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    2. Are most jobs not what you thought they would be? Expectations vs. reality.

      ~talk Ask
      I am trying to figure out and process my aversion to pursuing a career change. What I have surmised is that I come to the conclusion, "well, in your past, most of the jobs you have studied or...

      I am trying to figure out and process my aversion to pursuing a career change.

      What I have surmised is that I come to the conclusion, "well, in your past, most of the jobs you have studied or trained for, were not, in fact, what you thought they would be like in practice, so how do you know this is not the case with your new interest in career?"

      What I'm looking for is people to challenge or confirm my assumptions: Example: "No, actually, your perception is distorted, most jobs are what people expect them to be."

      I'm also looking for, validation or commiseration, "yeah, I feel that way too, it sucks" and am open to some problem solving, "I was once in your position and I did X,Y,Z and here were my results, YMMV"

      Thank you for reading!

      UPDATE

      Thank you everyone, I understand now why people do those almost, "acceptance speeches" prominent on Reddit, it does feel like an outpouring of support/acknowledgement worthy of gratitude! So thank you all. If I haven't responded to you directly it's not personal, it could be non engagement response, or I just haven't gotten to it! But I appreciate your participation, regardless.

      What I have realized is that maintaining my integrity is very high on my list of priorities, and what I consider integrity and its wholeness may not align with what is common. I realize that many people have to compromise their integrity day to day or year to year, and that almost no job will allow you to maintain full autonomy and integrity.

      It seems that most people find a better balance of maintaining their values by being their own bosses, which makes sense, many neurodivergent people end up being self-employed. But, I also realize, even that will not allow me to escape a lot of my other feelings of discomfort, so I still want to continue to work on being more compatible with that.

      I also realize my risk aversion to trying out working for myself is a huge obstacle in pursuing it, and am thinking about how to reduce the steps towards that to make it easier for me to try out. I will still say the other component of avoiding that is the USA healthcare system, I'm not sure if anyone has really addressed that (for those of you not familiar, the USA basically does not want anyone on subsidized healthcare to make over a certain amount of money, otherwise they take the healthcare away, and the privatized options are not worth the monetary trade off for many - I won't get into the details of that in this post). So that is a real obstacle I would have to overcome, that I still have no answer for.

      Again, thank you everyone, for your time and effort.

      50 votes

    3. What creative projects have you been working on?

      ~creative Ask (survey)
      This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on. Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just...

      This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on.

      Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just ideas.

      If you have any creative projects that you have been working on or want to eventually work on, this is a place for discussing those.

      12 votes

    10. What are some good, non-microtransaction riddled mobile games?

      ~games Ask (recommendations)
      Let's list some great mobile games. Preferably ones you can pay for once and be done, or free ones that have microtransactions that you don't need to do to just play the game (e.g. Marvel Snap)....

      Let's list some great mobile games. Preferably ones you can pay for once and be done, or free ones that have microtransactions that you don't need to do to just play the game (e.g. Marvel Snap). Leave out pay for power or games that have "charges" to stop you from playing until you buy more or burn time.

      Edit: Thank you everyone for your suggestions! I compiled a list here that is, I believe, mostly Android. If you're looking for iOS only suggestions it looks like Apple Arcade was recommended regularly and also user Recognition101 had a comprehensive list I will refer you to: https://recognition101.github.io/ios-games/

      Here is the Android Games List:
      -Square Enix re-releases
      -Stardew Valley
      -Monster Hunter Stories
      -Disgaea series remakes
      -Vampire Survivors
      -Slay the Spire
      -Shattered Pixel Dungeon
      -Slice and Dice
      -Bloons series
      -Sproggiwood
      -Pysol FC
      -Lexica
      -Mindustry
      -Overboard
      -Old PC Game ports like Baldur's Gate 1 & 2, SW:KOTR 1 & 2
      -Hoplite
      -Simon Tatham's Puzzles
      -Rogue Adventure
      -Cultist Simulator
      -Mini-Metro
      -Wordament
      -Retro Bowl
      -Antiyoy
      -Marvel Snap
      -Star Realms
      -Wingspan
      -Team Fight Tactics
      -Battle for Polytopia
      -Where's My Water?
      -Underhand
      -Badland
      -Eat Me Please
      -Z Origins
      -Yellow
      -Dawncaster
      -Ollie's Arcade
      -Orna
      -Night of the Full Moon
      -A Dark Room
      -The Ensign
      -Universal Paperclips
      -Opus: Rocket of whispers
      -Opus: The day we found Earth
      -TerraGenesis - Space Settlers
      -Sheltered
      -Seedship
      -Framed
      -Plague Inc.
      -Gravity Defied
      -Magic Research
      -Star Wars Galaxy of Heroes
      -Peglin
      -Civilization series
      -Rebel Inc.
      -Boom Beach
      -Professor Layton Series
      -Slay
      -Ritual

      99 votes

    19. Screen Time on iOS shows "verizon.com" as an app being used 24/7, and I don't even know what "verizon.com" is

      ~tech Ask (advice)
      While not the same website, this reddit thread from several years ago is the only thing coming up on Google for me and everyone in there has had the same thing happen to them: the Screen Time...

      While not the same website, this reddit thread from several years ago is the only thing coming up on Google for me and everyone in there has had the same thing happen to them: the Screen Time settings in iOS showing some website being up 24/7

      It should be noted I don't have Verizon, have never been to verizon.com, and don't even use Safari as my browser. I have -0- idea how in the world this is showing up, and so it automatically makes me assume my phone has been hacked somehow (but try to remind myself that tech is also just wonky).

      I set the screen time limit to 1 minute, and it has not showed up again as an app that has even been used. This is on a iPhone XS on iOS 15.4.1

      Does anyone have any idea what this means or why this would happen?

      14 votes

    24. Should I boost my monthly ETF investments? (Europe/Germany)

      ~finance Ask (advice)
      I know most here are US-based, but I thought I'd give this a shot. I've been running a pretty straightforward ETF portfolio through Ergo in Germany for a while now. Here's my current breakdown:...

      I know most here are US-based, but I thought I'd give this a shot.

      I've been running a pretty straightforward ETF portfolio through Ergo in Germany for a while now. Here's my current breakdown:

      • 25% in iShares MSCI EM IMI ESG Screen UCITS ETF
      • 25% in iShares MSCI Europe ESG Enhanced UCITS ETF
      • 50% in iShares MSCI World SRI UCITS ETF EUR

      I've recently freed up an extra €500 monthly that I'm looking to invest and am wondering if it would make sense to just bump up my monthly contribution from €1,000 to €1,500 while keeping the same allocation percentages, or should I consider doing something different with this extra cash?

      For context, I've got my emergency fund covered (one year's expenses) and no debt to worry about.

      I look forward to hearing your thoughts.

      19 votes

    34. What do you drink with Mac and Cheese?

      ~food Ask (survey)
      I’m wondering what people choose to drink with a Mac and cheese meal? This has long been a conundrum for me. Probably for 20 years I have finished making the mac only to stop for a minute and...

      I’m wondering what people choose to drink with a Mac and cheese meal? This has long been a conundrum for me. Probably for 20 years I have finished making the mac only to stop for a minute and think “should I have milk? Water? Soda/pop? Something else?”

      Seriously, I have this question almost every time. Doesn’t matter if it’s homemade mac or kraft box. For the last 8 years it hasn’t really come up because I just didn’t buy mac and cheese (box “dinner”), but now I have a kid coming into the age where they want it occasionally so it’s back on the menu.

      Am I being weird about this?

      Are there other foods that people have a hard time pairing with a drink?

      23 votes

    48. Update on Tildes codebase: Less community fork, more official maintainers

      ~tildes Text 441 words
      Last month we started a community-maintained fork of the Tildes codebase. A lot has happened since then. The biggest change: @Bauke and I have been added as maintainers to the official Tildes...

      Last month we started a community-maintained fork of the Tildes codebase. A lot has happened since then.

      The biggest change: @Bauke and I have been added as maintainers to the official Tildes repo! As a result, we're moving the community fork to the backburner for now, as we focus on nearer-term changes that will directly improve the main website. Later on it's possible we'll pick up the fork again, where it will likely serve the purpose of self-hosting your own Tildes spinoff sites.

      Deimos still has the final say on what makes it to the website. Bauke and I can't deploy changes directly. However, this arrangement is still much more streamlined than before, because we now have a lot more code review bandwidth for accepting outside contributions. Deimos has less work to do now: mostly testing out the live code on a staging server, and scanning over the code for security/privacy issues—but not full code reviews which often involve a lot of back-and-forth communication and reading and testing code.

      What work have we done this past month?

      It's mostly been setting up foundational stuff like configuring the GitLab repository, fixing the development environment, and writing docs.

      More recently we have started fixing actual website bugs too: a bug when escaping a user mention (making sure \@talklittle doesn't turn into a link), and hiding <details> content in collapsed comments. Starting small but we've found a good rhythm and will work on more and bigger issues soon.

      Big props to @Bauke for setting up a staging server! Currently at https://testing.tildes.community/ — This server will be instrumental in getting new code in a testable state in a live environment, which makes it easier to approve new features before deploying on the real Tildes site.

      So we shouldn't submit code to the community fork?

      No, please don't. We'll use the official Tildes repo from now on. I'll update last month's post to reflect this.

      Is Docker support coming to the official repo?

      Yes, very likely. Deimos has warmed up to the idea. Bauke and I have been using the Docker development environment and ironed out a lot of bugs this past month.

      The official repo looks the same as before?

      Our next steps are to port the community fork changes back upstream to the official repo. In addition to the master branch, we plan to add staging and develop branches. develop will be where development happens, while master will reflect what is currently deployed on Tildes.net.

      How do I contribute to Tildes development?

      Check this document: https://gitlab.com/tildes/tildes/-/blob/master/CONTRIBUTING.md

      104 votes