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    1. What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)

      What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...

      What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.

      If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!

      7 votes
    2. TV Tuesdays Free Talk

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      7 votes
    3. Requesting your thoughts that may help me decide between moving to Chicago or Portland (Oregon)?

      hey there tildes. i’m moving out of texas in august no matter what and am trying to decide between chicago and portland. i was wondering if anyone here has lived in either (or both) locations and...

      hey there tildes. i’m moving out of texas in august no matter what and am trying to decide between chicago and portland. i was wondering if anyone here has lived in either (or both) locations and could help me decide by sharing their experiences.

      i’m currently in texas and by the time i move, i will have only been here 1 year but this was always supposed to be a temporary stop for a job (that is very much not working out due to the owner of the company — i’ve posted about it a few months ago and struggle with it in my mind to this day).

      i’ve moved around a bit, both in the same cities and across several states, over the past 5 years. im tired of moving and starting over, so im really going to focus on making the next place work for at least 5 years. the world is too chaotic for me to pretend to see farther out than that.

      i had been reading and watching a lot of videos about chicago over the past month or two and now wondering if i should give it a try? i just assumed i would move back to portland by default because i liked it well enough and now im not sure if i should fall back to something familiar or try again somewhere else.

      just want to say that i know moving wont magically make my life great and i know i will have to put in a lot of work to make everything work regardless. greener grass and all that.

      portland

      i’ve lived in portland before (2 years) and visited many, many times in the 7 years before moving there. i liked it for the most part.

      things i didn’t like (mostly my opinion/experience)

      • PNW gray, dreary weather for many months. im prone to bouts of severe depression and it’s a lot of work to keep healthy during the dark months. was in for seattle for 7 years prior to living in portland so i was maxed out with the gray perhaps.
      • cost of living is kind of high for the size of city and offerings
      • it’s a very slow, sleepy city that feels more like a very big town than a small city. sometimes i liked this about the city (less traffic, crowds) and sometimes i didnt (less “things going on”, especially later at night)
      • the sheer amount of unsheltered people and seemingly no solution or even progress. when i lived there, it was really, really bad (2021-2023) and i’ve read that it’s actually gotten worse since ive left. it’s heartbreaking.

      things i did like

      • green year round, even if it’s gray and winter. beautiful outdoors/hiking, swimming in the river
      • proximity to seattle (i have friends there)
      • much more agreeable politics for me (Leftists everywhere)
      • great food options, fun bars, interesting shops
      • very bike friendly (newly into biking, was not when i lived there)
      • decent public transit
      • relatively friendly people though i did struggle with making deeper connections
      • very positive towards folks who are queer or generally nontraditional. that’s important to me
      • seems like a lot of creative folk live here
      why i moved away from portland originally

      i moved away because i was deeply unhappy with my work life (had two awful jobs in a row because my freelancing work (audio/video editing) dried up completely), had to get a roommate for the first time in like 10 years because of pay decreasing with new jobs, and tried to change up my medication for depression (for reasons i can no longer recall) that backfired and i fell into a massive bout of depression.

      i backed away from all of my friendships and spent all of my time dreaming about greener grass. instead of focusing on getting a better job and fixing my medication, i chose the “easy” route of moving away again and starting over.

      i went to denver chasing better weather and had two new clients lined up but two months after moving, they stopped paying me. had to take one to court and everything. only other job i could find was awful with a really toxic manager and a huge pay cut (again) but had no other job options. i did fix my meds and other lifestyle changes so all was not completely lost.

      the owner of the company i was working for (and before i knew what kind of person he was) offered me a new job in texas so i jumped on it. my family was there so figured it’d be nice to be nearby for a year or two. unsurprisingly, san antonio sucks (for me) and job sucks, so as soon as my lease ends in august, im out.

      chicago

      i’ve never been to chicago. i’ll visit in june to check it out. i also don’t know anyone there. this isn’t a huge deal since i have done this kind of move (only visiting right before moving and not knowing anyone) i guess 3 times now.

      reasons i think i will like it

      • liberal city
      • great public transit
      • big, dense city
      • diversity
      • seemingly decent cost of living
      • people say midwesterners are friendly (?)
      • job opportunities just by the fact that it’s such a huge city

      things that are/may be negative

      • brutal winters. i am not used to real winters. seattle/portland had very mild winters and even denver’s were honestly not bad at all. i hear lots of talk about chicago winters.
      • crime. no, i don’t think i will be regularly mugged or killed like the US media makes it sometimes seem, but compared to everywhere i’ve lived before, it’s has a higher violent crime rate.
      • friends/community. i’m in my mid 30s and it’s harder to make friends the old i get and that’s sort of my number one goal each time i move to a new city. also never really had “community” and would really like to have that in my life.
      • politics. i know that portland is generally much more left and chicago is more generic democrat. this isn’t the end of the world and i don’t expect everyone to be as far left as i am but i want to be able to live in the same reality as my community.

      huge wall of text, i know, so thanks for those that read it. i’m not great at organizing my thoughts in these posts, but i’m just tryin’ to figure stuff out!

      if anyone has anything they want to share based on my likes/dislikes and your experience, please do! i really enjoy reading what the folks here have to say about things.

      27 votes
    4. Looking for surreal horror/mindbending

      I'm looking for some recommendations. I'm not a voracious reader, so just about anything you can recommend will be new to me. I'm not sure how to describe the genre I'm after, which is really why...

      I'm looking for some recommendations. I'm not a voracious reader, so just about anything you can recommend will be new to me.

      I'm not sure how to describe the genre I'm after, which is really why I'm here. I just got done binging Petscop on YouTube; the surreal and Lynchian story telling coupled with the dark subject matter really sucked me in. I'm also somewhat enthralled by some of the higher quality Backrooms content.

      I'm interested in short stories or novels.

      Edit: sorry for not tagging. I completely forgot!

      37 votes
    5. Formula 1 Japanese Grand Prix 2026 - Race Weekend Discussion

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      Japanese Grand Prix
      Suzuka Circuit
      March 26-29, 2026


      Qualifying Results -- SPOILER
      Pos. No. Driver Team Q1 Q2 Q3 Laps
      1 12 Kimi Antonelli Mercedes 1:30.035 1:29.048 1:28.778 15
      2 63 George Russell Mercedes 1:29.967 1:29.686 1:29.076 21
      3 81 Oscar Piastri McLaren 1:30.200 1:29.451 1:29.132 20
      4 16 Charles Leclerc Ferrari 1:29.915 1:29.303 1:29.405 18
      5 1 Lando Norris McLaren 1:30.401 1:29.795 1:29.409 20
      6 44 Lewis Hamilton Ferrari 1:30.309 1:29.589 1:29.567 20
      7 10 Pierre Gasly Alpine 1:30.584 1:29.874 1:29.691 18
      8 6 Isack Hadjar Red Bull Racing 1:30.662 1:30.104 1:29.978 17
      9 5 Gabriel Bortoleto Audi 1:30.359 1:29.990 1:30.274 20
      10 41 Arvid Lindblad Racing Bulls 1:30.781 1:30.109 1:30.319 21
      11 3 Max Verstappen Red Bull Racing 1:30.519 1:30.262 12
      12 31 Esteban Ocon Haas F1 Team 1:30.915 1:30.309 15
      13 27 Nico Hulkenberg Audi 1:30.358 1:30.387 14
      14 30 Liam Lawson Racing Bulls 1:30.657 1:30.495 15
      15 43 Franco Colapinto Alpine 1:30.931 1:30.627 12
      16 55 Carlos Sainz Williams 1:30.927 1:31.033 15
      17 23 Alexander Albon Williams 1:31.088 9
      18 87 Oliver Bearman Haas F1 Team 1:31.090 9
      19 11 Sergio Perez Cadillac 1:32.206 6
      20 77 Valtteri Bottas Cadillac 1:32.330 9
      21 14 Fernando Alonso Aston Martin 1:32.646 9
      22 18 Lance Stroll Aston Martin 1:32.920 9

      Source: F1.com

      Grand Prix Results -- SPOILER
      Pos. No. Driver Team Laps Time / Retired Pts.
      1 12 Kimi Antonelli Mercedes 53 1:28:03.403 25
      2 81 Oscar Piastri McLaren 53 +13.722s 18
      3 16 Charles Leclerc Ferrari 53 +15.270s 15
      4 63 George Russell Mercedes 53 +15.754s 12
      5 1 Lando Norris McLaren 53 +23.479s 10
      6 44 Lewis Hamilton Ferrari 53 +25.037s 8
      7 10 Pierre Gasly Alpine 53 +32.340s 6
      8 3 Max Verstappen Red Bull Racing 53 +32.677s 4
      9 30 Liam Lawson Racing Bulls 53 +50.180s 2
      10 31 Esteban Ocon Haas F1 Team 53 +51.216s 1
      11 27 Nico Hulkenberg Audi 53 +52.280s 0
      12 6 Isack Hadjar Red Bull Racing 53 +56.154s 0
      13 5 Gabriel Bortoleto Audi 53 +59.078s 0
      14 41 Arvid Lindblad Racing Bulls 53 +59.848s 0
      15 55 Carlos Sainz Williams 53 +65.008s 0
      16 43 Franco Colapinto Alpine 53 +65.773s 0
      17 11 Sergio Perez Cadillac 53 +92.453s 0
      18 14 Fernando Alonso Aston Martin 52 +1 lap 0
      19 77 Valtteri Bottas Cadillac 52 +1 lap 0
      20 23 Alexander Albon Williams 51 +2 laps 0
      NC 18 Lance Stroll Aston Martin 30 DNF 0
      NC 87 Oliver Bearman Haas F1 Team 20 DNF 0

      Fastest Lap: Kimi Antonelli // 1:32.432 on lap 49
      DOTD: Oscar Piastri

      Source: F1.com


      Next race:
      Miami Grand Prix
      Suzuka Circuit
      May 1-3, 2026

      14 votes
    6. Midweek Movie Free Talk

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      15 votes
    7. Solar oven/cooking

      For context, I live in the tropics and get a lot of sunlight for most of the year outside of monsoon season. I was recently chatting with some coworkers and one of the mentioned baking cookies on...

      For context, I live in the tropics and get a lot of sunlight for most of the year outside of monsoon season.

      I was recently chatting with some coworkers and one of the mentioned baking cookies on their dashboard during the summer, and I remember my brother mentioning doing that when he lived in Arizona. That is something I could probably do here, but we always keep a sunshade up in our car so it isn't incredibly hot when we get inside.

      This got me thinking about solar ovens since I remember seeing a video of someone using one to cook online awhile ago, and I was curious if anyone here has one or has any experience using one and if it was worth it or if they would have any recommendations.

      21 votes
    8. What are people using instead of VS Code?

      I relatively recently reinstalled my OS (distro-hopping to Fedora KDE) and as I was installing my various everyday programs, I began to wonder whether there were any solid competitors to VSCode in...

      I relatively recently reinstalled my OS (distro-hopping to Fedora KDE) and as I was installing my various everyday programs, I began to wonder whether there were any solid competitors to VSCode in the space other than IntelliJ products (which I strongly dislike compared to VSCode already). I've used VSCode for a while, but I've definitely noticed my experience with the app getting a little bloated and overwhelmed. But I'm not keeping my finger on the pulse of new IDEs, so I don't know if there's anything new (or at least a solid alternative of some sort) out there that people are switching to.

      I'm on Linux, so nothing Mac-exclusive. I know VSCode's extension library is probably hard to match given its popularity, but I'd hope for an alternative that at least has potential to have extensions to cover lesser-known languages and file formats for me. I liked the look and feel of VS Code when I switched to it years ago, so I'm all for apps with similar vibes, but I'd like something that feels faster and more focused.

      Please don't recommend vim. I've already heard of vim, and if I wanted to switch to it I would have already.

      37 votes
    9. Temple of Elemental Evil, Ravenloft, and the next thing

      Looking Back on Temple of Elemental Evil My table wrapped up T1-T4 Temple of Elemental Evil a few months ago, and I decided to take a break before moving on to I6 Ravenloft to play some video...

      Looking Back on Temple of Elemental Evil

      My table wrapped up T1-T4 Temple of Elemental Evil a few months ago, and I decided to take a break before moving on to I6 Ravenloft to play some video games for a bit. It's a good thing, too, because there's been several hospitalizations and deaths so far this year, but that's a topic for elsewhere.

      After having finished it, I can confidently say that I don't really get all the hype T1-T4 gets in this day and age. Perhaps when it was new, but I still see people today lauding its greatness. It was... fine. T1 had a very strong start, no real complaints there, but as the book went on it meandered more and left a lot to be desired in the third and especially fourth floors of the dungeon. I've heard rumors that Gygax was unable to finish it in time due to being pulled away for TSR business often, so he gave all his notes to Mentzer to complete the work. I would believe it, personally. I've also since been told that the campaign book has an errata, so perhaps that fixes a lot of our issues with it, but I've not read it; no real interest in running this again.


      The Upcoming Ravenloft Run

      Moving past that, though, we'll be starting back up on April 11th with the group's first batch of characters going to the castle representing Ravenloft to have dinner with the Count; some of them received a letter inviting them over to congratulate them on their work within the region and on the power they've gained. The players know what they're getting into, but the characters don't. Joining us this go around are:

      • Rowan Human Magic-User 7 (~66k XP)
        • Henchman Freya, Human Fighter 5 (~18k XP)
        • Henchman Rikka, Human Fighter 5 (~18k XP)
      • Iskandar, Human Magic-User 8 (~106k XP)
        • Henchman Thorgisl, Human Fighter 2 (~2k XP)
      • Ser Duncan, Human Paladin 6 (~55k XP)
      • Melceth, Human Cleric 7 (~55k XP)
      • Elowyn, Elf Fighter 5 / Magus 5 (~55k XP)

      Looking Ahead to the New World

      Regardless of what the results of the Ravenloft module are, there will then be a time skip of a couple or few years before a portal to a new setting, Jovian, will be made available to the group; a planet with two suns--a very large, incredibly bright one representing Bahamut and a much smaller, dimmer one representing Tiamat--that is bathed in an eternal twilight. Two major themes I aim to hit with this setting are reclamation and perseverance.

      To go along with the change in setting, I am also planning on making other changes to the game. We are:

      • finally getting rid of the gnome
      • retaining the half-ogre
      • adding the mul, which are a half-human/half-dwarf race from Dark Sun
      • removing the Assassin class
      • adding the Runecaster class
      • replacing the base Cleric class with a specialty priest for each of our 17 deities
      • allowing halflings to be Illusionist in the absence of the gnome
      • allowing mul to be Occultists, a custom class of my making
      • allowing half-orcs to be a Magus, another custom class of my making, in the absence of the Assassin
      9 votes
    10. What have you been listening to this week?

      What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as...

      What have you been listening to this week? You don't need to do a 6000 word review if you don't want to, but please write something! If you've just picked up some music, please update on that as well, we'd love to see your hauls :)

      Feel free to give recs or discuss anything about each others' listening habits.

      You can make a chart if you use last.fm:

      http://www.tapmusic.net/lastfm/

      Remember that linking directly to your image will update with your future listening, make sure to reupload to somewhere like imgur if you'd like it to remain what you have at the time of posting.

      13 votes
    11. TV Tuesdays Free Talk

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      7 votes
    12. What programming/technical projects have you been working on?

      This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...

      This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?

      16 votes
    13. Interesting material types for fantasy resources/macguffins other than crystals or metals?

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      You know the trope: an epic fantasy world with magic materials that have strange properties or give people superpowers or what have you. It seems half of the time, this material is a type of crystal with some kind of electric power, and the other half of the time it's a type of metal that's basically steel, but stronger or something. The main examples that come to mind are Marvel, where you have the Soul Stones, Adamantium, and Vibranium.

      Are there any other cool types of materials to use for this type of resource? Like maybe an obscure type of material that certain scientists study, but the general public doesn't know much about?

      29 votes
    14. What did you do this week (and weekend)?

      As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do...

      As part of a weekly series, these topics are a place for users to casually discuss the things they did — or didn't do — during their week. Did you accomplish any goals? Suffer a failure? Do nothing at all? Tell us about it!

      10 votes
    15. Does anyone have experience exchanging actual letters with a pen pal?

      I'll be brief. A friend of mine told me about an Android app called Slowly, which simulates sending letters to people around the world with a time delay representing their distance. I answered...

      I'll be brief. A friend of mine told me about an Android app called Slowly, which simulates sending letters to people around the world with a time delay representing their distance. I answered that I probably would rather send actual letters instead. I installed Slowly but it is a hellhole of gamification and aggressive monetization. So I went back to the idea of just sending letters to people that I write on paper. I am new to this and several websites exist to facilitate finding pen pals. One of them, Global Penfriends, also has an internal messaging system, which I felt kinda misses the point? Anyway, I think that might be a great inexpensive hobby but I have no idea where to begin with. Some websites have premium tiers too, but it is not clear if this is something I would need.

      Any suggestions?

      31 votes
    16. What creative projects have you been working on?

      This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on. Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just...

      This topic is part of a series. It is meant to be a place for users to discuss creative projects they have been working on.

      Projects can be personal, professional, physical, digital, or even just ideas.

      If you have any creative projects that you have been working on or want to eventually work on, this is a place for discussing those.

      15 votes
    17. What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)

      What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...

      What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.

      If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!

      8 votes
    18. Tildes Book Club discussion - March 2026 - The Metamorphosis by Kafka

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      This is the third Tildes Book Club Discussion for 2026 and the twenty-third overall. We are discussing The Metamorphosis by Kafka. At the end of April we will discuss The Tea Girl of Hummingbird Lane by Lisa See.

      I don't have a particular format in mind for this discussion, but I will post some prompts and questions as comments to get things started. You're not obligated to respond to them or vote on them though. So feel free to make your own top-level comment for whatever you wish to discuss, questions you have of others, or even just to post a review of the book you have written yourself.

      For latecomers, don't worry if you didn't read the book in time for this Discussion topic. You can always join in once you finish it. Tildes Activity sort, and "Collapse old comments" feature should keep the topic going for as long as people are still replying.

      And for anyone uninterested in this topic please use the Ignore Topic feature on this so it doesn't keep popping up in your Activity sort, since it's likely to keep doing that while I set this discussion up, and once people start joining in.

      13 votes
    19. Tildes Gardening Group: Week 24/3/26

      Welcome all to our weekly (ish) gardening group discussion! Feel free to discuss anything related to gardening, beginner or advanced, challenge or success. ‘Seed’ questions: What are you growing...

      Welcome all to our weekly (ish) gardening group discussion!

      Feel free to discuss anything related to gardening, beginner or advanced, challenge or success.

      ‘Seed’ questions:

      • What are you growing this year?
      • Does anyone else help out?
      • What are you not going to do this year after what happened last year?

      link to session 0 discussion

      And apologies to anyone in the southern hemisphere or in non 4 season style climates! I didn’t consider that when I posted the title…

      30 votes
    20. Fitness Weekly Discussion

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

      5 votes
    21. Are there any small Android phones comparable to the size of an iPhone 12 mini?

      Beyond the Motorola Razr flip phones, I can't seem to find many small phone options. Are they out there anywhere? ***correction! I meant to say the iPhone 12 mini! There is an important...

      Beyond the Motorola Razr flip phones, I can't seem to find many small phone options. Are they out there anywhere?

      ***correction! I meant to say the iPhone 12 mini! There is an important distinction there and sorry to all who answered before this correction.

      20 votes
    22. What non-software jobs exist for a newly graduated CS major?

      Hey all, I'm a computer science major, and I'm about to graduate at the end of April. My general life situation is a bit messy, so unless I can find a job this month, I am going to have to look...

      Hey all,

      I'm a computer science major, and I'm about to graduate at the end of April. My general life situation is a bit messy, so unless I can find a job this month, I am going to have to look into some less-than-savory options for housing and feeding myself.

      I've applied for ~280 entry-level software engineering positions thus far and have had a few calls back, but once the company realizes that my graduation date is a month out, I never hear from them again (I follow up anyway, just in case.) I also have been working an internship through school for about two years, and expected to get a return offer, but that recently fell through. I can continue to work there past graduation, but I'd still be an intern for the foreseeable future, and that will not be enough to cover rent.

      I haven't given up, exactly -- I'm still networking rather aggressively, and, even though it makes me feel bad, I'm milking every connection I have to try to find something. I just don't feel like the chances are good that I land a software job in the timeframe that I've got left, so I want to start looking at what else I can do with just "a degree" as opposed to "a computer science degree." Obviously the job market is horrible for everyone right now, but wider nets catch more fish and all...

      So, any suggestions?

      32 votes
    23. A hobby of collecting hobbies

      For a while I've had a habit of collecting hobbies and moving from one thing to another. Sometimes I stay in the hobby for a long time, but eventually I move on. Even within a hobby I have some...

      For a while I've had a habit of collecting hobbies and moving from one thing to another. Sometimes I stay in the hobby for a long time, but eventually I move on. Even within a hobby I have some subhobbies that I move between (in TCG's I've moved from MTG to Flesh and Blood to now Riftbound, but I'll still jam some MTG games too of course). I used to be more into weightlifting, now I only go to the gym for chest day because I've been doing rock climbing for a year and have recently picked up archery.

      For people who kinda do similar things, what's a favorite hobby you've collected? Have you dropped it or pulled back from it once you found a new hobby? What's your latest hobby that you've been into? Do you still keep your old ones, and how do you balance everything and find new hobbies to try?

      22 votes
    24. Thinking of getting Proton and using it as my day-to-day email, but I have concerns

      So I kind of want to get out of the Gmail ecosystem, and have been eyeing Proton as a good replacement, but I can't help but to think that nearly all of Proton's selling points and marketing...

      So I kind of want to get out of the Gmail ecosystem, and have been eyeing Proton as a good replacement, but I can't help but to think that nearly all of Proton's selling points and marketing points are all smoke and mirrors.

      And I don't know, maybe I'm looking at this entirely the wrong way, I am just really struggling to see the appeal of Proton.

      First, I'll start with my "threat model".

      In general I want to be more anonymous online and slip under the radar better.

      I'm not planning on doing anything clandestine, but with the direction the US is going, I'd rather not be an easy target if I want to be active in activism spaces if you catch my drift.

      And I'm also interested in staying off of databrokers radars, or obfuscate myself to prevent coherent tracking.

      With that being said, it seems that even with a proton email if someone wanted to find my identity they could, data brokers or governments alike, even if I pay for my subscription with cash.

      And not that I'm really worried about that, but to me that negates like the entirety of Proton's marketing gimmick.

      And I'm failing to see what functional benefit Proton has when it comes to privacy outside of just being "aesthetically private".

      Here are some of my concerns, please feel free to correct me if I'm completely offbase with any of the logic below, but this is just my initial thoughts, and I'd love to hear some feedback and/or be corrected or provided more context.

      1. Why does the encryption of the message body matter if the envelope and address are is still exposed? If a government or data broker can get the sender/receiver info, timestamps, and my IP, they have a map of my life. Isn't the "private content" just a distraction from the real leak? Like other than not having my emails used to train AI or data being sold to data brokers, I can't find a functional improvement or benefit to my daily life to use Proton outside of thinking "Yeah, fuck The Man" every time I log in. Like I am more worried about governments and data brokers knowing who I'm sending/receiving things from than I am about the content of those messages being exposed since I'm not going to be monologuing evil plans over email, and I really don't care if the databroker tracking me knows that I bought a case of liquid death root beer 4 times in one month since they get that information from Amazon or whatever website anyways.

      2. Everyone talks about "Swiss protection," but isn't that just a speed bump? If the U.S. government goes to Switzerland with an MLAT request, Proton has to comply. And even if I've payed with cash, they can still be compelled to log the IP logins and hand over the alias emails and primary mailbox used by that account and the metadata. So if I sign up for something using an alias, they can take that alias and file an MLAT request with Switzerland to get my main email, the metadata for my entire inbox(just not the body content) and the other aliases tied to that account, and then do a search for any services using those emails to find my identity. They could technically use an alias email I've made, send an information request to Switzerland/Proton, get back a list of aliases and email metadata, find that I used an alias to sign up to a pizza delivery service, then subpoena that pizza delivery service for my name, phone number, and address, at that point what's the point? Is the point just to make it harder for them? I'm not planning on doing anything that could get them to want to subpoena my emails ANYWAYS, but what's the point of making it harder for them outside of again, just thinking to myself "haha fuck you" every time I send an email?

      3. Even if I use an alias, if the site I use the alias on gets tied to my online data/identity, then my privacy is broken, right? Like lets say I want to sign up for a new site called godotshaders.com, I use a proton alias to sign up. This site then collects that data, my IP, my cookie data, browser user agent string data, and that I'm logged into some account with my other non-proton email, etc, that gets tied to my browsing data they're collecting, and suddenly they've linked that alias email to my advertising profile and other browsing. Rinse & repeat. Now all the aliases are tied to me. I don't see how these emails help with online advertising tracking.

      4. I have tons of accounts I use, my bitwarden login count sits at around 850 logins, but I probably only regularly use a small fraction of those. But if I end up changing my email on a lot of those accounts to the proton email, even a proton alias, all that does for data brokers is potentially tie every one of those new alias emails to me. And at that point there is no difference in my data broker information just that I have 850 different alias emails. But my data is still tied to those accounts. So AGAIN, what's the point of this? Do I need to sign up for everything from scratch in order to maybe have privacy?

      36 votes
    25. Opinions wanted on regular DEXA scans

      I’ve gone a bit too deep on a rabbit hole after an offhand comment about protein intake and how much protein I should actually be consuming. It turns out that the 1.6g/kg of body weight is fairly...

      I’ve gone a bit too deep on a rabbit hole after an offhand comment about protein intake and how much protein I should actually be consuming. It turns out that the 1.6g/kg of body weight is fairly arbitrary and body weight itself is not a particularly good point to use for an estimate if you are overweight. With that in mind I have been wondering about getting a DEXA body composition scan. It would be useful, I think, because it can also tell me about visceral fat which is an area I am particularly concerned about.

      It turns out that it’s pretty cheap to get done; about $45 if you sign up for quarterly scans with a company called BodySpec. Their whole thing is making things cheaper by having repeat visits; a quantity discount, if you will.

      Before I decide to do this (and while I wait to hear back about if I can get one done for free with my health plan), I just wanted to get people’s opinions on them. Have you had one or a series done? And more importantly, how has it empowered you to improve your health?

      In all honesty I’m not sure the results will encourage me to make any particular change in my lifestyle or routine that I wouldn’t have been able to figure out without it.

      7 votes
    26. Boston/Stow, MA with young kids

      Hi all, We are headed to Stow, MA for a week from the midwest, and have two kids in tow. 5 and 1 year olds. We will have a rental car available to us, and are looking for things to do while we...

      Hi all,
      We are headed to Stow, MA for a week from the midwest, and have two kids in tow. 5 and 1 year olds. We will have a rental car available to us, and are looking for things to do while we aren't visiting with family. Right now on the radar is the Maynard Discovery Museum, the Worcester EcoTarium, and the Franklin Children's Museum.

      Mostly interested in burning some energy, but I'm highly motivated to avoid children's museums that are basically cavernous-but-otherwise-empty dumping grounds for school field trips. I find that in my area it is the smaller museums that are generally more interesting.

      Thanks in advance!

      8 votes
    27. Fitness Weekly Discussion

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

      11 votes
    28. Job hunting absolutely sucks right now

      Feeling pretty discouraged after taking yet another spin around the tech interview circuit for naught I was feeling pretty good this time around as I've interviewed with this company before and...

      Feeling pretty discouraged after taking yet another spin around the tech interview circuit for naught
      I was feeling pretty good this time around as I've interviewed with this company before and was runner up for previous role. The hiring manager contacted me for this new one, and again I aced it until the final stage where I got punted for the all nebulous "culture fit" reasoning. My mood isn't helped by the constant AI doom clouds hovering overhead that makes me wonder if I need to make bigger career changes.

      How's everyone else fairing out there?

      93 votes
    29. I'm glad Hideo Kojima went into games instead of directing movies

      I'm currently 20 hours and 4 "episodes" deep into Death Stranding 2 on PC and I don't have the patience to wait til the Monday megathread rolls around again to voice my thoughts. This isn't my...

      I'm currently 20 hours and 4 "episodes" deep into Death Stranding 2 on PC and I don't have the patience to wait til the Monday megathread rolls around again to voice my thoughts. This isn't my first time playing a Kojima game; I've got over 100 hours in the first Death Stranding and I've also finished multiple entries in the Metal Gear series, I've even played Boktai 2 on the GBA (though I didn't know that was a Kojima game til much later). I enjoy the vision, wackiness, flexibility in gameplay, and emphasis on little details that are fairly characteristic of a Kojima game, and those things are definitely very present in this one as well. That said though, there is one thing that only becomes more and more clear as I progress:

      Hideo Kojima is terrible at writing dialogue. By that, I don't mean characters fail to express themselves or convey ideas well through a lack of words; rather, they're entirely too reliant on words. In an era of cinema that loves "show, don't tell", Kojima leans more towards "tell, tell, tell some more, and then maybe have a bit more tell as a treat". Any character with a backstory that Kojima wants you to know about will spend a good 10 minutes unloading their life story almost as soon as they meet the main character. Any time there's a new piece of information being revealed, someone will explain it to you in textbook-level depth. I'm not sure if Kojima thinks that it's ok to have so many incredibly long exposition-dumping cutscenes in his game because the ratio of cutscene to game is still fairly low but all I can say is these cutscenes and talking sequences are not good cinema. I don't care which movie star is getting a cameo when the script itself is this absurdly poor, my immersion is shattered and watching has now become a chore.

      That said though, it's not like the game is devoid of cinematic moments, they just happen to be entirely outside of the cutscenes themselves. By far the most memorable and impactful moments in this game and the original are those times of solitude during a delivery where you're just quietly traversing through a zone, luggage in tow, and a Low Roar track starts playing. It's during these moments of calm, of pure show and no tell at all, where the player gets truly immersed in the role of the main character and has time to contemplate their journey while taking in the beauty of the nature around them. These aren't accidental or purely player-driven moments, those songs are set to play at a particular place during certain missions and knowing Kojima, he definitely had a major role in directing these as well. So it's not like he doesn't know how to create absolute cinema, but at the same time it's limited purely to gameplay moments where you're not forced to listen to someone deliver a 10 minute monologue in a way that no actual human being talks.

      So yeah, thanks for not becoming a movie director, Kojima. Your script writing's terrible but your gameplay ideas are great. I'd suggest you hire an editorial team but you probably already have and ignore them.

      29 votes
    30. When you were first getting your driver's license, what were you afraid of?

      Did you fear adverse weather conditions like icy roads? How did you handle them? Did you initially consider yourself as too incompetent to drive? Were you afraid of breaking traffic laws? Were you...

      Did you fear adverse weather conditions like icy roads? How did you handle them?
      Did you initially consider yourself as too incompetent to drive?
      Were you afraid of breaking traffic laws?
      Were you afraid of getting into an accident?
      Did you face any of these situations and how did you handle them?
      Are you still afraid of driving?

      26 votes
    31. Any beginners advice or resources on developing a 2D RPG/Puzzle video game?

      Hey guys, I hope this is the right place to post. So my adhd hyperfixation has recently shifted towards an idea for a game and I want to indulge my ADHD by learning all I can about game...

      Hey guys, I hope this is the right place to post.

      So my adhd hyperfixation has recently shifted towards an idea for a game and I want to indulge my ADHD by learning all I can about game development to see if I can achieve this idea to the point that maybe I can put it in "Early Access" to fund even more resources on it.

      But I'm not sure where to start. I'm looking into Godot because it's free and open source and has a lot of community resources, but also wanted to see if anyone had any ideas here.

      I have some coding experience, a lot of technical experience and pick things up extremely quickly.

      The basic idea is that it's a 2D Sidescrolling RPG, but with Match-3 "Candy Crush"-esque mechanics for battles and fighting.

      Extra details If you've played "You Must Build A Boat" or "10000000", it's a LOT kind of like that, in fact those games kind of inspired me, but more refined with a lot more in depth RPG elements and it's a bit more forgiving focusing on keeping a "flow" going, since one of my biggest pet peeves is YMBAB's RNG being very unforgiving and you'll randomly just sit there staring at the board with no moves until you die.

      So the systems/mechanics I'd need to combine to work together are the following:

      • A Match-3 type board where you match tiles, make special tiles by combining 4 or more tiles, all the features of a typical match-3 type game, just tied to outcomes outside of the board-interface.
      • An RPG element, with character attributes, leveling, items, spells, weapons, gear, potions, etc. These elements effect what tiles are on the board during gameplay, effect the chances of certain tiles, and effect health, speed, mana, or grants special in-game abilities like "Precognition"(gives a hint for a move), or "Scroll of Revival"(You can continue without starting over), etc. Attributes also effect things like tile chances, so a higher strength will get you more combat/physical tiles, or a high intelligence will get you more magic tiles.
      • Visual Elements include an auto-running sidescrolling viewport while Dungeon Running. Character auto-runs until encountering enemies, running is not controlled by player. Match-3 board will be beneath that. Time between enemy encounters can be used to clean up the board and match unneccesary tiles, make special moves to line up for next battle, or to replenish health.
        • During Battles, it'd be an over-the-shoulder battle view, similar to Pokemon style battles. Character will have health, enemy will attack character at regular intervals, player will have to balance matching combat/weapon tiles to attack enemy, and matching health/mana potion tiles to replenish health or mana(if they have potions equipped). Enemy can cause environmental effects like poison(some tiles will be poisoned so you lose health if matching them), or being frozen with ice(You need to break tiles next to the ice tiles to break them), or confusion(switches the colors of tiles). Will be block/parry mechanics, occassionally for a few seconds before the enemy strikes, you're required to match a designated tile to either block or parry that attack.
        • In a saferoom it'd be like an isometric kind of "inside a building" format like in Pokemon, just more detailed. I'd like to have saferoom customization and the ability to upgrade your character or gear too.

      Anyways, I'd love any advice or resources. Or if you'd like to help out or discuss the game idea more I'm up for that too.

      16 votes
    32. Fitness Weekly Discussion

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started...

      What have you been doing lately for your own fitness? Try out any new programs or exercises? Have any questions for others about your training? Want to vent about poor behavior in the gym? Started a new diet or have a new recipe you want to share? Anything else health and wellness related?

      8 votes
    33. What programming/technical projects have you been working on?

      This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...

      This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?

      18 votes
    34. Midweek Movie Free Talk

      Warning: this post may contain spoilers

      Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.

      Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.

      10 votes
    35. Dentist prank advice

      I have a dentist appointment coming up. It's on April 1st, which in the US is sometimes known as April Fool's Day. Last year when I made the appointment, I was joking with them that I was going to...

      I have a dentist appointment coming up. It's on April 1st, which in the US is sometimes known as April Fool's Day. Last year when I made the appointment, I was joking with them that I was going to have to play some kind of a prank since it's going to be April 1st. So I feel like I need to follow through on that, but I'm coming up short on ideas. I did some looking online, but most of the pranks are the dentist playing pranks on the patients, not the other way around. There is this one, but I'm not sure that I can pull that off. I thought I'd see if any of you Tilderitos have any ideas.

      29 votes
    36. Would anyone be interested in an online gardening club?

      It’s spring time, and I am belatedly thinking about growing some plants. I tend to quite enjoy growing edible plants, but I might try a few flowers this year. Would be anyone else be interested in...

      It’s spring time, and I am belatedly thinking about growing some plants. I tend to quite enjoy growing edible plants, but I might try a few flowers this year. Would be anyone else be interested in a regular gardening chat group where we can share our experiences and challenges in growing plants? Indoor, outdoor, all welcome!
      I envisage something similar to the weekly minecraft threads, but less square potatoes or pixelated flowers, and something more tangible (not to knock the minecraft threads, I love them, and they are my inspiration for this!)

      39 votes
    37. 2026 Oscar predictions

      Picture: One Battle After Another This became a tight race with Sinners late in the game. The obvious parallel here is 1917 and Parasite. 1917 won PGA, DGA, and BAFTA just like OBAA did. Parasite...

      Picture: One Battle After Another

      This became a tight race with Sinners late in the game. The obvious parallel here is 1917 and Parasite. 1917 won PGA, DGA, and BAFTA just like OBAA did. Parasite won SAG Ensemble and went on to win Picture from there.

      I’m betting on OBAA being stronger than 1917. Notably 1917 was never in contention to win a Screenplay or an Acting award the way OBAA is. And OBAA is nominated in Film Editing and the front-runner in that category which 1917 missed.

      I have correctly predicted every Picture winner since The Shape of Water but this is the first year where I’m in danger of losing that streak.

      Director: Paul Thomas Anderson - One Battle After Another

      Whether Sinners ends up winning Picture, I think this goes to PTA regardless.

      Original Screenplay: Sinners

      Adapted Screenplay: One Battle After Another

      Lead Actor: Michael B. Jordan - Sinners

      After Chalamet shot himself in the foot with his unorthodox press run for Marty Supreme, Jordan is the only one in the category going in with an industry award as the BAFTA awarded a British actor.

      I think Chalamet really fucked up his chances to win for a while and will now win well into his 40s or even into his 50s. He should have played it better.

      Lead Actress: Jessie Buckley - Hamnet

      Supporting Actress: Amy Madigan - Weapons

      After winning SAG it seems like it’s heading that way. Mosaku won the BAFTA but she had a homefield advantage. This is also an opportunity to award a veteran actress who never got her due, and will be supported by young people who enjoyed Weapons.

      Supporting Actor: Sean Penn - One Battle After Another

      Despite not campaigning and not appearing at the majority of the award shows (or perhaps because of that) Penn ended up winning both the SAG and BAFTA. Essentially sleepwalking to his third Oscar.

      Original Score: Sinners

      Original Song: Golden from KPop Demon Hunters

      Sound: F1

      Casting: Sinners

      Production Design: Frankenstein

      Cinematography: One Battle After Another

      Sinners was originally the front-runner and would have made history as the first female cinematographer to win. However it lost both the ASC and BAFTA for Cinematography.

      Makeup and Hairstyling: Frankenstein

      Costume Design: Frankenstein

      Film Editing: One Battle After Another

      Sinners won the ACE Drama awards and OBAA won the ACE Comedy award. This category used to be correlated with Sound but since the sound categories were merged it has now correlated with Picture.

      VFX: Avatar: Fire and Ash

      Animated Feature: KPop Demon Hunters

      Documentary Feature: The Perfect Neighbor

      International Feature: Sentimental Value

      12 votes
    38. Game testers wanted for science fiction game

      I have a bare bones prototype of a game made in twine and I will be honest it needs a lot of work. The story and main architecture of the game is already planned and I am happy with it. It is the...

      I have a bare bones prototype of a game made in twine and I will be honest it needs a lot of work.

      The story and main architecture of the game is already planned and I am happy with it. It is the story hooks and pathing that I am looking to improve and for that I would like to give out a early Alpha build for volunteers to critique and provide any dead ends, errors and story beats they find engaging.

      Please feel free to send a message if you would like to participate. Thank you for your time.

      Edit: Thank you for your interest in the game the final build should be ready for volunteers in one week. I will send links to you directly at that time. Thank you again for your interest this is much better than I hoped for.

      42 votes
    39. Wordle on first guess?

      Has anyone solved the Wordle at wordleunlimited.org today? I just got the answer on my first try, which seems unlikely to say the least. I think it could be a malfunction. Would anyone mind...

      Has anyone solved the Wordle at wordleunlimited.org today? I just got the answer on my first try, which seems unlikely to say the least. I think it could be a malfunction. Would anyone mind posting the answer under a spoiler box so I can check? Thanks!

      Update: Thanks, folks! It seems like the site uses a different word for each person. It also seems like it's working fine. So, go me! Or it was a one-off problem. My word was AUDIT, btw.

      7 votes
    40. I tried ranking my albums out of five stars - I think I've gotten it wrong. Thoughts?

      TLDR/Warning: this might be a tedious read. But I'm curious if I could have gone about rating my albums better. I tend to simply either favourite an album or not. The idea of giving albums and...

      TLDR/Warning: this might be a tedious read. But I'm curious if I could have gone about rating my albums better.

      I tend to simply either favourite an album or not. The idea of giving albums and tracks marks out of five stars seems tedious, difficult to match to how I feel and just doesn't match how my head works. But my collection has grown over the decades and I've been bed bound a lot lately, so I'm trying to organise/categorise based on my feelings towards the albums rather than genre. I'm also hoping to rejuvenate my old interest in music (playing in a band and recording for a living took the shine off of casual listening for me). I thought it would be an interesting experiment to try out, so I rated songs from over 50 albums.

      I came up with a rigid and hopefully balanced definition for each rating:

      • 1 star - Dislike. I hope I never hear this song again (but I'll keep it purely because it's part of the album)
      • 2 stars - Neutral. It doesn't annoy me, but it's too generic to be interesting
      • 3 stars - Sometimes this song hits the spot.
      • 4 stars - This song usually hits the spot.
      • 5 stars - This song always hits the spot.

      Then I rate the album out of five stars based on the average of the song ratings. The result is that no albums got 5 stars, a seven got 4 stars, the vast majority of albums are rated at 3 or 2 stars. Even among the 3-star albums, some I like much more than others depending on whether they contain mostly consistent 3-star songs or half 4-star songs and half 2-star songs.

      I wonder if the lack of 5-star albums is because of the definitions I gave each of the 1-5-star possibilities. For example, I don't know if any song "always hits the spot". Or maybe it's just that I'm not as into my music as I used to be.

      Anyway, I thought maybe people interested in music and data might have thoughts on going about this differently. It's worth asking before I do the next 1,000 albums :) Maybe you'd define each of the 5 stars differently. Any takers?

      Edit: thanks to everyone for reading all this and commenting their thoughts. I have a system I'm happy with now, but always happy to continue to chat with fellow (and reluctant) pedants about this.

      13 votes
    41. Lore based suffixes

      I’m in the process of helping someone come up with lore and I was wondering if there was a website to help with suffixes related to lore and mythology. Things like adding ist, kin, age, folk, etc...

      I’m in the process of helping someone come up with lore and I was wondering if there was a website to help with suffixes related to lore and mythology. Things like adding ist, kin, age, folk, etc to try and make new words for beings or creatures.

      17 votes
    42. Offbeat Fridays – The thread where offbeat headlines become front page news

      Tildes is a very serious site, where we discuss very serious matters like sunsetting, subnautica.2 and delphi. Tags culled from the highest voted topics from the last seven days, if anyone was...

      Tildes is a very serious site, where we discuss very serious matters like sunsetting, subnautica.2 and delphi. Tags culled from the highest voted topics from the last seven days, if anyone was living under a rock.

      But one of my favourite tags happens to be offbeat! Taking its original inspiration from Sir Nils Olav III, this thread is looking for any far-fetched offbeat stories lurking in the newspapers. It may not deserve its own post, but it deserves a wider audience!

      8 votes