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23 votes
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The Russians snitching on colleagues and strangers
18 votes -
Population decline in Japan has led to more than 8000 public school closures since 2002
59 votes -
The limits of our digital social connections
I don’t think it’s just social media that is making us so unhappy these days. Even texting has lost its power to communicate and connect us. My parents lost one of their best friends to old age...
I don’t think it’s just social media that is making us so unhappy these days. Even texting has lost its power to communicate and connect us.
My parents lost one of their best friends to old age yesterday and none of us can seem to find the right thing to say. It’s all just near misses and misinterpretation of intentions.
When texting first started a generation ago, it seemed a miraculous way to share all kinds of details we never could before. But now it only seems to emphasize what we won’t ever understand about each other.
The bloom is off the rose and our screens no longer seem to make us happy the way they used to.
17 votes -
What are some of the worst things about living in Sweden?
26 votes -
Fika, four-week-holidays and zero overtime – Sweden's stunningly healthy work culture
38 votes -
How Denmark destroyed Greenland: Brief history of Denmark's colonialism in Greenland
17 votes -
Corporate funding for universities: serving society or human greed?
6 votes -
Let us return to natural time
40 votes -
Social media algorithms can be redesigned to bridge divides — here’s how
18 votes -
Europe’s coming reckoning on immigration – large-scale immigration is the only thing that can prevent Europe from becoming an empty amusement park
35 votes -
Settler colonialism is not just a historic evil but a modern-day one
11 votes -
EU says “shocking and shameful” racism [in the EU] is getting worse
16 votes -
Denmark leads the Women Peace and Security Index 2023/24, scoring more than three times higher than Afghanistan at the bottom of the scale
14 votes -
A vast northern European project is underway to combat isolation by promoting inclusion – we take a look at the results in Norway
9 votes -
Brazil is embracing the migrant crisis that everyone else wants to avoid
11 votes -
The Silk Road: Eight goods traded along the ancient network
7 votes -
Are there any Black people in Japan? (2015)
9 votes -
The war in Ukraine is heightening tensions between Russians and Norwegians living on Svalbard | Focus on Europe
8 votes -
Gracias and Arigatō, Tildes
This is yet another quarterly thank you note to all you wonderful folks over here for creating this mind blowing community called "Tildes". It wouldn't be an exaggeration if the times we are...
This is yet another quarterly thank you note to all you wonderful folks over here for creating this mind blowing community called "Tildes".
It wouldn't be an exaggeration if the times we are living in right now can be termed "the Dark Ages of the Internet". I've got a strange feeling that posterity will look back upon us with that exact feeling some day.
It is perhaps impossible to express yourself today without being judged for your religion, ethnicity, caste, creed, gender, nationality, political opinion, etc. The world has become a very dismal place in that sense. It focuses on these peripheral aspects of the person rather than the content or subject matter itself of what is being said.
Social networks like Tildes are like tiny islands of positivity left in such times, they give me hope that all is not lost and there is a possibility to recover from this some day.
In any case, sending you all wonderful vibes of happiness and serenity, let this community thrive and prosper!
34 votes -
Ibram X. Kendi’s fall is a cautionary tale — so was his rise
17 votes -
Is multiculturalism bad for women? (1997)
6 votes -
How friluftsliv boosts health and happiness – the idea of communing with nature is instilled from birth in Norway
6 votes -
With Novo Nordisk, Denmark wants to avoid the Nokia trap
14 votes -
Study shows Germany's East-West divide in top positions
13 votes -
How to argue against identity politics without turning into a reactionary
68 votes -
Pope in Marseille: Migration must be addressed with humanity, solidarity
3 votes -
Why the US left's version of the Federalist Society failed
16 votes -
Real men share the housework: what Britain can learn from the domestic bliss of Scandinavia
31 votes -
It’s not just Japan: Aging populations threaten several leading economies
35 votes -
How US car culture funnels drivers into debt, jail, and danger
19 votes -
How the feminist consensus that overthrew Spain’s soccer chief was formed
11 votes -
Türkiye introduces ‘family’ course in schools to ‘fight’ homosexuality
16 votes -
Change will come to Russia — abruptly and unexpectedly
23 votes -
Danish government has apologized to thousands of people with disabilities who were abused in state-run facilities
7 votes -
How dollar stores quietly consumed America
14 votes -
You're not traumatized, you're just hurt
20 votes -
The misogyny myth
30 votes -
Ten things kids don’t know how to do (and five things they know how to do better)
15 votes -
Sexual victimization by women is more common than previously known (2017)
48 votes -
The rediscovery of circadian rhythms
29 votes -
War against the children
13 votes -
Norwegian preschoolers get early exposure to outdoor life by hiking routes around kindergartens
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Do you believe the world is controlled by competing interests, or do you think there is a "power elite" that controls the world from the background?
There are lots of localized ideas about who runs the world, like oligarchs in Russia or billionaires in America or Rupert Murdoch and his media empire, but if there was anyone coordinating the...
There are lots of localized ideas about who runs the world, like oligarchs in Russia or billionaires in America or Rupert Murdoch and his media empire, but if there was anyone coordinating the activities of these disparate groups I would think it would be someone doing things without a public presence, so as not to draw a target on their back.
I've seen this idea alluded to a lot, but never really fleshed out before.
41 votes -
Ukraine is becoming a country of traumatised people (Polish, translation in comments)
25 votes -
The only man in the maternity ward
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage. I'm coming from an intense...
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage.
I'm coming from an intense experience: my first son is born. In the days before that, I cared for my pregnant wife during the passing of her mother, who spent 3 months in the hospital fighting multiple conditions, chiefly neurological.
Two days after the burial, we went to the hospital for several exams. My wife was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, a potentially dangerous pregnancy complication characterized by high blood pressure.
We spent almost a week in the hospital. My wife did not want a c-section, so our doctor employed multiple methods to induce labor over the course of several days.
There are no men in the maternity ward. Men do not sweep floors, do not take calls, or take any position of care.
I did not see any men in the hallway, although I assumed there were some hidden in the bedrooms.
When the nurses entered the room, they did not look at me. I was not a father, but rather a
"companion"whatever you would use in English for someone who is just kind of there. When they had instructions pertaining to the care of my wife and son, they never addressed me. They only addressed me in matters lacking importance, like "Get me a towel", or "Is there any cotton left?".The tone and body language were of contempt and distrust.
When my wife was soon to go into labor, I decided to go to the bathroom, since I expected to be locked in a room for many hours. When I left the bathroom (which was in the same room where she was), my wife was not there. She was gone. I looked for information and realized she was in the delivery room.
When I was in the bathroom, someone asked me to get something for the doula (a woman), but didn't tell me why. I did. You see, they had time to request me to get something for the doula, but couldn't use the same time to warn me that my wife was being taken to another floor.
That was incredibly traumatizing.
At every step, the message was very clear: "You are not welcome here". "You are not qualified to care for your wife and son". "You are man, and, therefore, a menace to this environment".
Well, fuck them. I was there for my wife since day one. In every contraction, every second she needed me, I was there.
I was the first person to touch my son when he left the womb.
We had to revolt to leave that place as soon as we could. Our personal pediatrician had to intervene because apparently, the maternity ward didn't really trust my wife either -- they just pretended. The kid was slightly underweight. I was convinced that the long stay at the hospital was the main factor impacting breastfeeding. My wife needed to mourn the loss of her mother and required some sense of normality and routine (we are so incredibly happy in our day-to-day, I was confident she would improve!). Turns out that I (and our doctor) were right. We're home now, and the kid's gaining weight again.
At every step of this process, I was invited not to care. "Get out, father, you are not needed here." "That is not a job for men, let the women do it for you".
Earlier today, a neighbor came asking "Are the girls helping you out?". I gotta be honest, I snapped. "No", I said. "This kid has a father". "Oh, but the feminine touch is special!". "It is not", I answered.
Well, fuck them, because I do care for my son, and I will continue to do so. I fully acknowledge and respect the special connection a mother has with their kids. I cannot bear a child, and I lack the ability to produce milk. Other than that, there are no tasks my wife can do that I cannot do as well.
I am not an angry person. Thinking about this makes me very angry and I hate that feeling. I feel a long-lasting trauma is forming. I'm pretty shook-up.
I love my son, I guess that ultimately that is all that matters.
I'm just glad I'm now home, and that I am no longer the only man in a place that considered me a foreign body, trying to eject me at every chance.
59 votes -
Sweden seeks to stem deadly rise in youth crime – illegal guns are relatively accessible, with younger and younger children being drawn into serious crime
14 votes -
The best place to drink is the emptiest bar in the city
17 votes -
No Meat Required - Alicia Kennedy’s new book explores the tensions and triumphs of leaving meat behind
21 votes -
North American bison slaughter left lasting impact on Indigenous peoples
31 votes