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Celebrating 30th wedding anniversary - AMA

Posted by patience_limited
Tags: relationships, ask.discussion, marriage, tolerance, ama

So the Summer Solstice of 2026 concludes the 30th year that spouse and I have been married. We're in the queer bin, no offspring, two cats, and have both had miscellaneous careers, now on the bumpy path to elderhood.

Relationship advice - ups, downs, and all arounds, is a perennial theme of Tildes discussion.

This is your opportunity to throw down your questions about how to manage keeping it together this long.

Full disclosure: I've had two glasses of wine for our intermediate celebration (we decided to have a small one on the actual date since it's a Monday, the blowout is Friday night), so the immediate answers may be a little fuzzy.

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    CannibalisticApple
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    Congratulations!! I hope you get another 30 years of bliss! How long did it take for you two to decide you found "the one"? Was there any special moment/memory that it just clicked?

    Congratulations!! I hope you get another 30 years of bliss!

    How long did it take for you two to decide you found "the one"? Was there any special moment/memory that it just clicked?

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    1. patience_limited
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      So here's the story of how we "met" before we met. We'd effectively "clicked" with each other intellectually for some time before our first face-to-face interaction, and the in-person chemistry...

      So here's the story of how we "met" before we met.

      We'd effectively "clicked" with each other intellectually for some time before our first face-to-face interaction, and the in-person chemistry just happened to be there from the start.

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  2. JXM
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    I just hit 10 years with my spouse and I love them more than ever. What habit or quirk of your partner do you find most endearing?

    I just hit 10 years with my spouse and I love them more than ever. What habit or quirk of your partner do you find most endearing?

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  3. tomf
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    Dumbest argument?

    Dumbest argument?

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