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Could we share some uplifting news?
I'm seeing a lot of doomer content lately and plenty of defeatist commentary to match. I know it sucks out there but surely there's an air balloon that looks nice in the sky or something, right? It's exhausting to see the same negative stuff that I would see on reddit.
I need something positive and maybe you do too.
Here, I'll share something nice to get us started: This 72 year old guy graduated and his 99 year old mom cheered him on.
I like this. It can be a distinct part of Tildes... "Awesome! Hey go post it on the 'winning' thread!"
Hell yeah! Now is your time, you’re gonna do great.
Someone once told me, what do you call a doctor who graduated with a C?
You call them a doctor. Your GPA won't matter much at the end of it.
Well, let's consider some solutions here. Are you able to redo any of those courses with lower grades? Talk to your advisor to see what options are available to you.
Why do you think you're not a good student? Is it study methods, your absorption/retention of the material, or is it something else?
I'm not making any diagnosis for you but many kids I grew up, with who has gift kid syndrome, has raging ADHD
They can for sure LEARN the material super fast still, but they have trouble DOING the work that somehow turns learning into grades.
Paging genius who dropped out of university several times: @daychilde
ADHD thread here
https://tildes.net/~health/161s/what_medical_issues_do_you_have_that_youd_like_to_discuss
A lot of people, myself included, do NOT have any sort of hyperactivity. I'm much more likely to be mistaken for the quietly listening kid, when in reality I've drifted off mentally and am just spacing out: I did not hear you but I can give a convincing pretence that I did if you called my name.
I also do things like hyper-focus, which could be on the wrong thing at the wrong time, but still look like a model student.
Have you considered the Leitner system? I've read that one can be quite effective. Here's one video that cuts to the chase:
https://youtu.be/p16CaECh4UM
That's excellent. You also seem stressed, and when your mind isn't entirely on the material, that can affect your absorption and testing prowess. I'm a ball of stress myself, so what helps me is meditation, stretching, small episodes of non-competitive gaming, eating cleanly, and sleeping/resting well with clean and temperature-regulating sheets and pillows. Archery helps me a lot too. May I recommend that you look at various ways to improve your stress management so that you'll wake up rested and end the day looking forward to tomorrow.
Pre-med culture in the US is sooooo toxic. You don't need that shit.
I’m a CPA, and we call a 75 on the CPA exam the perfect score. It’s the minimum required to pass.
It's a marathon, not a sprint. Mindset matters most! You got this :)
Best part is, once you graduate (if? ;) and get a job, your GPA and minors go away.
I mean, it could be a best part haha.
The world is safer then it has ever been in the history of mankind. We just get news faster than ever.
Congratulations! It's positive so I like it.
I think that's a great idea, too, with the weekly or biweekly thread.
Hey you got this FP. We're all cheering you on; let us know how we can encourage you
Best of luck! I'm doing the same (after an almost ten year break) and am hoping it finally results in a degree. I wish you all the best. I dropped out of college twice in the final year of two separate undergrad degrees but am hoping I have my act together enough to manage it this time. One thing that helps is not having to start from zero this time as I'm transferring credit to another college.
How are you feeling, do you think you can avoid the same things derailing you this time? For me the biggest issue was long projects: I could panic-study for exams and panic-write short assignments but panic didn't work on projects that required sustained effort. The other issue was not knowing how to learn as I was used to relying on my memory and instantly grasping things, and eventually hit a wall where quick understanding and memorising just didn't suffice.
My dad died last fall—okay that part is not uplifting, sorry. But my mom gave me his dog. His dog is weird (my dad got him when dog was ~6). He seems like maybe he was abused in the past. He was so depressed when he lost my dad. But he is super sweet and gentle. Big guy. He is finally learning to play and be a little silly. He is soooo awkward about it. Like he’ll get really happy and hop around, then stop and look confused like he’s not sure if that’s ok. Then he’s like oh yeah, it’s fine and do a little dance. It’s just super cute to see him figuring out how to be a happy dog.
That is really sweet, I can actually picture it. That poor sad dog finally feels just a tiny bit better. And poor you, too. My Dad also died in the last few years, so I feel ya.
Recent story that came to mind: 18-year-old drone operator credited with saving the lives of two people trapped in Weld County sinkhole
That's a great story! Thank you for sharing. I hope the driver makes a swift recovery.
I was super bummed that I killed my elephant ear. All of my other plants are in full swing, so I was fixing to go buy another one and plant it in the same spot this weekend. This morning I went out to water my veggies and it had sprung up overnight!
I did a happy walk all day today.
I fistbumped the air reading that! I'm happy for you and your plant!
There was a 16 year old girl who went missing in a provincial park near Vancouver a couple days ago, they just found her safe and sound thankfully.
There have been so few details about that case, it's a bit weird. Maybe they are just respecting privacy, but nothing has been said about how they got split up and how she survived for 2 days I mean, how do you not realize one of your small hiking group is not with you for 15 minutes? And how can you not find her after only 15 minutes?
Maybe because they split up and each group thought she was with the other?
I've not heard that the group split up, just that the main group realized she was missing 15 minutes later. The BBC were reporting on it today and said that it's still unclear how she was separated from her group. It also appears that she emerged from a trail on her own. Sounds like she coped with the situation well, but still not many details.
I'm on a conference road trip with my research group, on day 8 of 9. It's been amazing, driven almost 1500 miles with 4 undergrads, 2 grad students, and a few others. At the poster session for the conference, my undergrads were eligible for awards in two categories - and two won, of 50 posters!
I miss my wife and cats, but it's been a great trip!
I can't say I've got uplifting news, but I do have some Hope for the Future.
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=163_C5UVU-I
All kidding aside though, I look at this less as a defeat for the Internet overall and more a victory. Sure, many of the online spaces that served as a 'town square' have actively turned on their user bases, but it's nice to see that the reaction to these changes has overwhelmingly been 'fuck you.' The casuals will stay, as casuals do, but the people that really make these sites thrive will leave, plant seeds elsewhere, and begin to re-grow the Internet outside of the small cluster of sites that have remained popular for the last several years.
I've somewhat assumed that this thread is about the Reddit/Twitter drama, since that's kinda monopolizing a lot of thought in these spaces - apologies if that isn't the intent. In any case, I'm left with this overwhelming feeling that we've reached a critical breaking point and have begun anew. With a new beginning, many improvements can be made, and I hope to see online spaces become overall better than they were before. We have a future ahead of us; not a bright or dark one, but one of our own design.
Well, it's sort of about that drama.
The best part of reddit, in my opinion, was when people were civil and talked about the things that they liked. It's humans wanting to feel human. That same attitude can find itself almost anywhere, and I think that culture has found its way here. I love that part.
At the same time, I'm seeing that dark side of reddit creep in here... the side that likes to languish on the next bad thing that Elon did, or what such and such politician said, or what Spez said. How do you feel by the end of the day after reading all of that? Do you stay awake in bed like me, worried about what will happen tomorrow? It feels ugly. We take those bad feelings into the real world, whether we realize it or not.
None of that deserves my brain space and energy. I am more valuable than that and so are you. Our happiness matters. And so, we should go somewhere that makes us happy and pass around some positive vibes so that we can engage in a productive way in the real-world and finish the day with clearer minds.
Tildes will be that place for me for the foreseeable future.
Ah yes the culture which seems soprevalent today, the part where people hate-stalk famous people and constantly posts anything they find that they don't like, looking for others of their own kind and thriving on the negativity and attention attracted and garnered by their posts.
I hope this doesn't thrive in Tildes. I hope we move on and if there's news let it be the ones which are more noteworthy and have real consequences in the world. Not the ones where it sometimes feels like a TMZ article about some famous person slipping up.
Bad things will always happen, friend. So too, will bad people exist. Not allowing yourself to engage in endless pessimism, in my eyes, is more of a personal responsibility; similarly, being able to acknowledge and stay abreast of the world around us is, too. Without proper attention being paid to these ordeals, the next generation of community leaders may very well fail to learn from the lessons that we've been given regarding indivuals like Spez, people who have allowed themselves to be corrupted away from the original message of their platform. It's dirty work, ugly work, to watch these things happen in real-time, but I've always believed that it's necessary work. Drown in the deep, or rise from it, as it goes.
Personally speaking, the feeling of being disconnected is significantly more concerning to me. I would rather know what's going on and what's likely to come. That being said, everybody's needs and wants are different; you and you alone can choose the type of content you wish to engage in. Social media is at its best when there's a variety of topics to engage in; you're never going to like them all, and that's perfectly fine.
Well, Ive been flat in bed for over a month with depression, and finally today felt Im turning the corner, with enough energy to get out with the wife and take the dogs out for a drive to a dog park, which is a treat for them. So there's that. Does that count?
100% that counts! Taking the dogs out is a huge step too. That's a little more than going to the park with the missus imo. I hope you all have a good time at the park!
I not only managed to avoid redundancy but I have also been offered another finance role that pays £4k more and is actually suited for my accountancy qualifications.
I was recently tentatively diagnosed with something called "Mast Cell Activation Syndrome" aka MCAS. It's basically allergies, but not quite. A complicated diagnosis, to be sure.
Anyway, part of the diagnostic process is a very stringent elimination diet that cuts a lot of foods out. It sucks.
Now here's the good part! I haven't felt as good as I do today since sometime last fall. I've still got a long way to go, and it's a variable thing because of bodies being weird -- some days will be better than others. Having a root cause after 20 years of symptoms is so amazing, though! I will miss food like chocolate and sharp cheeses, but that's going to be worth it to have some kind of quality of life.
Why not just post that in ~news or ~life? If you want to see more uplifting news on Tildes, post it! :)