I am preparing to make beef bourguignon for my Thanksgiving dinner tomorrow (Kyiv cake for dessert) so I am watching Julia Child's take on it.

She mentioned that if you want the dish to be really French than you could buy imported bay leaves from France because they have a different flavor than American bay leaves. It made me start thinking about where my spices were grown and if all of them have specific regional variances that can take specific dishes to the next level. I knew honey can taste wildly different based on the region's flora that was available to make the honey, but never thought too much about spices.

Have you found that using spices from their region of origin significantly enhances a dish?

Three weeks in! Update your bingo cards and tell us about what you played!

Q: I missed the beginning of this event. Can I still join?
A: Of course! It's open all month.

Topic etiquette:

• It is fine to make multiple top-level posts throughout the week if you play multiple games.

• It is fine to respond to yourself with updates if you're continuing a single game and walk to talk more about it as you go.

• If you are playing Backlog Bingo, feel free to make a top-level post with your card that you edit as you go, while making new posts underneath that to talk about the games as you play them.

Gameplay guidelines:

• Goals for this event (if any) are entirely individual and self-determined.

• You do NOT need to finish games unless you want to. The point is to try out games and have fun, not force ourselves to play things we're not interested in.

Backlog Bingo

Thanks to the amazing efforts of our very own @Wes, we are debuting Backlog Bingo! This is a completely optional way to participate in the month.

You can generate a unique Backlog Bingo card from a collection of 73 different categories. Choose the ones you want in your batch, and then use Wes's custom-made online tool to automatically create your own individualized bingo card.

Wes's tool automatically assembles the markdown for your table, so it will paste beautifully into comments here on Tildes. For example:

Play games throughout the month to check off categories in the Bingo card. The ★ in the middle of every card is a free space -- there are no requirements for that square and any game you play fits there!

The most basic win condition is five-in-a-row, but, if you're feeling really wild, you might go for a win pattern that's a little more involved. Your choice!

Here's an example of someone "winning" the card above:

Bingo Golfing (thanks @Wes and @aphoenix!) is also an option: trying to clear a pattern by counting multiple categories for a single game, thus “winning” with as few games as possible.

Step 3 of Wes's tool includes instructions for checking off games, which has to be done manually. If you need an in-thread guide, you can use the following example below:

||
|:-:|
| ✅ ~~Struckthrough Example Category~~ <br> **Bolded Game Title** |

If you can't figure out how to check off categories or you break the Markdown for your table, feel free to ask for help in the comments or PM me and I can help you out!

FAQs

Prime has the documentary "Desperately Seeking Soulmate: Escaping Twin Flames Universe" while Netflix is running "Escaping Twin Flames" which were produced by different investigative reporters but take a similar approach to exposing this new group. Both rely on the testimony of ex members of the group to expose the founders power and control and how things changed when the group wasn't working out as they planned.

Apparently the group has a strong presence on facebook and there is also an entire reddit sub for its adherents.

I watched both of these multi part documentaries and was fascinated by the origin and rise of this group. The founders, Jeff and Megan (who now goes by Shaleia) are preying on the desperation of mostly female followers who are desperately seeking their 'one and only true love', their "twin flame". Using a technique of turning all hurts and pains inward the pair asserts they will help heal people who will practice their 'mirroring' technique.

But it starts to get really strange. Shaleia appears to be the one who started with the 'spiritual' aspect of the enterprise and Jeff appears to be the one with a fervent entrepreneurial bent who has turned it into a money making proposition.

They were living in a run down apartment when they began, but now a few years later, have bought a large home with a lake view in Michigan, with Jeff boasting about his Corvette and Porsche in the driveway. Even stranger, they have people living and working in their house to keep their enterprise running. There are shades of other religious communities with a strong 'messianic' leader that have started this way with Waco being mentioned in the documentary. Jeff even suggests, very strongly, that he may be the Christ.

The adherents pay for private or group facetime sessions with Jeff and Shaleia and are encouraged to take their video courses, which can be anywhere from $100 to $8,888. And those who have taken on the role of being life coaches under them are also encouraged to find more life coaches - it seems to be a combination of multi level marketing, religion and some kind of mass delusional 'teaching' to desperate and gullible people.

Jeff and Shaleia encourage people in their group to cut off relationships with anyone who is not supportive of Twin Flames, a sure sign of a cult, and there are several testimonials from hurting parents who are desperate to be back in touch with their children.

And in probably the strangest twist, when very few people were finding their "twin flame" to be responding, Jeff proclaimed that their twin flame already was part of the group - but since most of the group were women, he insisted that several of the women pair up and that one of them was now a "divine male", to the point of asking some to change their clothes, hair and go by a new male name.

It's all quite fascinating, and I couldn't believe that in an age where information on cults and cult activity is so easy to find, that so many people would be sucked into Twin Flames Universe and not see the control and manipulation going on in their lives.

Both are well worth watching but if you only have time for one, I'd recommend Prime's documentary - seems to be a bit more professionally produced.

Being Danish I've never really had any reason to know anything about this holiday - all I know is cursory stuff from movies and whatever one might stumble upon on the internet. Something about pilgrims and eating and/or pardoning birds. But yeah my friend invited me for Thanksgiving because her wife is American and wants to celebrate. But I don't know what I've gotten myself into 😅

There will be other expat Americans as well which makes me a little more nervous, so I'm hoping to learn a thing or two from you all on tildes so please give me any and all advice you can!

I'm looking for general advice about it but I guess I have a couple of specific questions too. They are not very traditional people so it's not going to be formal, and they have called it both Thanksgiving and Friendsgiving - but is there any particular difference between the two? And my other question is what would be a good present for the hostesses - do guests usually give anything particular? Or will the usual flowers/wine kind of thing be okay?

Hi everyone! I'm looking for a nice chef knife (or small set of cooking knives) for Christmas.

I'm looking around medium end so I'm wanting to spend 100-200 bucks, I'd prefer a small set of 2-4 knives, no large 12-16 sets as I don't believe those are good value.

I've heard good things about Wusthof and Henckels from my friends but I wanted to get a wider net of recommendations just in case before I made a decision

What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.

If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!

This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?

Find yourself watching tons of great videos on [insert chosen video sharing platform], but also find yourself reluctant to flood the Tildes front page with them? Then this thread is for you.

It could be one quirky video that you feel deserves some eyeballs on it, or perhaps you've got a curated list of videos that you'd love to talk us through...

Share some of the best video content you've watched this past week/fortnight with us!

Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

I have tried and tried to write a daily journal/diary and always gave up after a while. My longest stretch was over the course of five years. It always devolves into a litany of banality, though, and when I look back at it, invariably appears a bit cringy.

So I have decided to start keeping a commonplace book- a place to write down interesting thoughts, quotes, ideas I come across and so forth. Without the chronological format of a journal I feel less compelled to list down stuff for the sake of it and am actually listing down ideas I'd like to remember.

Do any of you do something similar?

I was wondering what the best open source EPUB reader was, for both Android and Windows 10/11. It's ok if it's a different app for each platform.

I don't need to be able to convert EPUB to proprietary formats, I just need to be able to read some DRM-free EPUBs I have, preferably on an app that's open source so just does its job without collecting a bunch of data.

I often find myself ruminating over something I said that didn’t get the “right” feedback. Maybe this means my opinion wasn’t validated, or someone proved I was wrong, or I was completely ignored. The repetition of these moments in my head can last for days, sometimes years. I’ve learned a few coping mechanisms because no one can be perfect, for example, just telling myself that it’s a learning lesson and realizing that most of the “embarrassing” things I’ve said in the past are completely forgotten by anyone else who heard usually helps get me through. Can anyone who relates to this share some other good tips/tricks?

I'm attempting to make my company's online software documentation ADA-accessible. We have several JavaScript elements that are currently not accessible to a screen reader. The one I'm working on is a set of tabs that show/hide content depending on which one you click. I am trying to use ARIA tags to make the tabs accessible. I have based my code off of this page, with some modifications. Namely, they use <a> tags as the active element and I do not want to use <a> tags.

While I'm able to get the tabs to work fine for me (a sighted person), testing with a screen reader shows mixed results. I can get the tabs to work using the Windows Narrator screen reader on Microsoft Edge in Windows 10, but not Chrome or Firefox in Windows 11. In those configurations, it is impossible to switch tabs. (I haven't tested every possible permutation, but it's probably a browser issue.) I don't know why this is happening because I have set up all my ARIA tags, and it does work on Edge.

Can anyone help me understand what I'm doing wrong so I can debug the issue and improve the code? Requirements are:

• The first tab must be selected (showing content) by default. Other tab content must be hidden by default, except the tab button to click on
• Sighted users must be able to navigate between tabs by clicking on the tab headers via mouse
• Visually impaired users must be able to navigate between tabs via keyboard/screen reader
• The presence, function, and usage of the tabs must be clear to the screen reader
• I do not want to use an <a> tag nested in the <li> as the active element because this causes the page to jump around when sighted users click on it. I would like the entire "button" (right now, the <li> tag) to be clickable.
• Must work on all/most common browsers and popular operating systems

I suspect this is a JS issue, but I'm at a loss here and I don't know how to proceed.

<ul class="tabs-list" role="tablist">
    <li class="tab current" aria-controls="example-1" aria-selected="true" href="#example-1" id="tab-example-1" role="tab">Example 1</li>
    <li class="tab" aria-controls="example-2" aria-selected="false" href="#example-2" id="tab-example-2" role="tab">Example 2</li>
    <li class="tab" aria-controls="example-3" aria-selected="false" href="#example-3" id="tab-example-3" role="tab">Example 3</li>
</ul>

<div aria-labelledby="tab-example-1" class="tab-panel current" id="example-1" role="tabpanel">
    <p>Example 1 content goes here</p>
</div>

<div aria-labelledby="tab-example-2" class="tab-panel hidden" id="example-2" role="tabpanel">
    <p>Example 2 content goes here</p>
</div>

<div aria-labelledby="tab-example-3" class="tab-panel hidden" id="example-3" role="tabpanel">
    <p>Example 3 content goes here</p>
</div>

ul.tabs-list {
	margin-left: 2px;
	margin-right: 2px;
	padding: 0px;
	list-style: none;
	position: relative;
    line-height: 8pt;
}

ul.tabs-list:after
{
	position: absolute;
	content: "";
	width: 100%;
	bottom: 0;
	left: 0;
	border-bottom: 1px solid #ddd;
}

ul.tabs-list li {
	color: #333;
	display: inline-block;
	padding: 10px 10px;
	cursor: pointer;
	position: relative;
	z-index: 0;
}

ul.tabs-list li.current {
	background: #fff;
	color: #d9232e;
	border-top: 1px solid #ddd;
	border-bottom: 0px solid white;
	border-left: 1px solid #ddd;
	border-right: 1px solid #ddd;
	z-index: 100;
}
 
ul.tabs-list li:hover {
	background: #c2c2c2;
	color: #000;
	display: inline-block;
	padding: 10px 10px;
	cursor: pointer;
	border: 1px solid transparent;
}

ul.tabs-list li.current:hover {
	background: #fff;
	color: #d9232e;
	margin-left: 0px;
	border-top: 1px solid #ddd;
	border-bottom: 1px solid transparent;
	border-left: 1px solid #ddd;
	border-right: 1px solid #ddd;
	z-index: 2;
}

div.tab-panel {
	display: none;
	background: #ededed;
	padding: 15px;
	background-color: transparent;
}

div.tab-panel.current {
	display: inherit;
}

$(function(){
  var index = 0;
  var $tabs = $('li.tab');

  $tabs.bind(
  {
    // on keydown,
    // determine which tab to select
    keydown: function(ev){
      var LEFT_ARROW = 37;
      var UP_ARROW = 38;
      var RIGHT_ARROW = 39;
      var DOWN_ARROW = 40;

      var k = ev.which || ev.keyCode;

      // if the key pressed was an arrow key
      if (k >= LEFT_ARROW && k <= DOWN_ARROW){
        // move left one tab for left and up arrows
        if (k == LEFT_ARROW || k == UP_ARROW){
          if (index > 0) {
            index--;
          }
          // unless you are on the first tab,
          // in which case select the last tab.
          else {
            index = $tabs.length - 1;
          }
        }

        // move right one tab for right and down arrows
        else if (k == RIGHT_ARROW || k == DOWN_ARROW){
          if (index < ($tabs.length - 1)){
            index++;
          }
          // unless you're at the last tab,
          // in which case select the first one
          else {
            index = 0;
          }
        }

        // trigger a click event on the tab to move to
        $($tabs.get(index)).click();
        ev.preventDefault();
      }
    },

    // just make the clicked tab the selected one
    click: function(ev){
      index = $.inArray(this, $tabs.get());
      setFocus();
      ev.preventDefault();
    }
  });

  var setFocus = function(){
    // undo tab control selected state,
    // and make them not selectable with the tab key
    // (all tabs)
    $tabs.attr(
    {
      tabindex: '-1',
      'aria-selected': 'false'
    });

    // hide all tab panels.
    $('.tab-panel').removeClass('current');

    // make the selected tab the selected one, shift focus to it
    $($tabs.get(index)).attr(
    {
      tabindex: '0',
      'aria-selected': 'true'
    }).focus();

    // handle <li> current class (for coloring the tabs)
    $($tabs.get(index)).siblings().removeClass('current');
    $($tabs.get(index)).addClass('current');

    // add a current class also to the tab panel
    // controlled by the clicked tab
    $("#"+$($tabs.get(index)).attr('aria-controls')).addClass('current');
  };
});

My husband and I will be alone this Thanksgiving, so we decided to cook a smaller bird than a turkey, specifically a duck. I like duck and frequently order it at restaurants where available, but don't have much experience. I found a low slow roasting recipe that looks promising. I'm already familiar with soup making.

What advice do you have re sauces and meals using leftovers?

I would've gotten the Proton Black Friday offer, but it's only valid for upgrades, not for renewing my current account type. Aside from that I'm looking at:

• Affinity 2 (graphic design software)
• Asesprite (graphic design software)
• Curiosity Stream (streaming service for documentaries)
• Kindle Scribe (I'm particularly intrigued by the pen/notebook functionality on this e-reader)

How about you?

Edit 2023-11-27 - I ended up getting the Affinity deal because it was an additional discount on top of the V1 upgrade discount! So I was able to get the entire V2 package for about 67 USD. The Black Friday discount is 40% and then the upgrade discount is 25% on top of that.

I also would've wanted to get the hydroxyapatite toothpaste from my fave floss brand, Cocofloss (25% off the entire site for Black Friday) but it was out of stock.

General Programming Q&A thread! Ask any questions about programming, answer the questions of other users, or post suggestions for future threads.

Don't forget to format your code using the triple backticks or tildes:

Here is my schema:

```sql
CREATE TABLE article_to_warehouse (
  article_id   INTEGER
, warehouse_id INTEGER
)
;
```

How do I add a `UNIQUE` constraint?