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7 votes
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UK Government creating "hostile environment" for LGBT+ people
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Joanna Harper’s new research shows why trans athletes should be able to compete in women’s sports
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Irish children's hospital assured of indemnity over puberty blockers
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These girls just wanted to run, the right wanted a war
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I was a trans comedian. Here’s why I quit
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Queer Tildes Community Discord Server
Hello loves! A wonderful individual reached out to me recently and proposed the idea of creating more of a community within Tildes, rather than being a smaller part of the Tildes community as a...
Hello loves!
A wonderful individual reached out to me recently and proposed the idea of creating more of a community within Tildes, rather than being a smaller part of the Tildes community as a whole. As it is right now, Tildes feels like a single place with a single voice that's the average of its members, and we'd like to change that. We've started a discord server for queer individuals on Tildes. This server is meant to define itself as its own thing. ~lgbt is a place to organize posts on a topic, not a community, so we'd like to fill that hole.
Here's the invite link: https://discord.gg/FmhWYVAhFs
One particular aspect of forming a community I think is important, perhaps even more so for a minority identity, is that Tildes can be frustrating and alienating at times, even when it doesn't intend to be. This space is meant to be somewhere you can go to vent when you run into any of the many trials and tribulations you may run across on this wonderful website. You know, the times where you want to bang your head against a wall because you're just not getting through to someone else or when you open a thread, read a few replies, shake your head and close it - disappointed in the tone or direction it has taken. After all, sometimes we don't want to be direct or confrontational to people who say hurtful things when often they're just mislead, uneducated, or misinformed.
Anyhow, I hope to see many of you wonderful folks in there and I'm looking forward to knowing you all a little bit better! 💜
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Queering the Map - Personal queer experiences mapped to physical space
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Illinois trans man who gave birth will be listed as father on birth certificate
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TERF WARS - Where have all the lesbians gone?
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Erasure of pregnant people
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No, Mr Potato Head is not going gender neutral
@farhad manjoo: press release vs reporting. what happened here? They are not at all making it gender neutral. Did they make a quick change or did all the reports get it very wrong? pic.twitter.com/sMPGswjknA
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Queer time: The alternative to “adulting”
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ResetEra, a gaming forum, has banned all promotional content for Harry Potter games
@Jason Schreier: ResetEra, one of the largest video game forums, is enacting "a total ban on threads for promotional media" from the new Harry Potter game in the wake of JK Rowling's transphobic views and the recent discovery that one of the game's lead designers is a pro-Gamergate YouTuber pic.twitter.com/D5Wpoi4WpM
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Spain's new gender bill will allow self-id, without a requirement for medical treatment
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Tracing the roots of pop culture transphobia
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Sheffield United's LGBT+ fan group helps fans feel connected during pandemic
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Children with same-sex parents do better at school than their peers
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Return of medals to LGBT+ veterans in the UK
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British transphobia: Recycled homophobia and the legacy of Section 28
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No, that British hospital didn’t ban the word "breastfeeding": The ultra-viral story is an outright fabrication made by the institutionally transphobic British press. It worked.
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UK government accused of re-igniting culture war over gender neutral bathrooms
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If you knew what homophobia was when you realized you weren't cis-het, what was it like realizing LGBT-phobia and discrimination was gonna be just as much a personal issue as a political one to you?
To elaborate more, the realization that LGBT rights, marriage, transitioning, etc are more than just human rights, they're your rights and whenever homophobes succeed in stopping LGBT rights, your...
To elaborate more, the realization that LGBT rights, marriage, transitioning, etc are more than just human rights, they're your rights and whenever homophobes succeed in stopping LGBT rights, your rights are stripped away by people who hate you.
Also, If you're bisexual, did/do you ever consider just tagging along as if you were straight because you could and would rather not deal with homophobes? (Assuming this question makes sense)
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The Black, queer, gender-nonbinary lawyer who inspired Ruth Bader Ginsburg
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The Lady and The Dale
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Transphobia in the sexual violence support sector
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As the father of a trans man, I fear for the consequences of this cruel judgement
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To those of you who have changed your name, what was it like for you?
The question is open to anything that anyone wants to share about changing one’s name (e.g. social, familial, or legal proceedings), but in particular I’m most interested in what the personal...
The question is open to anything that anyone wants to share about changing one’s name (e.g. social, familial, or legal proceedings), but in particular I’m most interested in what the personal process of deciding on a particular name was like for you. Was there one that just “clicked”? Did you try out different names until you found one that fit? Did you choose the name based on meaning, aesthetics, association, or something else entirely? How did it feel to change your own name in your own head? How did it feel when others started using it to refer to you? What do you like most about the name you chose?
Also, I don’t want to pressure anyone to share their name since that is very identifying information, so feel free to share details of your experience without sharing your name itself — unless that’s something you’re comfortable with putting online here.
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Trans comedians on transphobia and cancel culture: While 'cancelled' comedians continue to succeed after transphobic jokes, their trans peers are still finding it an often unwelcome industry
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Joe Biden to nominate transgender doctor Rachel Levine as assistant health secretary
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Six transgender people talk about how the pandemic has affected their bodies
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European Court of Human Rights upholds rights to self-determination around gender
@Paul Johnson: Very important trans rights case in ECtHR today. The case concerns the situation of two trans people who were refused recognition of their gender identities because they had not undergone gender reassignment surgery.The Court held this to be a violation of the ECHR (Art 8). pic.twitter.com/9bUvYg156L
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Radical tenderness: Queer and trans joy in 2020
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The Kitchen and Jorn Show | Kristen's wife comes out as trans
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Irish pensioners choir dedicates moving rendition of Silent Night to trans kids and calls on elders to educate themselves
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Parents warning about harm to children after UK legal decision bans access to puberty blockers
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"I just want to be based in girl mode from now on": Eddie Izzard has revealed she is now exclusively using 'she' and 'her' pronouns
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Polygamy is rare around the world and mostly confined to a few regions, but is slowly being more widely accepted
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Mara Gómez on becoming Argentina's first trans footballer
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Why I post my pronouns and you should too
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A deeper, darker look at James Beard, food oracle and gay man: A new biography traces the influence he wielded as a writer and the pain he endured for his sexuality in an unwelcoming world
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Are Black people more homophobic than white people? Crunching the numbers on Black people's views of gay people
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An honest question about gender, sexuality, and the LGBTQ+ community
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm...
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm currently coming at this from the personal lens of myself, but I think there are some larger questions/generalizations that could be made and might be helpful for others.
Ok, so for some background I am a "straight" man. My previous partners have all been women, with the exception of one who identified as female when we were dating, and my current partner is non-binary but female-presenting and has identified as such the entirety of the time we have been dating. I have previously viewed myself as straight and an ally to my partner and the lgbtq+ community. Today, I was having a long conversation with my cousin about his experiences coming out of the closet and with homophobia in our family. I mentioned at one point that I didn't feel comfortable making some assumptions/statements since I am straight and not a member of the community. He (very politely) brought up that, at least strictly technically speaking, the fact that I am dating someone who is non-binary means we are not in a heterosexual relationship and that I am not technically straight, more likely being bi or pan (if we could lets not turn this into the bi vs pan debate which I know is a controversial topic but not really what I'd like to focus on). He also made a point to stress that these are all technical definitions and that gender and sexual identity are very personal and if I don't feel that it describes me then it isn't for him to decide I'm wrong. This made me a bit uncomfortable. It made me uncomfortable because while he's right, it feels wrong. I feel like if I began identifying as pan/bi, it would come off as a straight white male looking for a way to put himself in the position of being oppressed or marginalized for woke points. I don't know if it is because the college I went to was full of dudes like this, constantly looking for ways to be the victim, but its just something I feel deep in my bones. I don't really know though. I feel like if someone came up to me and described my life as their own and told me they identified as pan/bi I would agree and support them, but I won't extend that to myself. I don't know if its just a lifetime of assuming I was straight is why this is or if the term is actually wrong.
I guess to summarize/generalize, I'll put some reallly fucking loaded questions where I know the 'real' answer is "It is a deeply personal thing and will vary by person to person because the LGBTQ+ community isn't a monolith with all the same ideas" but I'm hoping maybe writing all this out and reading some of the results will help me color, process and digest my thoughts.
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What/where would you put the line between straight and not straight (if anywhere). I know personally while I like to keep an open mind, I do heavily preference female-presenting people, whether they be trans, nb, or identify as a woman. But is that openness to dating someone who doesn't identify as a woman enough for me to be not-straight? I want to say yes, I don't think you need to date someone of a different gender to be not-straight. My cousin is bi but has exclusively dated men. I wouldn't tell him he isn't bi.
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I am very uncomfortable with this question but do you feel there is a degree of "not-straight" you need to be to be an active part of the queer community. To kind of explain my thoughts on that: From an outside perspective, no one that hasn't been told my partner is nb would question if we said we were a straight couple. I've never and probably will never feel fear or be oppressed based on my sexuality. I dunno. I just feel really weird. like I'm inserting myself into a community I've always identified as an ally of but been an outsider to.
Anyway, sorry for this rant. I know the two questions are really loaded and I honestly feel like I know the answer to both of them. But just because i know the answer doesn't change how conflicted I feel and so I guess I'm just trying to work through some of the thoughts and conflicts.
I also want to take a second to note: I am actively talking with my partner about these thoughts and feelings. This is an ongoing discussion in our household, I am just looking for more perspectives and views to help me see things from different angles and work through my thoughts and feelings. Helping me through this is absolutely not the responsibility of anyone on Tildes and I don't want it to seem like I am putting that pressure on the community.
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Dirtybird co-founder Worthy announces she is transgender
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Bob Newhart and the masked doctor who cured the gays
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"Not married, but willing to be": Photos of men in love from the 1850s to 1950s
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Why are there so many lesbian period dramas, and so few set in the present day?
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Born to Be: A documentary about the Center for Transgender Medicine and Surgery in Manhattan, the first comprehensive healthcare center for transgender and non-binary people in New York
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Norway has banned hate speech against bisexual and trans people in a landmark change to its penal code
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"I just want to see the person I always saw in my head": How a trans woman found that facial feminization surgery could restore her sense of self
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