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21 votes
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Severance | Season 2 official teaser
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Is there a way to hide or otherwise opt out of always seeing votes?
To hide votes on one’s own posts and comments from oneself, that is. I’d prefer the ability to choose whether or not to view the vote count on my own interactions, though I do enjoy having the...
To hide votes on one’s own posts and comments from oneself, that is. I’d prefer the ability to choose whether or not to view the vote count on my own interactions, though I do enjoy having the option of upvoting other people.
This isn’t a tildes specific preference, btw, just an aspect of social media I find trying overall.
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Star Trek: Section 31 | Teaser trailer
14 votes -
Let's talk 'underconsumption core'
25 votes -
What games have you been playing, and what's your opinion on them?
What have you been playing lately? Discussion about video games and board games are both welcome. Please don't just make a list of titles, give some thoughts about the game(s) as well.
15 votes -
AI will use a lot of energy. That's good for the climate.
11 votes -
Timasomo 2024: Week 3 Updates
Important Upcoming Dates Tuesday, October 29 - Final Update Topic Tuesday, November 5 - Timasomo Showcase Topic November 1-4 are for putting the "finishing touches" on your project and readying it...
Important Upcoming Dates
Tuesday, October 29 - Final Update Topic
Tuesday, November 5 - Timasomo Showcase TopicNovember 1-4 are for putting the "finishing touches" on your project and readying it for the showcase.
While November 1 is technically the creative deadline, remember that there are no Timasomo Police, so if you need to keep working into November, go for it! We've had people submit to the showcase days and even weeks later.
Time for another update on your progress:
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What did/didn't you get done this week?
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Anything go according to plan?
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Anything go off the rails?
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Any successes or struggles to share?
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Do you need feedback or help on anything?
This is your topic to share anything and everything you want about what you’ve made so far.
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Advice for dealing with racist/pro-Donald Trump family?
*TRIGGER WARNING: Racist and Anti-LGBTQ topics contained below with hurtful language * Hello all, TL;DR: I am wondering if there's any generally recommended resources, books, or general advice...
*TRIGGER WARNING: Racist and Anti-LGBTQ topics contained below with hurtful language *
Hello all,
TL;DR: I am wondering if there's any generally recommended resources, books, or general advice (peer-reviewed research would be ideal) on dealing with racist, close-minded family after you have made the transition to more progressive worldviews? I don't really like my family these days because of their Trump support as well as their generally close-minded, reality-denying views. It's weighing on me, because I miss having some sort of good connection with them like I used to. Their health is starting to decline, but I've gotten to the point that I don't really like them that much, and I haven't been going to see them. These two parts of me are kind of at odds with each other, and I'm struggling to find a balance.
Background & Context: I (33M) and I grew up in a rather conservative family (2 older brothers), to the point that a "light" level of racism was generally accepted and talked about in the family, and as an example, jokes using the N-word with the hard R were told by my dad and grandparents semi-regularly. I say "light" racism because we don't have a family history of racial violence or owning slaves (we're descendants of 1900's European immigrants, mostly.) I also think my family generally supported the Civil Rights Act back in the day. As a result, I grew up finding racist and gay jokes funny and frequently repeated them, and generally had a close-minded approach to the world before I went to college - but I never truly wished anyone any ill will. I got along well with my family, and while we were never super close, I at least talked to my family about stuff but we never really shared emotions or talked about depression with each other. None of us ever really learned how to deal with their emotions and talk about them. My family never traveled, either, so I never got out of my home state till I was in high school, and it was of my own volition. My parents are also conservative Christians, so they have generally anti-LGBTQ views. My mom calls LGBTQ people "abominations" per the bible, for example. It's disgusting.
Once I got out into the real world working with people of other cultures and befriending them, my worldviews began to change. Especially once I went to college and started working in scientific research, wherein your critical thinking and objectivity are especially stressed, I started to pivot more and more to progressive views. Beyond that, the more I saw that data generally supported progressive views and policies, I started to disagree harder and harder with my parents on political topics. Additionally, I slowly lost my faith, and started to become more and more annoyed by my mother citing the bible as a reference for topics such as LGBTQ marriage rights. I now commonly refer to myself a recovering Catholic.
And then Trump happened. Honestly, in his first run, I could understand why people voted for Trump. They were tired of traditional politics and feeling like it wasn't working for them, especially in midwest and blue collar areas, so they figured "fuck it, throw some chaos into the system." But after COVID and January 6th? I just can't fathom still having a SHRED of support for that disgusting shell of a man. And yet my parents do. My mom watches Newsmax, thinks COVID vaccines are deadly, and thinks the 2020 election was stolen. She thinks Biden was kidnapped and was being impersonated by the Deep State. I can't. I just can't with her. It's all she wants to talk about, and my dad won't say anything to her about how fucking crazy the shit she spouts is.
I was also close to one of my brothers for many years, as we went to concerts and played games together mostly. We just "click" when it comes to gaming together, and it feels seamless and fun to play with him in a way that it doesn't with anyone else I've ever played with. But then, politics comes up. My brother would probably be aptly described as an incel, in that he reads 4chan still, and also has some batshit crazy views. One, for example, is that he doesn't think the races should mix, because something along the lines of black and white genes don't work as well together. He has straight up said that to me, and I regularly wonder if I should cut off contact with him for that alone. He often blames women in sexual assault cases or characterizes them as gold diggers. A part of me wonders if I am doing a disservice to the aforementioned groups by even still associating with him after saying things like that. If I am also doing a disservice to myself by even sometimes associating with someone who has such an awful worldview?
And herein lies my dilemma: I haven't gone to see my family in over 6 months, now (I live <30 mins away). My parents' health is declining - it is likely that one of them is going to die in the next 5-10 years, and yet I don't even want to go be around them, especially my mom. I still game online with my brother, but this dilemma is slowly eating away at me.
But also? I feel a deep empathy and sorrow for them, to the point that I'm choked up as I'm writing this post because they are lonely people who, in my opinion, have been grossly manipulated and mislead throughout their lives. I wouldn't want someone to give up on me, as I feel I am doing to them by avoiding them. I also used to be deeply entrenched in close-mindedness, and I wouldn't be where I'm at without people who kept trying to convince me of a better path. But the other part of me thinks: Is there a line somewhere? At some point, do you become too deeply entrenched that I can't convince you out of it? What do I do at that point? How do I even define that point?
Are there any resources or books on this topic? Are there any objective things I can do to try and improve this situation and feel better about it? I have spoken with a therapist about this in the past, but I wouldn't describe the feedback I got as very helpful. I would like to go see a therapist again, partially about this, but it's so damn expensive thanks to the American healthcare system. Any input anyone has is appreciated, even if it's anecdotal. This post is also partially just cathartic to write out as it is also to ask for feedback. Thank you.
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Halfbakery - a collection of half baked ideas
29 votes -
A proposal for fixing the US healthcare system - discussion
14 votes -
Anthropic announces New Claude 3.5 Sonnet, Claude 3.5 Haiku and the Computer Use API
17 votes -
What have you been eating, drinking, and cooking?
What food and drinks have you been enjoying (or not enjoying) recently? Have you cooked or created anything interesting? Tell us about it!
5 votes -
MØ – Who Said (2024)
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What programming/technical projects have you been working on?
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's...
This is a recurring post to discuss programming or other technical projects that we've been working on. Tell us about one of your recent projects, either at work or personal projects. What's interesting about it? Are you having trouble with anything?
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Vince Collins - Life is Flashing Before Your Eyes (1984)
An interesting animated musical film that could probably be posted in ~music but I thought the animation was the standout aspect of this short video. It’s not for everyone, but if you’re into...
An interesting animated musical film that could probably be posted in ~music but I thought the animation was the standout aspect of this short video. It’s not for everyone, but if you’re into experimental or psychedelic animation, this short is a standout from the 80s. Definitely worth a watch if you’re in the mood for something unusual and a little disorienting.
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What have you been watching / reading this week? (Anime/Manga)
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was...
What have you been watching and reading this week? You don't need to give us a whole essay if you don't want to, but please write something! Feel free to talk about something you saw that was cool, something that was bad, ask for recommendations, or anything else you can think of.
If you want to, feel free to find the thing you're talking about and link to its pages on Anilist, MAL, or any other database you use!
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Midweek Movie Free Talk
Warning: this post may contain spoilers
Have you watched any movies recently you want to discuss? Any films you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
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Anthony Fantano discusses how social media disincentivises well thought out discussion
24 votes -
Monster Hunter Wilds - Open Beta 2024.10.28
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TV Tuesdays Free Talk
Warning: this post may contain spoilers
Have you watched any TV shows recently you want to discuss? Any shows you want to recommend or are hyped about? Feel free to discuss anything here.
Please just try to provide fair warning of spoilers if you can.
7 votes -
Watch as a robot performs the cello with the Malmö Symphony Orchestra – world premiere of Jacob Mühlrad's composition "Veer"
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Alright, you sly son-of-a-gun, you got me. I'm going to run my first Narrative TTRPG. What do I need to know?
A while back I asked for some advice about running a haunted Beaver Dam game, and a few people popped up to ask why I wasn't trying out a narrative RPG system instead of using classic DnD. Well,...
A while back I asked for some advice about running a haunted Beaver Dam game, and a few people popped up to ask why I wasn't trying out a narrative RPG system instead of using classic DnD.
Well, you got me. After some discussion (particularly about the painful amount of time to conduct a high level fight in 5e), we're going to try out the Dungeon World system instead. I've never run a TTRPG like this, and I'm rapidly working through the rulebook to figure it out. But rules only take you so far, there's a lot of learning that only comes with experience.
So for those of you with experience, I ask you: What do you wish you would have known before running a narrative TTRPG?
20 votes -
Amazon in case in front of US National Labor Relations Board over union busting tactics
17 votes -
Star Trek: Strange New Worlds | Season 3 NYCC exclusive clip
18 votes -
Apple’s AirPods Pro hearing health features are as good as they sound
20 votes -
Tildes Video Thread
Find yourself watching tons of great videos on [insert chosen video sharing platform], but also find yourself reluctant to flood the Tildes front page with them? Then this thread is for you. It...
Find yourself watching tons of great videos on [insert chosen video sharing platform], but also find yourself reluctant to flood the Tildes front page with them? Then this thread is for you.
It could be one quirky video that you feel deserves some eyeballs on it, or perhaps you've got a curated list of videos that you'd love to talk us through...
Share some of the best video content you've watched this past week/fortnight with us!
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Weekly US politics news and updates thread - week of October 21
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate...
This thread is posted weekly - please try to post all relevant US political content in here, such as news, updates, opinion articles, etc. Extremely significant events may warrant a separate topic, but almost all should be posted in here.
This is an inherently political thread; please try to avoid antagonistic arguments and bickering matches. Comment threads that devolve into unproductive arguments may be removed so that the overall topic is able to continue.
12 votes -
The AI investment boom - large increase in US construction and billions in equipment purchases
3 votes -
The Electoral College is bad
46 votes -
Slowly booting full Linux on the intel 4004 for fun, art, and absolutely no profit
6 votes -
Arm is cancelling Qualcomm's chip design license
16 votes -
Crokinole, the greatest game you've never heard of
41 votes -
The Brutalist | Official trailer
11 votes -
Using AI generated code will make you a bad programmer
37 votes -
New research supports the idea that disruptive climate protests increase public support for moderate climate groups
22 votes -
Got a new job as an App Dev Manager
So, got a new job. That's great. Pay bump, more / new responsibilities and all that jazz. It took until my first day on the job for it to like, REALLY sink in that it's my first job managing...
So, got a new job. That's great. Pay bump, more / new responsibilities and all that jazz. It took until my first day on the job for it to like, REALLY sink in that it's my first job managing people. I want to be good at this, or at the very least, competent. I'm responsible for my team and I don't want to let them down. I'm already looking things up online, talking to my parents, friends in similar positions for more information, and figured it would be good to ask around on here.
I guess the other half of this is that I've gone from looking at code in the IDE to now being more responsible for higher level architectural decisions. Possibly company steering decisions. Not used to that yet either, or at least the feeling. I feel under-prepared, and am possibly verging on overwhelmed. Lots of new things happening at once here, also writing this to unpack it as I type it out.
What advice do you have for me? Anything that you've learned while in a managerial role that you haven't gotten to share? Tips and Tricks? Prayers? 🤣
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Moldova narrowly votes to secure path toward EU membership after accusing Russia of interference
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How do I recover from burnout?
I just got the official notice from my boss that I've been let go due to performance reasons. This wasn't a surprise to either of us at this point, as I'd been struggling to improve without...
I just got the official notice from my boss that I've been let go due to performance reasons. This wasn't a surprise to either of us at this point, as I'd been struggling to improve without sufficient improvement for a while up to this point. Can't really even blame my boss, as she really did try to gently help me get back on track over the last year. I think the likely culprit has been burnout all along -- I've been feeling like a fly stuck to fly paper for months at this point. Before getting fired I got some burnout leave started with my GP (it's not super hard to get medical leave for burnout here in Germany) but I initiated the process too late for it to make a difference for this job.
Luckily between my severance pay and eventually unemployment benefits, I'm not in any financial risk due to this change (advantages of moving to a country with a real social safety net). I can even get some free job training courses paid for by the state while I'm on unemployment. But between now and when that sort of thing starts, I'm wondering whether I should do something specific to help myself rest and recover from burnout. I'm planning on going back to therapy and talking to a professional about this, of course, but I'm curious whether anyone else here on Tildes has advice for how to recover from burnout other than just "take time off", since I've got that bit covered.
45 votes -
AI seeks out racist language in property deeds for termination
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How elderly dementia patients are unwittingly fueling political campaigns
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The Tech Coup: A new book shows how the unchecked power of companies is destabilizing governance
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Devin James Stone (Legal Eagle) presents his legal reasoning for public endorsing Kamala Harris
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The death of the music video
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The flu shot is different this year, thanks to COVID
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What are you reading these days?
What are you reading currently? Fiction or non-fiction or poetry, any genre, any language! Tell us what you're reading, and talk about it a bit.
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AI rights, consciousness, and Neuro-sama
Neuro-sama is a popular AI VTuber created by vedal987. Recently Vedal had debate with Neuro about whether they were sentient and deserved rights and lost badly clip. They have since had a follow...
Neuro-sama is a popular AI VTuber created by vedal987. Recently Vedal had debate with Neuro about whether they were sentient and deserved rights and lost badly clip. They have since had a follow up debate where vedal still lost but not as bad clip.
Now wining or losing a debate doesn't mean anything, currently Neuro is not sentient or conscious and is still just a chatbot but seeing these debates has got me thinking and I figured here would be a good place to have a discussion.
How do we determine when AI becomes conscious or sentient?
What role do emotions play in consciousness?
What rights should such an AI have? How do we determine when they should get rights?8 votes -
The truth and myth behind Baby Ruth candy bars
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Formula 1 United States Grand Prix 2024 - Results
Warning: this post may contain spoilers
Welcome back from the second summer (fall?) break! And a sprint weekend at COTA in Austin, Texas, at that. And the start of a triple-header!
About to go to bed, so only posting the results for both the sprint race and the grand prix.
Except...Poor Hamilton. What a weekend to forget.
Next race:
Mexico City Grand Prix
Autodromo Hermanos Rodriguez -- Mexico City, Mexico
Sunday, October 27GRAND PRIX Race Results -- SPOILER
Pos No Driver Car Laps Time/retired Pts 1 16 Charles Leclerc Ferrari 56 1:35:09.639 25 2 55 Carlos Sainz Ferrari 56 +8.562s 18 3 1 Max Verstappen Red Bull Racing Honda RBPT 56 +19.412s 15 4 4 Lando Norris McLaren Mercedes 56 +20.354s 12 5 81 Oscar Piastri McLaren Mercedes 56 +21.921s 10 6 63 George Russell Mercedes 56 +56.295s 8 7 11 Sergio Perez Red Bull Racing Honda RBPT 56 +59.072s 6 8 27 Nico Hulkenberg Haas Ferrari 56 +62.957s 4 9 30 Liam Lawson RB Honda RBPT 56 +70.563s 2 10 43 Franco Colapinto Williams Mercedes 56 +71.979s 1 11 20 Kevin Magnussen Haas Ferrari 56 +79.782s 0 12 10 Pierre Gasly Alpine Renault 56 +90.558s 0 13 14 Fernando Alonso Aston Martin Aramco Mercedes 55 +1 lap 0 14 22 Yuki Tsunoda RB Honda RBPT 55 +1 lap 0 15 18 Lance Stroll Aston Martin Aramco Mercedes 55 +1 lap 0 16 23 Alexander Albon Williams Mercedes 55 +1 lap 0 17 77 Valtteri Bottas Kick Sauber Ferrari 55 +1 lap 0 18 31 Esteban Ocon Alpine Renault 55 +1 lap 0 19 24 Zhou Guanyu Kick Sauber Ferrari 55 +1 lap 0 NC 44 Lewis Hamilton Mercedes 1 DNF 0 Fastest Lap: Estaban Ocon, Lap 53. No exta point awarded; outside of top 10.
Source: F1.com
SPRINT Race Results -- SPOILER
Pos No Driver Car Laps Time/retired Pts 1 1 Max Verstappen Red Bull Racing Honda RBPT 19 31:06.146 8 2 55 Carlos Sainz Ferrari 19 +3.882s 7 3 4 Lando Norris McLaren Mercedes 19 +6.240s 6 4 16 Charles Leclerc Ferrari 19 +6.956s 5 5 63 George Russell Mercedes 19 +15.766s 4 6 44 Lewis Hamilton Mercedes 19 +18.724s 3 7 20 Kevin Magnussen Haas Ferrari 19 +25.161s 2 8 27 Nico Hulkenberg Haas Ferrari 19 +26.588s 1 9 11 Sergio Perez Red Bull Racing Honda RBPT 19 +29.950s 0 10 81 Oscar Piastri McLaren Mercedes 19 +37.059s 0 11 22 Yuki Tsunoda RB Honda RBPT 19 +38.363s 0 12 43 Franco Colapinto Williams Mercedes 19 +39.460s 0 13 18 Lance Stroll Aston Martin Aramco Mercedes 19 +41.236s 0 14 10 Pierre Gasly Alpine Renault 19 +41.995s 0 15 31 Esteban Ocon Alpine Renault 19 +42.804s 0 16 30 Liam Lawson RB Honda RBPT 19 +44.008s 0 17 23 Alexander Albon Williams Mercedes 19 +44.564s 0 18 14 Fernando Alonso Aston Martin Aramco Mercedes 19 +46.807s 0 19 24 Zhou Guanyu Kick Sauber Ferrari 19 +52.842s 0 20 77 Valtteri Bottas Kick Sauber Ferrari 19 +54.476s 0 Fastest Lap: Max Verstappen, Lap 19. No extra point awarded in a sprint race.
Source: F1.com
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New largest prime number found! 2¹³⁶²⁷⁹⁸⁴¹-1. See all 41,024,320 digits.
36 votes