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17 votes
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How societies turn cruel featuring Sargon of Akkad
10 votes -
Two feet from Clearwater's past, father's funny legacy leaves a deep impression
5 votes -
Loving the alien - How UFO culture took over America
5 votes -
For those who used to work in offices and now work at home due to the pandemic: How has your work schedule changed?
Do you have different rituals? (e.g. used to be in the office by 9am, now shifted to night bird; or switched to a 4-day work week; or take a mid-day break for home schooling)
16 votes -
In the midst of the pandemic, loneliness has leveled out
4 votes -
US universities seek ways to protect students and faculty from being prosecuted by Chinese authorities
7 votes -
How men’s rights groups helped rewrite regulations on campus rape
6 votes -
How do I talk to my girlfriend about her past sexual assault?
I've been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for almost a year now, and things seem rough right now because of an issue we're having. My girlfriend is upset with me because she thinks I...
I've been in a relationship with my current girlfriend for almost a year now, and things seem rough right now because of an issue we're having.
My girlfriend is upset with me because she thinks I don't care about her past trauma. She's told me, very roughly, what she's gone through, and I told her that whenever she's ready to talk about it, I absolutely will. But according to her, the last time she tried to initiate talking about it, I told her that I had no idea what to say. And this upset her and stonewalled the discussion.
I don't doubt that happened. My problem is, is that if she were to try again, I might just very well do the same thing. I have zero idea on how to handle something of this severity. How do I ask her to talk about it? Is that something I should be asking? What does someone even say when given this information? I am not equipped whatsoever to deal with information of this magnitude and I'm at a loss. How do I let her know that I really do care about her, and am 100% willing to listen to what she has to say? I worry I'm too far in the doghouse to even make use of any of this advice, but any help is immensely appreciated
Edit in case anyone was interested: We talked and we're okay :). She told me what she went through and I didn't handle it nearly as bad as I worried I was going to. Thanks everyone for your kind words and helpful advice.
17 votes -
Facing eviction, residents of Denmark's 'ghettos' are suing the government – evictions part of a sweeping plan to rid the country of immigrant-heavy areas by 2030
8 votes -
An Icelandic ritual for wellbeing – when Iceland reopened its public swimming pools, the nation was so delighted that queues formed outside pools at midnight
4 votes -
National trends in grade inflation, American colleges and universities
15 votes -
The kids are alt-right: Teachers know the warning signs when students are radicalized by online hate movements. They just don’t know how to stop it — or if it’s a power struggle they can ever win
29 votes -
US Justice Department says Yale discriminates against Asian, white applicants
10 votes -
Swedes have long embraced their version of staycations: hemester – Covid-19 travel restrictions and remote working are reshaping the tradition
6 votes -
The appeal and desperation of GaryVee's hustle culture
5 votes -
Kooky conspiracy theories are detracting from the very real issue of child trafficking
8 votes -
How not to lose the lockdown generation
9 votes -
Consensus decision-making: a short guide
7 votes -
How does it feel living in a crypt? Impressions of one year later.
11 votes -
Why don't you tell me a little bit about yourself?
9 votes -
The workforce is about to change dramatically
16 votes -
To see how a city embraces remote work, just look to Helsinki – a deeply rooted culture of trust is crucial to the success of remote working
6 votes -
Lawn chairs and kitchen tables - Ergonomics in the involuntary work-from-home era
6 votes -
Losing the education lottery
4 votes -
Shopping addiction and COVID: The Amazon addicts of quarantine
11 votes -
We quit our jobs to build a cabin—everything went wrong
18 votes -
The extraordinary story of Thomas Quick, the Swedish serial killer who never existed
4 votes -
What is the 'sovereign citizen' movement?
7 votes -
"Harbinger households" : Neighborhoods that consistently buy products that get discontinued, buy real-estate that underperforms, and donate to losing political candidates
12 votes -
Reduction of screentime leading to positive changes in daily life
Hi, I think I have mentioned it here a few times, but I (used to) spend A LOT of time on my phone. I’ve tried to reduce it in the past with more or less success, and recently without any...
Hi,
I think I have mentioned it here a few times, but I (used to) spend A LOT of time on my phone. I’ve tried to reduce it in the past with more or less success, and recently without any university work (I finished all exams half a year ago) and varying amounts of work as a freelancer, it crept up to 6+ hours of screen time per day. (this is excluding watching stuff to fall asleep, which I want to reduce but I am taking one step at a time) - So it’s a lot.I tried a lot of stuff, reducing the hours, by setting limits for apps, turning off notifications, but that just leads to me extending the time by entering the password myself, or checking my phone more often because I am curious about whether someone texted.
So last week Wednesday some stuff changed. I took my first long bike ride in a long time, and that day I felt really good, I still had 5 h screen on time that day though. The next day I turned off notifications for Whatsapp, but I left the indicator next to the app on, so I could see that I have messages quickly, I also decided to just force myself to wait a bit until replying to people. Also my girlfriend is the only one that knows my screentime passcode now, so I can't sneakily extend my app timeThat Thursday my screentime was 3h 16 minutes. I was hooked, I wanted to keep my time as low as possible. Since that Thursday, I have not hit the 4h screen on time once. Yesterday I was at 3h 59 min... it was an exhausting day though (Spending 1.5h at the waiting room at the doc) and I wouldn’t have blamed myself, but I still didn’t want to hit the 4h mark. Last Thursday my daily rhythm has changed quite a bit. I got Ring Fit Adventure this week, and I have done sports 4 times this week, I started to pick up playing guitar (literally got one yesterday) and ukulele again, and I just try to find stuff to do that does not involve my phone. I also played Persona 5 Royal on my ps5, I know it’s screen time but I feel less bad about it because I don’t take my PS everywhere with me, and these were the first days I have taken off in a long time… Next, I am trying to maybe work through my books that are on my backlog, finally finishing some more again. (my girlfriend gave me the book "South Sea Vagabonde, and I am meaning to read it, and I am also listening to the Audiobook "The Shallows")
One change just caused so many good changes. I am stoked and looking forward to how low I can bring my average, I know 4h per day is still a lot for most people. I am aiming at sub 3h next ( I had that once this week).This scene from Bojack has been my mantra since then: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=R2_Mn-qRKjA
It really does get easier, too. Today I went biking and I managed to go much longer without breaks and I feel way less exhausted.
I just wanted to share my experience somewhere, maybe someone else is on the same path and this helps.
22 votes -
Thoughts on a management information systems degree?
i'm currently on the path to receive a BS in business administration management information systems concentration from a four year state school. i was accepted to my major near the end of this...
i'm currently on the path to receive a BS in business administration management information systems concentration from a four year state school. i was accepted to my major near the end of this spring. my university also has a data analytics minor that i am heavily considering.
once i am done with summer classes i plan to really dive deeper into excel and ease into learning sql b/c that will help in lots of MIS contexts it seems.
i read online that MIS is a great degree that can lead into system admin, database admin, network admin, or business/it/system analyst roles. id find any of these careers interesting so at this point in time i feel on the right path. most importantly i just want to a job that will allow me to live a comfortable life, ya know?
i have never really met anyone that has an MIS degree before so i have no idea what the job market is actually like for degree holders beyond clickbait articles that say how great it is. if you have an mis degree, what is your experience with it and what kind of role are you working? would you recommend this degree to someone else? what skills do you recommend most for hire-ability? id assume this is area specific, but i live in the PNW and live near an area with a strong biz/tech scene and lots of govt opportunities.
i was recently speaking with some CS majors and they were talking about how MIS is a garbage non-technical degree that isnt good for much. obviously CS is a harder more technical degree that can result in higher salary but i feel they were just trying to put my down for pursuing what they saw as a lesser degree, but nonetheless it put a sense of fear into me about my potential career opportunities.
i just need some guidance and would like to hear your experience.
thank you
7 votes -
How the pandemic and a broken unemployment system are upending people’s lives
6 votes -
There's something about Casey
3 votes -
Why can’t we just hold classes outdoors instead?
11 votes -
Denmark is a liberal paradise for many people, but the reality is very different for immigrants
20 votes -
Rabbit = Good Friend (or, how to take care of rabbits)
6 votes -
The last time you'll buy shoes (Thought experiment: You'll get to a point in life where mundane objects might last longer than you do)
13 votes -
On mob justice in Nigeria
7 votes -
Let's window shop for French fairytale homes
9 votes -
What gets you out of bed?
Responsibilities can be hard sometimes. Sometimes, we aren't acknowledged for our efforts. What gets you out of bed? What's the narrative you have with yourself as you stare at the ceiling as your...
Responsibilities can be hard sometimes. Sometimes, we aren't acknowledged for our efforts.
What gets you out of bed? What's the narrative you have with yourself as you stare at the ceiling as your alarm jingles? On a side note: What your alarm sound? Is it as brutal as a bullhorn? Or do you prefer something calm, like trickling water?
Related: How do you prefer to be acknowledged at home or compensated at work? Do financial incentives get you going or do you prefer thoughtful gifts or do you look forward speaking with a coworker you get along with?
I've had 3 "adult" jobs. With each job, I've been getting less and less financial compensation (yeah, I know, I'm going the wrong way!). However, with every job, I'm getting happier/more content. I'm not sure if it's related to the financial compensation or just me learning more about myself. I remember working 24/7 at my highest compensation. I had to have my work phone on me at all times, getting phone calls at any time of day (coworkers) and night (contractors). At my second "adult" job, I found that my interpersonal relationship with my coworker(s) made me happier. I'd get out of bed and say "oh, can't wait to tell 'x' about this dream I had" or a new recipe I tried. It also helped that my second job was something I found important (I was an engineer who worked on reducing energy and water consumption for apartment complexes), and the majority of my coworkers felt the same. The job I'm currently in falls right in line with what I studied in school. I work for a consultant company in the wastewater infrastructure field. I'm happy to even have gotten this opportunity. I see it as very important. However, since I work in the field of poo, many of my coworkers and contractors I work with seem very jaded and only has financial compensation in mind. It's hard to be surrounded by that type of attitude. One coworker mentioned that "it's not like people want to work in sewage" and I said "actually, I studied it in school. I just never was able to get my foot in the door until now and I feel lucky that it happened." Don't get me wrong, the work is hard and there are days one gets exhausted and it ALWAYS stinks. But it's important. It effects the health of people and the environment if it isn't done right. Yeah, I'm rambling. I'm just trying to say I thrive off the attitude of people around me. Interpersonal relationships, for me, are better than financial compensation. Don't get me wrong.. pay me fairly, but I'm not going to be bummed if I don't get a huge raise every year. The pay check doesn't get me to work, the people do.
25 votes -
Male dominated fields
Are you in a male dominated field or have you been in a male dominated field in the past? What was your experience like? Any funny/heartbreaking/etc. stories or interactions you would like to...
Are you in a male dominated field or have you been in a male dominated field in the past? What was your experience like? Any funny/heartbreaking/etc. stories or interactions you would like to share? What do/did you like/dislike about it? What would you change? How would the field change if males were no longer the majority? What advice would you give to anyone coming into a male dominated field?
19 votes -
An app lets you de-stress by screaming at the Icelandic wilderness from afar
9 votes -
The anti-semitism we didn’t see: DeSean Jackson’s Hitler moment—and mine—showed that Black Americans’ experience of racism doesn’t automatically sensitize us toward other forms of prejudice
11 votes -
Is there such a thing as a "Hispanic" and "Latino" person?
8 votes -
How New Zealand became an apocalypse escape destination for Americans
8 votes -
One woman, four men bound for the remote Arctic archipelago of Svalbard on a four-month expedition that covered more than 4,500 miles
5 votes -
Every time someone is better at something than you are, it just means they failed at it more times than you did
9 votes -
You've been through a lot this year and it looks like you need the perfect place to let your frustrations out – record your scream and we'll release it in Iceland
7 votes -
From anti-racism to psychobabble
5 votes