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Germany opens legal action against Facebook account requirement for Oculus headsets
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Three digit suicide prevention hotline gets green light from House of Commons
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Privacy is power
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On self-defeating skeptical arguments
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Brexit fishing row evokes memories of 'cod wars' with Iceland – four Royal Navy patrol ships will be ready from 1st January to help protect UK fishing waters
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US FTC sues Facebook for illegal monopolization
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Facebook announces plan to break up US Government before it becomes too powerful
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Quake Pro League Season 2: Stage 1 Finals
I know that everybody is busy playing Cyberpunk 2077, but if anyone is interested in arena FPSs, the QPL Season 2 Finals is taking place later today. This is the final day, the last players...
I know that everybody is busy playing Cyberpunk 2077, but if anyone is interested in arena FPSs, the QPL Season 2 Finals is taking place later today.
This is the final day, the last players remaining are all the big names of the North American and European regions: Rapha vs. RAISY, vengeuR vs. k1llsen, and in the lower bracket cYpheR and BaSe.
The live matches begin at 14:00 GMT and are expected to last late into the evening.
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Norway may stop British and EU vessels fishing in its waters from January 1st – talks held up by London's protracted Brexit standoff with Brussels
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What did you do this week?
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do...
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do nothing at all? Tell us about it!
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What do I need to know about switching from Android to iOS for my phone?
I've been all in on Android for quite a while, but I'll be making the jump to an iPhone with the next phone I get, which will end up being soon, as my current one is having some hardware issues....
I've been all in on Android for quite a while, but I'll be making the jump to an iPhone with the next phone I get, which will end up being soon, as my current one is having some hardware issues.
What do I need to know about crossing over?
In particular, I would like to leave my Google account behind and NOT have it logged into my new phone. I use Fastmail for my email and contacts -- will I be able to sync my contacts easily to an iOS device from it, or will I have to import them into iCloud?
I'm also open to app recommendations for basic stuff -- preferably ones that are open-source and privacy-friendly. On Android I run a lot of stuff out of F-Droid, but I know iOS is a lot more locked down, so I'm interested to know what the best options are in their store (I have no interest in jailbreaking mg device).
Also, are there any huge disadvantages I should be aware of regarding older models? The new line just came out, which means the older ones are cheaper, and I'm a casual enough phone user that I should be fine with older hardware, but I want to know if there are any big tradeoffs.
Finally, if there are any cool iOS tips or tricks I should know about, let me know!
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AMC warns it’ll run out of cash in January, calls out Warner Bros.’ shift to HBO Max
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Cyberpunk 2077 epileptic PSA
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Survey Chicken
9 votes -
How Zlatan became Zlatan – a swaggering, sensational player who has won wherever he's gone
7 votes -
Supreme Court rejects Texas lawsuit seeking to subvert election
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Bandcamp: We’re not ranking our year-end list anymore. Here’s what we’re doing instead.
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Koffee livestream for Grubhub Sound Bites (2020)
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What programming/technical projects have you been working on?
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?
10 votes -
The Antlers - Putting the Dog to Sleep (2011)
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US FDA clears Pfizer vaccine, and millions of doses will be shipped right away
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Let's crack Zodiac: 51-year old 340 cypher is solved
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An honest question about gender, sexuality, and the LGBTQ+ community
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm...
Hello! If you've clicked on this I'd like to start off by apologizing for the title! I'm in a bit of a strange headspace right this moment as I try to digest some thoughts thrown my way today. I'm currently coming at this from the personal lens of myself, but I think there are some larger questions/generalizations that could be made and might be helpful for others.
Ok, so for some background I am a "straight" man. My previous partners have all been women, with the exception of one who identified as female when we were dating, and my current partner is non-binary but female-presenting and has identified as such the entirety of the time we have been dating. I have previously viewed myself as straight and an ally to my partner and the lgbtq+ community. Today, I was having a long conversation with my cousin about his experiences coming out of the closet and with homophobia in our family. I mentioned at one point that I didn't feel comfortable making some assumptions/statements since I am straight and not a member of the community. He (very politely) brought up that, at least strictly technically speaking, the fact that I am dating someone who is non-binary means we are not in a heterosexual relationship and that I am not technically straight, more likely being bi or pan (if we could lets not turn this into the bi vs pan debate which I know is a controversial topic but not really what I'd like to focus on). He also made a point to stress that these are all technical definitions and that gender and sexual identity are very personal and if I don't feel that it describes me then it isn't for him to decide I'm wrong. This made me a bit uncomfortable. It made me uncomfortable because while he's right, it feels wrong. I feel like if I began identifying as pan/bi, it would come off as a straight white male looking for a way to put himself in the position of being oppressed or marginalized for woke points. I don't know if it is because the college I went to was full of dudes like this, constantly looking for ways to be the victim, but its just something I feel deep in my bones. I don't really know though. I feel like if someone came up to me and described my life as their own and told me they identified as pan/bi I would agree and support them, but I won't extend that to myself. I don't know if its just a lifetime of assuming I was straight is why this is or if the term is actually wrong.
I guess to summarize/generalize, I'll put some reallly fucking loaded questions where I know the 'real' answer is "It is a deeply personal thing and will vary by person to person because the LGBTQ+ community isn't a monolith with all the same ideas" but I'm hoping maybe writing all this out and reading some of the results will help me color, process and digest my thoughts.
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What/where would you put the line between straight and not straight (if anywhere). I know personally while I like to keep an open mind, I do heavily preference female-presenting people, whether they be trans, nb, or identify as a woman. But is that openness to dating someone who doesn't identify as a woman enough for me to be not-straight? I want to say yes, I don't think you need to date someone of a different gender to be not-straight. My cousin is bi but has exclusively dated men. I wouldn't tell him he isn't bi.
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I am very uncomfortable with this question but do you feel there is a degree of "not-straight" you need to be to be an active part of the queer community. To kind of explain my thoughts on that: From an outside perspective, no one that hasn't been told my partner is nb would question if we said we were a straight couple. I've never and probably will never feel fear or be oppressed based on my sexuality. I dunno. I just feel really weird. like I'm inserting myself into a community I've always identified as an ally of but been an outsider to.
Anyway, sorry for this rant. I know the two questions are really loaded and I honestly feel like I know the answer to both of them. But just because i know the answer doesn't change how conflicted I feel and so I guess I'm just trying to work through some of the thoughts and conflicts.
I also want to take a second to note: I am actively talking with my partner about these thoughts and feelings. This is an ongoing discussion in our household, I am just looking for more perspectives and views to help me see things from different angles and work through my thoughts and feelings. Helping me through this is absolutely not the responsibility of anyone on Tildes and I don't want it to seem like I am putting that pressure on the community.
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US Supreme Court rejects Donald Trump ally’s push to overturn Joe Biden win in Pennsylvania
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The Game Awards 2020
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電磁祭囃子 in NEO TOKYO 2020
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Wolfwalkers (2020)
I highly recommend it, if you've never seen a Cartoon Saloon movie you'll be blown away, and if you have, you know what to expect. You can make a free account on apple tv and you have a week to...
I highly recommend it, if you've never seen a Cartoon Saloon movie you'll be blown away, and if you have, you know what to expect. You can make a free account on apple tv and you have a week to cancel it, quality is dog-shit on desktop but still worth it.
https://tv.apple.com/us/movie/wolfwalkers/umc.cmc.amuoq00hqelfi98j0gvg641x
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What is happening in r/CentOS and why /u/redundantly should not be a moderator
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What creative projects have you been working on?
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on. Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just...
This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on.
Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just ideas.
If you have any creative projects that you have been working on or want to eventually work on, this is a place for discussing those.
8 votes -
Is planet Earth full?
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Emacs user survey 2020 results
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The rise and fall of Ambrosia Software
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How accessible were this year's games?
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Super Meat Boy Forever | Launch date trailer (December 23, 2020)
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The new macro: "Give people money"
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Which online content creators do you regularly follow?
Specifically, the kind of folks you like so much that whenever they release new content, you stop what you're doing and eagerly check out whatever it is they've put out. This could be YouTube...
Specifically, the kind of folks you like so much that whenever they release new content, you stop what you're doing and eagerly check out whatever it is they've put out.
This could be YouTube channels, podcasts, illustrators, webcomic artists, blogs, Twitter users, writers, you name it. (As long as they're not a nameless, faceless infinite feed!)
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The Correspondent will stop publishing on 1 January 2021
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Disney investor day announcement thread
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TV Tuesdays Free Talk
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here. Please just try to provide fair warning of...
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
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'True Blood’ reboot in works at HBO
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Cyberpunk 2077 preload now available
For worldwide launch times, see: https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EoVEcJCW8AIXqLR?format=jpg&name=large 7PM on the 9th for me. Can't wait! Also, heads up, there is supposedly a 43GB day 1 patch coming,...
For worldwide launch times, see:
https://pbs.twimg.com/media/EoVEcJCW8AIXqLR?format=jpg&name=large7PM on the 9th for me. Can't wait!
Also, heads up, there is supposedly a 43GB day 1 patch coming, at least for consoles but possibly PC too.
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MediaPipe Holistic — Simultaneous face, hand and pose prediction, on device
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What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them?
What have you been playing lately? Discussion about video games and board games are both welcome. Please don't just make a list of titles, give some thoughts about the game(s) as well.
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Brave Today - A privacy-preserving news reader integrated into the Brave browser and using their new "private CDN" to prevent tracking what users are reading
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Dianne Feinstein’s missteps raise a painful age question among US Senate Democrats
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Fitness Weekly Discussion
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...
What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?
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Georgia Power receives first nuclear fuel shipment for Vogtle Unit 3
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'We are speeding in the wrong direction' – climate striker Greta Thunberg speaks before UN event marking five years since the Paris accord
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NPR Hospital bed utilization lookup tool
8 votes