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Childhood loneliness linked to later psychosis
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Anyone else who don't care much for their past?
I'm 46 years of age. My childhood and youth and post-youth life wasn't traumatic or anything. I had an okay life. I guess I might even have had a good life. But for some reason, reminiscing about...
I'm 46 years of age. My childhood and youth and post-youth life wasn't traumatic or anything. I had an okay life. I guess I might even have had a good life. But for some reason, reminiscing about it just doesn't feel pleasant. Some folks find talking about their past highly enjoyable. So why don't I like it? Is this normal?
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The costs of a phone-based childhood
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Cousins are disappearing worldwide, according to new study
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"If the role of dysfunctional parenting in psychological disorders was ever fully recognized, the DSM would shrink to the size of a thin pamphlet"
This statement by traumatologist John Briere is quoted in Pete Walker's FAQ on Complex PTSD, a proponent of the unified Trauma model of mental disorders. Dr. Gabor Mate has become popular in...
This statement by traumatologist John Briere is quoted in Pete Walker's FAQ on Complex PTSD, a proponent of the unified Trauma model of mental disorders. Dr. Gabor Mate has become popular in recent years, who similarly claims that (e.g.) "Attention Deficit Disorder is a reversible impairment and a developmental delay, with origins in infancy. It is rooted in multigenerational family stress and in disturbed social conditions in a stressed society." Another famous champion of this theory was Alice Miller. Quote: "Experience has taught us that we have only one enduring weapon in our struggle against mental illness: the emotional discovery and emotional acceptance of the truth in the individual and unique history of our childhood." A more recent bestseller around this topic is Philippa Perry's "The Book You Wish Your Parents Had Read" (Guardian review).
The various personality disorders from ICD-10 were replaced by a single personality disorder diagnosis in ICD-11, and they finally added Complex PTSD. The director of the largest psychiatric clinic in Germany is in favor of removing the category of "
mentalpersonality disorders" altogether (German article).Studies seem to confirm strong links between "adverse childhood experiences" and various forms of mental illnesses. To pick just one of the many I found: "Compared to children with no Adverse Childhood Experiences, the odds of an ADHD diagnosis were 1.39, 1.92, and 2.72 times higher among children with one, two and three or more ACEs. The ACE most strongly associated with the odds of ADHD was having lived with someone with mental illness closely followed by parent/guardian incarceration." (https://doi.org/10.1016/j.chiabu.2020.104884)
I'm interested in hearing your takes, and potentially this thread can serve as a collection of quotes and links around this theory.
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Growing up broken
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The Summer Book (1972) – Tove Jansson's novel about love, family and nature, will make you nostalgic for your own childhood
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What impact, if any, did being raised as a woman have on you?
Through the years I have struggled with perfectionism, low self worth, and an overwhelming need to make everyone else happy at my own expense. Recently I've begun wondering if this is related more...
Through the years I have struggled with perfectionism, low self worth, and an overwhelming need to make everyone else happy at my own expense. Recently I've begun wondering if this is related more to my own personal upbringing (my mom and sister share a lot of these traits) or if it's a wider experience of being a woman in modern society.
Growing up in a world where women had successfully entered the job market, there was still an unspoken urging that I had to be better than my male peers to earn my place in the world. There still felt like there were expectations that women would follow all the rules, keep the peace, and maintain the home/workspace. Is this an off base interpretation of societal pressures, or do any of you find yourselves still struggling with some of these messages?
ETA: Also, what are some positive ways being raised as a woman has impacted you?
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What non-lullaby songs were you sung as a child?
I have a new niece and I'm making a list of songs which we can play for her naptime when we babysit. I have some Raffi songs and my childhood lullabies (Edelweiss from my mom and Moonshadow from...
I have a new niece and I'm making a list of songs which we can play for her naptime when we babysit. I have some Raffi songs and my childhood lullabies (Edelweiss from my mom and Moonshadow from my dad), as well as some calm songs from my Spotify playlist.
But it made me wonder, what songs did your parents sing when you were young? Children's songs? Disney? Pop? Metallica?
I'm also interested in whether you think it's best to keep a small list and rotate through, for comfort's sake, or if it's also okay to have a wider variety of songs as lullabies.
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Poor teeth - If you have a mouthful of teeth shaped by a childhood in poverty, don’t go knocking on the door of American privilege
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What childhood beliefs or misconceptions took you an embarrassing time to figure out?
I'm talking about silly harmless stuff like "I believed in Santa Claus till I was 13", and not deep existential stuff like "It took me till adulthood to realize that my parents were doing their...
I'm talking about silly harmless stuff like "I believed in Santa Claus till I was 13", and not deep existential stuff like "It took me till adulthood to realize that my parents were doing their best despite their their failings".
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Bullying can make children's lives a misery and cause lifelong health problems – but scientists are discovering powerful ways to fight it
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Can kids navigate their way across London alone?
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NYC snow days: Dismay as school snow days cancelled
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How'd y'all grow up?
If you care to explicate your personal situation... I'm interested! So, in what circumstances did you grow up and how did that effect you in terms of the person you are now???
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How were you as a child/young-person?
Did you obey your parents? Tortured small animals? Did we’ll school? Popular or outcast? Bully our bullied?
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My family’s slave
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Before the Easy-Bake Oven, toy stoves were beautiful and deadly
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Nine popsicle recipes to make you feel like a kid again
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How Ayn Rand ruined my childhood
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Cheating on my parents: My own abusive mother and father were being replaced, and they knew it
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Why your kid loves the garbage truck so much
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The play deficit
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Coming of age in cohousing: Growing up communally brings exposure to the world of adults—and lessons in interdependence
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'I'd rather go to heaven than live here as a boy': Inside the lives of Australian trans children
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My childhood in a cult
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World health officials take a hard line on screen time for kids. Will busy parents comply?
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The first ever World Health Organisation (WHO) physical activity guidelines for under-fives, recommend no screen time for one-year-olds and no more than an hour for two- to-four-year-olds.
An article on a parenting website: Guidance recommends no screen time for under-twos An article in Time magazine: World Health Organization Issues First-Ever Screen Time Guidelines for Young Kids....
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An article on a parenting website: Guidance recommends no screen time for under-twos
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An article in Time magazine: World Health Organization Issues First-Ever Screen Time Guidelines for Young Kids. Here's What to Know
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The WHO's press release: To grow up healthy, children need to sit less and play more
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Advocacy group alleges Oregon's foster care system 'revictimizes children'
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Move back to your dying hometown. Unless you can’t.
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What did your parents do right?
I'm curious to know what you think your own parents (or the people who raised you) did right. What actions, mindsets, or philosophies did they operate by that had a positive effect on you? What...
I'm curious to know what you think your own parents (or the people who raised you) did right. What actions, mindsets, or philosophies did they operate by that had a positive effect on you? What techniques of theirs would you use with your own children? What important lessons did they teach you?
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Growing up in a house full of books is major boost to literacy and numeracy, study finds
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What style of parent are you? It affects how much your children remember.
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How learning science is catching up to Mr. Rogers
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Growing up in the Baldwin Village ‘Jungle’
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