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Weekly thread for casual chat and photos of pets
This is the place for casual discussion about our pets. Photos are welcome, show us your pet(s) and tell us about them!
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Fact check: Greta Thunberg ‘vegan grenades’ TV interview is deepfake
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What have you been listening to this week?
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as...
What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as well, we'd love to see your hauls :)
Feel free to give recs or discuss anything about each others' listening habits.
You can make a chart if you use last.fm:
http://www.tapmusic.net/lastfm/
Remember that linking directly to your image will update with your future listening, make sure to reupload to somewhere like imgur if you'd like it to remain what you have at the time of posting.
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Learned a life-changing tip about human psychology - Any others?
I am reading Never Split the Difference right now, and while the book has a few stereotypical "salesman self-help" moments, I have found some of the strategies to be genuinely incredible. The...
I am reading Never Split the Difference right now, and while the book has a few stereotypical "salesman self-help" moments, I have found some of the strategies to be genuinely incredible.
The biggest game changer for me has been mirroring what the other person says to avoid conflict and gather more information.
Real life example: My wife has a bad habit of poorly explaining what she wants and where it's located. Then, I get her flustered when I rapid-fire follow up questions. Here is an exchange we have frequently which leaves us both frustrated as hell.
She will ask something like, "Can you get the box out of the drawer please?"
I usually reply, "What box?"
"The box. The red box."
"Okay...what drawer?"
"The drawer, you know, the drawer. Come on."
"DUDE. Can you at least tell me which room you're even talking about?"
"Nevermind, I'll get it."
Lately I've been trying mirroring to help both of us and it's awesome.
"Can you get the box please?"
"Get the box?"
"Yeah, the red box. It has a paper in it that I need."
"Okay, you want the red box with the paper in it?"
"Yeah it's in the kitchen drawer next to the sink."
It's so weird when you first start doing this intentionally, but people don't even notice. I have no idea why it works so much better but it's amazing.
So, this got me thinking, what other little human psychology tricks work? Are there other books that genuinely changed the way you approach people or situations?
I'm a teacher and my job is to teach students who mostly have behavioral problems, so I am always on the look out for more of these things.
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A lawmaker representing Greenland in Denmark's Parliament was asked to leave the podium of the assembly after she refused to translate her speech delivered in Greenlandic into Danish
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Weight loss drugs appear to be having an effect at the population level
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AI artist says he’s losing money from people stealing his work
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The collapse of self-worth in the digital age
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Swedish government accused of trying to ‘outlaw poverty’ over begging ban – critics say proposal may not be lawful and would not tackle root cause of vulnerability
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What programming/technical projects have you been working on?
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?
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Siamese – This Is Not A Song (2024)
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Why is the speed of light so fast?
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CloudFlare beats patent troll Sable, forcing them to dedicate all its patents to the public
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Ken Newcombe, ex-CEO of C-Quest Capital, faces criminal charges for multi-year carbon credit fraud
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We've been helping rewild this quarry for a few years now and the transformation has been wonderful to witness
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The massive US port strike has begun: 'We are prepared to fight as long as necessary'
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Vox Media, on the hunt for new revenue streams, is exploring putting up a pay wall on The Verge
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‘Paper or plastic?’ will no longer be a choice at California grocery stores
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An export feature would be nice
It would be nice to be able to press a button which would create a zipped file for me to download all of my content on Tildes. Just one markdown file for each post or comment I ever wrote on Tildes.
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RiffTrax sets Nebula streaming deal
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Dockworkers' union to suspend strike in US until Jan. 15, source says
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Save Point: A game deal roundup for the week of September 29
Add awesome game deals to this topic as they come up over the course of the week! Alternately, ask about a given game deal if you want the community’s opinions: e.g. “What games from this bundle...
Add awesome game deals to this topic as they come up over the course of the week!
Alternately, ask about a given game deal if you want the community’s opinions: e.g. “What games from this bundle are most worth my attention?”
Rules:
- No grey market sales
- No affiliate links
If posting a sale, it is strongly encouraged that you share why you think the available game/games are worthwhile.
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What are you reading these days?
What are you reading currently? Fiction or non-fiction or poetry, any genre, any language! Tell us what you're reading, and talk about it a bit.
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What did you do this week (and weekend)?
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do...
As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do nothing at all? Tell us about it!
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Recommend some new(ish) metal bands
I have been a metalhead for over 20 years but I seem to still mostly listen to the bands I found back then. So mostly bands that started in the 80s or 90s. By the mid 2000s metalcore and its...
I have been a metalhead for over 20 years but I seem to still mostly listen to the bands I found back then. So mostly bands that started in the 80s or 90s. By the mid 2000s metalcore and its various derivatives got very popular and that wasn't for me, so I kind of stopped paying much attention to new stuff for many years. The only newer band I have been really excited about is the Finnish black metal band Havukruunu, and to some extent Uada and Spectral Wound.
Would love to get some recommendations for new names that have appeared in the last 10 or so years.
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Rumor: GlobalComix to get DC Comics digitally, announced at NYCC
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Taskmaster Series 18, Episode 1 - 'The faceless facilitators.' | Full Episode
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Meta Movie Gen
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The Rocky Horror Video Game | Announcement trailer
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Books or other good content on software design?
Wondering if anyone has any good books or other content to recommend on software design. I feel like when I start out on a new project I always get stuck in a rut of trying to design something...
Wondering if anyone has any good books or other content to recommend on software design. I feel like when I start out on a new project I always get stuck in a rut of trying to design something good, then end up with an awful design anyways. On the other hand, I've been around professors and more experienced software engineers who seem to effortlessly come up with simple, powerful architectures and interfaces.
While I know that reading a book or two won't get me the experience I need to improve, it does seem like that might be a good jump-start. Anyone have any suggestions for me? Thanks!
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Paypal opted you into sharing data without your knowledge
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What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.
If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!
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If WordPress is to survive, Matt Mullenweg must be removed
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Historic US ship could soon become the world's largest artificial reef
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Linguaphiles of Tildes: where do you get your words?
If you love language, etymology, or just plain collecting interesting words, where do you look to feed your interest? I’ve seen many RobWords (YouTube) posts here, and I really like his content. I...
If you love language, etymology, or just plain collecting interesting words, where do you look to feed your interest? I’ve seen many RobWords (YouTube) posts here, and I really like his content. I also love the traditional word hunt through reading authors like Dickens.
In addition to “where do you look?”, what does your hobby look like? Do you keep lists of words that you review and learn about? Do you make effort to include your newly found words in writing or conversation? I have the (probably very annoying) habit of interrupting a conversation to say, “you know, there is an interesting word for that!”. What else do you do?
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More people than ever are trying to hack the US government--and they love it
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Tony Hawk and Steve-O are producing skateboarding anthology series "SK8 OR DIE"
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Do you keep a diary?
I've been thinking about keeping a diary to improve my English because I rarely use it, but I don't know what to write about... So, if you keep a diary, what do you write in it? And what do you...
I've been thinking about keeping a diary to improve my English because I rarely use it, but I don't know what to write about... So, if you keep a diary, what do you write in it? And what do you use/prefer, app or paper?
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US hospitals take steps to conserve IV fluid supply after hurricane Helene strikes critical factory in North Carolina
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Midweek Movie Free Talk
Warning: this post may contain spoilers
Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
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EU top court says some FIFA player transfer rules breach EU law
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Self-help book marketing is bleak
I'm looking at some recommendations for books about childhood trauma and abuse. Every book is almost the same. Something with a very long title like "You Are Your Own Blorbo: 25 Strategies and...
I'm looking at some recommendations for books about childhood trauma and abuse. Every book is almost the same. Something with a very long title like "You Are Your Own Blorbo: 25 Strategies and Steps to Overcome Your Hurdles and Achieve CHIM".
Then there is the uninspired and very fake summary. And then some supposedly impressive quotes by some supposedly bigshot people.
When you check out the author, they're often mentioned as a therapist with [insert experience of a few decades that doesn't necessarily mean anything]. They don't generally even mention what kind of therapist the author is (a psychologist, a psychiatrist, a mental health councillor, a different type?). They certainly don't give too much specifics about the therapy techniques they're specialized in and actual education, you know, two very important things.
It all feels disingenuous and scammy.
Thanks to this dishonest marketing style of virtually every single book in the industry, none of it means anything. You could write the absolutely worst, actively hurtful book, and still get all of this plastered on.
Beyond this marketing illusion, I know there to be some books that are actually helpful (have read a few), but vast majority of self-help books are either scams or overselling their quality. The problem is, even quality books seem to have this marketing shtick going on. Internet isn't too helpful either, because people -especially laypeople- too often misjudge. The only way seems to be seeing what the fuss is about yourself. But that takes a lot of time, and there's also the possibility that you will come out of the other end with internalized crap. It's genuinely a soulless ordeal to sift through all this utter shit to find something of worth.
I know it's not hopeless, as I read some good books throughout the years, but damn can it feel that way. It's especially more frustrating when you're just trying to find something to help tackle problems, and you're met with a capitalist epistemological nightmare.
This is a rant, I absolutely detest this industry, but this post is also meant to start a discussion. There is something rotten about this, and I wonder what other people have experienced and think about it. Experiences, frustrations, solutions, etc. are all welcome.
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America’s first cross-country auto race
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Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news
Tildes is a very serious site, where we discuss very serious matters like politics, paypal and reddit. Tags culled from the highest voted topics from the last seven days, if anyone was befuddled....
Tildes is a very serious site, where we discuss very serious matters like politics, paypal and reddit. Tags culled from the highest voted topics from the last seven days, if anyone was befuddled.
But one of my favourite tags happens to be offbeat! Taking its original inspiration from Sir Nils Olav III, this thread is looking for any far-fetched
offbeat
stories lurking in the newspapers. It may not deserve its own post, but it deserves a wider audience!10 votes -
Mokoma – Haluamanilainen (2024)
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German Navy Enigma machine systems were different to the Army, making them tougher to crack. In this video, James Grime discusses the differences and what Alan Turing achieved in breaking the code.
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How Japanese square watermelons are made
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Babel Lecture 2022 with Stephen Fry: 'What we have here is a failure to communicate' (17/06/22)
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This is [my dead grandmother]’s special day!
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