27 votes

Valentine's day

So today it's Valentine's day, how are you doing and what are your plans for today, if you have any?

43 comments

  1. [12]
    bun Link
    Me and my girlfriend are not going to partake in some over-commercialized holiday. We can love each other each dang day of the year, don't see why today should be special.

    Me and my girlfriend are not going to partake in some over-commercialized holiday. We can love each other each dang day of the year, don't see why today should be special.

    17 votes
    1. [4]
      welly Link Parent
      I'm not sure if Valentine's Day has ever been anything other than commercial, certainly in my lifetime. But then, it's only commercial if you buy into it. Same with Christmas or birthdays. You can...

      I'm not sure if Valentine's Day has ever been anything other than commercial, certainly in my lifetime. But then, it's only commercial if you buy into it. Same with Christmas or birthdays. You can make it as commercial or as not commercial as you choose to.

      9 votes
      1. [3]
        bun Link Parent
        I agree. But for me, the constant noise of commercials, products and a push to purchase things kinda sours it for me. Same with Christmas for that sake. I wish I could separate those in my head...

        You can make it as commercial or as not commercial as you choose to.

        I agree. But for me, the constant noise of commercials, products and a push to purchase things kinda sours it for me. Same with Christmas for that sake. I wish I could separate those in my head but I can't. So I'd rather surprise my girlfriend with something romantic on any random day. I think she prefers a romantic gesture more anyways, when it's not expected.

        6 votes
        1. [2]
          welly Link Parent
          That's a fair comment. When you're being continually bombarded with "Buy you girlfriend this 'Forever Friends' bear! Or she'll hate you!" for weeks, it does take the romantic aspect of it. And it...

          That's a fair comment.

          When you're being continually bombarded with "Buy you girlfriend this 'Forever Friends' bear! Or she'll hate you!" for weeks, it does take the romantic aspect of it.

          And it is a little stale/clinical too, having a set date when you're supposed to be romantic. What if you've had a fall out on the 13th February?

          Having had few relationships that happen to have lived through valentine's day (and the ones that did, my girlfriends had no interest in that day), I can't say it's been much of a factor in my life.

          4 votes
          1. frickindeal Link Parent
            It also falls at a pretty awkward time financially for a lot of people. Many people just paid their January bill for Christmas presents, and a couple weeks later they're met with "jewelry starting...

            It also falls at a pretty awkward time financially for a lot of people. Many people just paid their January bill for Christmas presents, and a couple weeks later they're met with "jewelry starting at just $299," which you know companies do as a "suggestion" for the minimum you should spend. Even the traditional dozen red roses can be pretty expensive if you want it delivered, or even if you go get it. It's the "here, spend money you may not have because otherwise you don't love each other" holiday. (Yes, I'm a bit cynical, but it seems like these things are just so commercial and manufactured for max profits.)

            5 votes
    2. [2]
      Parliament Link Parent
      I go with the approach of "I don't need another opportunity to tell you I love you, but I will gladly take the opportunity to tell you I love you". We usually just exchange cards and grab dinner,...

      I go with the approach of "I don't need another opportunity to tell you I love you, but I will gladly take the opportunity to tell you I love you". We usually just exchange cards and grab dinner, nothing maj. Not even going out to dinner this year since we went last night instead, but we did exchange cards this morning.

      8 votes
      1. Catt Link Parent
        We're like that too. Never anything major, just something like me writing him a cheesy little note and h picking up a hot chocolate for me on his way home.

        We're like that too. Never anything major, just something like me writing him a cheesy little note and h picking up a hot chocolate for me on his way home.

        5 votes
    3. [5]
      Tygrak Link Parent
      I agree on it being over-commercialized, but I think that basically every holiday is. I wish birthdays and christmas and everything was less of such a big deal tbh.

      I agree on it being over-commercialized, but I think that basically every holiday is. I wish birthdays and christmas and everything was less of such a big deal tbh.

      7 votes
      1. [2]
        Thunder-ten-tronckh Link Parent
        Christmas is just as cultural as it is commercialized though, no? It's corny as hell, but I get a warm fuzzy feeling when I see a bunch of people contributing to a whole month of seasonal...

        Christmas is just as cultural as it is commercialized though, no? It's corny as hell, but I get a warm fuzzy feeling when I see a bunch of people contributing to a whole month of seasonal activities and decorations. You travel to some European cities in Switzerland or Scandinavia and it's common to hear "you should see this place around Christmas." There's something really nice about a whole town participating in the same cultural tradition.

        Idk, I think there's a lot to like about the holiday season beyond the overly-commercialized aspect.

        8 votes
        1. AhThatsTheStuff Link Parent
          Yeah, I'm with you. Commercialization of holidays is a part of Christmas, but it's not the main aspect of Christmas. Honestly, commercialization is a part of almost literally everything, I can't...

          Yeah, I'm with you. Commercialization of holidays is a part of Christmas, but it's not the main aspect of Christmas. Honestly, commercialization is a part of almost literally everything, I can't get on a bus, airplane, or even walk down the street without seeing an advertisement trying to sell me something.

          I see Christmas and a lot of these holidays not as demanding me to buy things, but rather a reminder to celebrate the spirit of the holiday. And who cares if commercialization is apart of Valentine's day, I'll take any arbitrary excuse to remind my wife how much I love her.

          3 votes
      2. bun Link Parent
        Same, so I try my best to minimalize both.

        Same, so I try my best to minimalize both.

        6 votes
      3. frickindeal Link Parent
        I had a girl tell a group that we should be buying all her drinks because "It's my birthday month!" Lady, you're pushing fifty. Birthday weeks are bad enough, but now you want a whole month? And a...

        I had a girl tell a group that we should be buying all her drinks because "It's my birthday month!" Lady, you're pushing fifty. Birthday weeks are bad enough, but now you want a whole month? And a middle-aged woman celebrating another year gone? It just doesn't make sense to me. They wanted to throw a huge bash for my fiftieth, but my cousin was in the hospital with terminal cancer and I really didn't feel like celebrating anything.

        2 votes
  2. MimicSquid Link
    My wife and I are cutting out of work early to go to one of our favored restaurants for an early dinner and drinks. It's a celebration of our relationship, and also of the fact that we have enough...

    My wife and I are cutting out of work early to go to one of our favored restaurants for an early dinner and drinks. It's a celebration of our relationship, and also of the fact that we have enough financial breathing room to go out to eat once in a while now.

    13 votes
  3. [3]
    Comment deleted by author
    Link
    1. [2]
      Thunder-ten-tronckh Link Parent
      Put a ring on that and get your ass to Iceland.

      Put a ring on that and get your ass to Iceland.

      3 votes
      1. pleure Link Parent
        Different guy, but as much as I love Iceland I don't think I'd want to live there. Dark and cold for half the year, crazy expensive food, difficult language...

        Different guy, but as much as I love Iceland I don't think I'd want to live there. Dark and cold for half the year, crazy expensive food, difficult language...

        2 votes
  4. papasquat Link
    My wife and I are slapping some nice new york strips on the stove, cracking open a bottle of wine, and watching a bunch of Star Trek, just like every year!

    My wife and I are slapping some nice new york strips on the stove, cracking open a bottle of wine, and watching a bunch of Star Trek, just like every year!

    6 votes
  5. DyslexicStoner240 Link
    Unfortunately I'm single this year around, so nothing special here. For all those without a significant other, stay strong and perhaps take the chance to call your parents - they'll certainly be...

    Unfortunately I'm single this year around, so nothing special here. For all those without a significant other, stay strong and perhaps take the chance to call your parents - they'll certainly be happy to hear from you!

    I made sure to call my mom and have a nice chat with her since it's been 2 months since the last time i saw her, will probably do the same with pops this evening once he finishes with work.

    6 votes
  6. [3]
    JuniperMonkeys Link
    We do a thing where we make dumb cakes for occasions. Birthdays call for steak cakes, which is steak-mashed potatos-steak-mashed potatos or something to that effect. Since neither of us is...

    We do a thing where we make dumb cakes for occasions. Birthdays call for steak cakes, which is steak-mashed potatos-steak-mashed potatos or something to that effect. Since neither of us is inclined to go to a restaurant on a crowded Thursday, but because today is also our anniversary (well, originally, before we got married), we were thinking it's time to come up with an appropriate dumb cake. I was thinking pancake-bacon-eggs-pancake-bacon-eggs-pancake.

    5 votes
    1. [2]
      MomoBuddy Link Parent
      How did it turn out?

      How did it turn out?

      2 votes
      1. JuniperMonkeys (edited ) Link Parent
        Really well! Early tests proved inconclusive, but after the first couple pancakes I firmed up the mix with a bit more flour and made them thicker, so that they were better able to accommodate the...

        Really well! Early tests proved inconclusive, but after the first couple pancakes I firmed up the mix with a bit more flour and made them thicker, so that they were better able to accommodate the eggs. Seems like a slightly tougher pancake than I generally go for is key to the caking. Also eliminated the top pancake, since it had nothing to absorb and was a bit too dry. (which seems obvious in retrospect)

  7. acdw Link
    Me and my fiancee will be making pizza at home, because F those lines on Valentine's day.

    Me and my fiancee will be making pizza at home, because F those lines on Valentine's day.

    4 votes
  8. saiyanprideparade Link
    Yesterday my GF and I made donuts for her classmates. Tonight? I'm hoping to do nothing because its a madhouse on Valentines Day.

    Yesterday my GF and I made donuts for her classmates. Tonight? I'm hoping to do nothing because its a madhouse on Valentines Day.

    4 votes
  9. [4]
    Tomate Link
    Our plan was to grab some food and go to the cinema afterwards (since Alita just started today (:). But we’ve been hit by traffic so we just drink some wine and go for a walk :)

    Our plan was to grab some food and go to the cinema afterwards (since Alita just started today (:).
    But we’ve been hit by traffic so we just drink some wine and go for a walk :)

    4 votes
    1. [3]
      PepperJackson Link Parent
      That's a great alternative if you ask me. Hopefully the weather isn't too extreme where you are at like it seems to be in a lot of country right now!

      That's a great alternative if you ask me. Hopefully the weather isn't too extreme where you are at like it seems to be in a lot of country right now!

      3 votes
      1. [2]
        Tomate Link Parent
        Actually it was really warm today here in Germany :)

        Actually it was really warm today here in Germany :)

        2 votes
        1. PepperJackson Link Parent
          Well that's what I get for assuming you are in the US. I'm glad you had a nice day together.

          Well that's what I get for assuming you are in the US. I'm glad you had a nice day together.

          1 vote
  10. Emerald_Knight Link
    Well, this is the first Valentine's day in nearly a decade that I've been single. I brought home a bottle of wine and ordered some pizza, and now I'm about to get onto playing some games. Could I...

    Well, this is the first Valentine's day in nearly a decade that I've been single. I brought home a bottle of wine and ordered some pizza, and now I'm about to get onto playing some games.

    Could I have been out trying to get a date? Sure. But honestly, I have neither the time nor the energy to invest in dating right now, and I've got some baggage to work through that I've only pretty recently noticed that I'm not about to dump onto another person. I've got to show myself some love before I start trying to show it to someone else.

    4 votes
  11. eve Link
    I'm good! My SO and I are actually going to be doing date stuff tomorrow. He has Fridays free so I took the day off. We're going to a really tasty French bakery and then the museum and maybe...

    I'm good! My SO and I are actually going to be doing date stuff tomorrow. He has Fridays free so I took the day off. We're going to a really tasty French bakery and then the museum and maybe something else we're not totally sure. But tonight we're doing dinner with his parents. So nothing crazy but this'll be the first year we go out on a date for Valentine's Day and I am super duper excited and happy!

    3 votes
  12. Ephemere Link
    We usually don't go out on Valentines day per se, as everything is normally quite overbooked. Tomorrow however we're going to go to a burlesque show, something we've never done before. I'm...

    We usually don't go out on Valentines day per se, as everything is normally quite overbooked. Tomorrow however we're going to go to a burlesque show, something we've never done before. I'm actually a little nervous about it as the tickets indicate that dressing in roaring twenties clothing is heartily encouraged, and the best I can manage from my wardrobe is somewhat anemic. Not that anyone cares but me!

    Still, it'll be interesting however it goes, I'm sure.

    3 votes
  13. Nmg Link
    My parents are coming over for dinner, lol My partner and I live in the DC metro area, and Hillwood Estate, Mansion, & Gardens is one of our favorite places to visit, particularly now, during...

    My parents are coming over for dinner, lol

    My partner and I live in the DC metro area, and Hillwood Estate, Mansion, & Gardens is one of our favorite places to visit, particularly now, during Orchid season. We are going there on Saturday.

    3 votes
  14. s3rvant (edited ) Link
    Thursdays are pretty busy in general so probably not much. The misses mentioned wanting to cook something a bit nicer than usual for supper so I'm looking forward to what she has in store (she's...

    Thursdays are pretty busy in general so probably not much. The misses mentioned wanting to cook something a bit nicer than usual for supper so I'm looking forward to what she has in store (she's an excellent cook).

    She had made a random comment about liking a knit hat I have (has a cap bill built in and just long enough to cover ears) so I surprised her with an early Valentine's gift with a red one for her (she loves it) since it's been rather cold in our area and I didn't want to have her waiting just for the sake of opening it on Valentine's Day.

    The kids however... the kids are most definitely getting visited at school and/or little candies/balloons/plushies just cause it's fun and they get a big kick out of it :)

    Edit: kiddos requested pizza (it's been a while) so we're making our own personal pizza via tortilla shells. Kids love it and I get to stay on diet (keto). And lets not kid ourselves: I love me some pizza :D

    3 votes
  15. Diet_Coke Link
    I got my gf a pretty sweet massage gift certificate (bonus - extra 3 hours to chill and play video games some weekend). We'll probably just make some nice steaks for dinner and maybe go out and do...

    I got my gf a pretty sweet massage gift certificate (bonus - extra 3 hours to chill and play video games some weekend). We'll probably just make some nice steaks for dinner and maybe go out and do something Saturday.

    3 votes
  16. rogue_cricket Link
    Not a particularly inventive tradition, but I tend to treat my girlfriend to a nice dinner. Honestly I'll take any opportunity to enjoy a bit of fine dining! This year I've found my local art...

    Not a particularly inventive tradition, but I tend to treat my girlfriend to a nice dinner. Honestly I'll take any opportunity to enjoy a bit of fine dining! This year I've found my local art gallery is doing a special event with a prix fixe menu and I managed to get the last ticket on the 9th.

    I am interested to see how they're set up - there's a large Salvador Dali painting that I hope to see while I am there.

    3 votes
  17. PepperJackson Link
    My girlfriend and I are long distance, but I had a great opportunity to see her for an extended stay from around christmastime until yesterday. In med school, you get some time off to study for...

    My girlfriend and I are long distance, but I had a great opportunity to see her for an extended stay from around christmastime until yesterday. In med school, you get some time off to study for the first part of your boards (which you take between the didactic and clinical parts of med school, usually between years 2 & 3).
    I'm taking mine next week, and flights from her city to mine were especially reasonable yesterday so here I am on the other side of the country now! She's moving out very soon, which is nice, but it is a bit of a drag that we aren't together today.

    I'll be videocalling her tonight! We did a small pre-Valentines/goodbye holiday 2 nights ago which was really sweet. She took me out to one of my favorite restaurants and we just lounged together all day. It was great!

    3 votes
  18. stonetheman98 Link
    Single guy here, but I'm probably going to get some pizza with my roommates, and probably finish off the last few episodes of Maid-Sama we have to go through.

    Single guy here, but I'm probably going to get some pizza with my roommates, and probably finish off the last few episodes of Maid-Sama we have to go through.

    3 votes
  19. cain Link
    My girlfriend and I are not doing anything tonight. I work at 11pm so she has a 'galentines' day set up with a few of her friends going out to do trivia. Tomorrow we are doing surf and turf and...

    My girlfriend and I are not doing anything tonight. I work at 11pm so she has a 'galentines' day set up with a few of her friends going out to do trivia. Tomorrow we are doing surf and turf and drinking a lot for our vday. Pretty much a normal weekend except the wine cost 18 dollars instead of 9 dollars for tomorrow ;)

    3 votes
  20. [2]
    uselessabstraction Link
    I picked up my Fiancé some chocolates from a local confectionery, and a Nintendo Switch. The Switch was a blatantly and openly self-interested gift, but I knew she'd love it. :) She baked me a...

    I picked up my Fiancé some chocolates from a local confectionery, and a Nintendo Switch. The Switch was a blatantly and openly self-interested gift, but I knew she'd love it. :)

    She baked me a heart-shaped pizza, which we shared while cranking out some Miis. We're planning on going out for dinner this weekend.

    3 votes
    1. MomoBuddy Link Parent
      What game are you going to play first?

      What game are you going to play first?

      2 votes
  21. IvyMike Link
    After a few miserable experiences at overcrowded and overpriced Valentine's day dinner specials, my girlfriend and I made a pact: we will celebrate Valentine's day on a different day than everyone...

    After a few miserable experiences at overcrowded and overpriced Valentine's day dinner specials, my girlfriend and I made a pact: we will celebrate Valentine's day on a different day than everyone else. It is so so nice. This Saturday we're going out for a fun meal, and later this month we're going for an over-the-top fancy pants dinner at Vespertine.

    3 votes
  22. JohnnyAssholeSeed Link
    Last Valentine's Day I got surgery from a date gone wrong, and today I had a consultation appointment to get the hardware from the last surgery out! Can't wait!

    Last Valentine's Day I got surgery from a date gone wrong, and today I had a consultation appointment to get the hardware from the last surgery out! Can't wait!

    3 votes
  23. [2]
    stepdad Link
    I got in a car accident a week ago so I won’t be able to see my girl :(

    I got in a car accident a week ago so I won’t be able to see my girl :(

    2 votes
    1. Nashooo Link Parent
      That sucks man! Hope it is not too serious, get well soon and make up for lost time then!

      That sucks man! Hope it is not too serious, get well soon and make up for lost time then!

      3 votes
  24. thejumpingbulldog Link
    Valentines Day? I thought this was Alonemas?

    Valentines Day? I thought this was Alonemas?

    1 vote