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14 votes
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What is worth the splurge to you and what absolutely isn't?
I was thinking about this today as I heard about Instacart going public. I've never used Instacart because I refuse to pay the cost for the convenience of grocery delivery. I've paid for grocery...
I was thinking about this today as I heard about Instacart going public. I've never used Instacart because I refuse to pay the cost for the convenience of grocery delivery. I've paid for grocery delivery in other ways but instacart feels too much.
I've stopped paying for doordash, which I had never been big on, but the fees got too highI have and will however pay for a cleaner to come clean my apartment every 3 weeks. I will also splurge on a car wash, as driving through an automatic wash with a fountain soda is a weird happy place for me.
What are your "absolutely will" spends and what are your "no way in hell" spends?
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I’m so sorry for psychology’s loss, whatever it is
40 votes -
Sea of Stars, a Chrono Trigger inspired game, has released today
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What are your DIY mattress experiences?
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm...
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm -> soft).I was able to find a good amount of information between Reddit (https://www.reddit.com/r/Mattress/comments/otdqms/diy_mattresses_an_introductory_guide/?rdt=54627) and Arizona Premium Mattresses, but I feel like I'm lacking information about people's anecdotal experiences.
Have you gone the DIY route before? Was it a success? Did you end up effectively buying multiple mattresses worth of components trying to dial it in? Looking back would you just buy a bed in a box? Any insight / tips would be very much appreciated.
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The only man in the maternity ward
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage. I'm coming from an intense...
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage.
I'm coming from an intense experience: my first son is born. In the days before that, I cared for my pregnant wife during the passing of her mother, who spent 3 months in the hospital fighting multiple conditions, chiefly neurological.
Two days after the burial, we went to the hospital for several exams. My wife was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, a potentially dangerous pregnancy complication characterized by high blood pressure.
We spent almost a week in the hospital. My wife did not want a c-section, so our doctor employed multiple methods to induce labor over the course of several days.
There are no men in the maternity ward. Men do not sweep floors, do not take calls, or take any position of care.
I did not see any men in the hallway, although I assumed there were some hidden in the bedrooms.
When the nurses entered the room, they did not look at me. I was not a father, but rather a
"companion"whatever you would use in English for someone who is just kind of there. When they had instructions pertaining to the care of my wife and son, they never addressed me. They only addressed me in matters lacking importance, like "Get me a towel", or "Is there any cotton left?".The tone and body language were of contempt and distrust.
When my wife was soon to go into labor, I decided to go to the bathroom, since I expected to be locked in a room for many hours. When I left the bathroom (which was in the same room where she was), my wife was not there. She was gone. I looked for information and realized she was in the delivery room.
When I was in the bathroom, someone asked me to get something for the doula (a woman), but didn't tell me why. I did. You see, they had time to request me to get something for the doula, but couldn't use the same time to warn me that my wife was being taken to another floor.
That was incredibly traumatizing.
At every step, the message was very clear: "You are not welcome here". "You are not qualified to care for your wife and son". "You are man, and, therefore, a menace to this environment".
Well, fuck them. I was there for my wife since day one. In every contraction, every second she needed me, I was there.
I was the first person to touch my son when he left the womb.
We had to revolt to leave that place as soon as we could. Our personal pediatrician had to intervene because apparently, the maternity ward didn't really trust my wife either -- they just pretended. The kid was slightly underweight. I was convinced that the long stay at the hospital was the main factor impacting breastfeeding. My wife needed to mourn the loss of her mother and required some sense of normality and routine (we are so incredibly happy in our day-to-day, I was confident she would improve!). Turns out that I (and our doctor) were right. We're home now, and the kid's gaining weight again.
At every step of this process, I was invited not to care. "Get out, father, you are not needed here." "That is not a job for men, let the women do it for you".
Earlier today, a neighbor came asking "Are the girls helping you out?". I gotta be honest, I snapped. "No", I said. "This kid has a father". "Oh, but the feminine touch is special!". "It is not", I answered.
Well, fuck them, because I do care for my son, and I will continue to do so. I fully acknowledge and respect the special connection a mother has with their kids. I cannot bear a child, and I lack the ability to produce milk. Other than that, there are no tasks my wife can do that I cannot do as well.
I am not an angry person. Thinking about this makes me very angry and I hate that feeling. I feel a long-lasting trauma is forming. I'm pretty shook-up.
I love my son, I guess that ultimately that is all that matters.
I'm just glad I'm now home, and that I am no longer the only man in a place that considered me a foreign body, trying to eject me at every chance.
59 votes -
Record $100 million settlement reached in lawsuits alleging torture, rape, atarvation at US Christian school
34 votes -
The insane ways traffic engineers try to make streets "safe" for walking
23 votes -
Ørsted shares fall 25% after it reveals troubles in US business – £7bn wiped off value of world's largest offshore wind company over possible £1.8bn write-down
8 votes -
Dangerous AI-generated mushroom foraging books are all over Amazon
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Opinion - Antonin Scalia was wrong about the meaning of ‘bear arms’
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Friction, emissions, accident prevention and statistical arguments
5 votes -
How US labor movement can win at the bargaining table
14 votes -
America is using up its groundwater like there’s no tomorrow: Overuse is draining and damaging aquifers nationwide
48 votes -
Starbucks’ Pumpkin Spice Latte turns twenty, beloved by millions and despised by some
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To mark the 1920 ratification of the Nineteenth Amendment to the US Constitution, activist Crystal Eastman described the path to full freedom for American women
15 votes -
Web scraping for me, but not for thee
19 votes -
Apple announces the iPhone 15 launch event
23 votes -
Ottawa looking to drop 24 Sussex and build new home for PM elsewhere
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Albania: Europe’s hidden haven for digital nomads
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Saltburn | Official teaser trailer
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Ferrari | Official teaser trailer
8 votes -
Analysis: Defendant Mark Meadows testifies in hearing on whether to remove Georgia election trial to federal court
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Anti-abortion activists, including one who kept fetuses, convicted of illegally blocking a reproductive clinic in Washington, DC
37 votes -
California is suing to stop schools from outing trans kids to their parents
33 votes -
Texas tried to enact more book bans last year than any other US state
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TSMC blames struggle to build Phoenix plant on skilled labor shortage but workers cite disorganization and safety concerns
31 votes -
The dating app Coffee Meets Bagel has been down for three days now
34 votes -
Writing for Friends was no dream job
45 votes -
Famine in blockaded Azerbaijan Armenian enclave Nagorno-Karabakh. 'People are fainting queuing up for bread.'
13 votes -
Crossrail Chicago: The foundation for a modern travel network
10 votes -
Judge rules against banks' request to seal documents in upcoming New York Donald Trump case. Records will be public with very specific exceptions for privacy.
24 votes -
Carolina Hurricanes sign twenty-year lease extension
22 votes -
The Ugly Mugs Ireland android app has been removed from the app store
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Novo Nordisk, the Danish company behind two popular obesity medications, is reaping huge profits and is now responsible for most of the country's economic growth
6 votes -
The world’s oldest cat door has been letting working cats enter the cathedral since the 14th Century
44 votes -
A University of British Columbia study gave fifty homeless people $7,500 each and debunks stereotypes about homeless people’s spending habits
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A reading challenge!
Are you stuck in a reading rut? Can’t decide what to read next? Overwhelmed by choice? Join me in my reading challenge! The challenge is simple - read the alphabet. Start by choosing an author...
Are you stuck in a reading rut? Can’t decide what to read next? Overwhelmed by choice? Join me in my reading challenge!
The challenge is simple - read the alphabet. Start by choosing an author whose surname begins with A, next book the surname begins with B and so on through the whole alphabet.
I did this a few years ago after having a baby, and in my sleep-deprived haze couldn’t make decisions easily. The library was too overwhelming and I needed to narrow down my options somehow!
I have additional rules for myself, like I try to prioritise female and POC writers as I find myself tending to read a lot of white men, but it isn’t a hard and fast rule for me - first and foremost it has to be a book I’m keen to read.
I propose organising the comments like this: top line comments will be the letter, replies to that will be the book you chose, plus a short summary or review (even just a rating out of 5 will do) to help others find books they might like, and then people can discuss the individual books under those comments if they like. This keeps everything in one post for people not interested to ignore, and hopefully builds up a nice reference of all sorts of books in one place.
Happy reading!
Edit: I guess there’s a limit on quick comments to avoid spam so we’ve just got the first few letters for now. I’ll come back to complete the alphabet when I can :)
42 votes -
A Chicago cop is accused of lying under oath forty-four times. Now prosecutors are dropping cases that relied on his testimony.
27 votes -
Centene to sell GP clinics and hospitals in exit from UK market
14 votes -
Formula 1 race weekend (Netherlands GP) thread
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What programming/technical projects have you been working on?
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?
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Great audiobooks that come to mind because the narrator is amazing and NOT Ray Porter?
Don’t get me wrong. I love Ray Porter narrated audiobooks. Sometimes I’ll give listen simply BECAUSE it’s Ray Porter. But at some point, every book starts to sound the same, and his tendencies and...
Don’t get me wrong. I love Ray Porter narrated audiobooks. Sometimes I’ll give listen simply BECAUSE it’s Ray Porter.
But at some point, every book starts to sound the same, and his tendencies and flavour as a voice actor start to color the story. You can almost predict what voice he’s going to use and when, and it starts to take away from the story a bit.
So I was wondering if you all had any recommendations for great audiobooks that came to mind simply because the narrator was amazing?
I think I feel the same way about RC Bray. There’s always a Skippy just waiting to make an appearance.
Marc Thompson (of Thrawn and Star Wars) is tremendous and memorable as well.
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Finnish citizens traveling with Finnair between Helsinki Airport and the UK will be able to trial Digital Travel Credentials, using them to leave and enter Finland
8 votes -
Google axes bad reviews of tracker exposing Uyghur forced labor
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What have you been listening to this week?
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as...
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as well, we'd love to see your hauls :)
Feel free to give recs or discuss anything about each others' listening habits.
You can make a chart if you use last.fm:
http://www.tapmusic.net/lastfm/
Remember that linking directly to your image will update with your future listening, make sure to reupload to somewhere like imgur if you'd like it to remain what you have at the time of posting.
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Fitness Weekly Discussion
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?
19 votes -
Auston Matthews signs four-year contract extension with Toronto Maple Leafs ($53M, 4 years; $13.25M AAV)
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Renewable energy costs fall: in 2022, solar and wind were 29% cheaper than fossil fuels globally
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How far can you jump from a swing?
15 votes