I was recently removed from medi-cal due to “potential fraud”. Long story short, I didn’t commit fraud. I have had zero income in over a year, have something like $1500 total, and receive no other benefits.

However, I’m currently dealing with bureaucratic confusion as the trail of who is responsible has dead ended and no one seems to be clear on what happened or why.

The medi-cal coordinator at the county social services office thinks it’s best if I just reapply but while I wait for my new application to be processed I am uninsured. Of course, if it goes through then I should have coverage dating back to the 1st of April.

Yet, given that there’s no good reason for it to have been canceled in the first place I’m wary of placing all my eggs in that basket. And would prefer to have some sort of catastrophe insurance if at all possible.

Is this even possible in California? It seems like short term health insurance might be banned here? Any ideas would be welcome. The whole situation is frustrating to say the least.

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I'm a ball of rage over my pediatrician having to drop their contract with United due to some disagreement, as we really like our pediatrician. I kind of don't care if it's actually the office's fault at this point; I'd like to direct this anger over bullshit affecting the care my kids receive at them while I'm still motivated. It's probably not going to help, but what is the most effective way I can badger them, pester them, inundate their support lines, etc to get back?

Or, y'know, diplomatic means if it'd actually help?

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I used to use the Waking Up app for daily 20 minute guided meditations, and I want to get back into it, but these days I don't use a smartphone most of the time so I'm looking for something similar that I could load up onto the (offline) hardware music player that I use for music and audiobooks. Ideally a number of different similar-length guided meditations (where I could either loop through them in order, or pick one at random for each session). I'm still fairly new to meditation, so I'm probably not aware of all the forms/formats that this kind of thing can take, but the ones I'd been using are 20-30 minutes of mostly silence (but I'm not opposed to the idea of some kind of background white noise) with a guide providing verbal instructions around breathing and relaxation at the beginning, then providing occasional visualization exersizes or affirmations to focus on at occasional intervals.

A few searches shows no shortage of options for this kind of thing (both free and paid), but I'm wondering if anyone has any specific recommendations of something like this that they use or have used and would vouch for the quality. It seems like the kind of category where it would be easy to churn out a bunch of low-effort AI generated slop and disguise it as something else, which I would like to avoid.

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I'm a mom of one, moved to another country a few years ago. I don't have friends or family who can help me or just briefly say "hi". Because of my kid, of course I'm mostly stuck at home. I'm working, but don't have enough money to leave my kid with a nanny. I have my kid's father in the same city, but he can't take the kid at his house. He knows my situation (which I will write about above), but I don't think it's a good idea to bother him more, because I guess he has his own struggles.

Anyway. At the start of the year, I broke up with my ex, because he was lying even about small things (he literally could change his messages to look better, not to change his grammar mistakes), hid stuff and I suppose I was a backup option or rebound or something, he hid a lot of stuff (only fans, had a lot of accounts everywhere, etc), he proposed to me during text when we fought and even said "oh f, let's get married, just come here!", it was a few times. And then he did nothing about it at all and even said "yeah, a lot of stuff we need to do before marriage" and it was the first time when I realized that those things were said just to pull me back, not because he really loved me. Also he threatened me with suicide from the start, when I tried to finish our talking. By the way it was a long distance relationship. He suggested I should pay half for the second trip, knowing I don't have enough money and then, after we broke up he wrote "yeah, you just understood that I don't have enough money, and used me for entertainment".

Anyway at the start of the year I decided to end things. It ended with him threatening me with my private videos (which I asked him to delete 3 times and he lied 3 times that he did it). He threatened me for 4 days, including my birthday. Then he threatened me with suicide again. Then tried to guilt-trip me. Then again suicide, but he tried to blame me for this. Also, he wrote stuff online, he stalked me everywhere, I changed phone numbers a few times, deactivated my socials everywhere, I was isolated in real life and online. All this time I blocked all his accounts and newly made accounts also. I didn't drop a word.

The first 2 months of the year I was like in the movie Midsommar, where, if you remember, girls with the main character cried out loud. I turned on this exact moment and cried with them like this for almost 2 months when my kid was sleeping and while working. The 3rd month was kind of ok, it was easier, I still got up with shivering, but at least I could handle that. And yesterday I checked his socials and it seems like he's doing just fine. And yes, he's finally stopped all attempts to reach me (he called it fighting).

Now my questions:

1. Am I right, that if he really wanted to, even after threatening me and all that stuff he did to me, he would take actions? Real actions.
2. Previously I had suicide attempts. I am struggling again. I don't have money for a therapist, I used those emergency services to help myself, but they didn't care much. I'm doing all I can to help myself: free articles, podcasts, free resources to deal with suicide. But yes, I am really on the edge. I know I have my kid and I need to fight for my child, but I swear, I really can't, I swear, I really can't. I just wanted a family, I just wanted a partner, I thought he was a nice guy. I swear I can't.
   Please, give me any advice, whatever you have, please suggest something, maybe I just can't see some options, because I'm literally isolated and shocked. Please.​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​​

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What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

Hey Tildoes, my partner and I have been navigating a broad, government level health challenge and I was hoping to pick the hivemind for help on navigating it.

As some of you may have seen in articles posted here, there was a massive fire at the lithium ion battery plant in Moss Landing a few months ago. It ended up spewing a slough of nasty chemicals into the air, which inevitably landed in the surround agricultural fields and waterways. My partner was in Australia when the fire occured, thank god, but was still freaking out about downstream effects. There have been studies from a 3rd party group from UC Davis and San Jose State - that found elevated levels of heavy metals - however those have been downplayed by local agencies claiming there are not major impacts and that distribution was surface level. With everything we know about state and federal agencies oversight, sometimes they are less than transparent about reporting toxic impact factors - like what happened in Hinkley and was popularized by the movie Erin Brockovich. However today the California Certified Organic Farmers put out their own update and press release. They summarized what has happened and seem to be endorsing the safety of the farms they have certified in the area.

So here is the rub: Federal, state, county, and local agencies have determined there is not significant contamination, the CCOF has agreed with these agencies, and my partner is still uncomfortable eating local produce. It feels a bit like we're back in covid times, and she is looking for cherry picked studies to justify strict behavioral and consumption restrictions within our household. We have always agreed to "shift our risk tolerance according to data" and now - with the Trump administration and a general distrust of our fed/state agencies - she's advocating we continue to avoid these foods until there is "definitive proof" that the food is safe.

I'm kind of at a loss of what do to. On one hand, it's a minor thing to change where we get our food. Food systems are complex and we can kind of get it from anywhere. On the other hand, I love my time at our farmers markets, experimenting with new foods, and supporting our local community. I also think the more obscure the process from farm to shelf, the more possibility for health/employee/environmental shenanigans by the producers. To me buying broadly "American" or "Mexican" kale doesn't mean we aren't going to have similar or worse impacts to our food.

I'm trying to find a reasonable middle ground or a bellwether indicator we can use as a go/no-go, but every time I think we've agreed on one it feels like the goal posts have been moved. Do any of you have similar issues or possible navigated differences in risk tolerance during Covid well? If so, how did you do so? I know this is a bit of a random thread, but I'd love to hear what you think!

What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

Hello fellow Tilderinos. My 9 year old will likely have to use crutches for a few weeks and I'm looking for some tips on how to make her life less miserable.

Unfortunately this happened not only right before we're set to fly on holiday this Friday (and we may have to cancel), but in early March she was meant to go on a week long school field trip where they were going to go horse riding and do circus classes. She's understandably upset she's going to miss out. Even if we're still able to fly on holiday next week, she won't be able to participate in the vast majority of activities she usually enjoys.

As a very physically active and social child, I know this is going to be really hard on her. I'd love some tips on how to keep her spirits up and make it possible for her to participate in fun activities (also possibly limit screen time as well). Would welcome any tips you may have to make it a less miserable time for her!