t think my mom truly understood what it mean to ME to struggle through ADHD. She still used words like lazy and ungrateful to describe me all the time. I still felt like a bad kid even though we both knew I had this disorder. Your son is lucky that you show you truly understand.
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Comment on Travel kit in ~food
jordasaur Link ParentI was also going to recommend a cheese grater. I’ve been burned before by a rental kitchen and had to try to chop up tiny bits of cheese with a knife.I was also going to recommend a cheese grater. I’ve been burned before by a rental kitchen and had to try to chop up tiny bits of cheese with a knife.
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Comment on What's your favorite episode from Avatar: The Last Airbender? in ~tv
jordasaur LinkI like the one where Sokka gets sword training and makes his meteor sword. He’s my favorite character, so it’s nice to see him in his element.I like the one where Sokka gets sword training and makes his meteor sword. He’s my favorite character, so it’s nice to see him in his element.
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Comment on What do you recommend for sunscreen? in ~health
jordasaur Link ParentI absolutely love my supergroup and wear it every day. But I’ve had doubts about its actual SPF after still getting some redness on my face after wearing it in the sun. To be fair I do use...I absolutely love my supergroup and wear it every day. But I’ve had doubts about its actual SPF after still getting some redness on my face after wearing it in the sun. To be fair I do use tretinoin which makes your skin more sun sensitive.
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Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games
jordasaur Link ParentI’ve been playing it obsessively for weeks. I love the light magic within the world and the adorable aesthetic. I’m trying not to get caught in the trap of trying to optimize my farm to the point...I’ve been playing it obsessively for weeks. I love the light magic within the world and the adorable aesthetic. I’m trying not to get caught in the trap of trying to optimize my farm to the point where it feels too much like work to maintain. I do love that there’s always a new upgrade to earn with the money from your farm.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~food
jordasaur Link ParentI always forget how much some people (a man I assume?) can eat and still lose weight. I’m a normal height woman with a TDEE of around 1630. So to lose weight I have to eat around 1200 calories per...I always forget how much some people (a man I assume?) can eat and still lose weight. I’m a normal height woman with a TDEE of around 1630. So to lose weight I have to eat around 1200 calories per day. It’s tough.
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Comment on You have one fast travel point, where do you place it? in ~talk
jordasaur Link ParentAh, the Breath of the Wild approach. Smart thinking.Ah, the Breath of the Wild approach. Smart thinking.
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Comment on <deleted topic> in ~talk
jordasaur LinkI got banned from r/latestagecapitalism on Election Day 2020 for suggesting we maybe be a little grateful Biden won instead of Trump instead of the constant “both sides”-ing.I got banned from r/latestagecapitalism on Election Day 2020 for suggesting we maybe be a little grateful Biden won instead of Trump instead of the constant “both sides”-ing.
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Comment on Dating can be a time suck - SFGATE contributor Amy Copperman explains why co-working makes for such a good first date in ~life
jordasaur Link ParentYes, that is depressing if that’s truly the main intent. Another interpretation I have is that it’s becoming increasingly harder to meet people organically in situations without a big cloud of...Yes, that is depressing if that’s truly the main intent. Another interpretation I have is that it’s becoming increasingly harder to meet people organically in situations without a big cloud of romantic pressure hanging over your head. I could see a coworking date as a way to try to get to know somebody in a much lower stakes situation than a typical first date that feels like an intense job interview. True, maybe this would be less necessary if we all had more free time in general so we could devote more of it to awkward and socially draining first dates.
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Comment on ADHD friends, how do you organize your clothes? in ~health.mental
jordasaur Link ParentThat last link is how I fold my t shirts. Not only do you not have to keep remaking the pile every time you want to wear a shirt in the middle of it, but with the shirts folded this way you can...That last link is how I fold my t shirts. Not only do you not have to keep remaking the pile every time you want to wear a shirt in the middle of it, but with the shirts folded this way you can see a bit of the design and know at a glance all clean shirts you have.
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Comment on 'Fuck Spez': Reddit users unite to turn r/Place mural into a protest in ~tech
jordasaur Link ParentLeaving Reddit has meant losing my main source of ADHD support outside of my doctors. It was still a net gain, but I definitely feel less connected to people who have the same struggles I do.Leaving Reddit has meant losing my main source of ADHD support outside of my doctors. It was still a net gain, but I definitely feel less connected to people who have the same struggles I do.
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Comment on When did you learn you had ADHD? in ~health.mental
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Comment on When you show the engineer and it works in ~engineering
jordasaur Link ParentOf course there’s a German word for it. I love that.Of course there’s a German word for it. I love that.
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Comment on I'm trying to find "mild" horror movies, any suggestions? in ~movies
jordasaur Link ParentI generally hate horror movies, but The Shining is definitely my favorite. It’s so high quality and creepy without being so gorey and unnerving that you can’t sleep for days.I generally hate horror movies, but The Shining is definitely my favorite. It’s so high quality and creepy without being so gorey and unnerving that you can’t sleep for days.
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Comment on What impact, if any, did being raised as a woman have on you? in ~life.women
jordasaur LinkI feel like most of the gendered pressures I feel were not taught to me by my parents but by my extended family, peers, and society at large. The expectation that the woman take on the mental load...I feel like most of the gendered pressures I feel were not taught to me by my parents but by my extended family, peers, and society at large. The expectation that the woman take on the mental load of the household is the exception though since this is the dynamic my parents had, partly because of my mom’s anxiety manifesting as a need for control and my dad’s ADHD. I’ve inherited both which is super fun.
But it’s hard not to internalize that acting a certain way if you’re a certain gender may get you more positive results with strangers and acquaintances, even if you weren’t explicitly taught that by your parents.
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Comment on Strategies to manage ADHD in ~health.mental
jordasaur Link ParentI have the same issue with feeling like I can’t do anything mentally active during my free time since I have to spend so much of my time making sure I’m mentally ready for my responsibilities.I have the same issue with feeling like I can’t do anything mentally active during my free time since I have to spend so much of my time making sure I’m mentally ready for my responsibilities.
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Comment on Strategies to manage ADHD in ~health.mental
jordasaur LinkI was diagnosed in 1996 at age 6, so I’ve known I have ADHD for almost my entire life. I have so many thoughts on living and coping with ADHD that I frankly don’t have the energy to list out right...I was diagnosed in 1996 at age 6, so I’ve known I have ADHD for almost my entire life. I have so many thoughts on living and coping with ADHD that I frankly don’t have the energy to list out right now, but you did specifically mention time blindness and estimation for how long things take as something you struggle with.
This is going to sound like I’m a shill, but I promise I’m not. I’ve been using the app Brili for about a year and a half, and it has seriously changed my life. As you know, forming routines does not happen easily for us (or ever in many circumstances). I’ve struggled with getting places on time for my entire life. Brili has made it so much easier since I can write out my routines and then go through them with the app in real time. It takes away so much of the mental load that used to be dedicated to remembering to do everything I need to do in the mornings.
Yes, a lot of the time I do still feel like an outsider. But I’ve collected a great group of friends who don’t make me feel that way, and I’ve learned to mask among others only to the extent that is necessary to maintain good relationships. I let more of the weirdness through depending on how close I am to who I’m talking to.