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21 votes
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Supreme Court rejects Texas lawsuit seeking to subvert election
21 votes -
Let's crack Zodiac: 51-year old 340 cypher is solved
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Wolfwalkers (2020)
I highly recommend it, if you've never seen a Cartoon Saloon movie you'll be blown away, and if you have, you know what to expect. You can make a free account on apple tv and you have a week to...
I highly recommend it, if you've never seen a Cartoon Saloon movie you'll be blown away, and if you have, you know what to expect. You can make a free account on apple tv and you have a week to cancel it, quality is dog-shit on desktop but still worth it.
https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/wolfwalkers/umc.cmc.amuoq00hqelfi98j0gvg641x
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LFG (Looking For Group) Thread: Play games with other folks on Tildes
Post in this thread if you've got a game you want to play, and you're looking for others to play with. Video games, tabletop games, friend codes, gamer tags, you name it. :) EDIT: There is an...
Post in this thread if you've got a game you want to play, and you're looking for others to play with. Video games, tabletop games, friend codes, gamer tags, you name it. :)
EDIT: There is an Unofficial Discord server with a #games channel. It may be easier to organize on there, and the link's posted a handful of times in this thread, so I'm just gonna... stick it here, I guess? https://discord.gg/PcP8qHS
24 votes -
In America, Christmas trees are a multibillion-dollar business. But who’s making the money?
12 votes -
Emacs user survey 2020 results
7 votes -
The rise and fall of Ambrosia Software
7 votes -
Bandcamp: We’re not ranking our year-end list anymore. Here’s what we’re doing instead.
15 votes -
What is happening in r/CentOS and why /u/redundantly should not be a moderator
9 votes -
How accessible were this year's games?
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An honest question about gender, sexuality, and the LGBTQ+ community
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm...
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm currently coming at this from the personal lens of myself, but I think there are some larger questions/generalizations that could be made and might be helpful for others.
Ok, so for some background I am a "straight" man. My previous partners have all been women, with the exception of one who identified as female when we were dating, and my current partner is non-binary but female-presenting and has identified as such the entirety of the time we have been dating. I have previously viewed myself as straight and an ally to my partner and the lgbtq+ community. Today, I was having a long conversation with my cousin about his experiences coming out of the closet and with homophobia in our family. I mentioned at one point that I didn't feel comfortable making some assumptions/statements since I am straight and not a member of the community. He (very politely) brought up that, at least strictly technically speaking, the fact that I am dating someone who is non-binary means we are not in a heterosexual relationship and that I am not technically straight, more likely being bi or pan (if we could lets not turn this into the bi vs pan debate which I know is a controversial topic but not really what I'd like to focus on). He also made a point to stress that these are all technical definitions and that gender and sexual identity are very personal and if I don't feel that it describes me then it isn't for him to decide I'm wrong. This made me a bit uncomfortable. It made me uncomfortable because while he's right, it feels wrong. I feel like if I began identifying as pan/bi, it would come off as a straight white male looking for a way to put himself in the position of being oppressed or marginalized for woke points. I don't know if it is because the college I went to was full of dudes like this, constantly looking for ways to be the victim, but its just something I feel deep in my bones. I don't really know though. I feel like if someone came up to me and described my life as their own and told me they identified as pan/bi I would agree and support them, but I won't extend that to myself. I don't know if its just a lifetime of assuming I was straight is why this is or if the term is actually wrong.
I guess to summarize/generalize, I'll put some reallly fucking loaded questions where I know the 'real' answer is "It is a deeply personal thing and will vary by person to person because the LGBTQ+ community isn't a monolith with all the same ideas" but I'm hoping maybe writing all this out and reading some of the results will help me color, process and digest my thoughts.
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What/where would you put the line between straight and not straight (if anywhere). I know personally while I like to keep an open mind, I do heavily preference female-presenting people, whether they be trans, nb, or identify as a woman. But is that openness to dating someone who doesn't identify as a woman enough for me to be not-straight? I want to say yes, I don't think you need to date someone of a different gender to be not-straight. My cousin is bi but has exclusively dated men. I wouldn't tell him he isn't bi.
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I am very uncomfortable with this question but do you feel there is a degree of "not-straight" you need to be to be an active part of the queer community. To kind of explain my thoughts on that: From an outside perspective, no one that hasn't been told my partner is nb would question if we said we were a straight couple. I've never and probably will never feel fear or be oppressed based on my sexuality. I dunno. I just feel really weird. like I'm inserting myself into a community I've always identified as an ally of but been an outsider to.
Anyway, sorry for this rant. I know the two questions are really loaded and I honestly feel like I know the answer to both of them. But just because i know the answer doesn't change how conflicted I feel and so I guess I'm just trying to work through some of the thoughts and conflicts.
I also want to take a second to note: I am actively talking with my partner about these thoughts and feelings. This is an ongoing discussion in our household, I am just looking for more perspectives and views to help me see things from different angles and work through my thoughts and feelings. Helping me through this is absolutely not the responsibility of anyone on Tildes and I don't want it to seem like I am putting that pressure on the community.
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Super Meat Boy Forever | Launch date trailer (December 23, 2020)
6 votes -
Widespread malware campaign seeks to silently inject ads into search results, affects multiple browsers
18 votes -
What have you been listening to this week?
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as...
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as well, we'd love to see your hauls :)
Feel free to give recs or discuss anything about each others' listening habits.
You can make a chart if you use last.fm:
http://www.tapmusic.net/lastfm/
Remember that linking directly to your image will update with your future listening, make sure to reupload to somewhere like imgur if you'd like it to remain what you have at the time of posting.
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What did you do this week?
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do...
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do nothing at all? Tell us about it!
6 votes -
電磁祭囃子 in NEO TOKYO 2020
12 votes -
Day 11: Seating System
Today's problem description: https://adventofcode.com/2020/day/11 Join the Tildes private leaderboard! You can do that on this page, by entering join code 730956-de85ce0c. Please post your...
Today's problem description: https://adventofcode.com/2020/day/11
Join the Tildes private leaderboard! You can do that on this page, by entering join code
730956-de85ce0c.Please post your solutions in your own top-level comment. Here's a template you can copy-paste into your comment to format it nicely, with the code collapsed by default inside an expandable section with syntax highlighting (you can replace
pythonwith any of the "short names" listed in this page of supported languages):<details> <summary>Part 1</summary> ```python Your code here. ``` </details>13 votes -
The Game Awards 2020
9 votes -
Disney investor day announcement thread
6 votes -
MediaPipe Holistic — Simultaneous face, hand and pose prediction, on device
4 votes -
Facebook announces plan to break up US Government before it becomes too powerful
40 votes -
Cyberpunk 2077: What do you think?
As anyone who's spent any amount of time on any gaming forum would know, Cyberpunk 2077 was easily the most hyped game in the past year, if not the past few. Expectations were impossibly large:...
As anyone who's spent any amount of time on any gaming forum would know, Cyberpunk 2077 was easily the most hyped game in the past year, if not the past few. Expectations were impossibly large: fanatics expected the immersiveness of Red Dead Redemption 2, the map detail of GTA V, and the density of a Yakuza game.
Now that Cyberpunk 2077 has been available to the public for ~1 day, what are your impressions? Does it live up to the hype? Do the bugs detract too greatly from the experience? Is it revolutionary in some sense; or is it the inevitable cumulation of open world RPGs, excellent but ultimately derivative?
For perspective, would you consider it a personal contender for game of the year?
23 votes -
The Correspondent will stop publishing on 1 January 2021
15 votes -
Dianne Feinstein’s missteps raise a painful age question among US Senate Democrats
15 votes -
New Steam Labs experiment adds new ways to browse games through genres, themes, and player modes
9 votes -
Georgia Power receives first nuclear fuel shipment for Vogtle Unit 3
6 votes -
'We are speeding in the wrong direction' – climate striker Greta Thunberg speaks before UN event marking five years since the Paris accord
8 votes -
Fed up with Capitalism, Marxism gains popularity among youth in China
12 votes -
oklinks - a Lemmy-based meta-agreggator of link sharing sites, including Tildes
4 votes -
Amid a crackdown on ‘separatism’, how do French Muslims feel?
6 votes -
Brave Today - A privacy-preserving news reader integrated into the Brave browser and using their new "private CDN" to prevent tracking what users are reading
10 votes -
Activists sound alarm over African biometric ID projects
4 votes -
NPR Hospital bed utilization lookup tool
8 votes -
Epic Games Holiday Sale 2020 is back on December 17, bringing discounts and fifteen days of free games
9 votes -
Cameras and lenses
6 votes -
What creative projects have you been working on?
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on. Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just...
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on.
Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just ideas.
If you have any creative projects that you have been working on or want to eventually work on, this is a place for discussing those.
8 votes -
Fitness Weekly Discussion
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?
5 votes -
Cyberpunk 2077 now runs on select Linux setups with Proton
@Pierre-Loup Griffais: Proton 5.13-4 is now available, with Cyberpunk 2077 support! Currently requires an AMD card and Mesa git. Major thanks to the team over at CD PROJEKT RED for letting us test a build, as there was plenty of vkd3d and radv work needed to get there.
14 votes -
The games people play with cash flow
9 votes -
Inside the surprisingly big business of UK packaged ice
8 votes -
First beta of Krita 4.4.2
6 votes -
Day 10: Adapter Array
Today's problem description: https://adventofcode.com/2020/day/10 Join the Tildes private leaderboard! You can do that on this page, by entering join code 730956-de85ce0c. Please post your...
Today's problem description: https://adventofcode.com/2020/day/10
Join the Tildes private leaderboard! You can do that on this page, by entering join code
730956-de85ce0c.Please post your solutions in your own top-level comment. Here's a template you can copy-paste into your comment to format it nicely, with the code collapsed by default inside an expandable section with syntax highlighting (you can replace
pythonwith any of the "short names" listed in this page of supported languages):<details> <summary>Part 1</summary> ```python Your code here. ``` </details>14 votes -
The 2020 SANS holiday hack challenge is live!
4 votes -
The Antlers - Putting the Dog to Sleep (2011)
6 votes -
The new macro: "Give people money"
12 votes -
Which online content creators do you regularly follow?
Specifically, the kind of folks you like so much that whenever they release new content, you stop what you're doing and eagerly check out whatever it is they've put out. This could be YouTube...
Specifically, the kind of folks you like so much that whenever they release new content, you stop what you're doing and eagerly check out whatever it is they've put out.
This could be YouTube channels, podcasts, illustrators, webcomic artists, blogs, Twitter users, writers, you name it. (As long as they're not a nameless, faceless infinite feed!)
20 votes -
Sony is buying anime streaming service Crunchyroll from AT&T for $1.175 billion.
13 votes -
'True Blood’ reboot in works at HBO
11 votes -
Hyundai Motor acquires Boston Dynamics from SoftBank for approximately $920 million
4 votes