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23 votes
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Richard Feynman's letter to his departed wife Arline
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Life on Europe's only open Schengen border with Russia – in the Barents Sea, Russia maintains cordial relations with NATO neighbours over fishing rights
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What happens when a woman chooses career dominance over her relationship
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I guess this whole time I was a small minority - enjoying working in person
I’m a software engineer. Any time this topic comes up it’s clear I’m the odd one out. Recruiters will tell me “don’t worry, we’re fully remote!” but that’s not what I want to hear. Co-workers that...
I’m a software engineer. Any time this topic comes up it’s clear I’m the odd one out. Recruiters will tell me “don’t worry, we’re fully remote!” but that’s not what I want to hear. Co-workers that are mandated to return to office go on a quiet rebellion to stay at home (and to be clear, I love that they are displaying the power that laborers have even without a union). But for me the quality of the work is lower when remote. Video calls suck and are emotionally draining. Collaboration is core to doing work for me. Sure I can close tickets just fine from home. But what if I’m there to wrap my head around the entire system and all of the people involved in it?
A few things I’m aware of that influence my opinion here:
- I don’t have kids
- I am comfortable asserting my free time. I take plenty of time off and typically work six hour days, never with any push back from anyone. I can usually get much more done in six hours than is asked of me
- Programming is my dream job
Thankfully I am still able to find fully in-person opportunities around me. So this is really just a matter of understanding the rest of the labor market. I don’t need to or want to change anyone’s mind here.
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Dad jokes - I'm in need of something fresh
My kids are 17, 15, 14 and 3. The eldest have heard my repertoire over and over again. I speak of my beloved dad favourites such as: 2 cows are in a field. One turns to the other and says "Moo!",...
My kids are 17, 15, 14 and 3. The eldest have heard my repertoire over and over again. I speak of my beloved dad favourites such as:
2 cows are in a field. One turns to the other and says "Moo!", the other cow says "Oi, I was going to say that."
2 sausages are in a frying pan. One says "Phew, it's hot in here!" And the other says "Oh my God. A talking sausage!"
Did you hear about the magic tractor? It was going down the road and turned into a field!
Now that you have finished laughing, I need some fresh stuff. So what hidden gems do you have for me to steal and use to cause more groans?
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After many years, migrant workers in Norway won legal protection from exploitative agencies – but now a European Free Trade Association ruling puts progress in peril
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Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets
This is the place for casual discussion about our pets. Photos are welcome, show us your pet(s) and tell us about them!
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Dust management?
Any advice on how to clean & control dust in the home? I live in an apartment with no central HVAC, and i suppose certain life choices contribute to excess dust build up.. like Air drying...
Any advice on how to clean & control dust in the home?
I live in an apartment with no central HVAC, and i suppose certain life choices contribute to excess dust build up.. like
- Air drying clothes-- All the fibers & dust don't get trapped in the dryer, they kind of stay on clothes until they dry and fall off in my apartment
- windows are left open (depending on weather)
- working on sewing projects
Not willing to change any of the above, so i might just have to deal with dusting all the time.
But dusting itself is difficult... Dusters that move dust off surfaces seem perpetually inefficient and can't capture 100%.
Wiping down surfaces is better but even microfiber cloths don't pick up everything either. Clumps up weirdly. And don't want to use a wet rag for dusting off books e.g.Any suggestions are appreciated!
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Hurting the right people
45 votes -
How to help humanitarian efforts in Israel and Gaza
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Euthanizing my old friend. When is the right moment?
Hi all, our 13 yo, 50-60 pound (25 kg) and mutt dog has been with us for his entire life. A happy and socially anxious friend. A pleasure to have him around. Many times spoiled. Since a year ago,...
Hi all, our 13 yo, 50-60 pound (25 kg) and mutt dog has been with us for his entire life. A happy and socially anxious friend. A pleasure to have him around. Many times spoiled.
Since a year ago, he started with mobility issues (besides cataracts and partial progressive deafness that do not seem to bother him much). Initially was difficulties jumping on the couch and now it is serious difficulties and some times impossibility to just stand up or go up a few steps on a short stair. Sometimes he has gave up, four legs wide open, belly on floor, even not calling for help, like peacefully defeated. It has becoming more frequent that I have to carry him up and stairs.
Most week days, he stays by himself from morning to late afternoon. He does not help himself inside the house.
He does not seem to be suffering right now. I am not sure but it is not evident to me.
My question is, when would be the best time to put him down? I want to be prepared and plan this properly.
Should I wait until I see him suffering, with pain, soiled? Should I just proceed and prevent any suffering at all? Should I act when I feel uncomfortable assisting him.
Thanks for any advice or comment.45 votes -
Hamas attack on Israel kibbutz Be’eri captured by mothers’ WhatsApp group
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What hat would go well with this jacket?
What is a good hat that would go with this jacket? It's a great jacket, but there's no hood. So, while the rest of my upper body stays dry, my hair gets wet. For that reason, I'm looking for...
What is a good hat that would go with this jacket? It's a great jacket, but there's no hood. So, while the rest of my upper body stays dry, my hair gets wet. For that reason, I'm looking for something water resistant. My budget is under 100 USD.
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Fair Play, a gamified way to talk about domestic responsibilities
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A handful of influencers are trying to turn the tide on toxic masculinity. But can they get anyone to listen?
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Prolific LA eviction law firm was caught faking cases in court
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How do you divide a room completely and maintain high visibility?
So here's my situation and what I'm trying to prepare for. My mom is currently sick (we think it's an infection), and last night she fell and threw up, scared me half to death. She says she's...
So here's my situation and what I'm trying to prepare for. My mom is currently sick (we think it's an infection), and last night she fell and threw up, scared me half to death. She says she's fine(ish) now, and we're waiting on test results. It got me thinking how she said I'll inherit her Siamese cat breeding business and it got me thinking a lot about it.
I'm wanting to divide what is currently a purely aesthetic room so the queens can have more room for their kittens who then won't get to hide under/in the couch (yes, inside the couch, because they tore holes in the fabric underneath it, apparently) whenever I try to show them to customers.
I want to divide my dining room from the entry way, where the front door leads into the living room, so the cats don't escape out the front door. Imagine a hallway (12 to 14 feet long) from the front door to the living room (and it's a double wide doorless doorway connecting it to the living room), but one wall of the hallway doesn't exist, and instead opens fully into the dining area. I haven't measured yet, but I'm estimating it's around 12 to 14 feet across, and 9 or 10 feet tall.
I'd like to use something budget friendly (ofc), like plexiglass, acrylic, resin, whatever. Something fully see through (or as see through as possible) so the customers can see them immediately. Proper glass will need a whole installation process and will add to the cost. Also, I'll want to add a door to this new "window wall" so the customers and I can walk in and out, and preferably have it be a sliding door, since I think this is the option that will be the least likely to pinch a kitten.
My dad suggested a garage screen door, with magnetic closing, made of fiber glass mesh, but I can already tell the cats will eventually tear it up and make it look ratty, and also slip out from under it most likely.
We can't use normal room dividers because our cats can sometimes jump from the floor to the top of the fridge, and room dividers are too flimsy. Also I'm not sure how to fasten a door to them (maybe I could just open them, but idk).
I've also half-way crossed any meshes, cages, or fencing off my option list because it looks ratty imo. Btw when I say "ratty" I mean it will make me look like some backyard breeder or someone who doesn't care about her cats. I don't want my kittens to look like inmates lol. But cages/metal bars are a last resort, because I need something, as right now my mom has them set up in what I personally consider to be cages that are far too small to keep the mother cat in 24/7 for 2 to 4 weeks. The mother cat can just about lay down once you have to put the litterbox in. (It's the vertical one with the 3 tier platforms, with wheels and a bottom tray that you can find on amazon)
I've looked all over amazon, just window (lol) shopping/browsing for ideas on what I could use, and omg. Either inflation is horrible, or I'm severely out of touch with what a "budget" option for this project would be.
I've even gone so far as to consult ChatGPT, who was not really that helpful.
A list of things I've thought about already are:
-Garage screen doors (cats will eventually scratch through and slip under)
-Sliding barn doors (for the end of the entry way that leads into the living room, instead of dividing the dining room, but this would give the kittens and queens access to the front door when people go in and out)- Those DIY metal grid panels people use to build storage furniture (ratty looking, and kind of expensive, but is my last resort as it seems to be the cheapest option I think)
- Ordering a proper glass window wall (this would have to be properly installed into the house, which would cost too much)
- Normal room dividers (too flimsy, too short, no door option)
- Chain link fence segments (definitely ratty looking)
- Decorative metal/PVC room divider modular panels that hang from the ceiling (I can't seem to find a version that has ample visibility without giant holes the kittens could slip through)
- Just building a bigger cage (more expensive than just building a wall out of the panels, and again, it's ratty looking)
- Using clear acrylic modular panels with holes in the corners, chained/tied together to hang from the ceiling (it's an option, but I'm not sure if it's the best in terms of aesthetics & cost, and idk how to attach a door that way)
- 3D printed prefab wall panels (not see through, and idk if/how I'd fit a door on it)
- Prefab floor to ceiling windows (expensive, heavy, needs proper installation I think)
- A clear, plastic tent piece, large enough for a patio (that would also look bad, since it's shiny and most likely will get scratched up)
I may be forgetting some options that I considered already, but I'm a complete novice at construction and home improvement, so I figured you guys probably know something I don't. I need a true barrier, that is preferably as clear as possible.
Even if you think your idea isn't all that good, suggest it anyway because I might be able to springboard off of it. This includes ideas relating to stuff I've thought of already.
17 votes -
An investigation of the facts behind Columbia’s US News ranking
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California public school students will learn about labor rights under first-of-its-kind law
44 votes -
Incel ideology has entered the mainstream
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Amid strikes, one question: Are employers miscalculating?
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Broken zipper? France will pay to get it fixed
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South Korean teachers seek protection from harassment by students' parents
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Ibram X. Kendi’s fall is a cautionary tale — so was his rise
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Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets
This is the place for casual discussion about our pets. Photos are welcome, show us your pet(s) and tell us about them!
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The war in Ukraine is heightening tensions between Russians and Norwegians living on Svalbard | Focus on Europe
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Arnold Schwarzenegger is here to pump you up (emotionally)
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Looking for Magsafe wallet recommendations
I've recently purchased a cover for my android phone, which supports Magsafe (dBrand Ghost for anyone looking for the product). I'm trying to find Magsafe compatible wallets, with the following...
I've recently purchased a cover for my android phone, which supports Magsafe (dBrand Ghost for anyone looking for the product). I'm trying to find Magsafe compatible wallets, with the following requirements:
- Hold about 4 cards
- Have sufficient space for cash (essential), and a pouch for coins (preferable)
- Would be great if it could act as a stand for the phone in portrait or landscape mode. (preferrable)
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Woman denied medication for being of childbearing age
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I got a pokemon tattoo
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On the modern prevalence of ghosting - Social disappearing acts reflect the deepening inhumanity of a technology-addled, coldly transactional world
33 votes -
Is this the world's most inconvenient podcast?
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Meaningful family games or activities for gatherings?
Our extended family lives in the same city and we're always getting together (brother/sisters-in-laws, their kids). So basically our generation and our kids. Probably 13-15 of us. We meet maybe...
Our extended family lives in the same city and we're always getting together (brother/sisters-in-laws, their kids). So basically our generation and our kids. Probably 13-15 of us.
We meet maybe once or twice a month, but whenever we meet, kids just go do kids things, dads go over here, moms go over there. One of the dads invariably falls asleep, one or two of the kids kind of mull about not quite fitting in here or there.
I was wondering if any of you had any ideas for something that can be done together that might help build memories or at least structure some time so that there's meaningful interaction and we can get to know each other better instead of defaulting to whatever is least effort.
The only constraint is that is has to be that it's an in-home, indoor activity suitable for teens/pre-teens.
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Marriage between cousins and extended family members may soon be banned in Norway
26 votes -
Atlanta’s ‘Cop City’ neighbors have no voting rights to stop it
19 votes -
Without a college degree, life in America is staggeringly shorter
21 votes -
Real men share the housework: what Britain can learn from the domestic bliss of Scandinavia
31 votes -
Why most men don’t carry a purse
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Migrants are driving Canada's population surge despite declining birth rate: StatsCan
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Is multiculturalism bad for women? (1997)
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Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets
This is the place for casual discussion about our pets. Photos are welcome, show us your pet(s) and tell us about them!
6 votes -
How London lost its place at the heart of Black Britain
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Smart home automation - tip, tricks, advice?
Next week, I will be closing on my first ever home (hello Michigan tilderinos!). One of the projects I want to tackle and work on after I move in is setting up a smart home ecosystem that is...
Next week, I will be closing on my first ever home (hello Michigan tilderinos!). One of the projects I want to tackle and work on after I move in is setting up a smart home ecosystem that is sustainable long-term. I saw the open-source Home Assistant but I think I need to do more research on it and find compatible products. For now, my wishlist of projects are:
- Controllable lighting from my phone or computer
- Carbon Monoxide/Natural Gas detection
- Water leak and usage monitoring
- Thermostat
Are there any other use cases that you use home automation for? If you use Home Assistant (or used it in the past), what are some things I should consider? Any products that you bought in the past and regret now?
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For the fourteenth year running, Iceland takes the top position in the Global Gender Gap Report by the World Economic Forum
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‘Once we win California, the nation is next’: What a caste discrimination ban means for Americans
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Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets
This is the place for casual discussion about our pets. Photos are welcome, show us your pet(s) and tell us about them!
10 votes -
Should you let babies 'cry it out'? Debate reignited by new study.
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Lord Sugar documents east London’s rubbish mountains
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Pennsylvania Senator John Fetterman introduces legislation to cancel school lunch debt
77 votes