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23 votes
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Growing up broken
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Iranian-born Norwegian man is charged over deadly Oslo Pride attack in 2022 – four other suspects are linked to the shooting but have not been charged
10 votes -
Transgender people can be baptized Catholic, serve as godparents, Vatican says
59 votes -
Matteo Lane: The Advice Special | Full stand-up comedy special
5 votes -
New College: How Ron DeSantis is forcing Florida brain drain by targeting an LGBTQ+ campus
24 votes -
1980s interview with Christine Jorgensen, one of the first publicly trangender women in the United States
7 votes -
Mass arrests target LGBTQ+ people in Nigeria while abuses against them are ignored, activists say
23 votes -
A Japanese court rules it's unconstitutional to require surgery for a change of gender on documents
51 votes -
UK PM Rishi Sunak applauded for being openly transphobic in speech
53 votes -
Trans identity and the gender binary
Hi! I would like to take a moment to expand my understanding of an aspect of queer culture that I have some trouble with. I'd like to preface this by saying that, while I consider myself to be...
Hi! I would like to take a moment to expand my understanding of an aspect of queer culture that I have some trouble with. I'd like to preface this by saying that, while I consider myself to be queer in the broader sense, I also pass as a cishet male. That being said, I'm going to express myself honestly in the hopes that someone will be able to give me an honest to what might read as bigoted. Putting everything else in a detail box:
Questions on the 'validity' of trans identity
Basically - I understand gender to be social construct based on expected roles for biological males and females undertake in a traditional society. While there is some validity to the stereotypes on a biological level, I figure that most people should be able to understand that they exist in many places on the spectrum of masculine to feminine traits. People who are queer generally do not fit into these stereotypes and experience ostracization from those who cannot escape the mental paradigm of the gender binary.Is trans identity more than a product of societal gender roles? I don't understand where the root of the dysphoria could be other than not fitting into the stereotypes of your assigned gender. How could someone come to understand that their body feels "wrong" to them without learning that from something outside of their internal experience (i.e. perceiving gender roles and feeling like oneself is more aligned to the opposite pole than the one they're assigned to?) What is the benefit in choosing to identify as transgender (which reinforces gender roles through buying into them) versus choosing to eschew the gender binary entirely and identifying with / presenting as genderfluid or non-binary?
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US appeals court upholds Tennessee's ban on gender-affirming medical care for minors
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Love thy neighbor - A stolen flag, a painted fence, and a message to the community
10 votes -
Florida school district orders librarians to purge all books with LGBTQ characters
36 votes -
Joe Biden administration grants Seattle Children's Hospital $240K for LGBT sex education tool
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Montana judge temporarily blocks enforcement of law to ban gender-affirming medical care for minors
16 votes -
Gender is not the same as sex (linguistics perspective)
11 votes -
Gainesville, Florida is giving trans punk legend Laura Jane Grace a key to the city
11 votes -
New California law bars schoolbook bans based on racial and gender teachings
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US military will review 2,000 ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ discharges
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Under new policy, Italy starts removing lesbian mothers' names from children's birth certificates
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Italian senate about to vote on a law that upgrades surrogacy to 'universal crime' would lead to prosecution of foreign acts within Italy
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French government defends arrest of teen in classroom over transgender bullying claims
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Hyprland is a toxic community
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Trigger warning: Faced with professional discipline and a requirement to take training to keep his psychology license in Canada - Jordan Peterson shares his beliefs re trans people
21 votes -
Türkiye introduces ‘family’ course in schools to ‘fight’ homosexuality
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Bad-faith coverage of trans issues — who does it serve?
16 votes -
Opinion: The Kids Online Safety Act would harm LGBTQ+ youth, restrict access to information and community
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Media reviewers?
I've had this problem come up so many times. I'll be watching a review on a movie/series and partway through the reviewer will make some rude comment about something they perceived as 'political',...
I've had this problem come up so many times. I'll be watching a review on a movie/series and partway through the reviewer will make some rude comment about something they perceived as 'political', or how it was made worse by feminism, or 'woke-ism'. Sometimes it's just a tiny little comment that rubs me the wrong way, and I'll realize: This review is being done by someone with opinions I want nothing to do with. And I especially don't want to further their YouTube career with my watch time. It's become such a pattern at this point that I don't even bother with YouTube media reviews anymore.
I'm not savvy in the landscape of media reviews, I'm relying on what the algorithm serves me, and so far it's only serving up slop. I'm trying to chew through my media backlog and also discover new things, and I'd like to see some perspectives on what's out there. Does anyone here have any recommendations for enthusiastically queer-friendly media review channels? (Not horror focused please, that's not for me.)
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Inside one family's decision to move from Texas to California to protect their transgender teenager
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My experience of transphobia today: "Ew, fucking gross, that's a man"
Said to my friend while we were minding our own business yesterday when walking from A to B in the city. For this old bigoted man that we happened to walk past, simply (gasp) looking at a trans...
Said to my friend while we were minding our own business yesterday when walking from A to B in the city. For this old bigoted man that we happened to walk past, simply (gasp) looking at a trans person was too much for him. How dare she go outside while being transgender? Nope, gotta call that out! Gotta tell this stranger that I find her disgusting! That's super important and I am doing the right thing..!
At least, that's what I imagine his train of thought was like. Who knows.
Blows my mind that people can't just keep homophobia/transphobia to themselves. For reference, there was no pride event or anything, like we weren't dressed in kinky outfits, we weren't waving dildos around or something. Not that being dressed a certain way would have excused his behavior, but it's just to say we were wearing very normal clothing and looked decidedly ordinary and neutral. The only thing that revealed to this guy that my friend is trans is that she hasn't done voice training. She passes perfectly fine outside of that, and so do I - we've both been on hormones and transitioning for 3-4 years.
So perhaps the crime we committed was to make him think we weren't transgender? And then he heard her voice, and felt fooled? I suppose to him, it's the end of the world if he was accidentally attracted to a trans woman if even for a second.
My friend thankfully doesn't let this kind of stuff get to her. She grew up extremely conservative (her family still has a "don't ask, don't tell" policy for example) so she's always had nerves of steel to deal with everything, and I'm glad for her that she can shut this kind of stuff out. I really admire her for how strong she is and how she's able to always persevere. She's probably already forgotten about it but for me, I need to work on similarly not letting this stuff get to me. The man wasn't even talking to/about me but I think the reason I'm so upset about it is that it may just as well have been said to me.
I'm trying to focus on the good, and to not let one vile person ruin it. Because me and my friend had such a nice day together.
69 votes -
The endless battle to banish the world’s most notorious stalker website Kiwi Farms
22 votes -
Lesbians being anti-trans is a lesbophobic trope
45 votes -
Senator admits "Kids Online Safety Act" will target trans content online
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US veterans discharged under ‘Don’t Ask, Don’t Tell’ are still fighting for justice — and benefits
28 votes -
Kansas officials are no longer required to change trans people’s birth certificates, judge says
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Judge denies request to halt Missouri’s gender-affirming medical care ban
15 votes -
California is suing to stop schools from outing trans kids to their parents
33 votes -
Lesbian group seeks human rights exemption to exclude trans women from Melbourne event
41 votes -
Evidence undermines "Rapid Onset Gender Dysphoria" claims
41 votes -
Why do Japanese games handle trans characters so differently?
17 votes -
Brazil high court rules homophobic slurs punishable by prison
15 votes -
This is the gayest World Cup ever (and no one’s batting an eyelid)
25 votes -
Midwestern US cities become transgender health sanctuaries amid GOP legislative threats
33 votes -
The false gospel of conversion therapy: "I went to sessions every week in high school. I came out as trans anyway."
24 votes -
Potentially faulty data spotted in surveys of drug use and other behaviors among LGBQ youth
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US Ninth circuit court of appeal upholds preliminary injunction against Idaho law banning transgender girls and women participation in women's sports
I haven't yet found a news article, but will add if I find one. Here is the ruling. https://cdn.ca9.uscourts.gov/datastore/opinions/2023/08/17/20-35813.pdf
26 votes -
Why I pumped the brakes on vanlife
16 votes -
Italy's far-right ruling party has been ordered to pay damages to a same-sex couple for using a photo of them with their newborn son without their consent in an anti-surrogacy campaign
24 votes -
Ethiopia cracks down on gay sex in hotels, bars and restaurants
30 votes