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What's something you've moved on from?
What's something you grew out of/moved on from/phased out?
How do you feel about it now? Fondness? Embarassment? A nostalgic ache?
Why did you end up moving on from it?
Was it a conscious decision, or was it something that happened over time?
I won't bother listing the enshittified platforms or services, good riddence and obvious.
Media/Tech:
Livejournal, I remember fondly. A friend died when he was young, and visiting his lj was too sad, and I stopped as well. ICQ eventually gave way to MSN Messenger as a group, but I miss ICQ's profiles as a self erasing microblog platform. So many song lyrics to hint at secret moods.
Story telling trope / in real life: villians
As an edgy teen, I was very enamoured by the baddies who have a secret soft side: Ikari Gendo (Neon Genesis Evangelion), Crake (Oryx and Crake), team Seiryu (Fushigi Yuugi), for example. It wasn't a universal love for villains: Eric Cartman and the Joker I've always disliked. It was a fantasy of becoming the one soft spot of the silent, capable, mastermind type. But I grew older, and realised smart, fun people don't behave that way, and hateful, "morally flexible" people are too selfish to have any meaningful relationships with even if you're what they profess to love, they don't even know the meaning of it.
Being a snarky b
Making hurtful comments isn't a sign of intelligence: finding words of comfort to say when someone needs it is much harder. I was in my late teens, on a week long
vacationfield trip, sitting at a homeless shelter where I'm supposed to be volunteering, making dead babies jokes for shock value and feeling great about myself, when a peer stood up and said, hey, cut it out, [an adult we know] has experienced loss. The adult had been our shelter excursion's liaison and been nothing but kind and wonderful to us all week. I might have in passing wondered why her and her equally wonderful husband had so much time to spend with us teens instead of their own kids. I don't know how I was ever so ignorant that these stupid jokes aren't funny when they connect to real life. I was probably still an awful person for a long time after that, but I'd like to think that was a turning point. I went from "didn't care to be good" to "clumsily trying and failing to be good", a road I am still on today.I used to be really into mechanical keyboards. I built them for years, and even now I have a collection of around 15, with different shapes, layouts, materials, switches, even some vintage ones that I enjoy greatly, but... the moment has passed. I don't know why, the business is as thriving as ever, and good keyboards are getting cheap while cheap keyboards are getting good.
But it turns out, the keyboard I like most? The Apple Magic Keyboard.
Drinking alcohol and consuming marijuana. I still drink on occasion, but it generally has to be an occasion. Like I went up to New York recently and visited a friend. I had a couple beers over dinner. Before that, I had a beer at home for NYE. Before that...I had a couple drinks at a work holiday lunch at a restaurant. I'm not just like getting home from work and fixing myself a drink. Or going to a bar by myself just because. It has to be a social call or a holiday.
Idk, I just don't have the urge to drink. And certainly not go HAM like I did in my 20s. Rarely have I drank like that in my 30s; and I'm almost in my 40s now!
Weed is tied to more to my job. I am not allowed at all to consume marijuana. I could lose my job if my employers found out. Which kinda sucks, but really it's a minor annoyance. Because I pretty much stopped consuming marijuana like 2yrs before I even got this job. My usage had tapered off A LOT before I stopped on my own. Like maybe an edible twice a year, if that. It just wasn't as fun as it used to be. On those rare times I did do it, I'd just fall asleep. I don't need to weed to do that. I nap all the time as is!
I feel you. I’m at a point of my life where I just prefer how I feel while sober. I’ll still get a beer while out with friends and I do keep a six pack of beer and THC beverages at home, but they’re rarely touched.
I guess right now it would be tabletop RPGs. I’m still playing tabletop games in general and I’m still playing video game RPGs, but I had been playing tabletop RPGs at least once a week for the last 13ish years and need a break.
I don’t suspect I’ve permanently moved on, but I definitely want a few years off and, if I go back, to play with some new groups. My previous groups just naturally fizzled over time as people entered different stages of their lives and that’s okay! I also had a sour moment that stuck with me for a while, so time off will be good.
I was running a game in a more lethal setting than we’re used to. I ran a few sessions to gauge things and then asked players for feedback before I built my world and a campaign. They all said they loved it, so I then spent weeks building a campaign and world from scratch! Well, after the next session, they then said they hated that system, which I had just spent like 40 hours building a world in, and spent money on books, too. It just left me sour and told me it’s time to take a few years off and come back completely fresh after exploring some other hobbies.
So time will tell if I go back. I still enjoy writing and acting and I do get to do both of those things in the right RPG group, but I want to explore war gaming for a bit, I missed it!
Many things in this thread that remind me of stuff in my life:
Weed is a big one for me. I didn't really get into it until probably my mid-20's and then smoked heavily until about 34. It was a concerted effort to actually quit, but now that I've been sober from it for about 8 years, I couldn't care less about it.
As @EsteeBestee says, Tabletop RPGs. I played them a lot in my early 20's to my early 30's and I still have an active group, but I don't care about going and playing, really. I go to hang out with people and get myself out of the house, but I could not care less if we played the game or not and in fact, would probably prefer if we didn't, because it would mean less "Homework" for me.
A few friendships. I was very close with an older friend in my 20's, he being in his 40s. After I changed relationships and he had his own mental break, as well as had a spouse that commited a major crime, we sort-of lost touch. Each of us kind of tried to reconnect, but never really did and since then I think both of us have moved on.
Warhammer. Weird time to get into it, but I started getting heavily invested in it around mid-2020. A few years later, I went to several tournaments and have 4 different armies for it, two of which are fully painted. But I've lost interest in the game and painting so much. I ended-up finding other games that are more fun to me, as well as have a significantly lower model count, which means less painting and more playing.
Similarly, painting miniatures in general. At this point in the 6ish years I've been at it, I've painted hundreds of minitures and I still am painting some for my favorite game, but I'm kind of over it. I still enjoy going to tournaments for this other game, but outside of having one coming up (every six months), I have pretty much zero motivation to paint. Something I once did for pleasure, I'd mostly rather not do at this time and when this tournament coming up in February is done, I'll probably put down my paint brush until the next one.
Modding Gameboy's. Around 2018 or 2019, I got really in to buying Gameboys, fixing them up and modifying them. It was fun to learn the basic soldering skills to do that, as well as repair old systems and then sell them on. But it really only lasted a year or two before I got pretty bored with it as a whole and stopped. I still have several of them in my drawers that have been fixed or are ready to be modded, but they just sit there gathering dust. I ought to sell them, but I feel not quite ready to do that yet, if that makes sense.
From when I was a child to when I was about 13 years old I was obsessed with video games. It was my main hobby, it’s what I wanted to do when I grew up (every little boy during that time period wanted to lake video games). But the thing was that I didn’t have access to a lot of games. My parents kind of refused to buy me any substantial amount of games, and they were too pricey for me to buy on whatever infrequent allowance I was given.
I discovered torrenting around that age and, while torrenting video games at the time was very difficult and I didn’t have the proper hardware, torrenting movies was quite easy. So that’s when I started getting really into movies, because it was something I could do for free. What I would watch on YouTube also transitioned away from video game stuff to movie stuff. And that’s where my film obsession came from.
Liquor.
Video Games
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