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19 votes
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Hi, I just lost my virginity. Here are my thoughts
(By the way, I'm a dude.) So I just moved into my college dorm yesterday, and my roommate moves in later. I figured that since I had a night and a morning to myself, I might as well make it worth...
(By the way, I'm a dude.) So I just moved into my college dorm yesterday, and my roommate moves in later. I figured that since I had a night and a morning to myself, I might as well make it worth it. This morning, I was texting a fella on grindr, and eventually he ubered over. I made us some coffee, and we just talked for ten or twenty minutes. No pressure whatsoever. I really appreciated that. After a while, I said, in the most awkward way possible, "uhhhhh, you wanna sit in the bed?" He said sure, we did, and he said "You wanna cuddle?" We did, and eventually it moved on from there. But every step of the way, he asked permission, and asked if I was comfortable. He also taught me how to do some... things, patiently.
When we started, I was incredibly nervous, but by the time he left, I felt very comfortable. Overall, excellent experience.
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Historically associated with gay male culture, the glory hole is a remarkably durable form of sexual expression that both straights and gays use to this day
7 votes -
War over being nice
13 votes -
Ghislaine Maxwell, associate of Jeffrey Epstein, is arrested
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Three animal reproduction specialists fact-check ‘The Bad Touch’ by the Bloodhound Gang
6 votes -
Inside Second Life's most expensive brothel
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Games for "the flame"
TL;DR: What do you do with your SO (if anything) to spark some fun? Do you have a go-to move, or game that gets interest going for some fun? A lot of us have been sheltering in place for some time...
TL;DR: What do you do with your SO (if anything) to spark some fun? Do you have a go-to move, or game that gets interest going for some fun?
A lot of us have been sheltering in place for some time now due to covid-19. What do you do to keep things from getting stale- to show effort, appreciation, and attraction for your significant other?
I'm trying to keep things relatively fresh, but we don't have much space where we are. It takes, for example "naked billiards" off the table. I think they have a copy of "Twister" somewhere, so I might try to see if they're into a game night for some physical closeness. If you have a deck of cards, you can always do strip poker, but it might be a little underwhelming.
Of course, it doesn't always have to be a competition either, back/foot rubs are always a well received from both sides in my experience. I'm also aware of a concept called "Chore-Play[*]" and I try to do what I can to make sure my SO never feels like they're pulling the weight for both of us.
I obviously had a couple ideas, but I'm looking for some inspiration too! I'd like so have some things on the back-burner to whip out when the occasion calls for it, or when the time is right.
PS: I'm not really sure what to expect for responses to this, I know it's a rather personal topic and sharing information like that can be uncomfortable for some. You don't have to share what you do in your relationship if you're not comfortable (obviously), but maybe you share a link of some cool ideas you found somewhere instead? IDK, let's get creative with it!
[*]: With that being said, there is another definition of choreplay that I don't think is what we're after (collectively). I'm not talking about using sex as a bargaining chip for chores, which is what some perceive it as. I'm talking about taking the actions to make your partner feel like valued and appreciated half of the relationship. With those feelings of appreciation and care, comes romance and intimacy.
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Virtual sex parties offer escape from isolation — if organizers can find a home
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Sales of sex toys in Denmark have more than doubled after Danes were told to stay at home to limit the spread of the coronavirus
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Love in the time of coronavirus?
Following an off-topic conversation starting here: https://tildes.net/~health.coronavirus/mq7/advice_from_a_doctor_who_studied_coronaviruses_for_50_years#comment-4qi7 I thought it would be handy...
Following an off-topic conversation starting here:
I thought it would be handy to establish that life still continues even in pandemic lockdown. One participant mentions a successful video date, and another wishes for sex.
The questions below may be personal and sensitive - please use your best judgement in answering or refraining to do so. Usual Tildes rules of courtesy apply.
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If you're in a relationship, what are you doing to keep it alive and healthy?
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If you're not partnered, what are you doing, if anything, to date or otherwise meet your needs while everything is closed down (if this is the case where you are)?
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Does your idea of love or sex require physical contact?
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If physical contact is required, what, if anything, are you doing to stay safe right now?
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The new breed of sex addicts - who don't have sex
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The peculiarities of pregnancy in art, from corsets to belly pads and hidden bumps
5 votes -
'All in good time': Brazil teens told not to have sex
12 votes -
California bill would penalize doctors for performing virginity tests on women
10 votes -
A better boyfriend experience: A small but growing number of men doing sex work are catering to women clients by taking consent, gender equality, and emotional labor seriously
18 votes -
For these species, their biological sex is the most consequential trait. (Extreme sexual dimorphism)
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How herpes became a sexual boogeyman: It’s not a serious health threat. The CDC doesn’t even recommend regular testing. So how did herpes get so aggressively feared?
12 votes -
A test with no answer: No procedure exists that can prove virginity, yet dangerously unscientific virginity tests occur regularly—even in the United States
14 votes -
Why do women fake orgasms – and is it anti-feminist? We asked five women
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'They actually stopped': Women buying sex to ensure safe experience
20 votes -
Indonesia moving to ban sex outside marriage
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'A human need': Australian disability groups say people on NDIS should have access to sex workers
11 votes -
A Welsh town will install anti-sex toilets that could spray users with water
12 votes -
Broken sleep: People once woke up halfway through the night to think, write or make love. What have we lost by sleeping straight through?
22 votes -
Huge record cache details how Jeffrey Epstein, madam lured girls into depraved world
9 votes -
Jeffrey Epstein on suicide watch after accused sex trafficker is found injured in New York jail
17 votes -
'We are sexual beings': Why Australian disability advocates want the NDIS to cover sexual services
11 votes -
What do you think about "robot affection"?
After watching this and this, and dealing with the cringe and shock, I wondered about whether these things, including this but also stuff like sex robots or other robots whose purpose is some sort...
After watching this and this, and dealing with the cringe and shock, I wondered about whether these things, including this but also stuff like sex robots or other robots whose purpose is some sort of affection, will ever take off. I know the phenomenon where in Japan adult males date handheld gameboy-like computers (wut?), but apart from that, I'm not sure anybody will prefer these stuff instead of the real thing. It also feels deeply weird, bizarre and cringy. What do you think of these tech?
20 votes -
R. Kelly arrested on Federal sex trafficking charges
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In Spain, coverage of a sex crime opens debate about revealing identifying details in the press
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Jeffrey Epstein arrested for sex trafficking of minors, will appear in New York court on Monday
20 votes -
If PornHub wants to support a cause, start with sex worker rights
12 votes -
The end of erotica? How Hollywood fell out of love with sex
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Big-budget films like Rocketman are still afraid to show gay sex
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Fantasies of forced sex are common. Do they enable rape culture?
13 votes -
Answer Sheet California is overhauling sex education guidance for schools — and religious conservatives don’t like it
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Sex work
22 votes -
Sex strikes have a long and controversial history as a tool of women's protest
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What do you think of when you think of fluorescent blue?
What a beautiful night the stars are out like tiny pinprick holes in the sky illuminating our soft gray subtle shadows as we chat about life and random fluff and the moon shines through your dress...
What a beautiful night
the stars are out
like tiny pinprick holes in the sky
illuminating our soft gray subtle shadows
as we chat about life and random fluff
and the moon shines through your dress
making it
transparentBack to my car
a night full of passion.
Come the morning: I stop and reflect.
What could my life have been?
If I had missed all this,
this artifice and sin?
For you are only silicone,
your dress a splotchy sheet
The stars are a cheap plastic disco ball
I bought it from goodwill for 97¢.
My car's no more than a fluorescent-stained couch.Alas, alas for me
I must do better—yes, I will!
(I steel my resolve)
(I know what I must do)
(my heart, it pains me so!
For you have been so good to me, and thus I will repay you?)I did it, threw you in the trash;
I'll hire a human whore tomorrow8 votes -
Do police know how to handle abuse within kinky relationships?
16 votes -
Country hits increasingly objectify women and glorify whiteness
11 votes -
Inside the fight for developmentally disabled people's right to sex
13 votes -
Behind Gor, a ‘slave master’ subculture of sexual deviance
14 votes -
New York teacher, fired for a years-old topless selfie, claims sex discrimination in $3M lawsuit
22 votes -
This is what the life of an incel looks like
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The fake sex doctor who conned the media into publicizing his bizarre research on suicide, butt-fisting, and bestiality
14 votes -
Magic sluts with psoriasis
8 votes -
War over being nice
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How do you make a sex scene sexy? (And keep the actors safe?) Five intimacy coordinators explain their craft
8 votes