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Washington state woman calls 911 after being hounded by up to 100 raccoons
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Twitter/X fails to act on Doppelganger-related notices
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Why do people treat friendships and relationships as two different things?
Inspired by this post and many thoughts I had about the topic previously. For some reason, a lot of people treat friendships and romantic relationships as two entirely separate things. People say...
Inspired by this post and many thoughts I had about the topic previously.
For some reason, a lot of people treat friendships and romantic relationships as two entirely separate things. People say stuff like "I could never date a friend" or "I want to date them but they just want to be friends". The top comment by @BeanBurrito on the post I linked mentions how men want to become friends with women simply because they have too little confidence to just ask them out.
I've never understood this. To me, being a friend and dating are just two points on the same closeness spectrum. You go from acquaintances to friends, then best friends, then partners. You can obviously skip some of those steps sometimes, but those are still the same thing - being in a romantic relationship is the same as being very close friends, it's just an even closer form of it. Yes, there's usually an extra factor of exclusivity in a relationship - but they can be non exclusive, so it's not a defining trait.
Asking someone out shortly after meeting them is such a wild concept to me. You probably wouldn't meet someone and immediately just go "hey, let's be best friends", so why would you ask them if they would be even more?
I also don't really get why people care about being "friendzoned", for the same reason. Like ok, you won't be the "bestest closest friends" with someone, but you can still be good friends? If they agree, you can still have personal conversations, or cuddle, or do whatever else that you can do in a relationship. I get why people can be upset if a person they like shows absolutely no attention towards them, but why would you be upset at them just wanting to be friends?
It it literally just about sex and physical attraction? But then also, things like "friends with benefits" exist. So clearly, you don't have to be in a relationship in order to do that. And if that's the only thing you actually need, why would you ask someone "let's date" instead of just directly saying what you want?
I don't get it.
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Google terminates Kaspersky developer account
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German government plans to reform adoption law, allowing unmarried couples to adopt and a child to have two mothers
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Telegram: Why the app is allowed when other social media is censored in Russia
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Violence against children reaches unprecedented levels worldwide
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Disabling Windows Recall is breaking File Explorer
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Florida threatens TV executive with jail time for airing ad in support of abortion rights
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Thoughts on the friendzone
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Geothermal power in the North Bay
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The Cablebus transformed commutes in Mexico City’s populous outskirts
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Little Monsters (1989) | Almost Cult Classics
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Takeaways from AP's report on affordable housing disappearing across the US
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Weekly Middle East war megathread - week of October 7
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant Middle East war content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate...
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant Middle East war content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate topic, but almost all should be posted in here.
Please try to avoid antagonistic arguments and bickering matches. Comment threads that devolve into unproductive arguments may be removed so that the overall topic is able to continue.
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Save Point: A game deal roundup for the week of October 6
Add awesome game deals to this topic as they come up over the course of the week! Alternately, ask about a given game deal if you want the community’s opinions: e.g. “What games from this bundle...
Add awesome game deals to this topic as they come up over the course of the week!
Alternately, ask about a given game deal if you want the community’s opinions: e.g. “What games from this bundle are most worth my attention?”
Rules:
- No grey market sales
- No affiliate links
If posting a sale, it is strongly encouraged that you share why you think the available game/games are worthwhile.
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What programming/technical projects have you been working on?
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?
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The disappearance of an internet domain
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2024 Nobel Prize – This year's Nobel Prize announcements will take place between 7th - 14th October 2024
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US DOJ indicates it’s considering Google breakup following monopoly ruling
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A peek inside doctors’ notes reveals symptoms of burnout
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What creative projects have you been working on?
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on. Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just...
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on.
Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just ideas.
If you have any creative projects that you have been working on or want to eventually work on, this is a place for discussing those.
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Red Dead Redemption 1 finally gets a PC release date - October 29th, 2024
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A wet place in the south. ■ Reverse Trivia 1x02
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Stratovarius – Falling Star (2024)
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Facing scrutiny over global outage, cybersecurity firm CrowdStrike on track for record year of federal lobbying spending
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The Technical Difficulties are back! — Reverse Trivia 1x01
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Fitness Weekly Discussion
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?
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Danish family seek to return Etruscan objects to Italy – Bent Søndergaard's children say they want to carry out ‘his final wishes’ and send back antiquities he bought in 1960s
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Leg grabs coming back to All Japan Judo Championships
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Ed Solo & MC Melo - Bassline Growler (Gurridyula didgeridoo remix, 2024)
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Is the .io top level domain headed for extinction?
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TV Tuesdays Free Talk
Warning: this post may contain spoilers
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
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Frontline report: Ukraine ignites Russian strategic bases, flames span from Crimea to Urals
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The unlikelihood of being complimented as a man
I read through hundreds of comments on reddit (I know, Ive digressed) on the question 'What would women dislike most if they became men?' The one that hit me square in the face were the thousands...
I read through hundreds of comments on reddit (I know, Ive digressed) on the question 'What would women dislike most if they became men?' The one that hit me square in the face were the thousands of men who agreed that they hadn't been complimented for anything in years.
One commenter said the last time he was complimented was ten years ago and he can still remember the time and the place because it was so unusual. One gut punch even said, "Many men are laying in their casket before many good things are ever said about them" and at first I thought, well that's gotta be hyperbole. But then I thought more about it and realized that while I have had a couple of compliments from my wife over the last year, I dont recall a single other person saying anything complimentary in probably over a year... And I never really thought about it, but its just not something we expect to hear.
It's not like I was waiting for compliments, but I think the statement true - men just rarely get compliments. And I'm not sure why.
I definitely don't compliment my friends very often. Occasionally do compliment my adult son but I'm sure, like most guys, that's pretty infrequent coming from any other male in his life.
It's just a bit odd when I think about how often my wife gets compliments. Or my daughters. Not sure why we men get so little affirmation that way. It really struck me as odd.
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Danish initiative to support mothers with postpartum depression has provided a safe, nurturing environment for women to regain their sense of well-being through song
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Cards Against Humanity pays you to give a shit
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How's the iPhone experience on Google Fi in late 2024?
I've been a long time Fi user on the Pixel line of phones, so I've always gotten the gold standard of service from Fi. My wife is an adamant iPhone user. We want to port her over to my plan, but I...
I've been a long time Fi user on the Pixel line of phones, so I've always gotten the gold standard of service from Fi. My wife is an adamant iPhone user. We want to port her over to my plan, but I was hoping to get some recent feedback from anyone using a modern iPhone (just bought her a 16) -- All the things I find on Google are months to years old. If this is you, how well do the iPhone features (Visual voicemail, iMessage, RCS, FaceTime, 5G, etc) work for you on Fi?
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54 million US adults may be misdiagnosed with high blood pressure based on bad readings
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The "AI girlfriend" website Muah.AI suffered a data breach
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Nintendo goes after the YouTube channel RetroCorps and many others
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Forever ✱ Notes — A simple and scalable digital note-taking method for Apple Notes
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‘The Body Keeps the Score’ offers uncertain [and misleading] science in the name of self-help. It’s not alone.
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What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.
If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!
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Yorushika (ヨルシカ) - Aporia (2024)
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Mozart’s latest track just dropped
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Metaphor: ReFantazio reviews
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‘The community is in chaos:’ WordPress.org now requires you denounce affiliation with WP Engine to log in
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What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them?
What have you been playing lately? Discussion about video games and board games are both welcome. Please don't just make a list of titles, give some thoughts about the game(s) as well.
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