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  1. Comment on Derek Chauvin is found guilty of murdering George Floyd in ~news

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    I saw this quotation earlier and could not believe how upset it made me. Characterizing his murder as a "sacrifice" is so wrong. I feel it but I can't articulate it that well. It just feels like...

    I saw this quotation earlier and could not believe how upset it made me. Characterizing his murder as a "sacrifice" is so wrong.

    I feel it but I can't articulate it that well. It just feels like romanticizing the suffering of Black people under racist police officers as a way to assuage guilt about complicity up til now. It is not romantic or noble that he died, it is a tragedy and a horror and an outrage.

    And I don't think there's justice here, there was one instance of accountability among thousands of instances where there were no consequences for killing a black person. He was only held accountable because there was a video, there were witnesses including children audible on the video begging him not to kill the man he killed, his police chief testified against him, and millions of people marched in support.

    It's good this cop was found guilty. I hope this gives the people for whom this was a more personal fight some degree of peace. But for the rest of us, the police are still the way they are, reforms are still needed, anti-racist work still needs to be done.

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  2. Comment on What's your proposing/marriage story? in ~talk

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    I didn't get into it in my own post about this because I felt it was getting a bit long and I really wanted to focus a bit more on the proposal story, but I just wanted to echo that as a gay woman...

    I didn't get into it in my own post about this because I felt it was getting a bit long and I really wanted to focus a bit more on the proposal story, but I just wanted to echo that as a gay woman who also grew up in a conservative Christian family, I felt a lot of the same things as you about marriage. I expect it's not uncommon for gay folks of a certain age to have complicated feelings about marriage as an institution, having seen it go from illegal to celebrated.

    Although in Canada it was legalized federally quite a bit sooner than in the USA, I was still a teenager before that happened and like you believed that marriage was For The Straights. (On top of that, there were some issues in my family in particular with bad marriages.) My cynicism evaporated over the course of years as it became more normalized and I sorted out my feelings on the matter.

    So thank you for sharing and putting that to words. And thanks for chatting about how you dealt with this in your actual wedding and sharing how that felt too! It's given me some comfort thinking about what I will do for my own (future, not-yet-fully-planned) wedding.

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  3. Comment on What's your proposing/marriage story? in ~talk

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    My partner (we're both women) proposed to me after three years of being together. We had talked about it beforehand as it being basically a foregone conclusion that we'd get married - we'd already...

    My partner (we're both women) proposed to me after three years of being together. We had talked about it beforehand as it being basically a foregone conclusion that we'd get married - we'd already lived together for about a year and a half at that point and had chatted about the kind of rings we'd want (a bit more traditional for me, a bit edgier for her). I had vague plans for proposing to her on a vacation we had planned, but she got to me first.

    She had told me at the beginning of October that she wanted to do a drawing every day with a book of prompts that I had bought her. I love her art, she does tattoo-style stuff that's really fun and whimsical. When she didn't bring it up again after I assumed she had just quietly dropped the idea, so I didn't press her on it.

    Then, on Hallowe'en nearing midnight (god I love my goth gf), she presented me with the book as a gift. I flipped through it, and each prompt she had interpreted in a way that was about something we had done together or some aspect of our lives together. "Totem pole" for instance was an interpretation of our cats sitting on top of each other. "Valentine" was a reference to a Valentine's day concert we had wanted to attend, but that got cancelled due to a terrible blizzard. Stuff like that.

    The last prompt was a drawing of the ring she had bought and said "will you marry me?" and my goodness I'm such a sap I'm tearing up just remembering it, haha.

    We're still "just" engaged. Our intent was to get married in 2020, but the pandemic kind of threw a wrench in things. I'm also not anxious about being married - it will actually make some stuff easier, and knowing that if anything were to happen to me she'd automatically get a lot of my assets gives me some peace. I am happy to imagine growing old with her and building a life with her.

    But I am a bit anxious about having a wedding. It's intimidating to plan and I feel a lot of pressure, most of it likely self-imposed, about it going well.

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  4. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    Running is so hard!! My partner did a couch to 5k within the last year and I'm insanely proud of her, but I don't think I could do it. I did some cross-country in high school and I wasn't even...

    Running is so hard!! My partner did a couch to 5k within the last year and I'm insanely proud of her, but I don't think I could do it.

    I did some cross-country in high school and I wasn't even great at it then, so now, with 60 more lbs, 15 more years, and worse knees? Nooo thanks! I do like cycling though, easier on the knees and for some reason I don't find it boring in the same way I do with running or walking. I guess it's just the speed of it, I really like the feeling of whee go fast. It also makes me a bit nostalgic for when my bike was my main mode of transportation, I still have my panniers and saddlebags although the bike itself is now in bad shape.

    I also feel the lamentation on getting into shape after getting out of it. It's so much harder once you let it lapse, and I often get frustrated with my own inability to do a particular exercise or lift a weight or whatever. Just gotta keep telling myself it's the effort and exertion that is the important part.

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  5. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    I was complaining a bit about my knees in the last thread, and while at the time I thought the pain was just... from general body neglect, I remembered the other day that I did in fact injure that...

    I was complaining a bit about my knees in the last thread, and while at the time I thought the pain was just... from general body neglect, I remembered the other day that I did in fact injure that knee pretty badly a couple years ago. I just didn't think about it because once it healed, I didn't have any further issues until a few weeks ago. I didn't realize I had done that much damage to it and that sucks, but at the same time at least it's not "random" knee pain.

    When it acts up (which is not always!), it swells slightly and I can't do any exercises which put a lot of weight on one leg. I can usually find an alternative but it's still kind of frustrating. Would a compression sleeve be appropriate to help alleviate this? I'm not sure if this is something they're for.

    On a lighter note, I think my strength class instructor was trying to kill me yesterday. The class is structured into three parts - there's two circuits of 2-3 targeted exercises, with each circuit repeating 4 times. Then there's a "finisher" exercise which is generally a more dynamic or whole-body exercise and we do 3-6 sets of that. One Wednesday one of the exercises in the first circuit was goblet squats, and then the finisher exercise was doing squats while doing battle rope work with, she insisted, the heavier set of ropes. I must have done almost 150 total squats and I thought my arms were going to fall off from the heavy rope.

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  6. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I played a lot of Skyrim when it came out ten years ago (yikes!!!!). I started with a sneaky archer (as you do) and dabbled with all kinds of other characters. Tried a pure magic-user, and then...

    I played a lot of Skyrim when it came out ten years ago (yikes!!!!). I started with a sneaky archer (as you do) and dabbled with all kinds of other characters. Tried a pure magic-user, and then tried a sword-and-shield paladin hybrid type, and an up-close dagger assassin. But my favourite was the two-handed barbarian, which I role-played as intentionally avoiding any non-shout magic or enchantments. As opposed to a sneaky or squishy character, it was fun to just barrel into situations fearlessly swinging a big-ass axe.

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  7. Comment on What does analog have that digital doesn't? in ~talk

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    For sure there are huge benefits to streaming! The main ones to me are that there's no need to have space for the physical media, and no worries about missing a show or having to track down a box...

    For sure there are huge benefits to streaming! The main ones to me are that there's no need to have space for the physical media, and no worries about missing a show or having to track down a box set. I'm not sure I'd go back!

    But at the same time I find the pattern of my media consumption sometimes doesn't feel great as a result of just being absolutely saturated with choices. Like in the past I'd watch a show just because it was playing on TV at the time, but now I can queue up a show and bail to track down another if it's not interesting to me in the first few minutes. And that'll repeat itself for a while, leading to an overall worse way to spend a half-hour.

    Of course, that's on me, but I don't think it's uncommon! It just feels like a natural consequence of an environment where there are so many options. It's like choice fatigue, I just have the pull to "watch whatever's on" for a little while like I did when I was a kid.

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  8. Comment on What does analog have that digital doesn't? in ~talk

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    This is one of those threads where I could have a small comment on lots of folks' contributions - but after thinking about it, I think what appeals to me about many analog or older formats is the...

    This is one of those threads where I could have a small comment on lots of folks' contributions - but after thinking about it, I think what appeals to me about many analog or older formats is the lack of expectation for things to be available on-demand.

    If you liked a show, it was on a schedule. You'd tune in on a particular day and time to watch it, you'd watch it without being able to pause it, and you'd get up to pee when there was a commercial (which you couldn't fast-forward through). God help you if two shows you were interested in were on at the same time!

    Same goes for the evolution of music storage and streaming. Vinyls, you pick a record and listen all the way through it. With cassettes you can fast-forward to the song you like, but it would take a bit of guesswork. CDs gave you the ability to skip among tracks on an album, although you'd need to pop in another CD, have a fancy multi-CD player, or later, burn your own to get a good playlist going. With computers and MP3 players you could have tons of songs with you everywhere, although still a bit of restriction relating to having to upload them to the player before you go out. Finally, with streaming, you can get any piece of music you want with virtually no delay provided you have internet access.

    I don't miss paying for a whole CD that I only liked two tracks on, and I'm not a big fan of commercials or anything. It's hard for me to explain, but I do feel like there was something lost in the process of more and more media becoming on-demand as it got digitized.

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  9. Comment on Fitness Weekly Discussion in ~health

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    I'm only loosely tracking my fitness accomplishments but I think I'm going to have to start writing things down more consistently. My main two goals right now are to reduce the incline of my...

    I'm only loosely tracking my fitness accomplishments but I think I'm going to have to start writing things down more consistently. My main two goals right now are to reduce the incline of my incline push-ups and to be able to hold a regular plank for a full minute and I've stalled out on them the last few weeks. Last workout I upped my weight on dumbbell rows and frog pumps... but I didn't make a goal out of those, so I still feel frustrated about the push-ups!

    Starting this month I'm doing some nutrition stuff now that my gym routine is pretty settled (been going 3x week since mid-January, have only missed two days due to sickness and injury). I can feel a difference in my muscles, hopefully losing some fat will help me also see it.

    I'm a little worried about my right knee. It's fine day-to-day, but lately when I work out it hurts for the first fifteen minutes or so. I was hoping to prevent knee issues with more regular activity, sigh.

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  10. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I've put some more time into Monster Hunter: Rise on the Switch. I'm only Hunter Rank 2, but I have the Rampage quest to upgrade to 3. I've tried and failed with the defense quest three times so...

    I've put some more time into Monster Hunter: Rise on the Switch. I'm only Hunter Rank 2, but I have the Rampage quest to upgrade to 3. I've tried and failed with the defense quest three times so far, although the first couples times were due to having literally no clue what was going on and I've worked out a bit of it on my own since then. There is an ingame tutorial available (I think?) but it may be through either the village quests, which I am going through intentionally kind of slowly, or hidden in a sub-menu somewhere. I'm planning on trying to find it tonight then giving it another shot.

    A couple folks gave me some tips last week - what helped me most was the acknowledgement that most of the ingame weapons guides were, in fact, pretty useless. I found some videos about what roles each weapon has and some basic combos. I'm having fun right now with Gunlance and I feel I have a pretty good handle on Sword and Shield, and I understand a bit more about Longsword. Not sure if I have clear favourite among those three so far though. Next I'd like to try out the Heavy Bowgun.

    I'm also enjoying just exploring and gathering resources, especially trying to track down the little hidden messages throughout the levels! I think as a result I'm quite low rank for the amount of time I've put in, and my inventory box is pretty stuffed with resources that I'm not sure whether I'll need or not, but it's a fun learning process. I also spend a lot of time designing custom dogs...

    I plan on playing a bit with my brother tonight when we meet up for dinner... I think he's settled on Bow for his current favourite weapon.

    If anyone is interested in playing with me send me a PM with your friend code and I'll add you! I often try to play online.

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  11. Comment on Tildes Screenless Day Discussion Thread - April 2021 in ~life

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    A day late on the reflection, but here it is: What did you do? I wasn't so productive as I intended, but that's never the case, is it? :p I ended up procrastinating the work I wanted to do with...

    A day late on the reflection, but here it is:

    • What did you do?

    I wasn't so productive as I intended, but that's never the case, is it? :p I ended up procrastinating the work I wanted to do with cross-stitching and listening to music on vinyl with my partner, although I did get some minor cleaning done. The weather was nicer than predicted also, so I went to a local market and did some light shopping.

    At the party that evening (I live in a relatively Covid-safe area, small gathering, obeying all local guidelines, etc etc) I did end up using my phone a bit, but only because a friend of mine wanted to use my Steam account to download Jackbox and I had to authenticate it. We didn't end up playing Jackbox, but we did watch a movie.

    I wasn't into the movie. I didn't want to watch a movie at all at the time, regardless of what it was! Just wasn't feeling it, plus I knew when the movie started that it'd be waaay past my bedtime by the time it ended. Sadly I was stuck there for the duration because I was the designated driver... not being able to use my phone for this kind of sucked. The rest of the day was good, though!

    • How did it feel?

    It was fine! Enjoyable. I had a nice day. Maybe if I didn't already have plans in the evening it would be different.

    • Was it difficult? Easy?

    Overall pretty easy. Like I mentioned above, I had a nice day. I would even characterize it as above-average.

    • Did anything surprise you?

    I was surprised by how little I cared about social media! On most days I check three or four social media sites regularly, often doing that thing where you idly bounce between them in hopes of something new coming up. But I missed Monster Hunter more than I missed social media.

    • Were there any unexpected challenges/breakthroughs?

    I don't know if I'd consider it revelatory, but technology actually plays less of a role in my productivity concerns than I thought it would. I'll use cross-stitching, or a book, or music, or whatever other tool is available to do it with. This is not surprising to me really, more... disappointing? It'd be nice if cutting out tech could be a magic bullet for me, but I think my problem with executive dysfunction is more general.

    Also, not being able to verify a piece of information was sometimes a bit frustrating. I can't remember the exact things I had wanted to know, but throughout the day I'm sure I had a couple little questions (of no consequence besides curiousity) that I couldn't get the answer to.

    Finally, I definitely ate less throughout the day and kept to more regular meals.

    • If you plan to do it again, what would you change? What would you keep the same?

    I'll try to do the next one on a quieter day when I don't already have a social activity planned. I think I may also open myself up to using a messaging app, just because that's how my entire social group largely communicates and nobody answers their dang phone, so coordinating was a challenge! I might also loosen the podcast restriction, provided I pick just one and download it in advance rather than getting to choose one in the moment.

    EDIT: Oh, and I wanted to thank you, @kfwyre, for organizing this! I'll definitely be doing more of this, and trying to incorporate some things I learned on Saturday into my life more generally - I am thinking of having a scheduled "social media / news" time or day, for instance, because I don't think it'd be hard to do and would still have some benefits. I appreciate your initiative in doing this! :)

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  12. Comment on Megathread: April Fools' Day 2021 on the internet in ~misc

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    Tumblr has introduced some kind of NFT pet called a "Tumblrcryptid". Various shapes with randomized accessories, colours, and descriptions. Each has a name, a like a dislike, and refers to a tag...

    Tumblr has introduced some kind of NFT pet called a "Tumblrcryptid". Various shapes with randomized accessories, colours, and descriptions. Each has a name, a like a dislike, and refers to a tag you've used on your blog. Here is my favourite I've generated so far, his name is Flesh and he loves [rat emoticon].

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  13. Comment on Tildes Screenless Day Discussion Thread - April 2021 in ~life

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    I'm doing it on Saturday! Why do you want to take a screenless day? I have been trying for the last year or so to be more mindful about what content I consume and how much of my time is...

    I'm doing it on Saturday!

    • Why do you want to take a screenless day?

    I have been trying for the last year or so to be more mindful about what content I consume and how much of my time is consumption versus creation, and this is a part of that. I have a lot of thoughts on what the internet has become, but I don't think I want to spend too much time navel-gazing about it here at the moment.

    • How are you personally defining "screenless"?

    I'm avoiding my computer, the TV, and 99% of my phone (I will use it as a phone for communication). The hardest decisions were whether to allow podcasts and whether to allow navigation apps and I decided to avoid those too. Podcasts because the on-demand instant gratification/entertainment thing is something I am trying to get away from. Navigation apps because... well, I don't really plan on going anywhere weird, so it's not a big deal and I might as well.

    • What do you plan to do with your time?

    It'll be largely indoor activities, sadly. It's been really wet the last week and it's going to continue, so no yard work yet and there's predictions of flooding so some roads might be blocked off so I'm sticking close. I would love to lightly "KonMari" some of my stuff, especially clothes, and do some organizing. For entertainment I'd like to start reading "The Cider House", a book I got a while ago but never started. I'll probably do some journaling and call my grandma also. Then my friends and I are going to meet up in the evening for a small gathering.

    • What do you hope to get out of it?

    This is experimental for me mostly. I'm hoping to get more personal insight into what parts of it I miss and why, so I can be more conscious of what aspects of my technology use are affecting me and how. This may be a precursor to more regular or longer periods of going technology-lite.

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  14. Comment on What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them? in ~games

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    I played a bit of Monster Hunter Rise with my brother. We tried to take on a Large monster, fought it for like 30 minutes, and then eventually failed the quest when I (the host) died. We didn't...

    I played a bit of Monster Hunter Rise with my brother. We tried to take on a Large monster, fought it for like 30 minutes, and then eventually failed the quest when I (the host) died. We didn't realize at the time that we could put in an open invite for our lobby for others to join, since they're apparently balanced around a team of four. We did get some rewards at least! Still, seems like it should have gone better. I'm not sure if we were just bad at it, under-equipped, or what.

    This is my first Monster Hunter game and I've got a lot to learn with the combat. Watching other folks play has helped a bit, but I'm having kind of a rough go of it ... I am mostly into strategy games. I like some action RPGs and platformers for games that test reaction time, ability, combos, etc., but this one definitely has way more complexity that other ones I've played.

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  15. Comment on What are you doing in your garden? in ~hobbies

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    The previous owner of my home was apparently quite an avid gardener, and as a result I have an overgrown flower garden that is well beyond my capacity to care for in full! I have ID'd many of the...

    The previous owner of my home was apparently quite an avid gardener, and as a result I have an overgrown flower garden that is well beyond my capacity to care for in full! I have ID'd many of the plants at least (the inventory from the top of my head is poppies, irises, salvia, SO MANY day lilies, some hostas, ground cherries, brown-eyed susans, tulips, a forsythia bush, a silverleaf willow bush, and some very beautiful peonies), but I'm still a bit leery about messing around too much with it. The lilies definitely need to be dug up and split, and I plan on tearing out some of the bushes to make room for a staircase to my backyard as my home is on quite a steep hill but otherwise I just kind of muddle through. I definitely, definitely need to downsize.

    I am a bit more comfortable with vegetable gardening, and would prefer to devote more of my space to that. I particularly like growing tomatoes and peas; this year those are going to take up most of the space in my raised beds, which are on a side yard separated from the front yard by my driveway.

    Right now where I am the ground is still covered in snow, and it'll be soaked for a while yet, so I've only started some spicy peppers. Never done those before! I'll see how it goes.

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  16. Comment on The enduring allure of Jessica Walter in ~tv

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    Jessica Walter passed away just yesterday and just like the article says it came as a sad surprise to me - "she still felt so present." She was an incredible comedic actress and 90% of the reason...

    Jessica Walter passed away just yesterday and just like the article says it came as a sad surprise to me - "she still felt so present." She was an incredible comedic actress and 90% of the reason I watched Arrested Development or Archer at all.

    I will seriously never forgive Jeffrey Tambour for ever being mean to her.

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  17. Comment on Christine and the Queens - La vita nouva (2020) in ~music

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    This is a short film / visual EP by French artist Christine and the Queens for her EP 'La vita nuova'. It contains five tracks, with a bonus track that is an English version of 'Je disparais dans...

    This is a short film / visual EP by French artist Christine and the Queens for her EP 'La vita nuova'. It contains five tracks, with a bonus track that is an English version of 'Je disparais dans tes bras' / 'I disappear in your arms'. The tracks are mostly English, with some French and some Italian.

    The short film follows Chris' romantic dalliance with a demonic creature. Lots of great dancing, lots of cool costumes, and part of it is filmed inside the absolutely gorgeous Palais Garnier in Paris.

  18. Comment on Christine and the Queens - People, I’ve been sad (2020) in ~music

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    I was going to post this same track and was a bit surprised to see this had been posted before! I'm a big fan of Christine and the Queens since seeing them (the dancers from the "Christine" video...

    I was going to post this same track and was a bit surprised to see this had been posted before! I'm a big fan of Christine and the Queens since seeing them (the dancers from the "Christine" video were there!) live in Montreal shortly after the release of Chaleur Humaine.

    I am very late to the party here, but I'd like to bring attention to the full EP "La vita nuova" which has an accompanying short film (visual EP?), just in case you haven't seen it. It's really sensual and bizarre and ... aesthetic, I guess? I don't really have the words. I think my favourite track is the title track.

    La vita nuova

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