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17 votes
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Joe Biden to nominate transgender doctor Rachel Levine as assistant health secretary
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Six transgender people talk about how the pandemic has affected their bodies
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European Court of Human Rights upholds rights to self-determination around gender
@Paul Johnson: Very important trans rights case in ECtHR today. The case concerns the situation of two trans people who were refused recognition of their gender identities because they had not undergone gender reassignment surgery.The Court held this to be a violation of the ECHR (Art 8). pic.twitter.com/9bUvYg156L
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To those of you who have changed your name, what was it like for you?
The question is open to anything that anyone wants to share about changing one’s name (e.g. social, familial, or legal proceedings), but in particular I’m most interested in what the personal...
The question is open to anything that anyone wants to share about changing one’s name (e.g. social, familial, or legal proceedings), but in particular I’m most interested in what the personal process of deciding on a particular name was like for you. Was there one that just “clicked”? Did you try out different names until you found one that fit? Did you choose the name based on meaning, aesthetics, association, or something else entirely? How did it feel to change your own name in your own head? How did it feel when others started using it to refer to you? What do you like most about the name you chose?
Also, I don’t want to pressure anyone to share their name since that is very identifying information, so feel free to share details of your experience without sharing your name itself — unless that’s something you’re comfortable with putting online here.
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Radical tenderness: Queer and trans joy in 2020
11 votes -
The Kitchen and Jorn Show | Kristen's wife comes out as trans
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Irish pensioners choir dedicates moving rendition of Silent Night to trans kids and calls on elders to educate themselves
14 votes -
Parents warning about harm to children after UK legal decision bans access to puberty blockers
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"I just want to be based in girl mode from now on": Eddie Izzard has revealed she is now exclusively using 'she' and 'her' pronouns
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Mara Gómez on becoming Argentina's first trans footballer
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Polygamy is rare around the world and mostly confined to a few regions, but is slowly being more widely accepted
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A deeper, darker look at James Beard, food oracle and gay man: A new biography traces the influence he wielded as a writer and the pain he endured for his sexuality in an unwelcoming world
6 votes -
Why I post my pronouns and you should too
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An honest question about gender, sexuality, and the LGBTQ+ community
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm...
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm currently coming at this from the personal lens of myself, but I think there are some larger questions/generalizations that could be made and might be helpful for others.
Ok, so for some background I am a "straight" man. My previous partners have all been women, with the exception of one who identified as female when we were dating, and my current partner is non-binary but female-presenting and has identified as such the entirety of the time we have been dating. I have previously viewed myself as straight and an ally to my partner and the lgbtq+ community. Today, I was having a long conversation with my cousin about his experiences coming out of the closet and with homophobia in our family. I mentioned at one point that I didn't feel comfortable making some assumptions/statements since I am straight and not a member of the community. He (very politely) brought up that, at least strictly technically speaking, the fact that I am dating someone who is non-binary means we are not in a heterosexual relationship and that I am not technically straight, more likely being bi or pan (if we could lets not turn this into the bi vs pan debate which I know is a controversial topic but not really what I'd like to focus on). He also made a point to stress that these are all technical definitions and that gender and sexual identity are very personal and if I don't feel that it describes me then it isn't for him to decide I'm wrong. This made me a bit uncomfortable. It made me uncomfortable because while he's right, it feels wrong. I feel like if I began identifying as pan/bi, it would come off as a straight white male looking for a way to put himself in the position of being oppressed or marginalized for woke points. I don't know if it is because the college I went to was full of dudes like this, constantly looking for ways to be the victim, but its just something I feel deep in my bones. I don't really know though. I feel like if someone came up to me and described my life as their own and told me they identified as pan/bi I would agree and support them, but I won't extend that to myself. I don't know if its just a lifetime of assuming I was straight is why this is or if the term is actually wrong.
I guess to summarize/generalize, I'll put some reallly fucking loaded questions where I know the 'real' answer is "It is a deeply personal thing and will vary by person to person because the LGBTQ+ community isn't a monolith with all the same ideas" but I'm hoping maybe writing all this out and reading some of the results will help me color, process and digest my thoughts.
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What/where would you put the line between straight and not straight (if anywhere). I know personally while I like to keep an open mind, I do heavily preference female-presenting people, whether they be trans, nb, or identify as a woman. But is that openness to dating someone who doesn't identify as a woman enough for me to be not-straight? I want to say yes, I don't think you need to date someone of a different gender to be not-straight. My cousin is bi but has exclusively dated men. I wouldn't tell him he isn't bi.
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I am very uncomfortable with this question but do you feel there is a degree of "not-straight" you need to be to be an active part of the queer community. To kind of explain my thoughts on that: From an outside perspective, no one that hasn't been told my partner is nb would question if we said we were a straight couple. I've never and probably will never feel fear or be oppressed based on my sexuality. I dunno. I just feel really weird. like I'm inserting myself into a community I've always identified as an ally of but been an outsider to.
Anyway, sorry for this rant. I know the two questions are really loaded and I honestly feel like I know the answer to both of them. But just because i know the answer doesn't change how conflicted I feel and so I guess I'm just trying to work through some of the thoughts and conflicts.
I also want to take a second to note: I am actively talking with my partner about these thoughts and feelings. This is an ongoing discussion in our household, I am just looking for more perspectives and views to help me see things from different angles and work through my thoughts and feelings. Helping me through this is absolutely not the responsibility of anyone on Tildes and I don't want it to seem like I am putting that pressure on the community.
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Dirtybird co-founder Worthy announces she is transgender
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Oscar-nominated Umbrella Academy star Elliot Page announces he is transgender
@Elliot Page: pic.twitter.com/kwti60bZLw
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Are Black people more homophobic than white people? Crunching the numbers on Black people's views of gay people
9 votes -
Bob Newhart and the masked doctor who cured the gays
5 votes -
Why are there so many lesbian period dramas, and so few set in the present day?
7 votes -
Born to Be: A documentary about the Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery in Manhattan, the first comprehensive healthcare center for transgender and non-binary people in New York
8 votes -
Poland to consider outright ban on LGBT+ Pride marches
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Norway has banned hate speech against bisexual and trans people in a landmark change to its penal code
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"I just want to see the person I always saw in my head": How a trans woman found that facial feminization surgery could restore her sense of self
12 votes -
America's superteam: World Cup winner Megan Rapinoe and WNBA star Sue Bird announce engagement
7 votes -
Twenty-one openly trans candidates are running for elected office in the US
13 votes -
New Zealand now has the gayest Parliament in the world
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"Not married, but willing to be": Photos of men in love from the 1850s to 1950s
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The "Proud Boys" hashtag on Twitter has been taken over by photos of gay men celebrating their lives and their love
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Egypt: Security forces abuse, torture LGBT people
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Judith Butler on the culture wars, JK Rowling and living in “anti-intellectual times”
5 votes -
Transgender activist Sarah McBride wins Delaware state Senate primary, putting her on track to be the US's highest-ranking openly transgender elected official
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JK Rowling’s latest book is about a murderous cis man who dresses as a woman to kill his victims
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Beyond the end of the Transban: How to make a 21st-century military
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My nonbinary child: An anthropologist muses on what her career and child have taught her about gender stereotypes and fluidity
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A federal judge has blocked a Trump administration rule that would allow healthcare providers to discriminate against transgender individuals, one day before the rule was set to take effect
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Who are your favorite LGBT musicians/bands?
I'm in a bit of a personal musical renaissance at the moment and am actively seeking out new music after having listened to the same albums for years, effectively playing them out. One of the...
I'm in a bit of a personal musical renaissance at the moment and am actively seeking out new music after having listened to the same albums for years, effectively playing them out.
One of the areas I'm interested in exploring is LGBT artists out there making good music, especially because it seems like so many have entered the scene in recent years. Let me know if you have any recommendations! I'm open to any genre.
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Iceland floats idea of LGBTQ business certificate – guidelines for companies on how to foster diversity and make the labor market welcoming for all kinds of people
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What are your thoughts on more nuanced sexuality labels and their relationship with lgbt?
For example: demisexuality. Many that don’t identify as demisexual but hear of the term dismiss it altogether. Others that are members of lgbt fear that cishet people are trying to invade lgbt by...
For example: demisexuality. Many that don’t identify as demisexual but hear of the term dismiss it altogether. Others that are members of lgbt fear that cishet people are trying to invade lgbt by splitting hairs.
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Lilly Wachowski, who co-directed the Matrix films with her sister, Lana, has confirmed that they should be read as allegories for the transgender narrative
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Are there any words/terms that people often use that are offensive to you/your group of people?
Inspired from my conversation with @CALICO about how the word "trap" is offensive and how less than a day later, the r/animemes mod team has banned the word for the same reasons that he has cited,...
Inspired from my conversation with @CALICO about how the word "trap" is offensive and how less than a day later, the r/animemes mod team has banned the word for the same reasons that he has cited, which has caused practically universal backlash and closed the sub to anything not related to that decision.
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QAF: A Chinese fan-forum that's grown into a hub for volunteers subtitling foreign LGBTIQ media and a support community
8 votes -
Reconstructing ballroom history: Older generations vs. today
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Bisexuality exists: Bisexual attraction study upends decades of flawed research
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May we all be so brave as 19th century female husbands
11 votes -
Sue Ellen's, Texas' oldest lesbian bar, faces its latest challenge: surviving the pandemic
7 votes -
B'nai mitzvah: Instead of a male or female coming-of-age ceremony, one Jewish teen decided to do "something in the middle"
8 votes -
Coming out at ninety years old... to my gay daughter
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"Am I bisexual?" - A guide to dating women for the first time in adulthood
7 votes -
Historically associated with gay male culture, the glory hole is a remarkably durable form of sexual expression that both straights and gays use to this day
7 votes