Tilderinos
Hi Tildenauts,
There's a custom at Tildes, that sort of grew organically out of "what should we call ourselves?" threads, to refer to fellow Tilderians in ever changing ways. This happened because there was no obvious, non-cringy answer and anyway who cares? That's my read on it anyway, I didn't follow closely. Plus the idea of online in-groups is kinda cringy itself, but also inevitable because we're humans. The whole concept begs for ironic resignation.
Anyway, fellow Tildinites, it occured to me that I've been coming here on and off for a long time. Since not too long after it launched I think. And it's been great. I consider Tildes a huge success in its mission, or my interpretation of it: be a comparitively intimate forum where people are thoughtful and less reactionary than elsewhere online. Throw in a (just) large enough userbase to include a wide variety of life experience and perspectives and you've got an oasis in an ever more polarized and reactionary internet.
Tildes reminds me of earlier internet forums, when the tone, pace and motivations for online communication were less capitalized, in various senses of the word. Niche subreddits during Reddit's golden era are another example. It's a better vibe. I'm guessing that, during the various Reddit exodii, a fair amount of people who share that nostalgia ended up here.
I even have some nostalgia for the early days of the platforms. MySpace! Early instagram was gorgeous. Even Facebook had its moments. My social media participation has always been below average, unless you count the years where any online socializing was unusual in the general population, but it's been a semi-consistent part of essentially my whole adult life both personally and professionally. Thinking about online socializing, it's funny how it's sort of its own thing. Kind of in its own social category, a new one that we recently invented. Maybe, in part, it's because the internet is a sort of buffer, and in those buffered interactions we're all a little different. In both good and bad ways. Lately it feels unbalanced towards bad, but perhaps it will swing back.
It feels like the Tildian moderation strategy, and guidelines, have successfully created a culture that's now self sustaining to some degree. And I think that culture is pretty great. It's not perfect, in the way that nothing people do can ever be perfect, especially where communication is concerned, but it's beautiful and I'm grateful it exists.
So, cheers to Tildes! I'd love to hear what other Tilderianites think about Tildes.
It's been a few years (???) since I moved here from the other place. I've visited Bluesky, used discord, didn't care for fediverse, wish I could delete Facebook, still evading ig snap pinstress, and occasionally browse dumb memes on discuit, but Tildes is home. You guys are so smart and have such a variety of viewpoints and experiences
I do, however, wonder about some familiar names I don't see any more. I hope folks are doing well and that they would come back and say hi. One of them outright said they didn't like me, but I'm still sad they're gone. Another I never learned why. And another said their goodbyes over pm. Some others I don't see their comments very frequently anymore. It makes me very nostalgic for highschool days where we had year books and we would have all that time together all day every (school) day.
Ending on a happier note, I'm glad there's still a lot of very interesting in depth posts and insightful comments, right alongside some sillier fun threads and some personal sharing ones. I'm only this chatty over text, not in real life (deeply introverted), so I'm happy to have been invited here. (Thanks forever @cfabbro)
Agreed. Tildes is the place I come to for discussion, random bits of news, thoughtful opinions, and sometimes advice. Everyone is generally calm, easy to get along with, and mature.
It feels like a safe place from the rest of the internet. I don't remember who invited me, but I found you on reddit and I'm glad I did. Also happy to see some others I invited still floating around (hello @asinine).
❤️ :) And IMO whoever said they didn't like you is crazy-pants. You're awesome, and I'm always glad to see your comments on here, but especially when you're helping us all understand HK/Chinese cultural tidbits we otherwise might have missed! :)
Funny and somewhat unbelievable story for you: My son wanted to see my user name on the list of earliest users of the other place because it blew his mind that I'm in the first 500. I showed him, and as he looked at the list he said, "Chocobean! That's a great name!" I was stunned and said, "I know that person from my littler, better community!" Strange how the world works sometimes. You're coming up on your 20th anniversary over there by the way, for whatever that's worth. :)
Wow, 20 years. It's one of my oldest, still log-in-able accounts, besides slashdot and hacker news. First 500, really. I followed /u/AaronSw (+) there ...
I would bet a bunch of the first Tilderfriendos have even older accounts :)
:) I'm so tickled that your son likes my username!
Last year, my kid had to pick a Steam account name and it made me sad how many of the ones she wanted are already taken. Being older, we got the first pick of most of the "simpler" sounding non-compounded ones.
Yes! I remember Aaron well. He was actually engaged/dating the daughter of one of my professors, who then wrote an elegiac article for a magazine after his awful death.
I was so happy for my older son that he was able to snag his normal username on reddit last week.
It's probably my oldest working account too, aside from gmail. I may be able to log into twitter, but I always hated it and mostly left it dormant.
Thanks for the trip down memory lane. :)
Some of us would, had we not nuked our accounts from orbit on the way out the door of that other place. ;)
Oof. I'm guessing there was some high temper going if someone straight-up told you they dislike you. You've always seemed pretty easy-going to me, but then maybe I just don't go into the comments for topics that get your feathers ruffled.
My singular response regarding my opinion on an author to someone combined with the inability to block me from future responses in other threads (where I didn't recognize their name), led to at least one person quitting the site.
It's a very weird feeling
This will be insufficient to the moment but thank you so much for your very kind words. I will save this for bad days for certain.
I am lucky that my response to being angry is generally to become cold, formal, and precise rather than hot and raging but I extensively edit my posts as I write them and am furiously looking up citations while doing so. It's useful and also probably not always the healthiest.
But I try to speak when I can because it's important.
Fwiw the person who objected did so because they didn't like how I didn't like Brene Brown. It wasn't even really politics just a dislike of how I wrote about it. And fair, I suppose, but not so reasonable for me to never interact with them again when frankly I don't remember their name even now. I'm not trying to shit talk their opinions about Brown or their opinion of my opinion of her, that is whatever; but it was a very weird emotional state to be unable - due to attempting to follow my own ethics of not responding to them in that moment - to even respond. But like, it's nice to know I'm a reason folks like it here too.
Thank you muchly ( ◜‿◝ )♡
Let me also add that I'm grateful you're here. I've backed away from posting and commenting because I just don't have the energy, compassion, resilience to dark times, eloquence, or patience (!) anymore. You've often expressed what I would say far better, and I admire your continuing willingness to enlighten those with less experience of life and adversity. I wish you and your partner all the best, and hope you'll remain among us!
You're very kind and I cannot handle being complimented so apologies for this being less than what it should be in response
I remember that, and if it's any consolation, I was genuinely shocked when said person reacted to you the way they did. I actually even went looking for past interactions between you two (sorry to snoop) in order to try to understand what the hell could have triggered such an extreme response. But after doing that I was even more confused since the few other times I could find that you two seemed to interact you were pretty damn civil and your replies seemed entirely innocuous. So I still genuinely don't understand why they reacted the way they did. I suspect it was 100% a them problem, and not actually anything to do with you, you were just the excuse they used to complain about Tildes lacking a block user feature. :/
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I have been the target of intentional attempts to get me banned (or in LARP my character permanently killed) multiple times. The person usually gets themselves banned in the process. I've also outlasted every dude at work that's ever wanted me gone because I'm very good at my job. So in a way I have practice. Being a non-dude in the world comes with a stupid amount of this experience sometimes.
In another way this one was so bizarre it still throws me. I still don't like that author. But I wouldn't recognize that user's name if they reactivated their account and I'd probably reply to them again unintentionally and restart the whole cycle of complaining. That said no apology needed, I do the same when I'm trying to figure out a dynamic
LOL, as much as I'm sure that really sucks to have happen to you, at least you have a pretty clear indication that the problem hasn't been on your end. :P
Or I'm just a very skilled older sibling who makes sure that they're not the one in trouble with "mom" ( ´◡‿ゝ◡`)
But the self doubt is still there. It sucks.
Oh no :< yeah I'd feel pretty conflicted about that myself. I know we can't control how others react after we've tried to be civil and reasonable.
But I wonder if my participation in Tildes has, or contributed to, pushing others away.
It's hard to know how to speak to an unknown audience. Any random stranger could have had experiences that make reasonably innocuous topics or idiosyncrasies intolerable. Sharing holiday plans or how much you like your dog is going to suck if it's to someone estranged from family or who just lost a pet... and there really isn't a lot you can do to avoid that as soon as you step into a public place.
You can choose to be as anodyne as possible, but that sort of stiff/stifling type of interaction can be as bad as saying something careless.
A small shift I had, trying to figure out some of these problems without perfect answers, was looking at it from a system level.
Do you try to understand people when you can, and take what you know about them into consideration? Can you back off if someone is upset/heated, even if you don't agree? Are you better than the average person they're interacting with nonstop throughout the day?
If so, you're--on average-- making things better by participating.
Can you acknowledge faults? Do you pay attention or otherwise try to reflect/improve in how you interact? Can you think of anything you've learned or started doing better in the last span?
If so, then you're moving in a good direction.
Are the doubts keeping you from participating or stressing you out?
Be nicer to yourself! From seeing you around I think you're doing great.
these are really great questions to ask myself. I especially like this one.
That's a great way to navigate the world in general, not just online, thank you for sharing that. It reminds me of what Canadian astronaut Chris Hadfield said in his memoir: aim to be a zero.
He goes into more examples and fun anecdotes, of course. It's not about not contributing, but engaging as part of a team with more curiosity, most listening, and more intentionality. In terms of technical, professional, domain knowledge contribution to Tildes, I would honestly rate my "contribution" at a -10 out of +/- 1: I'm not an expert, I have "hot takes" and preexisting ill-informed biases, I have trouble resisting the urge to butt in for a quick joke, I have trouble "reading the room", and I don't usually have the patience to be curious about a topic and to learn it instead of taking up people's time by asking. But...... I can still be zero when I take the time to read the article, vote on it to thank the poster and for visibility, and come back to read others' comments later.
And then, for chatter and chill discussions, I can definitely try to be better than the average person they've had to interact with throughout the day. I may not be able to help them with anything (no +1), but I can try not to bring them down (-1). I'd like to be 0.
Aside: learned a new word from your username. I'm likely to remember temulent because if lent is a sobering time for prayer and fasting, a Temu branded lent experience is the knockoff, faulty version. Pronounced entirely differently of course.
Haha yes fast fashion! :D
Chocobos are cute, but the handle is from a particular brand of chocolate covered fruit gummies. (20s 1994 ad)
On this subject, my brain can't help but parse your handle to be pronounced like Jacobean. I've often wondered if it's supposed to be "choco-bean" (as in a cacao bean) instead, though at this point I fear those neurons are already set.
Jacoban, like how one would say Père Jacques?? I wish I had thought to that, but alas, it is Choco like Count Chocola. That'd be a great alt for me, Comtesse du Choco
No, Jacobean is pronounced "jack-KO-bee-an." It refers to the reign of James VI/I, the Scottish king who inherited the throne of Elizabeth I.
Edit: I guess some people pronounce it more like "jack-ko-BEE-an." I think it splits depending on which side of the pond one is on.
Ohhh , yeah, no, definitely not Jacobean. :)
English is so strange to consider Jacob and James, William and Bill to be the same names,
"Bill" being a nickname for "William" touches on a favorite piece of linguistic history of mine.
There was a trend for rhyming nicknames in the Middle Ages that gave us a lot of this sort of weirdness. Usually a name would be abbreviated first, then substituted with a rhyming construction. So, "Margaret" would be shortened to "Mag" or "Meg," then substituted with the rhyme "Peg." "William" was shortened to "Will," thence to "Bill." "Robert" became "Rob," then "Hob" or "Bob." "Ted" remains a popular nickname for "Theodore," but it was also once a popular nickname for "Edward" by the same process (that's how Edward Kennedy came to be called "Ted"). Then to further complicate things, they often extended out the rhymed names with diminutive suffixes, so "Peg" into "Peggy," "Bob" into "Bobby," "Ted" into "Teddy," and so on.
I don't know exactly why this phenomenon tickles me as much as it does. I get a kick out of linguistic things that kind of truck along by cultural inertia long after the initial impetus for them is forgotten.
Imposter syndrome in action. I feel the same, and tbh I feel I'm a more likely candidate than you.
:) let's go with "at least one of us probably aren't imposters here"
You strike me as somewhat more inclined to take an idiot to task than @chocobean, so I'm less surprised someone got a bug up their ass over you.
Absolutely no shade intended, of course. I mean it purely admiringly.
I will not deny having given people the rough edge of my tongue in the past, but this was not one of those times!
my original comment
I'll have to check this out. I've not found Brené Brown useful personally, because I think she's teaching things I use every day and I just don't.... Relate? It's like Ready Player One, even though I thought I wanted to be I wasn't actually the target audience.
There are definitely folks that need the lesson, and I'm glad she speaks to them, but I was quite underwhelmed when we did a book club at work.
(When I elaborated later, after accusing me of being wrong in the above comment and I explained I think BB teaches basic empathy to executives, I was told I was shaming in both comments and that they desired a block function so they never had to engage with me or see my comments ever again and the lack of such was enough to make them want to leave. It was all very weird. )
And your words are taken in the spirit they were given. 𓋼𖤣𖥧𓋼𓍊
I can only assume it was at least partially my fault for that one conversation, but more probably over a longer time I've slowly offended them more and more. I didn't bookmark the comment because I know I would obsess over it if I didn't let myself forget about it, but it wasn't a heated discussion, just....I replied to their thread about something and they said they've never liked me (laugh cry)
But!! To be fair, a bunch of people have said they rather enjoy having me around so ... Sorry, I'll be sticking around
Please stick around! You and /u/DefinitelyNotAFae always have interesting, useful, insightful, and compassionate things to say. You make Tildes a better place!
"Don't pet the sweaty shit" is sounder life advice than it first appears.
What, I've never heard that saying ~~ can you give me an example of how to use it?
Its a malapropism of "don't sweat the petty shit" I believe ಡ ͜ ʖ ಡ
That's the derivation of it, yes. Upon reflection, I think I like the spooner-y version better than the traditional one. "Don't sweat the petty shit" kinda leaves you with the dilemma of figuring out what's actually petty or not. The goofy one tells you: it's the sweaty shit, so don't pet it.
Spoonerism! That's the word I needed.
But yeah I like both ways.
DNAF had it right, but it's a spoonerism, not a malapropism (potato, potahto).
I think the garfed-up version works though, especially online. We're all guilty of getting a little too sweaty about what other people say online, and we've all been on the receiving end of other people's sweatiness. So don't pet it. Don't encourage that behavior in others, and don't reward the impulse in yourself. Don't pet the sweaty shit.
How have I been speaking this language for decades and not know so many words.
(Answer: because I am terminally online instead of reading)
Also, I thought spoonerism (heard of the concept but not the word) was only for switching the first letter . Completely rearranging a phrase sounds fun. I'll further corrupt the phrase and go with "don't pet the sweaty small stuff" to ensure no one knows what I'm talking about.
I believe it's just switching the initial sounds rather than just letters because they're generally spoken. So sweat and petty become "pet" and "sweaty" even if they'd be "p-eat" and "sw-etty" without rewriting the word so the second half of the sound to remain the same.
Ohhh that makes sense. Hehehe sweaty is just a funny word
It's not for nothing that my browser has you tagged "terminally online tech gremlin."
It breaks my heart to think about all the folks we've lost and how many of them left because no one was willing to have the hard conversations we needed to have around here about the problems this place has with inclusivity. Unfortunately it's a battle that has no knights anymore, and while some of us still stick around it does, at times, feel like a ghost ship of the voices we once heard.
For what it's worth, I'm glad you're still around, along with about a dozen other folks who I feel carry the banner in spirit - willing to fight the normative answers, the slow creep of centrist and privileged voices and thoughts; one to speak up for those who aren't here or are deprived of their voices.
I suppose I'm not around on this website enough to really know what the vibe is like around here anymore, but I do find myself pushing back on harmful rhetoric (usually unintentionally malicious, but problematic nonetheless) in most threads that I do bother to open up. I wish there were another place like this, that truly centered the individual and encouraged deeper thought and reflection. I find myself unable to move on from this website completely because the depth of discussion here isn't as proliferated with bad takes as other long-form discussion sites, but I also find myself longing for space that actually centers the human. I'm glad that I can reliably find you and specific others with compassionate and thoughtful takes - if folks like you weren't around I probably would leave this place forever.
It's been a hard year for many people, and my hope is that they'll come back, and find Tildes worthwhile to re-engage with. Comments like yours leave a little light out on the porch for them.
I wonder how much is just a lot of the lefties are forcibly detoxing to avoid mental breakdowns in this time of utter insanity.
I mostly stick to Tildes, a touch of Fedi, and like Josh Johnson on YT and I feel that's too much some days. And I'm a privileged white dude....
I've been watching more Josh Johnson as well. I need filtered news I can laugh about
Echoing (late) pretty much everyone else in that we have only had a few interactions but you seem like a delight.
It's not surprising to me that some people get invited but wash out. That's up to them, and their prerogative, and I see it on some of the other private Internet spaces I'm in. A site like this isn't going to be for everybody, though what I've seen in practice so far in my two-ish years here is "unwelcoming to assholes", and, welp.
I am slowly coming around to @cfabbro's Tildoes...
Double-ended ones?
Every one is double ended if you're committed
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Don't be a coward!
Some of us have quickly come for Tildoes.
Sorry, come around for Tildoes, I mean.
Call the wrong person a Tildo and they'll tell you where you can shove it.
Phrasing fully intentional, I presume?
Of course. ;) IMO, this place can sometimes be just a tad too serious, which is why that's my preferred demonym since it allows people to inject a bit more levity every now and again. :P
Petition to add a Serious label on April Fool's Day!
I'm in my early 30s but I grew up with 5 older siblings so I had a lot of introduction to the Internet in the 90s.
Tildes feels like a weird (in a good way) space to me in that it seems like one of the last places I can find genuine interaction that feels sincere and isn't needlessly polarized or monetized.
I've gotten similar function out of local astronomy group forums or the likes, but it's just not the same as the group is singularly focused on the topic of astronomy (obviously) and (no offense to those guys) the hobby is comprised of like 95% men over the age of 60. I can't really relate all that much.
There's a concept of "Men's Shed" I've heard about, where other countries will build a space for men to just gather, and be. Tildes feels like what I would imagine that concept would be like, but just more inclusive.
I really appreciate you folks.
A couple of my close friends and I (US PNW) have a concept of this called "Boys Chat", a playful name for us getting together every Thursday or Friday at a bar or restaurant in our neighborhood to chat about whatever. Work, pets, video games, movies, music, politics to a lesser degree because we don't argue about it, or something that is stressing us out. We never talk about our relationships (we are all with long-term partners), good or bad except in the slightest passing reference.
It's not that we don't have any other spaces in our lives online or offline for this, we do. The point is to intentionally create a supportive space where we can talk about stuff in those areas we don't have space elsewhere in our lives otherwise, even when it's not heavy or meaningful. Like, as in literally a movie you saw that no one else wants to hear about. It's yammerspace.
I like that. I'm coining "yammerspace".
Here in middle age it's one of the better upgrades to my life that I've made.
I've been intentionally creating "excuses" to get the gang together as well. Movie night over discord? I'm passing through your city, let's get lunch? Etc etc.
I've found that being more proactive about building community has helped tremendously for my mental health.
The greatest demonym is "tilderen".
I think this is one of the coziest corners of the Internet and I'm grateful for it. I agree with you that it feels like an Internet throwback, and I enjoy the mostly drama free online existence we share here together. It's mostly kind and thoughtful way to spend time online, and it course a very large part of that is the people that are here.
Tilderen is solid, it definitely belongs among the top of the list of names we'll never settle on.
For some reason, "tilderen" sounds very Tolkien to me, which I like.
Tilderen sounds a bit tildish to me, but if we could go back to an age of wonder and optimism for the future I'm all for it.
I like Tilderen precisely for how tildish it sounds. I can see it catching on as a tone signify-er that certain posts (like this one) are laid back fun discussions.
I love this place. I don't post much, but I'm in here lurking daily. The conversations I'm "overhearing" in this space are a salve to my red state blues, and it's beautiful to see so much passion, kindness, and diversity of thought/location represented online.
I only wish that, when I mention the site by name out loud, I didn't have to be so careful to not elicit a response beginning with "'Til DEEZ NUTS..."
Still, it's a small price to pay. Thank you all!
Gasp! You did it, you got /u/DefinitelyNotAFae to reference!
Also, I know your username is from an ex profession, but I somehow imagine your account avator to be the Kool-aid Man bursting through a brick wall shouting ... I guess shouting about nuts (/▿＼ )
To be fair I didn't see the previous post first.
I literally just thought of Til-deez and it went from there. But we could just be called "nuts."
I don't ever have an issue of IRL people saying "deez nuts" to me but I was never a 12 year old boy and I think that helps.
It certainly would help, but, alas, most of my coworkers (including myself) were once 12 year old boys, and we all still have the propensity to regress on a very regular basis.
As a matter of fact, my current profession occasionally involves me instructing technicians to consider that the Kool-aid Man method may be the fastest and cheapest way to penetrate certain vault doors, so it's an apt imagining.
What! Like.....uh, if there's a kitten inside mewing sadly, or there's a fire and people need to get outside? Fastest, but how come also cheapest?
Certain vault doors are only permitted to be repaired in very limited circumstances, so if a tech believes they will exceed the allowable size/number of holes to penetrate the door, they are instructed to instead break and subsequently repair the wall, which has no such legal constraints.
Ooooooh yeah, totally hahaha Kool-Aid man literally busting down the wall instead approach -- that's so simple I never thought about it being easier just to do that to the wall instead of through the door.
how come bank robbers don't try to do this instead, or are bank vaults metal all the way around for this reason?
Bank vaults are not so much in my arena, but it has in fact been the case that thieves have gone around the door entirely to pierce the walls, floor or ceiling instead. Cost and structural limitations usually mean that the door is simultaneously the easiest (with the correct combination) and hardest (drilling or otherwise defeating) entry point. The walls can be reinforced in various ways, but a determined attacker with an angle grinder eventually will get through most barriers.
But this is generally the case with security. Why try to beat a computer's web security countermeasures if you can just walk up to it and put a USB drive into it? Why pick the $300 lock cylinder when the latch itself can be opened with a $10 tool? I always say to my students, "When in doubt, cheat."
I wasn't expecting to learn about breaking into vaults in this thread.
Initially I imagine students in a classroom or auditorium, probably at a college. But after further consideration I prefer to imagine a Dickensian warehouse where you train urchins to commit heists.
It's a little bit classroom, but also a little bit the other thing too sometimes 😁
I enjoy the site and its atmosphere, I've certainly described it in the past as an old school forum in a social news costume. I'm probably not really active enough to be anything but another name in a crowd to others on here, but I do appreciate recognising people and personalities beyond "another screen name you'll never see again" on some bigger sites.
If Tildes was a far-off country “discovered” by the Portuguese during the Age of Exploration we’d all be Tildese.
If Tildes was a school of thought during the Enlightenment then we as followers of it might be Tildenites.
If we want to be real literal with it then maybe we should just be Tildemonyms.
Thank you for coming to my Tilde Talk.
I'll go for Tildese, or better yet, the Italian 🤌Tildesi🤌
The hand emoji are mandatory though
The hands would be part of our tilderitage.
Tildês, if you will
If the Romans conquered us, maybe we'd be the Tildii.
"Tilde" derives from the Latin titulus through Spanish tilde. So the Latinate version would be "Tituli."
I also kind of like "Tildesinos," as a nod to its Spanish origin as well.
Hi Tidemonians, I’m one of those people who disappeared. My departure was unnoticed as it followed my habit of posting very little! But this morning I thought I’d check in and saw this thread and tasted a sweet drop of relief from my general sense that the internet (read: world) is just dreadful. I might need to spend more time with you lovely Tilders.
That's a new one, Tildemonians! I like how this one "looks": my brain links it to "Pomeranian" somehow.
Welcome back :) Did you see some cool internet sights out there, or alternatively, how was your time spent "in the real world"?
I like
turtlestildes.Yeah, I quite like Tildes myself. I guess I've kinda settled in and more or less know what to expect. It's good to see a few more usernames around that I don't immediately recognize, and sometimes I feel that I've seen a slight shift in the tenor of discussion as a result, but it still feels like a small community and I'm encouraged to remember the human. No offense intended to anyone, it's just a minor hipster clique sentiment kinda like @chocobean mentioned.
Funny enough, I was actually thinking of posting to ~tildes last night to ask @Deimos for a status update (I always feel like I should preface his mention with "our lord and savior"). I wondered how he feels about the sites current point in its trajectory, what he has in mind moving forward (not so much in terms of growing the userbase, but maybe outstanding features, backlogged issues, philosophical changes/advances, etc.), and his overall satisfaction with his baby and the community he's fostered. In these kinds of scenarios, I don't know how much time one ends up having to enjoy what one builds, but I imagine it's not a whole lot. For whatever little it's worth, I'm glad that Tildes is here and try my best not to take it for granted.
TL;DR: The.chosen ones. Everyone on this website was chosen by someone else to be here, there is no doubt about that.
Thanks, @OBLIVIATER
Couldn't have picked a better person to invite :)
Tildebeasts
Make it Tildebeests and I'm fully on board!
Well Tildorks I agree. It’s a very homey comfortable place to be and it always gives me the feeling that I want to contribute more and that’s a success in my book.
Ooooh, I actually really like Tildorks. It's nice and silly, like my preferred one (Tildos) but less crass. :P
I recently realized I've been here for a relatively long time and started to feel like this is my internet home, which is nice.
The Tildes community is great - I've been able to get much more thoughtful answers here than anywhere else and as a result I've been more motivated to engage than I've been anywhere else online in years. I do wish we had more activity for the niches I love (I still go back to reddit for /r/askhistorians) but I've come to accept that it's not what the health of the community needs.
Anyways I'll drop a vote for tildians. We're digital citizens here more than most other places.
...i suppose we each bring a mote of whichever online communities we imprinted upon when we first engaged the temporary autonomous zone, before it lost coherence and spontaneously emerged elsewhere anew, as standing waves inevitably do...
...for myself, that was usenet culture before the eternal september, and dial-up BBSs before that; we never needed names to identify our communities as we were simply individuals engaged in self-selecting fora of mutual respect...i think the notion of cliques can foment powerful branding amongst outsiders but is ultimately antithetical to the fundamental presumption that everyone deserves that same respectful engagement, at least until they've demonstrated otherwise...
I came too late to appreciate the BBS / Usenet scene, but I'm always amazed by the first hand account from their users. It seemed like a good time.
Hello, fellow Til-diddly-dumplings and Tildents!
I'm still partial to "Tilders" as a Til-demonym - it's comfortably minimalist (for my oversensitive ears) and it implies the ending of the English reflexive/objective first person plural pronouns (ours/ourselves).
I'm all-in on "capsed|shifty|upper backtick(s)." It isn't going to catch on... but if it does I was there at the ground floor.
Tildités
Like Crudités.
I like it. Sadly it's hindered by UX issues, too many peoplé would need instructions for typing the accent mark... although, that could enhance the in-group vibe. The app could add a custom button.
Hello fellow Tildestrians! I joined a few months ago. It’s such a great site and I’m grateful to be here. It’s like a retreat form everything crappy online. A place where I feel real people reply and actually put some effort into it. Even when opinions differ, I felt like I actually learned from those with different perspectives. It’s rare these days!
I love y’all <3
Tildes has been healthy for me in helping ween me off from other social media and this place means a lot to me. I love the topics posted here and the discussions I’ve had. I look forward to the gaming thread every week, especially!
Tildominos perhaps?
Tildettes
Tildés
Tilldeez.... Nuts
Got eem!
It's that time of the year again
Each one of you I consider Tilder Valderramas. Unless I just came up with that. But you dont know that.