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    1. For those that aren't familiar with it, Kind Words is a recently released "game" where players can write a message about a difficulty they're facing or something that's troubling them. Other real...

      For those that aren't familiar with it, Kind Words is a recently released "game" where players can write a message about a difficulty they're facing or something that's troubling them. Other real people in the game can then respond, letting that person know that they're not alone. Players can also write un-addressed messages of positivity in the game, which are spread to other users via paper airplanes.

      I figured we could have a thread on Tildes with our own version of the game via comments.

      Here's how I figure it will work. We'll have three post types:

      Request: share your situation in order to get kind words in response
      Response: offer kind words to other people who have posted here
      Airplane: write general thoughts of goodwill for all the readers of the thread

      Please begin your post by naming its type in bold font. For those posing Requests, please let people know if you would rather receive public responses or PMs.

      Example post:

      Request: Sometimes I find myself wondering if there's any point to anything. It feels like I'm working so hard at meaningless stuff, just to get by. Anyone else feel this way?

      That isn't my request, just an example of what someone might type.

      Remember that the point of the thread is to let people know that they are heard and that they are not alone!

      Let's all be kind!

      26 votes
    2. This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week. If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work...

      This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week.

      If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work related, I'd love to hear about them. This is a place for casual discussion about your week, past, present, and future.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this week?

      10 votes
    3. In English-speaking countries, the name "John Smith" is often used as a placeholder name because it's boring and common: John is one of the most common first names among English-speaking men, and...

      In English-speaking countries, the name "John Smith" is often used as a placeholder name because it's boring and common: John is one of the most common first names among English-speaking men, and Smith is the most common surname/family name among English-descended people. Together, they make a very boring and bland name.

      What's the equivalent in your country? What's the most boring, common name? What do people use as a placeholder when they need to use a name that isn't a real person but looks like it could be a real person?

      27 votes
    4. This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their weekend. If you have any plans, things you want to get done, things you have done, things you haven't...

      This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their weekend.

      If you have any plans, things you want to get done, things you have done, things you haven't done, or even if you just want to talk about how you're doing this weekend, this is a place for casual discussion about those things.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      10 votes
    5. This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their weekend. If you have any plans, things you want to get done, things you have done, things you haven't...

      This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their weekend.

      If you have any plans, things you want to get done, things you have done, things you haven't done, or even if you just want to talk about how you're doing this weekend, this is a place for casual discussion about those things.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      7 votes
    6. This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week. If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work...

      This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week.

      If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work related, I'd love to hear about them. This is a place for casual discussion about your week, past, present, and future.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this week?

      8 votes
    7. Always loved some of the quotes from Harry Potter - Sirius Black and Dumbledore having the better ones. "If you want to know what a man’s like, judge him on the way he treats his inferiors, not...

      Always loved some of the quotes from Harry Potter - Sirius Black and Dumbledore having the better ones.

      "If you want to know what a man’s like, judge him on the way he treats his inferiors, not his equals.”
      — Sirius Black

      36 votes
    8. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      13 votes
    9. This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week. If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work...

      This topic is part of a weekly series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss their week.

      If you have any plans, goals, accomplishments, or even failures, whether they be personal or work related, I'd love to hear about them. This is a place for casual discussion about your week, past, present, and future.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this week?

      5 votes
    10. This is a place for discussion your week, the things you plan to do, the things you have accomplished, or even just how you've been feeling lately. A list of all previous topics in this series can...

      This is a place for discussion your week, the things you plan to do, the things you have accomplished, or even just how you've been feeling lately.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here

      11 votes
    11. gotta have a body here, but i don’t want to run into that former askreddit problem, so here are some of my favorite bodies instead: https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bog_of_Allen...

      gotta have a body here, but i don’t want to run into that former askreddit problem, so here are some of my favorite bodies instead:

      https://en.m.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bog_of_Allen

      https://open.spotify.com/artist/3xYXYzm9H3RzyQgBrYwIcx?nd=1

      http://classics.mit.edu/Antoninus/meditations.html

      https://www.wikipedia.org

      20 votes
    12. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      7 votes
    13. Identify a topic/target audience and a piece of "required viewing" for that topic/audience. "Required viewing" means that you consider the video content you've chosen to be so important or...

      Identify a topic/target audience and a piece of "required viewing" for that topic/audience.

      "Required viewing" means that you consider the video content you've chosen to be so important or relevant that it is essentially mandatory for those interested. Also, explain why you feel so strongly about it. What makes the video "required" rather than just "preferred"? What makes is stand out over other videos like it?

      For example, maybe there's a concert video that you consider essential for rock music fans. Maybe there's a TV series that's an essential introduction to space exploration. Maybe there's a movie that's a must-see for new parents.

      Any video media is fair game. Movies, television, online series, livestreams, documentaries, YouTube videos. Whatever. Also, if it's publicly streamable, include a link for us!

      18 votes
    14. This is a place for discussion your week, the things you plan to do, the things you have accomplished, or even just how you've been feeling lately. A list of all previous topics in this series can...

      This is a place for discussion your week, the things you plan to do, the things you have accomplished, or even just how you've been feeling lately.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here

      15 votes
    15. 99% Invisible is a podcast about "the unnoticed architecture and design that shape our world". Episodes from other podcasts that have a similar theme are always welcome. Edit: moved my favourites...

      99% Invisible is a podcast about "the unnoticed architecture and design that shape our world". Episodes from other podcasts that have a similar theme are always welcome.

      Edit: moved my favourites to a comment.

      13 votes
    16. The thread about The Wizard of Oz helped me realize there were other musical fans here, and rather than go offtopic in that thread I figured I'd make a whole new one for discussion. Topic is:...

      The thread about The Wizard of Oz helped me realize there were other musical fans here, and rather than go offtopic in that thread I figured I'd make a whole new one for discussion.

      Topic is: musicals. Anything and everything. Tell me about your favorites, the shows you've been to, the songs that make you cry, the numbers you've performed at karaoke, what a talent Sarah Brightman is, how much you had to pay for Hamilton tickets -- whatever! It's all fair game!

      19 votes
    17. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. You can find last week's topic here. So, what (or how) are you...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      15 votes
    18. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      A list of all previous topics in this series can be found here

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      8 votes
    19. Lately, I've been reviewing companies I interact with a lot, and thinking about whether I feel comfortable supporting them as a business. This is mostly based on whether they are a good, ethical...

      Lately, I've been reviewing companies I interact with a lot, and thinking about whether I feel comfortable supporting them as a business. This is mostly based on whether they are a good, ethical company who cares about the consumer. I'm interested what companies you think fit this criteria. I'm not going to lie, I originally intended this question to be about Valve, but decided to make it more open ended. So to start the conversation, do you think Valve fits this?

      23 votes
    20. This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all. Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is...

      This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all.

      Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      5 votes
    21. It occurred to me a few days ago that my YouTube subscriptions are heavily weighted in favour of men. I follow a lot of video essayists and educational YouTubers, and when the algorithm surfaces...

      It occurred to me a few days ago that my YouTube subscriptions are heavily weighted in favour of men. I follow a lot of video essayists and educational YouTubers, and when the algorithm surfaces new ones to check out, 99 times out of 100 it's a man talking. Same with musicians, gamers, and tech heads...
      I feel like I'm missing out on some valuable perspectives, insights, and just all around good content. So please hit me up with some recommendations!

      35 votes
    22. I just feel like I've been thrown into an up to 80 year long game where I have to manage various hardships and difficulties in the hopes of getting the highest score possible when the real outcome...

      I just feel like I've been thrown into an up to 80 year long game where I have to manage various hardships and difficulties in the hopes of getting the highest score possible when the real outcome is the same no matter what I do. Sure, there are some fun times too, but nothing really matters in the end.

      27 votes
    23. I've made a lot of life changing decisions recently and am going to give school a try again. I'm actually going to take a legitimate shot this time. One thing that always held me back in the past...

      I've made a lot of life changing decisions recently and am going to give school a try again. I'm actually going to take a legitimate shot this time. One thing that always held me back in the past were group projects and peer reviewing of the work. Could anyone give me some anecdotes on how I should tackle this anxiety? I started seeing a therapist *:but I was wondering if there would be something supplemental I could do also.

      Thanks

      *: I just want to say thanks again for all the feedback

      16 votes
    24. I'm interested in the stories of anyone willing to speak about their experiences, whether it was cyberbullying, stalking, doxing, hate mobs, or anything else. Given the sensitive nature of the...

      I'm interested in the stories of anyone willing to speak about their experiences, whether it was cyberbullying, stalking, doxing, hate mobs, or anything else.

      Given the sensitive nature of the question, only share what you're comfortable with, if at all. The following questions are not a list to be answered but more just jumping off points for consideration.

      • What was the harassment like for you?
      • What platform(s) did it take place on?
      • Was there a specific inciting incident?
      • Was it related to any larger cultural factors?
      • What was your response like?
      • What impact did it have on you and/or others?
      • How long did it last?
      • What takeaways do you have from the experience?
      18 votes
    25. For those of you who may be unaware of 'flow', here is how it is described in Daniel Kahneman's Thinking Fast and Slow: Fortunately, cognitive work is not always aversive, and people sometimes...

      For those of you who may be unaware of 'flow', here is how it is described in Daniel Kahneman's Thinking Fast and Slow:

      Fortunately, cognitive work is not always aversive, and people sometimes expend considerable effort for long periods of time without having to exert willpower. The psychologist Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi has done more than anyone else to study this state of effortless attending, and the name he proposed for it, flow, has become part of the language. People who experience flow describe it as "a state of effortless concentration so deep that they lose their sense of time, of themselves, of their problems," and their descriptions of the job of that state are so compelling that Csikszentmihalyi has called it an "optimal experience." Many activities can induce a sense of flow, from painting to racing motorcycles - and for some fortunate authors I know, even writing a book is often an optimal experience. Flow neatly separates the two forms of effort: concentration on the task and the deliverate control of attention. Riding a motorcycle at 150 miles an hour and playing a competitive game of chess are certainly very effortful. In a state of flow, however, maintaining focused attention on these absorbing activities requires no exertion of self-control, thereby freeing resources to be directed to the task at hand.

      For me, I would say getting into a just difficult enough programming problem or working on a data analysis can put me in this state where hours can slip away in the blink of an eye. The same thing for a game of Civilization V can do the same thing for me.

      23 votes
    26. this is kind of an offshoot of this thread which is still going, because i'm noticing an interesting pattern in that thread of reform to the system going beyond just the voting age, and i think...

      this is kind of an offshoot of this thread which is still going, because i'm noticing an interesting pattern in that thread of reform to the system going beyond just the voting age, and i think it's worth examining that in much broader, larger details than just being centered around how people respond to the idea of voting age because democracy is very multi-dimensional. here are a few questions to jump off of; feel free to utilize them or not utilize them as you wish.

      (let's also assume that there are no constraints whatsoever, for maximum possibility here. essentially, you get to invent a system that is utilized by people on the spot regardless of how things are currently for them.):

      • Is this democratic system liberal, like most are (or perhaps illiberal in the service of some greater aim like climate change)?
      • What variety of democracy is utilized by the system? (there are a lot of these ranging from classic representative democracy to direct democracy to soviet-style council democracy to sortition to more esoteric things like cellular, grassroots, and liquid democracy. see wikipedia for more)
      • What voting method (FPTP, IRV, preferential voting, etc. again see wikipedia), is used by the system, if any? Or are things done mostly or largely without voting where possible, as is true in participatory, deliberative and consensus democracies and similar systems?
      • Are formal political parties allowed in this system?
      • Is voting in this system compulsory?
      • Are certain people in this system (criminals, older people, younger people, certain groups or professions of people perhaps even) disenfranchised?
      • Does the government have a hand in educating people on voting in this system, or is it the civic duty of people instead, or is there some in between, or even neither? What does that education look like?

      and, if you'd like to get particularly esoteric or wonky, you might also choose to answer or consider some of these:

      • Are voters allowed to do things like recall their representatives, or is the will of the people binding for a term?
      • Does democracy in this system extend to even things like cabinet positions, which in most systems are determined by the head of state?
      • Does democracy in this system include things like amendments to constitutions?
      16 votes
    27. This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all. Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is...

      This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all.

      Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      8 votes
    28. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. You can find last week's topic here. So, what (or how) are you...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      7 votes
    29. we need more casual questions in here (there are 4 topics specifically tagged casual on the first page rn), so let me cast the first stone to that lot. bonus style points if you link to what the...

      we need more casual questions in here (there are 4 topics specifically tagged casual on the first page rn), so let me cast the first stone to that lot. bonus style points if you link to what the food is if it's country specific/kinda esoteric/something most people wouldn't know

      21 votes
    30. This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all. Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is...

      This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all.

      Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      9 votes
    31. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. You can find last week's topic here. So, what (or how) are you...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      11 votes
    32. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. You can find last week's topic here. So, what (or how) are you...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      19 votes
    33. I thought it would be fun to take Tildes's temperature on humanity's future prospects. If you respond, can you include your approximate age, your opinion, and maybe a brief explanation of why you...

      I thought it would be fun to take Tildes's temperature on humanity's future prospects. If you respond, can you include your approximate age, your opinion, and maybe a brief explanation of why you think/feel the way you do.

      I'm in my early 30s. I'm cautiously optimistic. I think it's an interesting time to be alive, as its the first time humanity is facing a problem of this scale. I think it'll pull through in one way or another. It may get bad for a bit, but nobody will let it stay bad for very long. I also think humanity has more control over the current situation than it realizes, it seems like the last two generations and maybe the current gen were content to let tunnel-visioned, big business interests do the metaphorical driving. Hopefully that'll stop soon, and we'll put people without a profit motive in the driver's seat.

      Thanks for participating!

      17 votes
    34. supplementary condorcet voting poll, if you'd like to answer in more nuance and provide some data to compare against when i ask this question later on down the road. poll has been closed as the...

      ~supplementary condorcet voting poll, if you'd like to answer in more nuance and provide some data to compare against when i ask this question later on down the road.~ poll has been closed as the week i said it'd be open has elapsed. thanks folks, and of course feel free to continue replying to this thread,

      (foreigners are also welcome to chime in on who they'd vote for if they were eligible)


      it's still 200 days to the iowa caucuses, but since this election cycle began literally six months ago already and we already have one debate under the belt, we're probably far enough along in the primary at this point that at least some of the billion candidates trying to run for the coveted position of democratic nominee for president in 2020 are making an impact on you, and nobody has actually asked this on here recently, weirdly enough.

      i'll probably ask this question again in... i dunno, three months (so mid-october)? and see what changes between threads (if anything does).

      47 votes
    35. Shortly after my son was born I started calling him "Buddy." I love it and he answers to it like a name now. My daughter is two and she calls him Buddy, which I think is the most adorable thing...

      Shortly after my son was born I started calling him "Buddy." I love it and he answers to it like a name now. My daughter is two and she calls him Buddy, which I think is the most adorable thing ever.

      I'd like to do this with my daughter, but I'm not really a fan of things like "honey" or "sweetheart," though I do wind up calling her sweetheart pretty frequently.

      Buddy is like friend, which is what I'm going for, but that's taken already. What else could I use?

      17 votes
    36. This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all. Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is...

      This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all.

      Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      8 votes
    37. Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too. You can find last week's topic here. So, what (or how) are you...

      Even if you don't have any plans for the weekend, and just want to talk about how you are doing, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      So, what (or how) are you doing this weekend?

      15 votes
    38. This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all. Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is...

      This is a place for ongoing discussion about the things you plan to do or have accomplished recently, even if that's nothing at all.

      Or, if you want to just talk about how you're feeling, this is a good place to do that too.

      You can find last week's topic here.

      15 votes
    39. Let's do a little show and tell for our new toys :) (I was thinking about this as a non-recurring equivalent to the listening threads and such but I probably worded it a bit too...fluffily for...

      Let's do a little show and tell for our new toys :)

      (I was thinking about this as a non-recurring equivalent to the listening threads and such but I probably worded it a bit too...fluffily for ~tech so I moved it to ~talk)

      40 votes
    40. I'll get the discussion started -- I'm somewhat into contemporary art, recently Can't Help Myself by Sun Yuan and Peng Yu. Mark Rothko is another favorite of mine, hopefully some day I can make it...

      I'll get the discussion started -- I'm somewhat into contemporary art, recently Can't Help Myself by Sun Yuan and Peng Yu.

      Mark Rothko is another favorite of mine, hopefully some day I can make it down to the Rothko Chapel.

      11 votes
    41. I find it hard to find articles that I think more people should read.. I find most of them pretty much spam (cough medium cough). I created this thread so you can recommend some articles that you...

      I find it hard to find articles that I think more people should read.. I find most of them pretty much spam (cough medium cough). I created this thread so you can recommend some articles that you read and found interesting.

      It doesn't matter about what it is, recommend away!

      9 votes
    42. Hi all, I am currently on the hunt for some nice newsletters for my email. I ran into "Big" by Matt Stoller on here and I really enjoy it. I guess I am looking for something in a similiar...

      Hi all, I am currently on the hunt for some nice newsletters for my email. I ran into "Big" by Matt Stoller on here and I really enjoy it. I guess I am looking for something in a similiar enomonic, political, or macro vein, science works as well. Any and all recommendations are welcome.

      11 votes
    43. Mine is: do others see the same colours that I do? As in, is my "green" the same as your "green"? Or would my "green" look "blue" to you? I like this one because it's completely possible, points...

      Mine is: do others see the same colours that I do? As in, is my "green" the same as your "green"? Or would my "green" look "blue" to you? I like this one because it's completely possible, points out the plasticity of our minds and makes a distinction between sensation and perception. There are variations of this but I like it formulated as such. It's my favorite because it was also my first foray into the philosophy of consciousness and I'm often reminded of it when in an altered state of consciousness (e.g. by psychedelics).

      Your favorite experiment can be whatever: either something that has affected you deeply / changed your life or just something fun and amusing to think about.

      48 votes