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18 votes
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Windblown | Announcement trailer
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How millennials learned to dread motherhood
50 votes -
What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them?
What have you been playing lately? Discussion about video games and board games are both welcome. Please don't just make a list of titles, give some thoughts about the game(s) as well.
20 votes -
'Signs of life': Sycamore Gap tree will live on, experts say
34 votes -
A West Virginia judge largely denied Amazon's motion to dismiss lawsuit over selling a spycam disguised as a bathroom hook
22 votes -
Bungie will lose independence within Sony if Destiny 2 fails financial goals
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Thoughts on friendships after marriage & setting appropriate expectations
This is a topic that I have been holding to myself for quite some time, mostly because I didn't know how to quite phrase what I wanted to say. I still don't think I am going to do the best job but...
This is a topic that I have been holding to myself for quite some time, mostly because I didn't know how to quite phrase what I wanted to say. I still don't think I am going to do the best job but I wanted to hear what other peoples thoughts.
I'm someone who has always valued my few friendships very highly. My dad drilled into me at a young age that it is better to have fewer, high quality friendships than a plethora of not very meaningful relationships.
As people age and move on to different stages in their life, I completely understand that some people might not have the same amount of time to give you in a day that they previously used to. People get busy, have relationships, get married, etc. Which brings me to my situation and how I feel:
I have a friend who I've known since high school, and we're both 30 now. We've always been pretty good friends and in our later 20's we got even closer. I would say that we both deviate from the 'typical' unemotional guys who don't share how they feel with others. Both him and I would let us know what's going on in our lives and how it made us feel, etc. During this time, he was in a relationship (which he was not super happy with, due to some actions his partner did), but would share some of his more inner thoughts with me rather than her. They weren't the best at communicating with one another.
Fast forward two to three years, I got married, my friend broke up with his then partner. He moved back to his parents place, and the time before my marriage (I lived with my parents and had access to a car) I would try and visit him as often as I can just to hang out at night, or to see how he's doing. I've even driven over at midnight just to hangout with him until 4 AM because he was feeling lonely.
He congratulated me online (my wedding took place in another country, and I know none of my friends could afford to, or would not want to, travel just for a ceremony, so I didn't really invite anyone) but also indirectly told me he was jealous that I was married and stuff and he wasn't. For him, getting married is a much bigger deal than it is for me, I never really minded being single or alone. Please don't misconstrue this as me not being appreciative of my wife. She is very dear to me and I always to provide the best for her.
Fast forward another 2 years, and my friend got married to someone he met online. Since then our friendship has been mostly one sided almost. I had to initiate almost every conversation, and it's like messaging a blank wall, there's no reciprocation, and if there is it is very shallow. On top of that, we hang out much less as well (which I get, you do have to give a certain amount of commitment and attention to your spouse) so messaging is the main way to keep in touch.
Don't get me wrong, I've had this happen to me plenty of times. Mostly in university, had a couple of really good friends (or so I thought), as soon as they get a girlfriend, most of them forget I even exist. Maybe I expected more because I've known him for so long, or maybe I should expect less and accept that in the way our current society is shaped people start forming a bubble around themselves past a certain point in their life and you're no longer included in it.
Maybe this post came off as me being really entitled, I don't know. I just wanted to vent my frustrations somewhere. What does everyone on here think about relationships with their friends when you're married? Are you okay with seeing them less often? Is this just an expected outcome of being married?
27 votes -
FIA opens investigation into Toto and Susie Wolff over conflict of interest claims
8 votes -
GM’s hydrogen ‘power cubes’ will be used in cement mixers and terminal tractors
15 votes -
Plagiarism and You(Tube)
74 votes -
Shutters: What you need to know to avoid mistakes (2017)
7 votes -
US senator warns governments are spying on Apple and Google users via push notifications
38 votes -
‘Godzilla Minus One’ is now top grossing live-action Japanese film in North America after stomping-good opening
38 votes -
Green Day - Dilemma (2023)
4 votes -
AFI Awards film top ten: ‘Barbie’, ‘Oppenheimer’, ‘Maestro’, ‘Killers Of The Flower Moon’ among org’s best of 2023
9 votes -
Discuit is now open-source (AGPLv3)
34 votes -
Climate adaptation in no-man's land: Bridging the conflict-climate gap
4 votes -
The rise and fall (and rise and fall) of Venezuela (2019)
7 votes -
Judas Priest - Trial By Fire (2023)
11 votes -
Shocking study discovers bottlenose dolphins possess electric sixth sense
11 votes -
Any RC enthusiast here?
I recently decided to get a new hobby and have been interested in RC's for a while. I wouldn't mind getting into racing buggies/truggies, however in order to see if I even like the hobby I decided...
I recently decided to get a new hobby and have been interested in RC's for a while. I wouldn't mind getting into racing buggies/truggies, however in order to see if I even like the hobby I decided to get and a decent used basher I can tinker with. I picked up a Arrma Kraton 6s V4 complete with batteries, chargers, and a few other extra's for a good price on FBMP.
I ran it for a few hours and loved it, right now it's tore down into the three major sections and I'm waiting on parts. Previous owner was a 14 year old and it appears it was a pandemic buy, so maintenance is lacking/non-existant.
Before I realized it between running it this morning, tearing it down, research on parts it was 10:00pm at night, lol. My pittbull is currently sulking because I'm late to bed.
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Advent of Code starts tonight!
33 votes -
Bōsōzoku: The rebellious film legacy of Japan’s unruly biker gangs
10 votes -
Scandinavia's oldest known ship burial is located in mid-Norway – Merovingian period discovery pushes back tradition of ship burials
11 votes -
Norway's minority government and two opposition parties have agreed to allow seabed mineral exploration in the Arctic region
8 votes -
Sawing off the branch you’re sitting on: removing disfluencies in natural language processing
7 votes -
Introducing Beeper Mini - get blue bubbles on Android
43 votes -
Course evaluations are garbage science
23 votes -
Harvard gutted initial team examining Facebook files following $500 million donation from Chan Zuckerberg Initiative, Whistleblower Aid client reveals
42 votes -
Fallen kingdom: why has Disney had such a terrible year?
33 votes -
Inside the Uvalde response (full documentary)
19 votes -
Spotify is the world's biggest music streamer but rarely turns a profit and just cut 17% of its workforce – its business model looks increasingly precarious
59 votes -
What's inside this crater in Madagascar?
18 votes -
When the great apes at Furuvik Zoo in Sweden broke free from their enclosure last winter, the keepers faced a terrible choice
19 votes -
Slate's latest article about US Social Security benefits was full of errors, myths and lies
28 votes -
House explodes in Arlington VA, as police attempt to execute search warrant
25 votes -
LEGO Fortnite | Cinematic trailer
8 votes -
History of country code top-level domains, with a map of the most popular ones in use | Map Men
14 votes -
European Court of Human Rights rules that sex workers can seek compensation for lost profits, reversing Bulgarian decision about human trafficking victims
17 votes -
A six-planet system in perfect synchrony has been found in the Milky Way
55 votes -
The strange clouds of alien worlds
6 votes -
Now Open: 2023 SANS Holiday Hack Challenge & KringleCon
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Christmas beer made from green peas and marinated red cabbage has become a festive hit in Iceland
9 votes -
Swathes of Siberia freeze in temperatures below -58 degrees Celsius
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Floral time travel: Flowers were more diverse 100 million years ago than they are today
12 votes -
Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of December 4
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate...
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate topic, but almost all should be posted in here.
This is an inherently political thread; please try to avoid antagonistic arguments and bickering matches. Comment threads that devolve into unproductive arguments may be removed so that the overall topic is able to continue.
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Can a social media post change public opinion? Researchers weigh in.
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MangaLove, a series sharing thread: December 2023
Choose one series that you love that you think deserves more love Tell us what it is, and why. Previous posts in the series Additional Details Why MangaLove? Finding new series is hard! The medium...
Choose one series
that you love
that you think deserves more loveTell us what it is, and why.
Additional Details
Why MangaLove?
Finding new series is hard! The medium continues to become more mainstream and accessible, but that hasn't changed the fact that there's a lot of stuff to consume and few ways to find something you may like.
MangaLove offers an opportunity to sift through series loved by others, including those who might have divergent tastes from you. Think of this as an opportunity to venture outside of your comfort zone, with a series that you know someone else adores, from a small pool of thoughtful hand-selected options.
Is this just for Manga? Can I share Anime, or Manhwa, or...
Feel free to share any Anime, Manga, Manhwa, or Manhua that you love!
What do I post?
Any series that you love and that you feel deserves more appreciation. There are no restrictions on genre, year, or anything else, and nothing is “too popular” or “too niche”. If you think it needs more love — for whatever reason — then it’s welcome in MangaLove.
Please make sure to include:
- The series name
- The author
- A short description of the premise
- What you love about the series. It could be the story, the art, but it could also be your associations with it -- maybe the series reminds you of someone you love, or the period in your life when you first consume it.
Also, commenting on others' recommendations is encouraged! If you love something that someone else shared, let them know!
Do I have to watch/read to what everyone else posts?
Nope. You don't have to consume anything you don't want to. This is about creating a menu of options that people can explore as they wish.
Can I post more than one series in a month?
Nope. Limit one! This helps us be more selective about what we choose, as well as preventing the threads from getting flooded with too many contributions to keep track of.
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British trader Sanjay Shah has landed in Denmark after being extradited from the United Arab Emirates over tax fraud charges worth £1.46bn
6 votes