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15 votes
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Prefatory remarks on 'Oppenheimer'
13 votes -
The wallet event: Crypto startup company tells bankruptcy judge it has lost the password to a 38.9 million dollar physical crypto wallet
17 votes -
Buried under the ice
5 votes -
Successful blockchain experiments unlock potential of tokenisation
3 votes -
After Mitch McConnell's and Dianne Feinstein's episodes, should we talk about age limits in US public officials?
95 votes -
The real Betty Crocker's pineapple upside down cake
17 votes -
Mastodon’s next major release enables full-text search. A few flagship instances already have it.
10 votes -
What would you change about your past if you could?
If you had only ONE OPPORTUNITY to change ONE event in your past, what would you have changed? I would never have ended my relationship the way I did, with cheating.
46 votes -
How Digital Eclipse set the standard for preserving video game classics with their first Gold Master Series title – The Making of Karateka
8 votes -
Buy now, pay later firm Klarna reports first month of profit in three years, as calls grow for sector to be regulated
6 votes -
Russia has 'right to war' with 'each and every' NATO country - Dmitry Medvedev
28 votes -
Concrete stamp from Swiss Post
11 votes -
A Day and a Half / En Dag Och En Halv | Official trailer
3 votes -
Why (some) fireflies are going extinct
10 votes -
Searching for Maura
9 votes -
Norwegian preschoolers get early exposure to outdoor life by hiking routes around kindergartens
20 votes -
Sen. Mitch McConnell appears to freeze again at a Kentucky event
73 votes -
Ben McKenzie says researching and writing book changed his perspective - Easy Money: Cryptocurrency Casino Capitalism and the Golden Age of Fraud
9 votes -
Locals have been sounding the alarm for years about Lahaina wildfire risk
9 votes -
Casper Ruud, seeded fifth and last year's runner-up, loses to Chinese world number sixty-seven Zhang Zhizhen at US Open 2023
5 votes -
One Piece | Final trailer
12 votes -
One Piece live action soundtrack
5 votes -
How the kleptocrats and oligarchs hunt civil society groups to the ends of the Earth
20 votes -
As Idalia hit Florida, all of NOAA’s hurricane-hunting planes were grounded
9 votes -
California court dismisses lawsuit over nuclear power plant
19 votes -
Journalists, how did you get into your profession?
I'm looking at making a major career change and I'm considering trying out one of our local newspapers to see if I can get into a semi regular gig with them. Is there anything in particular I...
I'm looking at making a major career change and I'm considering trying out one of our local newspapers to see if I can get into a semi regular gig with them. Is there anything in particular I should know or be looking for?
13 votes -
Decoupling isn't phoney: The global trading system is starting to rearrange itself
8 votes -
Naomi Klein on following her ‘doppelganger’ down the conspiracy rabbit hole – and why millions of people have entered an alternative political reality
41 votes -
In photos: The rise of the super blue moon spectacle
15 votes -
What’s inside that McDonald’s ice cream machine? Broken copyright law.
33 votes -
Migrant hunters in Greece show off captured 'trophies' after wildfire season
12 votes -
Faculty member fatally shot in University of North Carolina building
27 votes -
Gabon coup: Army annuls elections and seizes power
21 votes -
Yes, hitter xStats are useful
6 votes -
FRENSHIP - Remind You (2019)
3 votes -
The end of cool small cars - The Taliban has fresher trucks than us. The Honda Fit is dead. U can’t find a sauced-out 2-door to save your life. How did we get here??
53 votes -
Maryland school district sues social media alleging addictive design rewires young brains
20 votes -
How can I tell if my child is ready to start school next year?
10 votes -
Dicks: The Musical | Official trailer
22 votes -
The mystery of the Bloomfield bridge
45 votes -
How our female athletes feel forced to choose between a ‘strong’ or ‘feminine’ look
15 votes -
Magnus Carlsen and Hans Niemann settle dispute over cheating claims that rocked chess – US player had filed lawsuit against former world champion
31 votes -
One Piece creator hopes to defy a history of failure
16 votes -
BRICS expansion is no triumph for China
14 votes -
What is worth the splurge to you and what absolutely isn't?
I was thinking about this today as I heard about Instacart going public. I've never used Instacart because I refuse to pay the cost for the convenience of grocery delivery. I've paid for grocery...
I was thinking about this today as I heard about Instacart going public. I've never used Instacart because I refuse to pay the cost for the convenience of grocery delivery. I've paid for grocery delivery in other ways but instacart feels too much.
I've stopped paying for doordash, which I had never been big on, but the fees got too highI have and will however pay for a cleaner to come clean my apartment every 3 weeks. I will also splurge on a car wash, as driving through an automatic wash with a fountain soda is a weird happy place for me.
What are your "absolutely will" spends and what are your "no way in hell" spends?
89 votes -
I’m so sorry for psychology’s loss, whatever it is
40 votes -
Sea of Stars, a Chrono Trigger inspired game, has released today
44 votes -
What are your DIY mattress experiences?
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm...
I have been researching DIY Latex / Hybrid mattresses lately and have been thinking about pulling the trigger. I've been eying a full latex build, 3 inches of Firm, Medium, and Soft talalay (firm -> soft).I was able to find a good amount of information between Reddit (https://www.reddit.com/r/Mattress/comments/otdqms/diy_mattresses_an_introductory_guide/?rdt=54627) and Arizona Premium Mattresses, but I feel like I'm lacking information about people's anecdotal experiences.
Have you gone the DIY route before? Was it a success? Did you end up effectively buying multiple mattresses worth of components trying to dial it in? Looking back would you just buy a bed in a box? Any insight / tips would be very much appreciated.
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The only man in the maternity ward
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage. I'm coming from an intense...
For context, this was neither in the US nor Europe. This is not my first language and some terms are direct translations since I am not aware of actual usage.
I'm coming from an intense experience: my first son is born. In the days before that, I cared for my pregnant wife during the passing of her mother, who spent 3 months in the hospital fighting multiple conditions, chiefly neurological.
Two days after the burial, we went to the hospital for several exams. My wife was diagnosed with pre-eclampsia, a potentially dangerous pregnancy complication characterized by high blood pressure.
We spent almost a week in the hospital. My wife did not want a c-section, so our doctor employed multiple methods to induce labor over the course of several days.
There are no men in the maternity ward. Men do not sweep floors, do not take calls, or take any position of care.
I did not see any men in the hallway, although I assumed there were some hidden in the bedrooms.
When the nurses entered the room, they did not look at me. I was not a father, but rather a
"companion"whatever you would use in English for someone who is just kind of there. When they had instructions pertaining to the care of my wife and son, they never addressed me. They only addressed me in matters lacking importance, like "Get me a towel", or "Is there any cotton left?".The tone and body language were of contempt and distrust.
When my wife was soon to go into labor, I decided to go to the bathroom, since I expected to be locked in a room for many hours. When I left the bathroom (which was in the same room where she was), my wife was not there. She was gone. I looked for information and realized she was in the delivery room.
When I was in the bathroom, someone asked me to get something for the doula (a woman), but didn't tell me why. I did. You see, they had time to request me to get something for the doula, but couldn't use the same time to warn me that my wife was being taken to another floor.
That was incredibly traumatizing.
At every step, the message was very clear: "You are not welcome here". "You are not qualified to care for your wife and son". "You are man, and, therefore, a menace to this environment".
Well, fuck them. I was there for my wife since day one. In every contraction, every second she needed me, I was there.
I was the first person to touch my son when he left the womb.
We had to revolt to leave that place as soon as we could. Our personal pediatrician had to intervene because apparently, the maternity ward didn't really trust my wife either -- they just pretended. The kid was slightly underweight. I was convinced that the long stay at the hospital was the main factor impacting breastfeeding. My wife needed to mourn the loss of her mother and required some sense of normality and routine (we are so incredibly happy in our day-to-day, I was confident she would improve!). Turns out that I (and our doctor) were right. We're home now, and the kid's gaining weight again.
At every step of this process, I was invited not to care. "Get out, father, you are not needed here." "That is not a job for men, let the women do it for you".
Earlier today, a neighbor came asking "Are the girls helping you out?". I gotta be honest, I snapped. "No", I said. "This kid has a father". "Oh, but the feminine touch is special!". "It is not", I answered.
Well, fuck them, because I do care for my son, and I will continue to do so. I fully acknowledge and respect the special connection a mother has with their kids. I cannot bear a child, and I lack the ability to produce milk. Other than that, there are no tasks my wife can do that I cannot do as well.
I am not an angry person. Thinking about this makes me very angry and I hate that feeling. I feel a long-lasting trauma is forming. I'm pretty shook-up.
I love my son, I guess that ultimately that is all that matters.
I'm just glad I'm now home, and that I am no longer the only man in a place that considered me a foreign body, trying to eject me at every chance.
59 votes