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  1. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    It goes. I'm just trying to get my documents fixed, but the judges here require an endocrinologist to sign off on the treatment having been "irreversible", and the 'rona really derailed my plans.

    It goes. I'm just trying to get my documents fixed, but the judges here require an endocrinologist to sign off on the treatment having been "irreversible", and the 'rona really derailed my plans.

    2 votes
  2. Comment on What did you do this week? in ~talk

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    I managed to get quite a bit done. I had my intake appointment on Monday, and set up my first therapy appointment for the next Monday. I had my blood drawn on Wednesday, and sent the result to the...

    I managed to get quite a bit done. I had my intake appointment on Monday, and set up my first therapy appointment for the next Monday. I had my blood drawn on Wednesday, and sent the result to the endocrinologist who should write the report on my transition. I submitted my request for unemployment benefits on the same day, and then proceeded to sleep the Xanax off.

    I also decided to go out and explore Milano a bit on Thursday - nearly had a panic attack at Porta Venezia - went to a library, got some LGBT pins, then a bar, almost had another panic attack, chatted with people, ate at a McDonalds past midnight, and got back home all in one piece.

    I was low-key thinking about going back there later today, but there's a storm going on right now - the rain is hitting the blinds so hard it's actually going through them - and I don't have anything I could wear in this weather.

    5 votes
  3. Comment on Reddit releases their new content policy along with banning hundreds of subreddits, including /r/The_Donald and /r/ChapoTrapHouse in ~tech

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    You might be happy to hear that Reddit just banned pretty much every remaining GC subreddit. If they keep at it like this, I might eventually have to take back what I said about them not taking...

    You might be happy to hear that Reddit just banned pretty much every remaining GC subreddit.

    If they keep at it like this, I might eventually have to take back what I said about them not taking hate groups seriously.

    3 votes
  4. Comment on Got any new electronics? Tell me about them! in ~talk

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    MFCL2710DW. Paid €165 for it, and it worked out of the box with CUPS once I set it up to connect to my wifi.

    MFCL2710DW. Paid €165 for it, and it worked out of the box with CUPS once I set it up to connect to my wifi.

  5. Comment on Got any new electronics? Tell me about them! in ~talk

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    I got a bunch of stuff over the last six months or so. The laptop was the first thing I bought with my first paycheck, back in January: a refurbished T450 with an i7-5600U, which I opened to...

    I got a bunch of stuff over the last six months or so.

    The laptop was the first thing I bought with my first paycheck, back in January: a refurbished T450 with an i7-5600U, which I opened to upgrade its RAM to 16 GiB and to swap the HDD for a 500 GiB SSD. It was an huge upgrade over the Travelmate I had before, as I went up three generations (i3-2350M to i7-5600U) and quadrupled my memory.

    I have installed Debian on it, setting up a rather minimal desktop environment, and I will need to crack it open again soon to install an internal battery (Thinkpads up to the T450 came with dual batteries, but the one I got only had some plastic spacer inside).

    Then, in May, I got both a printer - most stores were closed, libraries were closed, and I had to print some things - and an e-reader.

    The printer is a Brother multi-function laser printer, which is actually pretty damn nice: it can scan up to 50 sheets of paper automatically, print duplex, and it can do so over WiFi.

    The e-reader is a Kobo Libra H2O. The form factor is slightly weird coming from other e-readers/from reading on the phone, but the screen is 7", it has physical keys, it should be water-resistant and it has a very good backlight, which can go from blue-ish to amber.

    I didn't like how it wanted to force me to log-in to some account before I could start to use it, but bypassing that was easy: I just connected it to my laptop, opened up ~.kobo/KoboReader.sqlite~ and inserted an empty row in some table in there. Had to disable sync - not that I could have used it without an account - because the first time I did that I found a bunch of weird books in my library.

    I'm running KOReader on it right now, and while I like it, it could definitely be better. It doesn't cope well with very large ePubs - as opposed to Nickel - and as I like to read web serials offline that is a problem. It also doesn't deal well with changing orientation, fonts, or font size - I think it's somehow redrawing the whole book when that happens - and it feels like it's using more energy than it should (or maybe I'm just a bit too liberal with the backlight).

    3 votes
  6. Comment on What did you do this weekend? in ~talk

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    I celebrated my 27th year spent revolving around the Sun by ignoring phone calls, trying to not cry, skipping lunch, and having dinner at a nearby restaurant while feeling like crawling out of my...

    I celebrated my 27th year spent revolving around the Sun by ignoring phone calls, trying to not cry, skipping lunch, and having dinner at a nearby restaurant while feeling like crawling out of my skin because of how anxious large groups of people make me.

    I had an appointment with a therapist this morning, though, so there's that.

    3 votes
  7. Comment on What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga) in ~anime

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    I just watched the Fate/Grand Order: First Order movie on a whim. I watched the Fate/Zero and Fate/Stay Night: Unlimited Blade Works series a couple of years ago, and I expected something...

    I just watched the Fate/Grand Order: First Order movie on a whim. I watched the Fate/Zero and Fate/Stay Night: Unlimited Blade Works series a couple of years ago, and I expected something comparable, but my expectations were thoroughly dashed.

    Very light spoilers - plot outline, but no details It has pretty visuals, that's for sure, but there is very little in the way of story. Some remote research facility, people chosen from all over the world to change history, then sabotage!, only one person can save the project, random fights, an unexpected ally - really, I can't see Cú Chulainn as Caster - even more fight scenes, the enemy seems to triumph but is then defeated thanks to THE POWER OF LOVE (ok, not really).

    It was actually more-or-less fine until the last ~15 minutes, if a bit too tropey and diluted, but the twist at the end just came out of the left field. It felt completely unnecessary, save to set up a plot hook for even more "only you can save the world!" anime, with a side dish of evil for the sake of evil.

    Maybe I missed the point, I'm not sure, but this doesn't stand on its own.

    1 vote
  8. Comment on Reddit releases their new content policy along with banning hundreds of subreddits, including /r/The_Donald and /r/ChapoTrapHouse in ~tech

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    Oh, it definitely will. Even if IAF, TrollGC & co are still around GenderCritical was, by far, the largest and most active sub in the "TERfsphere": I ran the numbers on some 70+ GC subs about a...

    Oh, it definitely will. Even if IAF, TrollGC & co are still around GenderCritical was, by far, the largest and most active sub in the "TERfsphere": I ran the numbers on some 70+ GC subs about a year ago, and GenderCritical proper was

    1. the largest sub by at least an order of magnitude: its userbase had doubled since April 2019, but back then the next largest sub was /r/truelesbians, and it had six times less users;
    2. the most active sub by far, as it had more posts (~1.03x) and comments (~1.3x) than the next ten largest subs put together.

    They just lost their largest recruitment ground - it doesn't help that most of their other subs went private following the ban - and even if the users are still there, their userbase is now fragmented. It will take a long, long time for them to recover, if they will ever manage that.We will see a tide of TERs spreading hatred all over Reddit, that much was inevitable, but I doubt they will be able to keep at it for long.

    6 votes
  9. Comment on Tell me about your living space in ~life

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    My home is, right now, a ~40 m2 apartment, on the third floor of a fairly old apartment building. It is split in two rooms of roughly the same size, kitchen and bedroom, mostly furnished with IKEA...

    My home is, right now, a ~40 m2 apartment, on the third floor of a fairly old apartment building. It is split in two rooms of roughly the same size, kitchen and bedroom, mostly furnished with IKEA furniture, and it has a tiny bathroom.

    I'm not sure there is anything I appreciate about it, per se, but I love the fact that it allows me to live alone. I love the independence it affords me: I love how I can dictate how my day should go, and I love how I can let my hair down, both metaphorically and literally, without anyone being there to comment on it. The fact that I don't have to pay rent - it belongs to my mother, and before I moved here for work it had been left empty for at least a year - is also a pretty nice perk, and it allowed me to save a nice chunk of money.

    What bothers me is, mostly, its location. It is on the third floor, there is no elevator, and the stairs are fairly narrow, which makes lugging my groceries upstairs a chore. It is a bit too well-insulated, making its walls prone to mold, and making it difficult for me to rest: I run hot, even in winter, and summers here are just unbearable. The bathroom, too, is too small - it lacks a bidet! - and was built by someone incompetent, as the shower lacks a siphon, letting the lovely smell of the sewer in.

    I didn't do much with it: it was a mess when I got here, it took a week to make it livable, and getting new furniture - it doesn't really need much, tbh, just a decent office chair and maybe a few shelves - is a bit difficult when you move with public transport and live on the third floor.

    What really makes it mine is the sprawling mess of my things: my keys hanging near the door, my pens and notebooks scattered all over my desk, my clothes on the laundry hamper, my backpack hanging from a steel wire hook I made and put on my desk.

    Also, I didn't spend that much effort on making my living space mine because I first had to make mine my own life.

    I think I'm happy. I'm certainly much better off than where I lived before: together with my family, in a village with the nearest shop being half an hour ago by car, with no prospects and slowly shutting down.

    I'm not sure what I could suggest to others. Get a good chair, maybe? Be ready for summer? Don't let the dishes pile up? Make a meal plan? Take your time to set your cables just so to avoid having to go back-and-forth to check on your charging phone?

    7 votes
  10. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    No. I'm, in fact, asking you what you are basing your conclusion on. As I already asked earlier, do you actually know that the performance of the average trans woman - who, again, are required to...

    Is the claim that HRT affects height, bone cross sectional thickness, and reaction time? Those seem to be pretty extreme claims to me.

    No. I'm, in fact, asking you what you are basing your conclusion on.

    As I already asked earlier, do you actually know that the performance of the average trans woman - who, again, are required to be on HRT for years to participate to most sports - is superior to that of the average cis woman to such an extent to give the former an unfair advantage?

    Do you actually have any data, or

    are you just "this-makes-sense"-ing your way to that conclusion based on "sexual dimorphism exists"?

    3 votes
  11. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    It's the same one. Motte: Sexual dimorphism exists, thus making competition between the average man and the average woman unfair Bailey: Competition between the average trans woman on HRT, and the...

    It's the same one.

    Motte: Sexual dimorphism exists, thus making competition between the average man and the average woman unfair

    Bailey: Competition between the average trans woman on HRT, and the average cis woman, is unfair

    3 votes
  12. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Only one TER so far, at least, but I'm not sure I can disagree with "unusually right slanted opinions". It's something I also felt, but I think it's just because it's getting bigger.

    Only one TER so far, at least, but I'm not sure I can disagree with "unusually right slanted opinions". It's something I also felt, but I think it's just because it's getting bigger.

    4 votes
  13. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Again, motte-and-bailey. Did anyone actually study this, or are you just "this-makes-sense"-ing your way to that conclusion based on "sexual dimorphism exists"?

    Again, motte-and-bailey. Did anyone actually study this, or are you just "this-makes-sense"-ing your way to that conclusion based on "sexual dimorphism exists"?

    2 votes
  14. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Quite. I was very surprised when I went to look for them and realized that they were just not there. I suppose that the fact they are rarely necessary can be considered a testament to the culture...

    Quite. I was very surprised when I went to look for them and realized that they were just not there.

    I suppose that the fact they are rarely necessary can be considered a testament to the culture that Tildes fostered, though.

    8 votes
  15. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Quick self-shill: I address most of them in the footnotes of this semi-rant I posted a week ago. I'm not sure how forgot to mention their use of salient exemplars back then - "this trans woman did...

    I don't have the time or inclination to try and disprove or argue OP's glass house of distorted facts,

    Quick self-shill: I address most of them in the footnotes of this semi-rant I posted a week ago.

    * What really gets me these days is how repetitive they get. They always:
       (1) assert that we are mentally ill, "delusional" - ignoring every single DSM from 1980 onwards - and that we need "real therapy", ignoring the effectiveness of transition and without supporting any of their claims in any way;
       (2) mis-cite Dhejne, 2011 - the "Swedish cohort study" - as proof that transition doesn't work, despite what the study itself and its author have to say;
       (3) cite Steensma, 2011 to argue against "children transitioning", ignoring all the guidelines saying that only blockers should be given 'till 14-16 (Hembree, 2009 and 2017; Cohen-Kettenis, 2011), ignoring the glaring flaws with the Steensma paper itself;
       (4) cite Blanchard, ignoring the fact that his hypothesis is not falsifiable, and often managing to misquote even him when they claim that "AGPs" should not be "allowed" to transition;
       (5) cite Littman, usually together with (3) to make an argument for the "transgender recruitment" of children, ignoring the fact that the only people she polled were from "support" forums for transphobic parents;
       (6) cite McHugh and the ACPeds, which in turn go through (1), (2), and (3);
       (7) mis-cite a 2014 Williams Institute survey, asserting that 41% of trans people kill themselves - that figure refers to lifetime attempted suicide rates - falsely asserting that "not even Jews in death camps killed themselves that often!", therefore (1).

    I'm not sure how forgot to mention their use of salient exemplars back then - "this trans woman did an awful thing, trans women as a group are dangerous" - as it constitutes at least 50% of their "arguments".

    10 votes
  16. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Real studies, imaginary conclusion. What a complex person you are!

    These are actual studies,

    Real studies, imaginary conclusion. What a complex person you are!

    7 votes
  17. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    But more importantly, did anyone control for hormone levels? Using it to "prove" that trans women in sports are a danger to cis women is a typical motte-and-bailey: they assert that sexual...

    The abstract of https://jeb.biologists.org/content/223/2/jeb212365 reads to me like no one involved in writing or proofreading it has any sort of experience with striking arts

    But more importantly, did anyone control for hormone levels?

    Using it to "prove" that trans women in sports are a danger to cis women is a typical motte-and-bailey: they assert that sexual dimorphism exists in humans (obvious, easily defended), but their actual claim is about a different population (trans people, who are required to be on HRT for years before participating in most sports).

    4 votes
  18. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    I think this is only the second time in almost two years that I saw an actual out-and-out transphobic post - and that got swiftly deleted, too - which is much better than pretty much any other...

    I'm disappointed in you, and in this site.

    I think this is only the second time in almost two years that I saw an actual out-and-out transphobic post - and that got swiftly deleted, too - which is much better than pretty much any other online space I know of.

    Edit: incidentally, this comment of mine from a week ago has a counter to every one of these talking points, in its footnotes.

    17 votes
  19. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Guess. Incidentally, I'm not sure people on here would appreciate gross misinformation, which is what you did with, at the very least, Sweet, sweet Dhejne, 2011.

    Guess.

    Don't act like an asshole and routinely make other people's experiences—or lives—worse.

    Do not incite or encourage harm against people, including by posting hate speech or threats.

    Incidentally, I'm not sure people on here would appreciate gross misinformation, which is what you did with, at the very least,

    Long term study of trans people proving that SRS does NOT lower male criminal patterns to near female patterns and that SRS actually INCREASES risk of suicide long term. https://journals.plos.org/plosone/article?id=10.1371/journal.pone.0016885

    Sweet, sweet Dhejne, 2011.

    15 votes
  20. Comment on [WARNING - transphobia] Gender critical has been banned - here are some links I’ve collected in ~test

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    Methinks you didn't quite get what Tildes is about.

    Methinks you didn't quite get what Tildes is about.

    19 votes